Phakathi kokudideka kakhulu nokwesaba okuyinkimbinkimbi ukuthi abantu bangathola ukuthi abantu bangabathola, i-pedophobia ifanelwe ukunakwa - ukwesaba izingane ezincane. Kunenkinga yengqondo engokwengqondo njalo, kepha kungaba nokulimazayo emiphumeleni yokuphila komuntu.
Ukufanisa
I-Pedophobia ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo kohlobo olushaqisayo, okunzima kakhulu ukuchaza ngokunengqondo kusuka endaweni yokubukwa kwengqondo. Ukwesaba Umuntu Onempilo ubhekene njengendlela yokuvikela engozini, uyasongela ngempela. Kepha iyiphi ingozi engaba yizingane, ngoba ngisho nangokweqisa kakhulu akunamandla kunomuntu okhulile futhi akunakuba yingozi?
Kodwa-ke, ngokwesaba i-carapazov, ebizwa ngokuthi yi-pedophobia, kukhona ukwesaba okunamandla, futhi kwesinye isikhathi ukwesaba lapho kubona izingane ezincane hhayi ukuzuza ubusha. UPhobia uthatha izinhlobo ezahlukahlukene, kwesinye isikhathi ezivezwe ekwenqatshelwe ukubeletha kwenzalo yakhe. Unenkinga nabesilisa nabesifazane.
I-Pedophobia ibhekwa njenge-phobia engayodwa, into yokwesaba yinye izingane. Kukholakala ukuthi ama-pedalophobes angaphila impilo yawo yonke, angabhekiseli kodokotela, ngoba vikela oxhumana nabo nezingane akunzima kangako. Kepha I-PedoFob cishe ayinakwenzeka ukudala umndeni wayo ogcwele lapho kuzoba nezingane . Noma ngabe kukhona umlingani, ithemba lokuzalwa kwezingane libonwa yindoda ebabazekayo, ebusuku. Ngakho-ke, ubudlelwano nomlingani buvame ukuqhekeka.
Ngezihlobo nabangane, obesosheshe bajwayelane nemindeni nezingane, ama-pedophobe ayeke ukuxhumana, azame ukungahlangane. Ngobunzima, lesi sifo singaba yingozi kakhulu ku-psyche.
Kepha amafomu anjalo lapho umhlangano nengane ebangela ukushayisana, ukwethuka nokuziphatha okunganele, kukhona amacala angawodwa. Kaningi, i-pedophobia iqhubeka ngokuzolile, futhi umuntu wanele ukugwema ukuhlangana nengane Ngemuva kwalokho, vele ujike ngakolunye uhlangothi lomgwaqo noma usheshise isinyathelo lapho abazali beza behlangana nenqola.
Kepha ukuqeda ngokuphelele into yokwesaba iziguli zempilo ngeke - izingane zitholakala ezitolo, emgwaqweni, emakhemisi, ngakho-ke zikhuphuka kancane, zibangela kancane izinguquko ezinkulu ku-psycho and perfortview. Izinguquko zezinhlamvu - ziyacasuka, zingavikelekile, zinomoya osheshayo, umuntu uthambekele ekucindezelekeni nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. Izingane ziyacasuka, futhi noma ngabe ngewindows zizwakala, njengoba zidlala egcekeni, zihleke noma zikhale, ama-pedophobe azizwa ekhathazekile, uyazama. Kubukeka ngakuye ukuthi endaweni ethile eduze nengozi. Kusukela ukwesaba okungenangqondo, okungenangqondo, isiguli uqobo ngeke sikwazi ukucacisa ngokucacile ukusondela futhi ujwayelene, kungani angakuthandi futhi agweme izingane, ngakho-ke zivikele izingane, ngakho-ke zivaliwe.
Kodwa-ke, abanye bathola incazelo abavikele bona ngesidingo sokukhuluma iqiniso - baqala ukwenqaba izindinganiso zomshado, imindeni, baphikisa ukuthi bashise kukho konke noma nje "kwezingane". Kunezincazelo eziningi zenhlalo 'ongafihla' izimo zangempela, ukuqaphela okuwukuhlazisa kakhulu.
Izimbangela Zenzeka
Imvamisa, izimfuneko ze-pedophobia zivela ebuntwaneni. Ngakho-ke, ingane endala ingakubona buhlungu kakhulu ukuzalwa komfowabo omncane noma udadewenu. Umhawu kubazali ulandisa ngokuzenzakalelayo isithombe sengane enobungozi, ngoba ukulahleka kothando lwabazali lwengane kuyingozi yangempela yangempela. Ukwesaba izingane ezincane kungavela ngemuva kwesigameko - ingane elimele ngengozi noma ngamabomu ingane encane, eyajeziswa ngokuqinile.
Umhawu wezingane lapho kwenzeka kwabafowethu noma odade kuvame ukudlula eminyakeni edlule lapho kunencazelo enengqondo yakho konke okwenzeka kuvela. Kepha isithombe esiqinile sengane eqinile mayelana nomuzwa wosongo singalondolozwa impilo. Futhi umuntu omdala one-pedophobia uqobo ezimweni eziningi akakhumbuli ukuthi yiziphi izehlakalo ezenziwa njengesisekelo sokwesaba kwakhe.
Kwesinye isikhathi kungaba khona ama-pedophiles abe ama-pedophies. Uma umuntu omdala ekwazi ukukhanga kwakhe ngokomzimba ezinganeni, angagwema ngamabomu ukuxhumana nezingane, futhi kancane kancane ukugwema kuzokwazi ukujwayela, ukuguqula ukwesaba.
Imbangela yokwesaba ingabanjwa ngendlela yomzali ekukhulisweni. Kunemindeni lapho kwakhiwa khona izingane ezinganeni cishe kuyo yonke, eqinisweni. Futhi izingane ezivela eminyakeni emincane zibekwe ukuthi bona uqobo kufanele babe ngabazali lapho kufika isikhathi. Kwenzeka uma bobabili abazali bekholwa kakhulu. Abanasithakazelo, futhi yini, ngokuvamile, baphupha izingane, mhlawumbe bandizela esikhaleni sabo iphupho elibaluleke kakhulu kunethemba lakho konke ukugeza isilayida? Kanye nengxabano yangaphakathi lapho ingane enjalo ikhula khona, kungahle kube yisisekelo sokwesaba.
Kungenzeka ukuthi kuqhamuke isizinda sezehlakalo ezibuhlungu - shaya ingane ngemoto, owesifazane washonelwa ingane ngesikhathi sokubeletha. Kuyaphawuleka ukuthi ukuhlanganiswa kwanamuhla okuthandwayo (ukusebenzisana) kungadala ukuthuthukiswa kwe-pedophobia emadodeni.
Cishe ngaso sonke isikhathi ama-pedophobes angamantombazane ama-minanthrops. Kepha akumangazi ngokuphelele, ama-misanthropes awafani nezingane kuphela. Abathandi bonke ubuntu bonke.
Iziko
Abesifazane nabesilisa banezimpawu ezihlukile zePedophobia. Owesifazane ophakela ukwesaba kwe-pathological phambi kwezingane wethuka ngezindaba ukuthi ukhulelwe, futhi noma ngabe uxoxa ngethuba elinjalo nomlingani. Indoda ingafika ethubeni lezindaba zokuthi intombi yakhe yakhulelwa. Uzophikelela ngokukhipha isisu, futhi ngokunokwenzeka, uzozama ukubalekela futhi afihle ngowesifazane uma enqaba ukuphazamisa ukukhulelwa.
Ukusuka kwezinye ukuphazamiseka kwe-phobic, i-pedophobia ihluke kakhulu - ayihlaseli ukwethuka. Kepha lokhu akulula esigulini, njengoba i-alamu eqinile cishe ayikushiyi, incishiswa ngezikhathi ezithile futhi iya ngokuya. Ngakho-ke, bobabili abesilisa, nabesifazane ngenkuthalo, futhi kwesinye isikhathi bagweme ngamabomu oxhumana nabo ngezingane.
Uma umlingani ephendukela ephikelela, futhi namanje ancenge i-pedophoba ukuthi aqale izingane, okugcina kungahle kudabuke kakhulu - lesi siguli sikwenqaba ukuhambisa ukukhala kwezingane, ama-hysterics, ekugcineni ingane kungenzeka ingabi nendawo yokukhosela - I-pedophobe akufanele ishiywe kuye. Futhi, uma kukhona ugogo, umkhulu, onikezwe yingane enjalo ukuze akhuliswe aze afike eminyakeni okungenani. Uma kungekho zihlobo ezinjalo, ikusasa lengane kungenzeka lingabi nzima.
Ochwepheshe bavame ukukholelwa ukuthi i-pathology ibhekwa nje kuphela okuvela kuvela, ngoba ngokusemthethweni ngosizo lwama-pedophobes aluvamile. Eqinisweni, kuyo yonke imindeni yesithathu, lapho izingane zikhula khona nogogo nabazali abaphilayo, kungenzeka ukuthi omunye wabazali bakaPedoobe, nesesibili - kuncike kukho.
Ungakuqeda Kanjani Ukwesaba?
Ngeshwa, akunakwenzeka ukukwenza ngokwakho. Ngeke sisize izingcingo ukuthi zizithathe ngesandla, futhi nangaphezulu ngakho-ke ungazami ukuphathwa ngendlela ehlukile - ukuzala izingane ezibizwa ngokuthi ukwesaba kwazo. Akukho lutho oluhle ngeke luvela kulo.
Okokuqala, akumelwe wesabe ukubona ubukhona benkinga enjalo. Ngakho-ke, phendula imibuzo yakho ngokweqiniso, ingabe uyakujabulela, vuma izithombe ze-pink carapow noma ungathandeki ukuzindla ngazo? Ngabe ufuna izingane? Ingabe uyabangela ulaka nokucasulwa yizingane zomakhelwane, ozakwabo abazijwayele?
Futhi akubalulekile kangako ukuthi uzokuphendula kahle, kubalulekile ukuthi uzozizwa kanjani ngasikhathi sinye. Ukungaphatheki kahle lapho ucabanga ngengqikithi yezingane, ukukhathazeka nokukhathazeka - "izingcingo" zokuqala, okufanele zikwenze ulahle ihlazo lamanga bese uya ekwamukelweni kwe-psychotherapist.
Yilolu uchwepheshe ongakwazi, owaziyo futhi kufanele asiza. Okokuqala, kuzosiza ukuthola izimbangela zokwesaba, noma ngabe zivela ebuntwaneni zisencane, izenzakalo zakhe sezivele zisule ngokwengxenye kwimemori. Indlela yokuqonda - ukuziphatha kwe-psychotherapy izosiza ekuguquleni ukufakwa okubopha isithombe sezingane ezinengozi, okuhle, futhi umuntu uzoqala ukubona izingane zingonke. I-Hypnotherapy ne-NLP ingasetshenziselwa ukwelashwa.
Isidingo semithi sivele ngezindlela ezinzima kuphela, futhi sathola ukuthi asikashadi futhi sihlukile. Kulokhu, ama-tranquilizer, ama-antidepressants, kepha ezimweni ezinzima, ithemba eliyinhloko labelwa amakilasi we-psychotherapeitic ukunciphisa i-alamu.
Ngasikhathi sinye nenkambo yokwelashwa, kunconyelwa ukubandakanya ekuzivocavoca okuphefumula, ukuzindla. Njengoba ukufakwa kuguquka ngemvume kadokotela, udinga ukuqala ukuxhumana kancane kancane nezingane - nezingane zabangane babo, izihlobo, abangane, ukuxhumana nabazali bazo, akucelwa ukuba babuze futhi babuze imibuzo. Omama abasebasha nobaba abasebasha bajabule ukuhlanganyela nakho kwabo futhi babulale ukuthi izingane ziyinjabulo, yize zinzima kakhulu.
