Phakathi kweyona nto ididekileyo idicricate eyoyikisayo yokuba abantu banokufumana, uPedophobia ufanelwe ingqalelo eyahlukileyo-uloyiko lwabantwana abancinci. Kukho ingxaki enjalo ngengqondo, kodwa inokuba neyonakalisa imiphumo yobomi bomntu.
Inkcazo
I-Pedophobia sisifo sengqondo sokuphazamiseka kwengqondo yohlobo olothusayo, ekunzima kakhulu ukuchaza ngokubonakalayo kwimbono yengcinga yengcinga. Ukoyikwa umntu osempilweni ahlangabezana nenxaxheba engozini, okoyikisayo. Kodwa yiphi ingozi enokubakho kwiintsana, kuba nesona inamandla kubo ayinamandla ngaphezu komdala kwaye ungabi yingozi?
Nangona kunjalo, ngenxa yokoyika uCarapazov, obizwa ngokuba yi-Pedophobia, kukho omelele, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukoyika ukubonwa kwabantwana abancinci ayifezekanga ukufikisa. IPhobia ithatha iifom ezahlukeneyo, ngamanye amaxesha eziboniswe kokwala ukuzala inzala yakhe. Ubandezeleka ngamadoda nabafazi.
UPedophobia uthathwa njengePhobia ekwanti, into yokoyika ukuba yeyiphi abantwana. Kukholelwa ukuba ii-Pedalophobes zinokuphila ubomi bonke, zingabhekiseli koogqirha, kuba ziphephe ukunxibelelana nabantwana akukho nzima kangako. Kodwa Pedofob phantse akunakwenzeka ukuba wenze usapho olugcweleyo olupheleleyo apho kuya kubakho abantwana . Nokuba kukho iqabane, ithemba lokuzalwa labantwana libonwa ngumntu owoyikekayo, nobusuku. Ke ngoko, ubudlelwane kunye neqabane buhlala bugcuma.
Ngezihlobo kunye nabahlobo, kwakudala okanye emva kwexesha okanye baqhelane neentsapho kunye nabantwana, i-Pedophobs iyeka ukunxibelelana, ukuzama ukungafezekisi. Kwisiqhelo, ukuphazamiseka kunokuba yingozi kakhulu kwi-psyche.
Kodwa ezo fom xa intlanganiso kunye nalo mntwana ibangela ukothuka, ukoyikeka nokuziphatha okungalunganga, ngamatyala akwanti. Rhoqo, iPedophobia iqhubeka ngokuzolileyo, kwaye umntu wanele ukuphepha ukudibana nomntu Emva koko, jika nje elinye icala lesitrato okanye ukukhawulezisa inyathelo xa abazali beza kudibana nenqwelomoya.
Kodwa ukuphelisa into yokoyika izigulana zobomi abanakho-esitratweni, kwiikhemesti, kubangela utshintsho olukhulu ngakumbi kwi-PSYCI kunye neWorld Standlive. Utshintsho lomlinganiso-kuya kuba nzima, ungathinteleki, unomsindo, umntu unomdla wokudakumba ngalo naliphi na ixesha. Abantwana abanentlonelo, kwaye nokuba ngefestile beva, njengoko bedlala ebaleni, behleka okanye balila, iPedophobe ivakalelwa kukuba nexhala, i-Gary. Kubonakala kuye ukuba kwenye indawo kufutshane nengozi. Ukusukela okoyika ukusebenza, ngokungafakwanga, isigulana ngokwaso asinakukwazi ukuchaza ngokucacileyo ukuba kufutshane kwaye siqhelane, kutheni engathandi kwaye ebaphephe abantwana, kwaye ke ngoko bavale.
Abanye, nangona kunjalo, bafumana inkcazo abakukhusela ngokuchasene nemfuno yokuxelela inyani- baqala ukwala amaxabiso omtshato, iintsapho, ukuphikisana kuzo zonke izinto okanye njengamantwana nje ". Zininzi iinkcazo zentlalo ntle ukuba "uzifihla" iimeko zenyani zenyani zenyani, qonda ukuba ikhala kakhulu.
Unobangela weSova
Rhoqo, iimfuno eziphambili zePedophobia zivela ebuntwaneni. Ke, uMntwana onguMdala unokukhathazeka kakhulu ukuzalwa komntakwabo okanye udadewethu omncinci. Ikhwele lokubazali liyawunxibelelanisa nomfana womntwana ngengozi, kuba ukuphulukana nothando lwabazali emntwaneni yingozi yokwenyani. Ukoyika abantwana abancinci kunokuvela emva kwesiganeko-owenzakeleyo owenzakeleyo ngamathuba okanye ngabom umntwana omncinci, owohlwaywa kakhulu.
Umona wabantwana kumnyhadala okanye odade dla ngokudlula kwiminyaka edlulileyo xa inkcazo esengqiqweni yayo yonke into eyenzekayo iyavela. Kodwa umda oqinileyo womntwana ngokunxibelelene nemvakalelo yesisongelo unokugcinwa ebomini. Kwaye umntu omdala ophethe i-pedophobia ngokwawo ngokweemeko ezininzi akakhumbuli ukuba zeziphi iziganeko ezenziwa njengesiseko soloyiko.
Ngamanye amaxesha iiperophiles ezinokwenzeka ziba zii-geophies. Ukuba umntu omdala uyakwazi ukutsala umdla wakhe kubantwana, unokuphepha ngabom ukunxibelelana nabantwana, kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe ukuphepha kuya kuqhelana, ukutshintsha koloyiko.
Unobangela woloyiko lunokubanjelwa kwindlela yomzali yokukhulisa. Kukho iintsapho apho ukuzalwa kwabantwana kwamiswa khona ngokubanzi, kwinkolo. Kwaye abantwana abavela kwiminyaka encinci bamisela ukuba bona ngokwabo bamele babe ngabazali xa lifikile ixesha. Kwenzeka ukuba bobabini abazali bayakholelwa kakhulu. Abanamdla, kwaye malunga nento, ngokubanzi, abantwana baphuphayo, mhlawumbi babhabha baye endaweni yabo iphupha elixabisekileyo kunethemba lobomi bonke lokuhlamba isilayidi? Kwaye ungquzulwano lwangaphakathi apho umntwana onjalo ukhula, kunokuba sisiseko soloyiko.
I-pheophobia yabantu abadala inokuvela ngokuchasene nemvelaphi yezehlo ezibi-hit umntwana ngemoto, eli bhinqa laphulukana nomntwana ngexesha lokuzala. Kuyaphawuleka ukuba namhlanje udibaniselwano lwanamhlanje (intsebenziswano) ukubanjwa komsebenzi kunokubangela uphuhliso lwePedophobia kumadoda.
Phantse kuhlala kuduthwe i-Pedophobes zii-wismhrops. Kodwa ayiyothusi ngokupheleleyo, i-‧ntantirothropes ayifani nabantwana kuphela. Abaluthandi lonke uluntu xa bephela.
Iimpawu
Abasetyhini kunye namadoda baneempawu ezahlukileyo zePedophobia. Umfazi onesifo esoyika kwi-pathological phambi kwabantwana woyikiswa ziindaba ukuba ukhulelwe, kwaye nokuba uxoxa nethuba neqabane. Indoda inokuza kwisoyikiso seendaba intombi yakhe ikhulelwe. Uya kunyanzelisa ukuqhomfa, kwaye okuninzi okunokuphakama, uya kuzama ukubaleka kwaye afihle kude nomfazi ukuba uyala ukuthuthuzela.
Ukusuka kwezinye iiphoza ze-phobic, i-pedophobia yahluke kakhulu- ayinalo uhlaselo oloyiko. Kodwa oku akuyonto yanto kwisigulana, njengealam eyomeleleyo phantse ayiyishiyi, incitshisiwe amaxesha ngamaxesha kwaye iyanda. Ke, omabini la madoda, nabafazi ngenkuthalo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kwaye ngabom bayakuphepha ukunxibelelana nabantwana.
Ukuba iqabane lakho liphuma liqinisekile, kwaye lisaluphembelela i-peophoba yokuqalisa abantwana, ukugqibela kunokuba lusizi kakhulu - isigulana siyayeka ukwenza isijwili saBantwana, i-hysterics, ekugqibeleni isenokungabikho kwindawo yokuhlala -UPedophobe akafanele ayekelwe kuye. Kwaye, ukuba kukho umakhulu, utat'omkhulu, onikwa umntwana onjalo ukuba akhulise ukuya kuthi ga kwiminyaka yobudala. Ukuba akukho zihlobo zinjalo, ikamva lomntwana lingavunyelwa.
Iingcali zithanda ukukholelwa ukuba i-pathology ithathelwe ingqalelo inqatyisiwe, kuba ukulungiselela uncedo lwePedophobes kunqabile. Ngapha koko, kwintsapho yesithathu, apho abantwana bakhula khona nootatose abazali abahlala nabazali abaphilayo, kukhona omnye wabazali bakaPedohombebe, kwaye owesibini - kuxhomekeke kuyo.
Ungaluphelisa njani uloyiko?
Ngelishwa, akunakwenzeka ukuba uyenze ngokwakho. Asizukukunceda umnxeba ukuba uzithathele phantsi, kwaye nangaphezulu ungazami ukuphathwa ngendlela esuka kwelinye icala - ukuzala abantwana babongo. Akukho nto ilungileyo ayiyi kuvela kuyo.
Okokuqala, kufuneka woyike ukwazi ukuba ubukho bengxaki enjalo. Ke ngoko, phendula ngokunyaniseka imibuzo yakho, uyakonwabela, uyavuma imifanekiso yeCarappow okanye awulunganga ukucinga? Ngaba ufuna abantwana? Ngaba wenza umsindo kunye nokucaphukisa abantwana babamelwane, oogxa bakhe buqhelekile?
Kwaye ayibalulekanga kangako ukuba uza kuphendula ngokuchanekileyo, kubalulekile ukuba uziva njani ngaxeshanye. Ukungonwabi xa ucinga ngomxholo wabantwana, ixhala kunye noxinzelelo - owona mbuzo "wokuqala ubiza", nto leyo eya kukwenza ukuba ulahlise ihlazo lobuxoki kwaye amkele kwi-psychotherapist.
Yingcali, eyazi kwaye ifanele incede. Okokuqala, kuya kunceda ukufumana oonobangela boloyiko, nokuba bavela ebuntwaneni, iziganeko zakhe sele zicinywe ngokupheleleyo kwimemori. Indlela yokuziphatha kwengqondo yengqondo iya kunceda ukutshintsha ukufakelwa komfanekiso wabantwana onengozi, kwi-on oyenzayo, kwaye umntu uya kuqalisa ukubona abantwana ngokubanzi. I-Hypnotherapy kunye ne-NLP inokusetyenziselwa unyango.
Isidingo samayeza sivela kuphela kwiifom ezinzima, kwaye safumanisa ukuba asitshatanga kwaye kunokuba kunjalo. Kule meko, abatshutshisi, oonogadayo, i-antidepressant, kodwa kwiimeko ezinzima, ithemba eliphambili labelwa kwiiklasi zengqondo ukuba zinciphise ialam.
Ngaxeshanye nonyango lonyango, kuyacetyiswa ukubandakanyeka kwimithambo yokuzivocavoca, camngca. Njengoko ufakelo olutshintshiweyo lutshintsha ngemvume kagqirha, kuya kufuneka unxibelelane ngokuthe ngcembe nabantwana-kunye nabantwana babahlobo babo, izalamane, izihlobo, zihlobo, zinxibelelane nabazali babo, ungaceli ukuba ubuze kwaye ubuze imibuzo. Oomama nootata abancinci baya kukuvuyela ukwabelana ngamava abo kwaye babulale ukuba abantwana lulonwabo, nangona kunzima kakhulu.
