Among the most elaborate and intricate rare fears that people may have, special attention deserves pedofobiya - fear of small children. There is such a mental disorder often, but it can be quite devastating to human life consequences.
Description
Pedofobiya is a mental disorder such as anxiety, which is very difficult to reasonably explain the terms of logic. Fear is a healthy person experiences as a defense mechanism when the danger actually threatening him. But the danger may lie in kids, because even the strongest of them is stronger than an adult, and may not be dangerous?
However, when the fear of a brood called pedofobiey, there is a strong, and sometimes panic at the sight of small children Who have not reached adolescence. Phobia takes different forms, sometimes expressed in the refusal to give birth to their own offspring. It affects both men and women.
Pedofobiya considered an isolated phobia, fear of an object which one - the children. It is believed that pedofoby can live all your life without resorting to doctors, because to avoid contact with children is not so difficult. But pedofobu almost impossible to create their own full-fledged family in which the children will . Even if the partner is, the prospect of having children seems a terrible man, a nightmare. That is why the relationship with a partner is often crumble.
With relatives and friends who will sooner or later start a family and children, pedofoby gradually stopped communicating, trying to avoid. In the severe form of the disorder can be very dangerous for the psyche.
But such forms when meeting with the baby causes horror, panic and inappropriate behavior - these are isolated cases. Pedofobiya often proceeds more quietly, and the man is quite enough to avoid contact with the baby Just go to the other side of the street or picked up his pace, when parents with stroller are going to meet.
But completely eliminate the object of fear in the life of patients can not - children meet in the stores, on the street, in pharmacies, they are shown on TV, but because anxiety gradually increases, causing more serious change in mentality and outlook of the person. Changing character - he becomes irritable, short-tempered, irascible, a man prone to depression at the slightest pretext. Children are annoying, and even if the window is heard as they play in the yard, laughing or crying, pedofob feels anxious, wary. He feels that somewhere nearby danger. Because the fear is irrational, illogical, the patient himself can not clearly explain to relatives and friends, why he does not like and avoid the children, and therefore it becomes closed.
Some, however, find an explanation that protects themselves from the need to tell the truth - begin to deny the value of marriage, family, assert that lost faith in everything, or simply "childfree". There are lots of social explanations that can "mask" the true circumstances, to admit that a great shame.
Causes of occurrence
Often prerequisites for pedofobii appear in childhood. For example, an older child may be too painful to accept the birth of a younger brother or sister. Jealousy of parents automatically matches the image of a baby with danger, because the loss of parental love for a child - a real a real danger. Fear of young children may appear after the incident - a child injured accidentally or intentionally youngest child, for which he was severely punished.
Sibling rivalry on the occasion of the birth of a brother or sister usually takes place over the years, when there is a rational explanation for everything that happens. But now entrenched a strong image of a child in connection with the sense of threat may continue for a lifetime. And adults with pedofobiey actually own most of the time does not remember what events formed the basis for his fear.
Sometimes pedofobami are potential pedophiles. If an adult is aware of his physical attraction to children, it may deliberately avoid contact with children, and gradually avoidance becomes habitual, being transformed into fear.
The reason may lie fear and a parent approach to education. There are families in which the birth of children built almost superidea in the cult. And children from an early age to set up what they have become parents when the time comes. This is what happens if both parents are very religious. They are not interested, as well as, in general, children dream, can fly into space for them more valuable dream than the prospect of a lifetime to erase sliders? And internal conflicts, in which a child grows, it may well be the basis of fear.
In adults pedofobiya may occur against the background of tragic events - shot down a child on the car, the woman lost her baby during childbirth. It is noteworthy that today the popular joint (partnership) delivery may cause the development of pedofobii men.
Almost always pedofoby are misanthrope. But this is not surprising, misanthropes not only children do not like. They do not love humanity as a whole.
Symptoms
Women and men have different symptoms of pedophobia. A woman who suffers from pathological fear in front of kids is terrified at the news that it is pregnant, and even when discussing such an opportunity with a partner. A man can come to the horror of the news that his girlfriend became pregnant. He will insist on abortion, and with a lot of probability, will try to escape and hide away from a woman if she refuses to interrupt pregnancy.
From other phobic disorders, the pedophobia is very different - it does not have panic attacks. But this is not easier for the patient, as a strong alarm almost does not leave it, it is reduced from time to time and increasingly. So, both men, and women diligently, and sometimes and deliberately avoid contacts with children.
If the partner turns out to be persistent, and still persuades the pedophoba to start children, the final can be very sad - the patient refuses to make upbringing, cannot calmly transfer children's crying, hysterics, ultimately the child may not even be in the shelter - the pedophobe should not be abandoned From him. And well, if there is a grandmother, a grandfather, who is given by such a child to upbringing up to the age of at least. If there are no such relatives, the fate of the child may be unenviable.
Experts tend to believe that pathology is only considered rare, because officially for the help of pedophobes are rare. In fact, every third family in which children are growing up with grandparents while their parents are alive, it is likely that one of the parents pedofob, and the second - just from him in something depends.
How to get rid of fear?
Unfortunately, it is practically impossible to do it yourself. We will not help calls to take yourself in hand, and even more so do not try to be treated by the method from the opposite - to give birth to children called their fear. Nothing good will not come from it.
First of all, you must not be afraid to recognize the presence of such a problem. Therefore, honestly answer your questions, do you have pleasure, approve the pictures of pink carappow or you are unpleasant to contemplate them? Do you want children? Do you cause anger and irritation to children of neighbors, colleagues familiar?
And it is not so important what exactly you will answer, it is important how you will feel at the same time. Discomfort when you reflect on the theme of children, anxiety and anxiety - the first "calls", which should make you discard the false shame and go to the reception to the psychotherapist.
It is this specialist who can, knows and should help. First of all, it will help to find the causes of fear, even if they originate from early childhood, whose events have already partially erased from memory. The method of cognitive-behavioral psychotherapy will help change the installations that bind the image of children with danger, on positive, and the person will begin to perceive children in general otherwise. Hypnotherapy and NLP can be used for treatment.
The need for medicines appears only in severe forms, and we found out that they are single and rather are an exception. In this case, tranquilizers, antidepressants, but in severe cases, the main hope is assigned to psychotherapeutic classes to reduce the alarm.
Simultaneously with the course of treatment, it is recommended to engage in respiratory gymnastics, meditate. As the installations change with the permission of the doctor, you need to begin to gradually communicate with children - with the kids of their friends, relatives, friends, communicate with their parents, do not be asked to ask and ask questions. Young mothers and dads will be happy to share their experience and kill that children are happiness, even though quite difficult.
