Kuhle ukuthetha nomntu onobulumko. Kule mihla, unxibelelwano oluqhelekileyo luba lunobukrelekrele, kwaye abantu bayabaxabisa abo banxibelelanayo. Nditsho nencoko egcweleyo iya kuba mnandi ngakumbi ukuba uyazi indlela yokuziphatha ngokuchanekileyo, indlela yokuthumela kwicala elifanelekileyo.
Ukusebenza kwakho kuthethathethwano ngqo kuxhomekeke kwinkcubeko yonxibelelwano. Kuya kufuneka uqonde ukuba yeyiphi na indlela yokuziphatha eya kufanelekileyo ngoku, kunye nento engamkelekanga. Imithetho esisiseko yokwakha incoko ayikho ngqiqweni. Ukonyusa ukusebenza kakuhle kunxibelelwano, sebenzisa le memo.
Incoko yelizwi
Ngexesha lengxoxo, ihlala ifanele ibukele isigama sayo, imvakalozwi nethole. I-Slang, iJargoonsisms eNgeyo, kunqabile ukuba isetyenziswe amagama hayi ihlala ifanelekileyo kuyo yonke indawo. Ibinzana elifanayo linokuvakala lahluke ngokupheleleyo kuxhomekeka ekubeni ithoni alithetha njani. Nokuba uyacaphuka, akufuneki uyibonise ngeenxa zonke . Ukuzola, ubumbeko, ukuzithemba, imeko yeyona nto ilungileyo ekuqhubeni incoko yababini eyakhayo.
Ngokwahlukileyo, kufanelekile ukuthetha malunga ne-Inrance Shotion-Ivumela umnxibelelanisi ukuba azive entlokweni elinganayo nawe, nangona, mhlawumbi wena ungaphezulu kolwazi lwakhe nakuphi na umbuzo.
Incoko esekwe kwinkcazo yokuthembana kufuneka iqhubeke kancinci kwaye ibhetele ukuba umqalisi ngumntu omdala (obalulekileyo, isimo) songenelelo.
Ungalibali ngoncumo. Kumnandi kakhulu ukujonga ubuso obuncumayo kune "BUKU", kwaye ke uya kunxulunyaniswa nge-visavi enemvakalelo ezakhayo.
Umxholo wencoko
Incoko ihlaziyekile xa izihloko zengxoxo zikhethwe ngokuzenzekelayo kunye neshishini, xa kulindeleke umba othile. Incoko yeshishini ifuna uqeqesho kunye nombutho, kufuneka ubuchule obunobuchule kwisifundo. Ukuba unxibelelwano lweshishini akufuneki luphazanyiswa yingxubusho yezinye iingxaki.
Incoko ehlaziyiweyo ifuna ukuba abo bantu banxibelelane ngakumbi kwizakhono eziphuhlileyo zentetho. Owona mthetho uphambili kukuba ungaxeleli umnxibelelanisi ukuba bangafuni ukuva.
Kukho eminye imigaqo:
- Sukuthetha ngezinto, ngendlela enye okanye enye, unokuyonakalisa umnxibelelanisi - akukho mntu uthanda ukuxoxa ngezihloko ezingathandekiyo;
- Umbuzo oxolayo kufuneka ube nomdla kwiqabane lakho kwincoko, into eyoyikekayo, izenzulu ayisiyiyo eyona nto iphambili;
- Ukuthozama komntu kuyahombisa: Ungazibopheli kwaye ungaziphakamisi, akunakwenzeka ukuba ube nomdla wokunxibelelana - izenzo zakhe zithetha ngomntu ngaphezulu kwamagama;
- Ingxoxo yomntu wesithathu ongekhoyo ngexesha lencoko ayisoloko ichaphazeleka: ukwenza kwaye inyibilikisele le ncoko ye-vision, le yi-movieton;
- I-joke elungileyo kukuhonjiswa kwencoko, kodwa kuphela xa kufanelekile.
- Ukuba imbambano ivele, akufanele ungayiguquli ibe yi-svar, kulula kakhulu ukwenza into onokuyicinga - kwanele ukugcina intlonipho yomnxibelelanisi: HAYI "yiya kubuntu", musa ukwenza Ukuzonwabisa ngombono wamanye amazwe, kwaye ungazenzi owakho;
- Inqanaba lokugqitywa kwengxoxo ibalulekile: Incoko akunyanzelekanga ukuba yongeze ngobuchule-ungayifaka into eyoyikisayo, iphumelele kakhulu - ihlanganisene into entle ngawe, iyathetha kakuhle.
Izakhono zokuMamela
Bubuchule obu sisiseko soluntu. Abantu bayakuthanda ukuthetha ngabo, kwaye wena, mamela, unokwenza umbono ofanelekileyo womnxibelelanisi. Mamela ngononophelo kwaye ungene. Esi senzo singekuphela nje imvume, kodwa ikwabonisa umdla wakho.
Bonisa umdla Kuphela le nzala ekufuneka inyanisekile. Ukubandakanya "kwincoko kunye nokungabikho kobuxoki kuya kukwenza ube uhlala undwendwe. Ukwamkelwa ngokugqwesileyo ukugcina incoko- ukucacisa imibuzo. Ukuqunjelwa kwabo kunokuba ngolu hlobo: "Ngaba uthetha ukuba ...?", "Ufuna ukuyithetha ...?"
Malunga nento ekuphazamiseni imbi, wonke umntu uyazi ukusuka ebuntwaneni, kodwa kubushushu bempikiswano abayilibalayo. Ungaphazamisi, ninike umntu ukuba avakalise iimpikiswano zakho kude kube sekupheleni, musa ukunkqonkqoza. Ngapha koko, unokwenza isigqibo esifanelekileyo, emva kokumamela.
Intuthuzelo yasekhaya
Ngexesha lencoko, kufuneka ukhululeke. Zombini amanqanaba engqondo kunye nezakhono. Ngaphandle koko, kuya kuba nzima ukuziva inzala yangaphakathi, eyenza ube ngumnxibelelanisi omnandi. Akukho nto ifanele ukuphaphazamisa.
Ukukhululeka ngokwakho, unokwenza lula uhlengahlengiso lwendalo. Olu lwamkeli lwe-NLP, eyona nto iphambili kuyo uthatha umanyano olufanayo, kunye nomnxibelelanisi, sebenzisa izimbo zomzimba ezifanayo.
Ukuqhuba olu gunyaziso akufuneki kungangqinelani, kungenjalo uhlengahlengiso lunokuthathwa njengejika kwaye akuyi kukuthanda kwakho.
Malunga nendlela yokuphila incoko, jonga ividiyo elandelayo.