Byiza kuvugana numuntu uzi ubwenge. Muri iki gihe, itumanaho rizima rirahisha, kandi abantu bashima abanyekora neza. Ndetse ikiganiro kibuze kizarushaho gushimisha niba uzi kwitwara neza, uburyo bwo kohereza muburyo bwiza.
Imyitwarire yawe mu mishyikirano biterwa n'umuco wo gutumanaho. Ugomba gusobanukirwa nimyitwarire izakwiriye noneho, nibitemewe. Amategeko shingiro yo kubaka ikiganiro ntabwo bigoye cyane. Kongera imikorere mu itumanaho, koresha iyi memo.
Ikiganiro cya Tone
Mugihe cyo kuganira, burigihe birakwiye kureba amagambo yayo, intonasiyo na tone. Slang, Jargonism zabigize umwuga, ni gake yakoresheje amagambo ntabwo buri gihe kandi atari ahantu hose hakenewe. Imvugo imwe irashobora kumvikana rwose bitewe nuburyo ijwi ryavuze. Nubwo waba urakaye, ntugomba kubyerekana hafi . Ituze, ikinyabupfura, ikizere, ibihe ninshuti zawe nziza mugukora ibiganiro byubaka.
Ukwayo, birakwiye kuvuga kubyerekeye icyaha cyo kwiringirwa - yemerera gutungura kumva ufite ibirenge bingana nawe, nubwo, birashoboka ko uruta ubumenyi bwe kubibazo byose.
Ikiganiro mukwizera kigomba gukomeza buhoro kandi cyiza niba uwatangije ari ukuze (ingenzi, status).
Ntiwibagirwe kumwenyura. Birashimishije cyane kureba isura imwenyura kuruta "Buku", bityo uzabitabira neza visavi namarangamutima meza.
Ingingo yo kuganira
Ibiganiro birasa mugihe ingingo zibiganiro zatoranijwe vuba nubucuruzi, mugihe biteganijwe ikibazo cyihariye. Ikiganiro cyubucuruzi gisaba amahugurwa n'umuryango, ugomba kuba ufite ubushobozi buke muri iyo ngingo. Niba itumanaho ryubucuruzi ridakwiye kurangazwa no kuganira kubindi bibazo.
Ikiganiro cyoroheje gisaba guhuza ubumenyi bwateguwe cyane bwo kuvuga ikinyabupfura. Itegeko nyamukuru ntabwo ari ukubwira kwemeza icyo bo ubwabo batashaka kumva.
Hariho andi mategeko:
- Ntukavuge ibintu, inzira imwe cyangwa ikindi, ushobora kubabaza imvugo - ntamuntu ukunda kuganira kubintu bidashimishije;
- Ikibazo urimo kuganira kigomba gushimisha mugenzi wawe mubiganiro, ikintu kidasanzwe, siyanse ntabwo aribwo buryo bwiza;
- Kwiyoroshya k'umuntu bishushanyije: Ntukishimire kandi ntuzamure uburenganzira bwawe, ntibishoboka ko bishobora gushimishwa no gutangaza - ibikorwa bye bivuga ku muntu kuruta amagambo;
- Kuganira kubw'undi muntu runaka utari uhari mugihe kiganiro nacyo ntabwo buri gihe ari ngombwa: gukora no konsa - kuri iki kiganiro cyisi, iyi ni Modelton;
- Urwenya rwiza ni imitako y'ibiganiro, ariko niba bikwiye.
- Niba havutse impaka, ntugomba kuyihindura svar, biroroshye cyane gukora ibyo ushobora gutekereza - birahagije ko wubaha imvugo: ntabwo imanike ibirango, ntabwo bijya Gushinyagurira abanyamahanga, kandi kandi ntibishyireho ibyawe;
- Icyiciro cyo kurangiza ikiganiro ni ngombwa: Ikiganiro ntabwo ari ngombwa kwagura ibihangano - urashobora gufunga birambiranye, gihumuriza cyane - gihumuriza ibitekerezo byiza kuri wewe, ubupfura bukeye.
Ubuhanga bwo Gutegera
Nubuhanga nicyo gipimo cya societe muntu. Abantu bakunda kuvuga kuri bo, nawe, kumva, barashobora gutanga ibitekerezo byiza byumuvugizi. Umva witonze kandi nutiriwe. Iki kimenyetso ntigisobanura gusa uburenganzira, ahubwo kigaragaza ko ushimishijwe.
Erekana inyungu Gusa iyi nyungu igomba kuba inyangamugayo. Ati: "Harimo" mu kiganiro no kubura ibinyoma bizatuma uhora uturakaza neza. Kwinjira neza kugirango ukomeze ibiganiro - birasobanura ibibazo. Kumenyekanisha muri bo birashobora kumera gutya: "Ushatse kuvuga ko ...?", "Urashaka kuvuga ...?"
Kubijyanye nibyo guhagarika, abantu bose bazi kuva mu bwana, ariko mu makimbirane bakunze kubyibagirwa. Ntugahagarike umutima, guha umuntu kugirango ugaragaze ingingo zawe kugeza ku mperuka, ntukabive mubitekerezo. N'ubundi kandi, urashobora gufata umwanzuro ukwiye, nyuma yo kumva.
Ihumure ryimbere
Mugihe cyo kuganira, ugomba kuba mwiza. Urwego rwo mu mutwe ndetse na physiologique. Bitabaye ibyo, uzagora cyane kumva inyungu zimbere, zigutera guhuza. Ntakintu na kimwe kigomba kukurangaza.
Kuba mwiza kuriwe, urashobora guhindura byoroshye. Iyi nyungu ya NLP, ishingiro ryabyo ni uko ufata igihagararo kimwe, kimwe no gutangaza, koresha ibimenyetso bisa.
Gukora iyi octions bigomba kuba bidasubirwaho, bitabaye ibyo guhindura birashobora gufatwa nkuburyo kandi ntibuzakugirira akamaro.
Kubyerekeye uburyo bwo kuyobora ikiganiro, reba videwo ikurikira.