Kulankhulana: Kodi "Wokondedwa" Ndi Chiyani? Kodi pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa kuunika ndi kuyankhulana?

Munthu aliyense amafuna kugwiritsa ntchito luso la kulankhula mwaluso, popereka malingaliro ndi malangizo pogwiritsa ntchito mawu aluso, tengani motsimikiza malingaliro ake. Makhalidwewa amalola kuti ukhale umunthu kukhazikitsa mayanjano ndi anthu, kupeza zogwirizana komanso zopatsa thanzi. Tikulankhula za kulimbitsa thupi komanso kulankhulana.

Ndi chiyani mu psychology?

Kulumikizana kumatanthawuza kumasuka pakukhazikitsidwa kwa ubale wabwino komanso bizinesi ndi ena. Umunthu wolumikizana umatha kuyankhula mwaluso ndi munthu wazaka zilizonse komanso ulemu. Liwu loti liwu lakongoletsa mawu achi Latin "lolumikizidwa", "lipoti la" kulumikizana ". Amapangidwa kuchokera ku kulumikizana kwa LATIN - "Kulumikizana", "Kulankhulana".

Munthu wokonda kucheza naye amatha kulumikizana ndi mutu uliwonse, mosasamala za momwe alili ndi kuwerengera. Kulankhulana kumapangitsa chisangalalo chachikulu. Munthu wotereyu ali ndi chidaliro, mwachangu amapeza mawu oyenera, amatha kuyankhulana pamitu iliyonse, amamva kuti amathandizira. Amachita chidwi, wosinthika mu kulumikizana, wopambana pazokambirana zamabizinesi sizitayika nthawi zosiyanasiyana komanso madawa mosavuta ku zinthu zatsopano. Kukhala ndi zinthu zofananazi, umunthu wolumikizana nthawi zambiri umakhala mtsogoleri mu gulu.

Mu psychology, lingaliro ili laperekedwa tanthauzo lotsatirali: Pakati pa anthu, zimamveka kuti kuthekera kukhazikitsa kulumikizana ndi anthu ena, khalani olankhulana komanso kulumikizana. Akatswiri ena amati kuyankhulana kwambiri ndi ena. Wogwira ntchito mogwirizana ndi amene angagwiritse ntchito zomwe angathe kuzenera, ntchito zosiyanasiyana, malonda, psychology.

Otsatsa, oyang'anira malonda, oyang'anira ogwira ntchito, maongowa, otsogolera zochitika zosiyanasiyana ayenera kukhala ndi chikhalidwe chotere. Kupanda kutero, wogwira ntchitoyo sangathe kukhala akatswiri.

Kodi chosiyana ndi chiyani ndi kulumikizana?

Nthawi zambiri anthu ochezeka amakhala achibale athu bwino. Amatha kuyika zokambirana mu njira yoyenera ndikuwonera malingaliro awo. Umunthu wolankhulana nthawi zonse umafotokoza momveka bwino komanso momveka bwino. Kusiyanako ndikuti munthu wolankhulana kumatha kulumikizana, ndipo umunthu wolumikizana ndi umunthu wokhoza kusankha okha, kuti apange chisangalalo pakukambirana. Uku ndikungolumikizana kolumikizana nthawi zambiri kumadziwika ndi kuuma komanso vuto, munthu wodziwika bwino - wowala komanso wabwino.

Kusiyana kwa malingaliro awiri ndi kulankhulana momasuka ndi luso la kukhazikitsidwa kwamphamvu kulumikizana ndi kuyankhulana momasuka, komanso kulumikizana ndikosasinthika Mukamasamutsa chidziwitso kwa omvera. Kuyankhulana kumatanthauza kuthekera kofotokoza zambiri, malingaliro, malizani ku nkhani ina mu mawonekedwe olondola komanso opezeka. Mwanjira ina, kulankhulana kumapereka mtundu wa kusamutsa kwa chidziwitso, komanso kuti azikhalidwe ndi amene amachititsa kuti muzilankhulana. Lingaliro loyamba likufotokozedwa mu chidziwitso chokwanira komanso chosasinthika, lachiwiri ndi kuthekera kosangalatsa omvera ndi nkhani yawo. Munthu atha kukhala ndi maluso kapena m'modzi wa iwo.

Kuyankhulana sikogwirizana. Zimaphatikizapo kumva mawu otanganidwa, osalankhula mawu osaganizira, kumvetsetsa mkwiyo ndi malingaliro awo, kuthekera kufotokoza ndi kuteteza malingaliro awo. Izi zitha kukhala bwino moyo wonse. Kulankhulirana kotchulidwa kumafotokozedwa mwa kukhala ndi chuma chonse chokonzekera bizinesi ndi makalata apadera, ndikulemba zolembedwa.

Kutha kufotokoza bwino malingaliro awo nthawi zambiri kumakhala kobadwa m'mitu ndi olemba anzawo.

Zabwino ndi zovuta

Munthu wokonda kucheza naye amakwaniritsa zolinga zomwe adapanga. Amatenga nawo mbali pamoyo wawokha, amayenerera bwino moyo wake, amakwaniritsa bwino moyo wake, akukhazikitsidwa pantchito, nthawi zambiri amafika patsogolo kwambiri, amabwera. Kulumikizana kumafunikira kuti apange ubale wanu, kukhazikitsa ubale wokhala ndi mabizinesi, kuchititsa zokambirana bwino.

Munthu wolumikizana amaperekedwa ndi zabwino zingapo:

• Kulankhulana kwa kuphatikizirana, kukhoza kulumikizana mosavuta ndi ena: Sungani zokambirana pamutu uliwonse, mverani mosamala kwa omwe akukhudzidwa;
• bata, chodekha, kutseguka, kusakhala ndi chisoni ndi nkhawa;
• kumvera, kukomera mtima ndi kukondera;
• Kusowa kwatsoka, zolankhula zopanda tanthauzo ndi zopanda pake;
• Kutha kufotokozanso zidziwitso zoyankhulirana ndi zomwe ali nazo.

Zovuta zotsatirazi ndizosagwirizana.

• Kuthekera kobadwanso kwinakwake, kuchita zambiri, luso lolemera, masewera olemera, masewera omwe ali ndi mapangidwe amawu, mawu owoneka bwino nthawi zambiri amayambitsa matenda owuma kwambiri;
• Kutha kulumikizana nthawi zina kumatha kuthiridwa mu zokambirana zopanda kanthu, kuyankhula mopitirira;
• Nthawi zambiri amafunsa zolankhula zakale komanso zatsopano zam'manja

Maonedwe

Kutengera ndi njira yogwiritsira ntchito anthu omwe amagwirizana ndi zomwe angathe kuti azichita zinthu mogwirizana, akatswiri omwe ali ndi anthu ambiri okhudzana ndi anthu. Mwachitsanzo, munthu wokonda kukhala chete osanena malingaliro ake, amatanthauza zinthu zopanda malire. Nkhani yotereyi imakumana ndi mavuto mu ntchito yantchito komanso moyo wawo.

M'ma psychology, amagawa mitundu ikuluikulu ya mgwirizano wa anthu.

• Mitundu Yabwino Amasiyana m'mafakitale ndi kukhwima. Munthu amene ali ndi mtundu wotere amafunika kuchitapo kanthu pokambirana. Sakonda kumusokoneza. Poyamba mphindi zoyambirira za zokambirana, omvera amawona kuti kulumikizana kwake kupezeka kwa kupezeka kwake kumadzazidwa ndi malo onse omwe akupezeka.
• Nyimbo yam'manja Amadziwika kuti anthu ambiri, kuthamanga kwa mawu ndi mitundu ina yambiri yoyendetsa mapiko. Anthu amtunduwu amatha kumangiriza zokambirana. Nthawi yomweyo, amatha kutaya chidwi mwachangu. Pazithunzi zamabizinesi, khalidwe loterolo limatha kutsika mu kuyankhulana bwino. Kuti mulankhule tsiku ndi tsiku, mtundu uwu ndi wabwino kwambiri.
• Vided View Amadziwika ndi kupezeka kwa zovuta zambiri polowa zokambirana. Khalidwe la mtundu uwu silophweka kupanga ophunzira atsopano. Atamaliza gawo loyamba la njira yolankhulirana, munthu wotere nthawi zambiri amakhala wosangalatsa komanso wosangalatsa. Amaweruzidwa ndikuwonetsa bwino malo ake. Kulankhula kwake ndi komveka bwino. Mtundu wamtunduwu ndi wokhalitsa wolumikizirana bizinesi.
• Mtundu wa Intro amakonda kusungulumwa. Amakhala odzichepetsa komanso chete. Munthu ndi wovuta kukhazikitsa zolankhula za Frank. Safuna kuchita zonse zomwe ndikukonzekera kuti muchepetse. Malingaliro akuthwa, owoneka bwino amatha kugwetsa chifukwa cha Rut. Kukhalapo kwa alendo kumapangitsa kuuma.

Wokhazikika amafunikira kuvomereza mawu otsegulira. Kukana kwa malingaliro ake kumathandiza kuti kuyankhulana kwayankhulana mosayembekezereka.

Maluso a mgwirizano

Munthu aliyense pamoyo wake wonse amalumikizana ndi anthu osiyanasiyana. Luso lalumikizana limapangidwa pang'onopang'ono. Choyamba, mwana amalankhulana ndi makolo ndi ana ena. Kenako munthuyo amayamba kumanga ubale mu gulu. Mwanjira imeneyi, kapangidwe ka maluso kwa maluso kumachitika.

Umunthu wabwino uli ndi machitidwe otsatirawa:

• kukhala ndi chikhalidwe;
• ;
• Kuleza Mtima;
• udindo;
• Kuchita bwino;
• chithumwa.

Akatswiri azamisala amagawa zotsatirazi za munthu wocheza:

• Kukonzekera zolankhula pagulu;
• kuthekera kunena malingaliro anu;
• Kutengera mwachangu kwa mkhalidwe wosamveka;
• Kuthekera kokonzekera usungwana;
• chidaliro m'malingaliro anu;
• luso lomvetsera;
• kukonzekera kudziletsa;
• Chiwonetsero choyamba pakukambirana ndi mlendo.

Zomwe zili pamwambazi zimathandiza kuti nkhaniyi itheke bwino pamakhalidwe osiyanasiyana.

Mu ntchito

Khalidwe lolumikizana ndi mwaluso limatha kutsogolera zokambirana zofunikira ndikukwaniritsa zotsatira zomwe mukufuna. Khalidwe ili limayamikiridwa mu ntchito zambiri. Munthu wochezeka amatha kukonza kasitomala kwa iye, kukhazika mtima wosakhutira ndipo amathetsa kusamvana mosavuta. Amatha kunyengerera mnzake kuti apange mgwirizano, kuti achepetse nthawi yopeza zolemba.

Poyankhulana

Nkhaniyi imamverera bwino lomwe limachitika. Kuthana ndi momwe njira yake sikuli ndi mataniya ndi kuwunikira. Amadziwa kumvera anthu, pendani zomwe zalandiridwazo ndikupanga malingaliro oyenera.

Osabisanso kuti ndizosakwanira pazinthu zina ndipo sizikuphimba ndi mitsinje yopanda tanthauzo.

Momwe mungakhalire?

Kutha kuchititsa kuti munthu akhale ndi mawu achisangalalo amafunikira kwa msungwana wachinyamata komanso wokalamba. Tsoka ilo, ndizosatheka kusintha munthu wosanja mosangalatsa. Izi zimafuna ntchito youluka. Choyamba ndi chofunikira kwambiri ndikusintha kukhala ndi chiyembekezo. Ndi bambo wabwino, wochezeka komanso wochezeka, ndikufuna kulankhula zoposa ndi bungwe loyera. Osagwera mumtima. Pitani kumsonkhano uliwonse m'mizimu yapamwamba. Khalani omasuka kufunsa mseu womwe umadutsa. Khalidwe lotere limathandizira kukulitsa mgwirizano.

Sangalalani kuyankhulana. Dzipangeni nokha. Mukakumana ndi bwenzi lakale, musachoke kuti mulankhule naye. Bwerani kwa iye, pemphani zomwe akumanapo. Osatengera maulendo. Muuzeni za moyo wanu, zomwe mumakonda komanso zomwe mumakonda. Mawu ayenera kukhumudwa komanso omveka bwino. Kuyenda motalikirapo kwambiri ndi zambiri zomwe zili ndi zochulukirapo kumadziwika kwambiri ndi womvera.

Ngati mukufuna, mutha kuwongolera nthawi zonse pazokambirana komanso nthawi yomweyo kuti musalowe mu vuto. Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kutsatira makhonsolo angapo a akatswiri amisala.

• Mumkhalidwe uliwonsewu, womwe umanamizira panthawi yolankhula, khalani chete. Osadandaula chifukwa chokhala chete. Musachite mantha, kuwongola zovala zanu, kukwapulira kumbuyo kapena pamphumi, kumasilira zolimba. Osadziimba mlandu. Zinthu zambiri za moyo zikusonyeza chete. Ngati oikilatio anu ali kuseri kwa gudumu, ndiye kuti nkoyenera kuti mupume. Mudzatumiza chizindikiro pa bata yanu yomwe mukufuna kupitiliza kulumikizana. Musaiwale za nkhope yowonda yomwe ili pakati paubungwe komanso kukhumudwitsa.
• Pakakhala chete, perekani mutu watsopano wokambirana, ngati ndi choncho ndi chidwi ndi omvera anu. Mutha kukuwuzani za buku lakale lomwe lawerengedwa posachedwa, mayendedwe, ziweto, kulera ana, nkhani zosangalatsa padziko lonse lapansi. Nthawi yomweyo, muyenera kumvetsetsa mutuwo woti.
• Gawirani zopereka mlengalenga wa chete oponderezana pogwiritsa ntchito nthabwala kapena nkhani yoseketsa.

Kutha kukhazikitsa kulumikizana, kuthekera kolimbikitsa kumakhudza gawo la akatswiri. Maluso a luso loyankhulana nkofunika kwambiri makamaka kwa manejala. Ntchitoyi imafuna kuthetsa makasitomala, kuti akupewe kumbali yawo, ngati kuli koyenera, kuti athe kunyengerera, kuchotsa magetsi pogwiritsa ntchito nthabwala, kuti mupange njira zofunikira munthawi yake.

Gwiritsani ntchito mwaluso zochita izi, ndikofunikira kutsatira ukhondo wa kalankhulidwe kanu, pewani mawu, amabwezeretsa mawuwo mwachindunji. Muyenera kuphunzitsa chipembedzo komanso kupuma tsiku lililonse, amachita masewera olimbitsa thupi kuti azisintha kutalika kwa mawu ndi kulowerera. Kutsatira kwa Eriquette forlamula amapereka chidaliro komanso kuchepetsa kumayankhulana moyankhulana, chifukwa wokambayo saopa kuvutikira chifukwa cha kutsalira kapena kulakwitsa kolakwika.

Kukonza Sociability ndiyotheka pochita masewera olimbitsa thupi payokha. Yosiyidwa Yekha ndi Iye yekha, yesani kutchula monologie kwa omvera osawoneka. Muuzeni za mutu uliwonse kapena phenomenon aliyense motalika ngati mawu a mawu ndi mphamvu zanu. Yesetsani kuyankhulana ndi odutsa, omwe ali paulendo pamoto wapagulu, alangizi osiyanasiyana. Kukulitsa tsiku lililonse zokambirana ndi anthu osadziwika.

Maphunziro ophatikizika amathandizira kukhazikitsa chidaliro. Amathandizira munthu kusiya zotchinga zamaganizidwe. Masewera olamulira amathandizira kuwoneka kosangalatsa pakulankhulana.

M'mbuyomu kuyambiranso kuyesetsa kukulitsa njira yolumikizirana, mwayi waukulu wa kunena luso la kuyankhulana.

Mwamuna wina kuyambira ndili mwana amaphunzira kumvetsetsa anthu ena, sankhani mawu oyenera kukambirana, amapanga mzere wamakhalidwe. Mwanayo ayenera kuphunzitsa ena za chiphunzitso mwachilengedwe.

• Muyenera kulimbikitsa masewera a gulu la ana ena. Zochitika zoterezi zimafotokoza za moyo wachikulire komanso zomwe zimachitika pagulu.
• Nthawi yambiri iyenera kuperekedwa pakukula kwa mawu. Werengani mabuku a ana, amabweretsa kukambirana naye pamitu yosiyanasiyana. Yang'anirani zolankhula zanu, malinga ndi mwana. Ana amatenga pang'ono mengo kuti alankhule ndi makolo a Lexicon.
• Phsk osasinthika mwana kuti agwirizane. Pitani kumalo okhala ndi iye. Lembani mwanayo m'masewera. Kuyendetsa pamapu osiyanasiyana. Molimbana ndi mabanja omwe muli ana.
• Khalani ndi luso la mwana. Apatseni nyimbo kapena pasukulu yaluso. Muloleni iye ayenderere Maphunziro a Vocaal. Apatseni mwana mwayi wochezera ma studio a ana aliwonse opanga. Mwana amafunikira chitukuko.
• Ana amatsogozedwa ndi mtundu wa makolo. Iye ndiye chowonadi chokwanira. Chiyerekezo chimakhudzidwa ndi china chopangidwa ndi mwana. Mutha kutamandidwa ndi kuzigwiritsa ntchito mwakhama, koma osati chifukwa cha mikhalidwe yawo. Tiyenera kutamanda mwana chifukwa chothandiza mayi anga ndi fumbi kuti tisokoneze m'chipindacho. Koma palibe chifukwa choti musamabwezeredwa ndi zomwe sizimakhala mbiri yakale, kudekha kwachilengedwe. Sikofunikanso mwana kuti azikhala ngati, chifukwa cha zolakwa. Amatha kuzolowera lingaliro lomwe ndi loyipitsitsa kwa ana onse.

Ndizothekanso kugwirizanitsa mwanayo. Zimatero.