Nice to talk to a smart person. Nowadays, living communication becomes luxury, and people appreciate good interlocutors. Even a lacking conversation will become more enjoyable if you know how to behave correctly, how to send to the right direction.
Your effectiveness in negotiations directly depends on the culture of communication. You must understand what behavior will be appropriate now, and what is unacceptable. The basic rules for building a conversation are not so complex. To increase efficiency in communication, use this memo.
Tone conversation
During the conversation, it is always worth watching for its vocabulary, intonation and tone. Slang, professional jargonisms, rarely used words not always and not everywhere appropriate. The same phrase may sound completely different depending on how the tone she uttered. Even if you are annoyed, you should not demonstrate it around . Calm, politeness, confidence, the circumstance is your best allies in conducting a constructive dialogue.
Separately, it is worth saying about the trusting intonation - it allows the interlocutor to feel at an equal footing with you, although, maybe you are superior to his knowledge of any question.
The conversation in trusting intonation should proceed slowly and better if the initiator is the older (significant, status) interlocutor.
Do not forget about the smile. Much more pleasant to look at a smiling face than "Buku", and thus you will subconsciously be associated by Visavi with positive emotions.
Topic of conversation
Conversations are relaxed when the topics of discussion are selected spontaneously and business, when a specific issue is expected. Business conversation requires training and organization, you must be at least competent in the subject. If business communication should not be distracted by the discussion of other problems.
The relaxed conversation requires the interlocutors of much more developed skills of speech etiquette. The main rule is not to tell the interlocutor what they themselves would not want to hear.
There are other rules:
- Do not talk about things that, one way or another, can hurt the interlocutor - no one likes to discuss unpleasant topics;
- The question you are discussing should be interesting to your partner in conversation, something narrowly special, scientific is not the best choice;
- The modesty of a person decorates: Do not praise yourself and exalt your own merit, it is unlikely that it may be interested in the interlocutor - his actions speak about a person much more than words;
- Discussion of a certain third party who is not present during the conversation is also not always relevant: to do and suck - for this secular conversation, this is a movietone;
- A good joke is a decoration of the conversation, but only if it is suitable.
- If the dispute arose, you should not turn it into a svar, it is much easier to do what you might think - it is enough to keep respect for the interlocutor: do not hang labels, not "go to personalities", do not make fun of an alien point of view, and also do not impose your own ;
- The stage of completion of the conversation is important: the conversation is not necessary to extend artificially - you can lock the boring, much more effective - consolidate a pleasant impression about yourself, politely saying goodbye.
Listening skills
It is this skill that is the criterion of human society. People love to talk about themselves, and you, listening, can make the right impression of the interlocutor. Listen carefully and nod. This gesture not only means consent, but also demonstrates your interest.
Show interest Only this interest should be sincere. "Including" in the conversation and the absence of false will make you always a welcome guest. Excellent admission to maintain conversation - clarifying questions. The formulation of them may be like this: "Do you mean that ...?", "You want to say that ...?"
About what to interrupt ugly, everyone knows from childhood, but in the heat of disputes they often forget about it. Do not interrupt, give a person to express your arguments to the end, do not knock down from thought. After all, you can make the right conclusions, just after listening.
Domestic Comfort
During the conversation, you should be comfortable. Both psychological and physiological levels. Otherwise, you will be very difficult to feel the inner interest, which makes you a pleasant interlocutor. Nothing should distract you.
Being comfortable for yourself, you can easily make a natural adjustment. This NLP reception, the essence of which is that you take the same posture, as well as the interlocutor, use similar gestures.
Conducting this reception should be inconspicuous, otherwise the adjustment can be regarded as a curve and will not go to your favor.
About how to lead a conversation, see the next video.