Umuzwa wokuhlekisa ungabizwa ngokuthi yisipho esihle sekusasa, ngoba akuwona wonke umuntu kusuka emvelweni enekhwalithi enjalo. Futhi abaningi kakhulu engingathanda ukufunda ukuhlekisa. Ngemuva kwakho konke, umuntu onomuzwa wokuhlekisa uhlala ephakathi nendawo, kulula kuye ukuthola ukuxhumana nabanye, ukufeza ukuzwela kobulili obuhlukile. Kepha uma kunesifiso esikhulu sokuba yisithandwa sakho, okungenani sabathandekayo bakho nabangane, kudingeka ufunde okwengeziwe, ungawuhlakulela kanjani umuzwa wokuhlekisa futhi ufunde ukuhlahlekisa.
Imithetho eyisisekelo
Ngokushesha kufanelekile ukungamangali ukuthi ukufunda ukuthi ihlaya lihlekisa kanjani ngosuku olulodwa ngeke lusebenze. Lokhu kungumsebenzi omude odinga indlela ehlanganisiwe. Ukuthuthukisa umuzwa wokuhlekisa, udinga ukushintsha isimo sengqondo maqondana nawe kanye nomhlaba okuzungezile, okokuqala kwandise ukuzethemba kwakho. Kuzothatha isikhathi, ukubekezela, ukuqeqeshwa. Cabanga ngezinto okufanele zifake ushintsho.
- Uma ungumuntu onobuntu, usulungile. Ngaphandle kwalokho, udinga ukuqala ukuthuthukisa amandla okuxhumana nabantu. Ngaphandle kwanoma iyiphi indlela. Udinga ukuthi ufunde ukuthi ungabuza kanjani imibuzo, uxhase inkhulumomphendvulwano, ungesabi ukujoyina ingxoxo, ungazivezi izinkampani. Kufanele ulalele imizwa yabanye, ukuze uyiqonde, ukusabela kahle bese uzama ukuthola ukuthi abanye bakuphatha kanjani - noma ngabe kuhle ukuxhumana noma mhlawumbe kungakanani. Onke la ma-nuances abaluleke kakhulu. Kancane iphumelele ekuthuthukiseni izimfanelo zabo zokuxhumana.
- Ihlaya ngasinye akuwona nje amagama obuwula akhishwe emkhathini. Kufanele kusho. Ungahlekisa futhi udinga ukuba nezihloko ezahlukahlukene, ngenkathi wonke amazwi kufanele afanele, kuphela amahlaya azoba organic futhi athole impendulo evela kubasuselwa ku-interlocudutors. Ngoba lokhu udinga ukuba ngumuntu okhulayo. Ngakho-ke, kuyadingeka ukufunda okuningi (kuzofaka isandla ekunwebiseni kwesilulumagama), vakashela inkundla yemidlalo yaseshashalazini, imibukiso neminye imicimbi yamasiko, ukuxhumana nabantu abathakazelayo.
- Lowo ofuna ukulwa nemisindo ezungeze amahlaya akhe kumele aqale akwazi ukuhlekisa. Izindaba eziphathelene nezimo ezihlekisayo kusuka kokuhlangenwe nakho komuntu siqu zihlala zitholwa kahle, le yindlela eqinisekile yokubeka i-interlocutor ngokwakho futhi unqobe ukunaka kwenkampani yonke. Uma ungumuntu onobucwebezelayo, angithandi ukudalula ukubukeka kwemizwa nemizwa yakhe, kuzobhekwana nakho. Lesi sithintelo sengqondo kuzofanele sinqobe.
- Udinga ukwazi ukubona ubuso phakathi kwehlaya elihlekisayo neliwula. Kwenzeka ukuthi ihlaya lingazwakala ngaso sonke isikhathi sokucasula umuntu noma ukuthulula. Udinga ukwazi ukuzizwa umzuzu lapho ungahlekisa khona, futhi lapho kungakufanele ukwenza lokhu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, isimo sabantu kufanele sibanjwe, silalele umuzwa. Amahlaya amahlaya, kepha akekho noyedwa osusele ubuhlakani nokuziphatha okufanele. Kwanele ukuhlekisa ngokwanele amahlandla amaningana ukuze kamuva nalapho umuntu onjalo ebona ukuthi angakwazi ukuziphatha ngokwanele.
- Ukuthola okuhlangenwe nakho okuthile, udinga ukubuka umbukiso osezingeni eliphakeme wamahlaya wecebo elihlukile - eziteshini zethelevishini, kwi-Intanethi, funda izincwadi, amahlaya amawashi. Konke lokhu nakanjani kuzozuza. Lokhu kuzokuvumela ukuthi ufunde ukuthi ungaqonda kanjani lapho amahlaya amahle, futhi kuphi kungenjalo.
- Ukuvumela amahlaya empilweni yakho, kufanele ube nethemba, kunoma yisiphi isimo ukuthola izikhathi ezinhle. Futhi ngisho nasenkingeni ebuka nge-prism yamahlaya. Udinga ukumamatheka kaningi futhi ukwazi ukuphazamisa ezinkingeni. Vele, ngeke isebenze ngokushesha, kepha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ngokuqeqeshwa okungapheli, inqubo nakanjani izophumelela ngokwengeziwe.
- Kukhona elinye iphuzu elibalulekile - akufanele ulingise noma ngubani bese ukopisha noma ngubani. Inani liwukuba ubuntu ubuntu, ukuze usebenzele isitayela sakho. Kepha lokhu akusho ukuthi ekuqaleni, futhi nangemva kwalokho, amahlaya womuntu awakwazi ukuphinda abuyele. Impela. Vele nje uzame ukukwenza ukuhlekisa ngokweqiniso futhi ungazimemezele ngumlobi wendaba yomunye umuntu.
- Ungalokothi uphelelwe yithemba ekwephule kokuqala. Uma ucabanga ukuthi ihlaya lihlekisa, kepha akekho ohlekayo, akusho ukuthi amahlaya akho awafanele noma kuphi.
Mhlawumbe namuhla abangane bakho abanayo indlela noma oyikho enkampanini lapho abantu benomuzwa wokuhlekisa. Ngemuva kwakho konke, konke kwehlukile.
Yini ihlaya ngayo?
Ihlaya akuyona nje iqoqo lamagama. Kunabantu ababandakanyeka ekubhaleni ama-monalogies ahlekisayo, futhi ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho zizalwa nje kuphela amahlaya. Kepha ithalente nesipiliyoni esithile. Okokuqala, kufanele kuqondwe ukuthi ihlaya lincane kakhulu, kepha umsebenzi wokubhala. Ngakho-ke, futhi inethayi, ukuthuthukiswa kwesakhiwo kanye nokunganqumi, yize kwenzeka ngokushesha okukhulu. Kepha into ebaluleke kakhulu ehlathini yithuba elingalindelekile. Kulokhu futhi kwenzekahlekisa. Ihlaya lingahlukaniswa ngezakhi ezinjalo:
- I-zinc, ikhodi yincazelo yesimo;
- Lesi sicupho esibizwa ngokuthi isigaxa, esiphoqa umlaleli ukulungiselela ukuthuthukiswa okuthile kwemicimbi;
- Isimanga siphenduka ngokungazelelwe ngesiphetho esingalindelekile, okungekhona umuntu ongacabanga ngakho.
Okushiwo ukuthi kubonakala sengathi kuyinto evamile lapho umuntu empilweni angabhekana khona, inomqondo ongeyona ngokuphelele, okungekho muntu olungileyo futhi angalindele ukuzwakala. Ngokuvumelana nalokho, kubangela ukusabela ngendlela yokuhleka.
Thola
I-Wit - Ikhwalithi ebalulekile empilweni yansuku zonke. Kunoma yisiphi isimo, ungaphendula ihlaya elikhazimulayo, bushelelezi ukungqubuzana, khipha isimo sesikhathi. Kepha akuwona wonke umuntu onikezwayo ukuba nethalente elinjalo, ngakho-ke abanye kuzofanela baqale ekuqaleni, bafunda ukupholisa ukuphendula noma yikuphi ukuhlaselwa, ukuze bazijabulise futhi bazibangele ukuba nentshisekelo kwabadala nasezinganeni.Udinga ukuthola isitayela sakho futhi uvivinya nsuku zonke, izibonelo zokufunda zamahlaya abanye abantu, qamba amabinzana ahlekisayo. Kuphela, kuzokwenzeka ukuze usebenze umuzwa wakho wokuhlekisa futhi uthole ukuzethemba. Ukuthuthukiswa kwamakhono alo ukuqala ngokubheka ukwamukelwa okukhona lapho kudala amahlaya.
Ukuphikiswa okungamanga
Umgomo wokwakhiwa kwalolohlaya ukuthi ukuphela kwehlaya akuhambelani ngokuphelele nokuqala, kepha lokhu kuyinto efanele lokhu kuqiniswa. Njengesibonelo, lapha ungaletha ibinzana elinjalo emsebenzini we-CH. Dickens: "Wayenombala ophuzi ophuzi, onxephezele ukufiphala okukhanyayo ekhaleni." Incazelo enjalo inika umlobi wentombazane, futhi konke kuzolunga uma umbala ophuzi unxephezelwa ama-blush ezihlathini, kepha ikhala livela ngokungazelelwe, futhi selivele lihlekisa.
Ukukhuliswa kwamanga
Kulokhu, konke kwakhiwe eqinisweni lokuthi ukuphela kungukuqinisekisa kokuqala, kepha lokhu kuqala ukubheka. Eqinisweni, kulandela ukuphikiswa. Njengesibonelo, ungacabanga ngecala lapho uHeine ahlanganyela umbono wakhe ngomunye umngani, eqhathanisa le ntokazi enoVenus Milos, kodwa ngasikhathi sinye wabona ukuthi ungomunye wakudala futhi wabona. Ngakho-ke, ngenxa yokuphela okunjalo, okushiwo yileli gama kunikezwa okuhluke ngokuphelele.Thintana nolwazi
Igama liyazikhulumela. Noma yisiphi isitatimende singalethwa esingenangqondo. Into esemqoka ukuphendula okupholile nesihloko. Isibonelo, umuntu waveza umcabango, umuntu angakwenza sengathi avumelana naye, kepha bese uyiguqula ukuze incazelo iguqulwe. Ngokwamukelwa okunjalo, izinketho ezahlukahlukene zezindlela ezivelile, ukweqisa noma ukuvezwa kwangaphansi kuvame ukusetshenziswa. Isibonelo, kuwubuwula ukuveza ukuqhathanisa: "Ukukhanya, okufana nasebusuku."
Ungaziqeqesha kwinqubo yokuxhumana nsuku zonke.
Ukuqhathanisa okungalindelekile
Le ndlela ilula kakhulu. Ungakhetha ngokuphelele noma yimaphi amagama bese uwaqhathanisa nezinto ezingekho kulo lonke elalilindelwe kuleli cala. Isibonelo, ungasho ukuthi, izandla zibanda, njengokudonswa kweqhwa, noma umcabango uthuthukiswa, njengesihlahla. Ngakho-ke kuvela izinto ezahlukahlukene kanye ne-phenomena, ungaqhamuka nento ehlekisayo ngempela.
-Thembekile
Kulokhu, udinga ukusebenzisa imiqondo ekhethekile ehlukile okungekho logic ozoxhuma ndawonye. Isibonelo isigwebo esinjalo: "EMbusweni othile, uMbuso othile, kwakukhona inkosazana efile." Noma ungasebenzisa igama ngenani elithile, bese kuthi-ke: "Ososayensi othile wathi umhlaba awuyindilinga, mnyama futhi ungcolile."Isitayela sokuxubana
Le ndlela ifaka phakathi ukuhlanganisa okubalulekile nge-Secondary, ephakeme ngayo nsuku zonke. Sebenzisa kufanelekile kunoma yiziphi izimo embuthanweni wabangane. Njengesibonelo, inkulumo ethi "Harch Gods" ingalethwa.
Izwi lokuqhweba
Okushiwo ukuthi akuvezi ngqo isimo sakho sengqondo ngalesi simo, kepha ngosizo lwamanye amagama, kodwa ukuze kucace. Ungasicabanga lesi simo. Abantu ababili bahleli etafuleni, ngokuzumayo omunye wabo ubeka etafuleni lezinyawo. Omunye angasho kukho: "Zizwe ukhululekile ukubeka yonke imilenze emine etafuleni", ngaleyo ndlela upende ngokufana komuntu onendoda nesilwane sezinhlungu.
Ukuhunyushwa kabili kwegama
Le ndlela isuselwa ekusetshenzisweni kwamagama. Izwi elilodwa lingaba namanani ambalwa. Isibonelo, i-Spit iyithuluzi lezinwele nethuluzi lezabasebenzi, isibambo liyisihloko sokubhala, ukufakwa kweminyango kanye nendlela efihliwe yegama elithi "isandla". Futhi kunamagama amaningi anjalo ngesiRussia.Untsome
Sisebenzisa amahlaya anjalo kaningi. Ngakho-ke, ungabiza isenzo esiyisiphukuphuku esibizwa nge-smart, umuntu onobugwale obizwa ngesibindi, ongcolile - uhlanzekile. Ngokusekelwe kulo mgomo, kulula ukubhala amahlaya.
Ukuqhathanisa ngesibonakaliso esingahleliwe
Ukuqhathanisa okunjalo kwenzeka phakathi kwezinto ezingaxhunyaniswa nganoma iyiphi indlela noma zihambisana ukude kakhulu. Isibonelo, ngingahlanganisa kanjani umthetho kanye nokuthunyelwe. Kubukeka sengathi kuvamile. Kepha noma kunjalo, akunakwenzeka ukuwela, kepha ungazungeza.Indikida
Kubalulekile ukuqoqa ndawonye izinto ezingqubuzanayo futhi ukwenze ukuze kuhlekise. Isibonelo, singasho ukuthi okunzima kakhulu emhlabeni kulele kusofa nangokulungile. Futhi ngokumangazayo, futhi kuyahlekisa. Noma ngabe yini ikhethwe ihlaya ikhethiwe, kufanele ihlale ikhunjulwa ukuthi amahlaya kufanele abe endaweni. Akuwona wonke umuntu obonayo, ngokwesibonelo, amahlaya amnyama.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kufanelekile ukuqonda ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi ukuze kuhleke ngokushiyeka kwabantu noma izimo kungenzeka kungafanele. Udinga ukuzama lokhu ubuso obuncanyana ukubamba.
Umzimba
Ukuze ufunde ukuthi ungahlekisa kanjani, udinga ukuqeqesha umuzwa wakho wokuhlekisa, noma ngabe akukubi kakhulu. Ungaphonsa noma yiliphi ihlaya elidumile noma umane nje ubuyise umngane ocasukile ngokuthile, indawo enhle yomoya. Zama ukujabulisa umfazi, phakamisa isimo sozakwethu sozakwethu - konke lokhu kungukuqeqeshwa okuhle, okuzosiza ukukhulisa amathuba empumelelo. Okokuqala, kunconyelwa ukusebenzisa izivivinyo ezithile.
- Udinga ukuza namagama amaningi ngangokunokwenzeka encwadini eyodwa, bese kuthi kusuka kuleli gama ukudonsa iziphakamiso. Ukuzivocavoca okunjalo kunwebisa ulwazimagama (futhi lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu), kukuvumela ukuthi ucabange ukucabanga okuguqukayo nsuku zonke. Isibonelo, uthathe incwadi ethi "B". Yasungulwa Amagama: Imfoloko, Wizard, ibambeke, ithathe, ikhola, kubamba iqhaza. Ungenza isiphakamiso: "I-Wizard yathatha ipulaki, yanamathela ku-collar the telprit."
- Esikhathini esifushane udinga ukukhetha izinhlangano eziningi ngangokunokwenzeka. Lokhu kungajwayelekile futhi kukhanya, okungcono. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungaqhamuka namagama anjalo, kunalokho, angeke ahlotshaniswe nale miqondo. Konke lokhu kuqeqesha kahle ukuzibandakanya kokucabanga. Isibonelo, sithatha igama elithi "ehlobo". Yiziphi izinhlangano? Ulwandle, ilanga, ama-seagulls, izimbali, ukufudumala, iholide, ukuphumula. Futhi yini engakwazi ukuhlanganiswa ngokuphelele nehlobo? Usizi, kubanda, izikebhe, iqhwa, isithukuthezi.
- Sifuna amagama anezincazelo eziningana. Sizama ukukwenza ngokushesha futhi sisungule amagama amaningi ngangokunokwenzeka. Isibonelo, ukhiye umnyango, i-wrench, ukhiye ngenani lokusakazwa, ukhiye ngenani le- "Riplong".
- Thola noma iyiphi into, ngokwesibonelo, imbiza, woza nezindlela eziyishumi zokuyisebenzisa.
- Khumbula izifundo ezimbili ezingaxhunyiwe. Zama ukuthola lokhu kufana.
- Buyekeza ukudluliselwa okuhlekisayo, zama ukuhlukanisa wonke amahlaya: indida, irony, ukusikisela nokunye.
- Vula noma iyiphi i-log noma iphephandaba, woza nazo zonke izithombe amasiginesha akho.
Zonke lezi zivivinyo zizosiza ekutholeni ijubane lokusabela, ukuthuthukisa umuzwa wokuqonda, ukwenza ukucabanga okuguquguqukayo. Lokhu yilokho okudingekayo ukuthuthukisa umuzwa wokuhlekisa futhi ufunde ukuthi ihlaya kanjani futhi ekhanyayo.
