Ibinzana elithi "Owesifazane Oqinile" lihlukile. Abanye bemona bathi la magama, abanye - ngokubhuqa kanye ne-irony. Iqiniso ukuthi abesifazane abaqinile babangela izinhlangano ezihlukile. Ungawuphatha kanjani lo mqondo nokuthi ungawathola kanjani amandla abesifazane aphilile, kuzosho i-athikili.
Izisekelo zokuzethemba
Ochwepheshe bezengqondo sekuyisikhathi eside badideka ngumqondo wamandla abesifazane. Kwaqhutshwa amavoti, futhi iningi labesifazane baqinisekisa ukuthi bafuna ukuba namandla, ngoba bayoba yimisebenzi nezinkinga ehlombe. Kepha amadoda amaningi lapho esebenzisa ibinzana elithi "umfazi oqinile" achaze izinhlangano ezinama-warreds asendulo eziyingozi, uNekrasovsky amelushe, ozovimba amahhashi emncintiswaneni, futhi amahhashi avuthayo afakiwe kalula. Ngokuvamile, inhlangano yabesifazane inempilo, futhi amadoda ane-negative.
Kusuka empini ngenkemba enqunu iningi labameleli bobulili obunamandla bazame ukubekezelela ukubambelela ngangokunokwenzeka.
Nakahloni Kukhona isithombe sengqondo esichaza isithombe sowesifazane oqinile ngaphandle kombala ongokomzwelo - njengoba kunjalo. Ngakho-ke, uma sikhuluma ngezisekelo zomqondo, kufanelekile ukuthi ziqaphele ukuthi ziqinile, okokuqala, hhayi ziqine ngokomzimba, futhi umuntu ozimele futhi ozimele owaziyo izinqumo, ukubeka imigomo, isenzo, ukuqiniseka, Ngokusobala ukwazi lokho akufunayo kuye nakwabanye, ebudlelwaneni nabo.
Ukuzimela akusho ukuthi ukuthwala izingodo emahlombe lapho amadoda ehlolwa eduzane. I-Independent Landy ivele yazi ukuthi yini angayenza, kodwa yini - ngeke ibhekane. Futhi lokhu kuwuphawu lwamandla. Umbono ocacile wemingcele nemikhawulo evumela umfazi onjalo ngenxa yokuthatha indawo yayo enhle empilweni.
Owesifazane oqinile ungeniswe ngokwengeziwe yimizwa yakhe, ngoba ayihlalanga hhayi amagreyithi wesikhathi esizayo futhi hhayi ukuhlupheka okwedlule nokuhlambalaza, kepha kuphela, lapha nalapha manje. Lokhu yikho kanye okunikeza isisekelo sokuzithiba okuhle nokuzola.
Amabutho wowesifazane anikeza ukukhethwa kochwepheshe, imfundo ephumayo, mayibe yincane, kepha ipulatifomu yezenhlalo ezinzile, ekwaziyo ukuzivikela, ngaphandle kosizo.
Ungaba kanjani ngokuqinile ngokwengqondo?
Amandla Owesifazane Wezengqondo yakhelwe ebuntwaneni, Kunoma ikuphi, kunjalo ngalesi sikhathi lapho izisekelo zemvelo zibekwe khona. Izici zomuntu, intukuthelo, imfundo yomndeni namasiko athinta. Izici ze- "cocktail" zonke zinquma ngokwengxenye ukuthi lo wesifazane uba umuntu ozimele, onamandla oqiniseka. Kepha - ngokwengxenye. Futhi leli yiphuzu eliyinhloko. Ukuphumula kungumsebenzi ozimele, futhi uma udinga ukuba yintombazane eqinile noma umfazi, akukho lutho olungenzeki. Into esemqoka ukuba ngumuntu ovuthiwe ngokuziphatha, futhi lokhu akuxhomekeki eminyakeni yobudala noma enkolweni noma esikweni lapho intokazi yakhula khona.
Ngaphezu kwencazelo yesithombe sengqondo sowesifazane oqinile, ongoti baphinde basebenza ezicini ezihlukile zamantombazane abuthakathaka, futhi ukuqhathanisa kwalezi zinhlobo ezimbili kuzosiza ukuqonda ngokuningiliziwe ukuthi ungayiqeda kanjani ubuthakathaka futhi ukhuphule amandla abesifazane ekuqondeni okuhle kweZwi.
Intokazi eqinile ayikwazi ukukhombisa ukuziphatha okuncike kuyo. Kugxilwe kakhulu ekubambisaneni noma ekunciphiseni okuhambisanayo, akuvumeli ukuba bazihlukanise, bazikhohlise, bephule isikhala sakhe, bathulule izifiso. Kuhlelwe umlingani ngeke eze nezintshisekelo zakhe, kodwa kuzoba ukuyekethisa.
Abesifazane, banamandla ngokwengqondo, Zivame ukuzikhumbuza ukuthi ziza kulomhlaba ukuthi zingabekezeleli ukuthotshiswa, kepha ungagijimeli ekuhlazisweni noma ekulweni, zicabanga kahle noma yisiphi isimo futhi zizama ukugwema izingxabano ezivulekile zonke. Uma yehluleka ukugwema, le ntokazi eqinile ayishiyi ngaphambi kwesitha, isivele inezinqumo eziningana - ikwazile ukucabanga kusengaphambili.
Umbono wokulimala okuncane okuzungezile kwabesifazane abanamandla . Izwi lokuqonda kwalo libaluleke kakhulu kubo, futhi bamlalela, kanti ababuthakathaka bavalelwa kakhulu ngenxa yalokho abakucabangayo noma abanye. Ngenxa yokungabi nalutho kombono womphakathi, abamele abaqinile bengxenye enhle yobuntu cishe akunakwenzeka ukuba babeke izinkolelo, izahlulelo, ezivela ngaphandle. Umuntu uzolandela ukwenqaba okuyikhulu ukwenqaba okunenhlonipho, futhi uma umfutho uzoba nengcindezi, khona-ke ukwenqaba ngeke kube nenhlonipho enkulu.
Owesifazane oqinile akasoze azibeka ephakeme noma ephansi kunabanye. . Wabona ngokulinganayo ilungelo lawo nelungelo labantu ngombono okhethekile, imingcele yomuntu kanye nenkululeko, imizwa nemicabango.
Uma umuntu engahambelani okulindelwe, kunjalo, uzokhathazeka, kepha inhlekelele ngeke inembile. Futhi-ke, futhi kunjalo, "ukugqama" komunye umuntu ngeke kube yisizathu sokwenza izihlakala, ukuhlambalaza noma ukuba nolaka ekhelini lakhe, kunokuvame ukona amantombazane anovalo futhi abuthakathaka.
Amandla abesifazane bangaphakathi - Leli khono lokuvuma imizwa yakho, noma ngabe kwenza kube ngowesifazane kuqala . Leli khono lokuqonda usizo futhi babonge. Owesifazane onjalo uhlukana kalula nabantu "abanobuthi", ngaphandle kokuzisola, ushiya ubuntu buyabhubhisa, umphakathi, inkampani, ulandela "imvelo" yomphefumlo wakhe, umndeni, izingane.
Owesifazane oqinile angahlela, abale izenzo namathuba alo. . Uma kungazelelwe kuzofanela anikeze umndeni ngenxa yezimo, awukwazi ukungabaza ukuthi uzokwazi ukubhekana nakho, noma ngabe wayengakaze abe nesipiliyoni esinjalo. Ukubalwa, izinketho ezihlanganisiwe ezinhlelweni, umbono ocacile wezinhloso.
Emadodeni, abesifazane abanamandla bayakwazisa Amandla okuhlonipha ubuntu bakhe, reckon nemizwa yakhe nezifiso zakhe, ukwethembeka . Umndeni kanye nobambiswano namadoda angenangqondo, amadoda abuthakathaka avame ukungaphumeleli, futhi izintokazi ezinamandla eziqinile zixazululwa ekuqaleni. Zifanele abalingani abaqinile, abalinganayo abangeke babe ngabafazi kuphela, kodwa futhi nabalingani, izintombi ezithembekile
Izincomo eziwusizo
Abesifazane abahlose ukuthola amandla, ochwepheshe bezengqondo banikeze izincomo eziningana eziwusizo.
Khipha noma yiziphi izinkohliso zabanye. Musa ukwakha izithombe eziqanjiwe zezintombi, abalingani, ozakwabo. Songa imibono yakho ngaphandle kokulindelwe okungadingekile, cabanga ngamagama nezithembiso, kepha yizenzo zangempela zomuntu ngamunye. Lokhu ngeke kusize ukuthi zizwe ukudumazeka okubuhlungu, kulula ukukuthatha okungokoqobo.
Zithole kangcono. Khuluma ngokwakho ngokweqiniso, vula izifiso zakho zeqiniso nezidingo zakho, kufaka phakathi ukuphendula, futhi kungani udinga amandla nhlobo. Uma lokhu kufakwa, okubolekwe kuMama, konke okuhlinzekwa ngumndeni nomlolo otshwala, okungukuthi, ingxenye enkulu ukuthi isimo sizophinda siphindise, futhi amandla ngeke alethe injabulo njengomphumela. Kuyadingeka ukuthumela amandla endalweni kuphela, ngenhloso enhle lapho umphefumulo ulele khona ngokweqiniso.
Ube nokwensaka. Amandla awomile futhi awakhathazeki. Owesifazane kufanele akhombise imizwa yakhe emihle, uthando, abona sengathi anamahloni okuzwelana nozwela. Kuzomsiza akhe ubudlelwano besikhathi eside nobuqotho nabantu.
Ukwenza lula ukuphikisana kwangaphakathi. Leli khono lizosiza ekuphuthumeni emgomweni emgomweni, futhi landela ngokuqiniseka indlela ekhethiwe, ukuqonda amakhono ayo nendawo yakhe empilweni. Ukuze ube nokuzethemba, ngokuziphatha nabantu abadala ngokuziphatha futhi ngokuqinile, udinga ukuzama ukuqeda wonke ama-psychotrams angaphambili. Uma beqongelele kakhulu, kungcono ukuphendukela ku-Psychotherapist, i-Gestalt-Therapist noma isazi sezengqondo. Lezi zingcweti zizosiza ekutholeni izimbangela zokungabaza nokwesaba, zinqobe, futhi amandla wangempela angaphakathi azofika esikhundleni sawo.
