Ukuthuthukiswa okuvumelanayo komuntu kuvame ukuphazanyiswa yinkimbinkimbi yokuthatha phansi, okubonakala sengathi osemusha uzizwa embi kakhulu kunabanye abantu, uzizwa ukuphepha emabuthweni awo. Lokhu kwenzeka ngokuncipha kokuzethemba.
Izici zokwakheka
Ukuzihlola kwentsha kwakhiwa ngenxa yokuvumelana komphakathi womuntu. Ukuzihlola ngokwako kukhula nokusebenzisana okuqondene nabanye, impendulo ekhona futhi ngenxa yemisebenzi yensizwa. Ukuzazisa kuyathuthuka emphakathini. Amantombazane ajwayele ukuzihlola ezingeni eliphansi kunabafana. Amantombazane abudlelwano obalulekile nabanye abantu kanye nokukhanga kokubukeka, kanye nenqubo encane yokuzethemba esetshenziselwa ukukhokhelwa okuphathelene nokuxhumana, okungokwezithombe, ubuhlakani kanye nedatha yomzimba. Ukuhlanganiswa kwethebula le-matrix kwenza kube nokwenzeka ukuqonda amandla okuzenzela ngokwawo.
Izingane zithambekele ekukhulisweni kwezimfanelo zabo. Ukuqina lapho kuhlaziywa kuvela eneminyaka eyishumi. Lesi sigaba sokuphila samantombazane amaningi nabafana sibonakaliswa ngokukhomba okungalungile kunezici ezinhle. Isidingo esibukhali sokuzethemba siyavela, kepha ukungakwazi kutholwa kuhlolwe ngokwanele umuntu wayo. Lapho ebusheni, umbono we-uqobo usondeza izinkomba ezingokoqobo. Kusukela eneminyaka eyi-12, abasebasha balalela umbono wontanga. Ngokuhlolwa okujwayelekile okujwayelekile, isimo sengqondo esingesihle ngokuqondene ngokwaso sivame.
Lapho eneminyaka engu-14 ubudala, osemusha ugxile ezingeni elithile, ehlanganisa izimfanelo ezinhle zomuntu. Osemusha uhlola ubunikazi bakhe, uqhathanisa nokuziphatha kwakhe namazinga athile "afanele". Uzama ukuthola indawo yakhe emphakathini, azizwe engxenyeni yakhe.
Isixazululo senkinga yokuzimisela komuntu siqu ngokuqashelwa kwamanani athile kwezokwelapha kusiza le nsizwa ukuba iqonde ukuthi ichazwe yini ebukhoneni bawo.
Amazinga
Iqhaza elikhulu ekwakhekeni kokuhlolwa okulungile kwezenzo zalo lidlala ukugxila kwengane emnyakeni eminingi emsebenzini wesikhathi esizayo kanye nokuhlolwa okuphezulu ngothisha bezimiso zokuziphatha. Kwesinye isikhathi igebe phakathi kokuzethemba kwangempela nokuphelele kwakhiwa.Ezanele
Ukulinganiselwa okungokoqobo komuntu, amakhono abo nezenzo zabo kuvumela osemusha ukuthi alandise kahle amandla nemisebenzi ebekwe phambi kwakhe noma yikuphi ukubukeka okuxakile kanye nezidingo zabantu bakwamanye amazwe. Ukuqagela okwanele kunomqondo wobucayi bezimiso nezenzo zakhe zokuziphatha. Abantu abazibonelayo banezinkinga ezisebenzayo, anenhlalo futhi zihlose ukutadisha okuzungezile nakobo emphakathini.
Ikhulisiwe
Ukulinganiselwa okuphansi kontanga yabeshasha kungaba nomthelela ekulweni nokwethuka okunganele kokuzethemba kwakhe. Ukuzibangela kwangaphakathi kwakha isifiso sombukiso wokuqina kwalo. Ukwesaba ukuzwa ubukhosi bakhe kubangela ukuba ingane iphinde ibonise ukubaluleka kwayo kokunye. Osemusha onjalo uthambekele ekuzivewuleni ngemisebenzi ekhiqizayo.
Kunzima kumuntu ophakeme kakhulu phezulu ukuze asungule ubungane. Okuzungezilezwa kungakhululekile ngesihloko sokuzikhukhumeza, ngakho-ke bafuna ukugwema ukuxhumana naye.
Kuvinjelwe
Ukuqina okuphansi kwengqondo kuvame ukuba imbangela yokuzithemba okungaphansi komhlaba. Izimfanelo ezilandelayo zifakazela umbono oncishisiwe ngaye uqobo:
- ukunganaki ezingutsheni, emthambekeni;
- Isimo sobuso besifo;
- Ukwesaba ukubuka abantu ngqo emehlweni;
- isifiso sokunganakwa;
- Slouch;
- izwi elizolile, inkulumo enkulu;
- kufaka phakathi amanothi ekuchashweni, ukuxolisa okungapheli ngezenzo zabo;
- Inselele, ukuqina ngokweqile kwezenzo zabo;
- Ukutholwa kwezinzuzo zabo;
- Izinga elincanyana lezenhlalo;
- ulaka njengokuvikelwa ezweni elizungezile;
- ukungathembeki kubantu.
Ukuxilonga
Ukuze ucwaninge, ochwepheshe bezengqondo basebenzise amasu ahlukahlukene.
- Kusetshenziswa indlela yokulinganisa ukuzihlola, i-demo-rubinstein ibona izinga lezimangalo zentsha. Ubanga lobudala lishintsha lisuka eminyakeni eyi-10 kuye kweli-16. Ubukhulu begebe phakathi kwamazinga ezicelo nokuhlolwa kokuzikhethela kunqunywa.
- Test v. v. Novikova "Ngubani engikulomhlaba" wenza ukuba ngikwazi ukuthola ukuthambekela kokuya ngokweqile noma ukufakwa kokuzethemba komuntu wakhe, kanye nokulinganiselwa okwanele komuntu wakhe.
- Izinga eliphakeme, eliphakathi nendawo eliphansi lokulinganisa kwalo, ukwanela nokungafaneleki ngokuzethemba kwentsha kusiza ukukhomba inqubo S. A. Budassa.
Izimbangela zokuzethemba okuphansi
Umbono osungulani ngaye uthinteka kuyisici sokufa: amakhono engqondo nangokomzimba, ukuzwelana, umlingiswa. Okubaluleke ngokulinganayo imfundo. Ukugada okwedlulele, ukunakekelwa okubonakalayo noma, kunalokho, ukuntuleka kobudlelwano obufudumele babazali kubazali kabi kuthinta kabi ukwakheka kokuzethemba.
Izingane ezingafuneki ezivela eminyakeni yezingane zizizwa zingafaneleki. Abanayo ukwesekwa kwabazali, bazizwe izithiyo, hhayi umuntu okhululekile. Imicabango nemizwa yengane yehla uma abazali bavame ukumcasula. Ingane enjalo ayikwazi ukuzithanda. Uhlala ezwa ukungapheleli kwakhe. Izingane azinandaba nombono wabanye. Ukuhlolwa komuntu wakwelinye izwe kuvame ukudlala indima enqumayo. Uma ofunda nabo ekilasini, abangane, othisha noma nje abantu abajwayelekile baphendula kabi ngedatha yangaphandle, yomzimba noma yengqondo, khona-ke angazivimba noma abonise ulaka nabanye.
Abantu abasha baxhumana ngenkuthalo emhlabeni obonakalayo. Kanye nangesimo sendabuko sentsha, i-cyberbulling isatshalaliswa ngokushesha. Ubenza ababingeli i-alamu encane eshumini nambili kunalapho ukulimala empilweni yangempela. Ithonya lanoma yikuphi ukunxenxa ekwakhekeni kokuzethemba okuphansi kukhulu. Le ntombazane yandisa izinga lokudangala nokukhathazeka, amakhanda ayabonakala, ukulala kuyaphazamiseka, isifiso sokudla siyanda.
Ezinye izingane ziqala ukucabanga ngokuzibulala. Abanye banesifiso sokufakazela ukuvela kwabo kwabanye.
Ungaphakamisa kanjani?
Thuthukisa ukuzethemba kufanele kube kancane kancane. Okokuqala, kufanele sithuthukiswe kulezo zindawo ezinikezwe kangcono. Kuyadingeka ukunikeza isikhathi sokuzithuthukisa, funda izincwadi ezifanele. Umfana kumele akwazi ukwenza eminye imisebenzi. Isibalo esihle sowesilisa sandisa inzalo emantombazaneni.
Intombazane eyeve eshumini nambili ibaluleke kakhulu njengoba ibukeka ingemuva lezintombi zakhe. Akanandaba nombono wabazali, othisha, ontanga. Intombazane isiza ekukhuliseni ukuzethemba ukusebenza ngokubukeka kwakhe. Awudingi ukuhoxisa ngokuphelele izimfanelo zemvelo ezinjengokuthobeka namahloni. Intsha isheshe ilahlekelwa inzalo e-jungle encanekazi. Kufanele kufundwe ngokunye ukuKhanya nge-Rigor.
Udinga ukuzithanda nakho konke ukungahambi kahle nezinzuzo. Akufanele zibandakanyeke ekuziveleni. Vuma amaphutha akho, zama ukuwalungisa. Kuyadingeka ukulwa nobuvila bakho uqobo, ngoba kuvame ukuphazamisa indawo yokunethezeka futhi kusakazeke nendima yohlangowo. Vakashela ukuqeqeshwa okukhethekile okuhloswe ngalo ukwenza ngcono ukuzethemba. Unganqikazi ukudumisa.
Ukumamatheka kaningi, thokozani njalo ngomzuzu wokuphila. Kholwa kuwe nakwabanye. Qaphela ubunye bakho. Uhlukile. Akekho omunye umuntu ofanayo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthola indawo yakho. Naka okufanele amakilasi akho owathandayo, izintshisekelo nezinto zokuzilibazisa. Thatha ukusesha amathalenta akho. Funa amandla, uwathuthukise. Khetha umsebenzi eshawini.
Xoxa nabanye ngokuvamile, akudingekile ukukhononda ngempilo yakho engemihle. Lwela ukusiza abantu abadinga ukwesekwa kwakho. Izenzo ezinjalo zisiza ukukhulisa ukuzethemba.
Ngokulungiswa kokuzithemba okuncishisiwe, ochwepheshe beluleka izivivinyo ezilandelayo:
- Lungisa kudayari yomuntu siqu noma yikuphi okufeziwe (lo msebenzi usiza ukuqaphela futhi uhlole noma iyiphi, ngisho nenhlanhla encane);
- Yenza uhlu lwezimfanelo zakho ezingama-30 ezinhle, kancane kancane zikuqede;
- Zenzele izincomo ezihlukile;
- Yethula endaweni yakho ubuntu obuziwayo, ngokwesibonelo, umlingisi noma umculi, futhi ukuxhumana nabanye, wethula ukuthi lokhu akusiyena wena, futhi umuntu odumile ukhuluma umlomo wakho ngaleso sikhathi.
Ukuncoma
Intsha iyadingeka kahle, ngoba ukulala okunganele kunomthelela ekunciphiseni kwethemba nokuzethemba. Ngokweqile, ifomu lomzimba elingesihle lisanda umuzwa wokuqina nokungasebenzi. Ukudla okugcwele kanye nemidlalo ejwayelekile kuqedwa emiqondweni engemihle, nikeza amandla omzimba, amandla nempilo.
Ochwepheshe banikeza abazali izeluleko ezibalulekile.
- Ingane iyisici sokuzazisa nabazali , ngakho-ke kubaluleke kakhulu ukutshala imicabango emibili ebalulekile ekhanda lakho: "Ngingumuntu opholile," futhi ungumuntu omangazayo, ongcono kunami. " Dumisa izingane zakho. Gcizelela ukuthi amandla abo akulungile. Veza ukholo lwakho emandleni engane. Ukusekelwa kwabesifazane kwendodakazi nobaba usizo lwendodana yengane yeshumi nambili.
- Ungagxeki ingane encane, njengoba engaqiniseki ngesikhalazo sakhe. Ukuphawula okubucayi kunciphisa kakhulu ukuzethemba. Musa ukuqhathanisa ingane nezinye izingane, ngisho nasezizathu ezinhle.
- Siza osemusha azizwe ubuhle bakhe nokuheha kwakhe. Bheka i-stylist ukusiza ukukhetha isitayela esifanele. Kuyadingeka ukubeka amazinyo nesikhumba ngokulandelana. Intsha ikhathazeke kakhulu mayelana nokuqhuma kwezikhumba okuhlukahlukene, kepha kuvame ukungabaza ukukhuluma ngakho. Thatha ingane kudokotela wezimonyo.
- Nikeza izingane zakho ithuba lokuthola abantu obajwayele abasha. Ziqophe ezigabeni ezahlukahlukene nama-mugs, thumela ekamu lezemidlalo nakusikhungo sokuzilibazisa. Eqenjini elingaziwa, ingane inikezwa ithuba lokuveza ngendlela entsha. I-ebanzi umbuthano wokuxhumana, ubuso obuhlukile bokuvezwa komuntu. Kunwebisa umbono wakho.
Uma kunzima ukubhekana nawe ngezinkinga zengane yakho, sicela uthintane nochwepheshe. Umsebenzi onodokotela wezengqondo ungashintsha ukucabanga kwengane, lungisa ukufakwa kwayo.
Intsha inconyelwa ukusebenzisa izindlela ezilandelayo zokuthuthukisa ukuzethemba. Thola isizathu sokuziqhenya.
- Gxila kokuhlangenwe nakho, hhayi ukubukeka. Ukubukeka kushintsha ngokushesha. Imithetho yobuhle iyashintsha.
- Bahlanganyele kwezemidlalo, ubuciko. Funda ukudlala insimbi ethile yomculo.
- Iya emizamweni yokuthola impumelelo ekufundweni. Ulwazi lwenze ukuzethemba ngamandla abo.
- Qinisekisa ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo. Thola umsebenzi wesikhashana. Thola imali ingachithwa ekufundeni, isize abantu. Ube yivolontiya. Siza izilwane, asebekhulile nabagulayo.
Thuthukisa ubuntu.
- Ungazami ukujabulisa abantu. Akunakwenzeka ukuthanda wonke umuntu ngasikhathi sinye. Yenza izenzo ezinhle. Yiba ngumuntu olungile.
- Thola isitayela sakho esiyingqayizivele. Khetha hhayi izingubo zemfashini, futhi lowo obukeka muhle kuwe, eza ebusweni bakho, uqokomisa esixukwini. Dala isithombe esiyingqayizivele.
- Bukela inhlanzeko yomuntu siqu. Hlanza amazinyo akho njalo, ukubala izinwele zakho, usebenzise i-deodorant. Gqoka izinto ezihlanzekile nezicocekile. Ungagqoki izingubo ezidwenguliwe. Izinto kufanele zilungane nosayizi wakho. Susa izingubo ezisondele kakhulu noma ze-baggy.
- Funda umdanso omusha, uthukuthele uhlobo oluthile lwezemidlalo noma lobuciko. Bamba iqhaza emiqhudelwaneni.
- Zithokozise nabangane abangaqonda, bathande futhi babonge wena. Ungabi abangane nabantu abanomona ngentuthuko yakho noma ukudonsa phansi.
- Ungesabi ukuveza umbono wakho. Ukuncipha kwenqaba kubantu. Ungakuvumeli ukuba ugeze. Amafektri abonisa.
Susa okubi.
- Musa ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nabantu obulungiselelwe ngempepho. Kumnandi ukuphila. Indoda, ecabanga ukuthi ayilungile, engajabuli. Cabanga njalo ngendlela eyakhayo. Shintsha ngokuboniswa okungalungile kwizitatimende ezinhle.
- Njalo gxila kuphela ekuzuzeni. Noma yikuphi ukwehluleka okubonakala njengokuhlangenwe nakho okudingayo. Zama ukulungisa amaphutha, qhubeka nendlela.
- Abukho abantu abafanele. Lwela ukufeza izinhloso zangempela. Cabanga ngazo zonke izinyathelo. Ungazizwa ukhungathekile lapho kungenzeki ukufeza okungaphezu kwalokho engingathanda.
- Yeka ukuphendula kubucayi ukuphawula. Umuntu ngamunye unelungelo lokubona kwakhe, kepha kungenzeka kube yiphutha. Thatha ukugxekwa okwakhayo.
- Ukukhipha. Zenze zonke izinsuku eqinisweni lokuthi ungumuntu omuhle kakhulu. Emandleni akho ukubhekana nanoma yiziphi izinkinga zokuphila. Ufanelwe injabulo.
