Emphakathini, ukuvukela kwabesilisa kuvame ukuxoxa kaningi, yenza imininingwane yabo, bonisa owesilisa oneqhawe langempela, kuyilapho umuntu wesifazane ukuvuvukala akusona isihloko esithandwa kakhulu sezingxoxo. Owesifazane oseshintshile umyeni wakhe ulahlwa ngumphakathi, futhi la maqiniso ngokwawo aqala ukuthandwa. Futhi-ke umbuzo uphakama - ubani oguqula abalingani kaningi: abesilisa noma abesifazane?
Yini abesifazane abavame ukushintshwa?
Ungacabangi ukuthi ogandaganda bangowesilisa. Abesifazane futhi abahlali ezikweletini. Ochwepheshe be-telegraph yansuku zonke beza kulesi siphetho, esaphika wonke amaqiniso wezibalo. Bashicilele eyabo imininingwane etholwe yisihawu esikhulu esingaziwa. Imiphumela yabo yakukhombisa lokho 2 Kwabesifazane aba-5 okungenani bashintshe abayeni babo noma ama-cosenses abo, kanti amadoda ayi-3 kuphela kwabangu-10 axazululwa e-ajulter.
Cishe ingxenye yabesifazane abaqinisekiswe ngemibandela yokungaziwa ku-Triveison, ibike ukuthi lokhu kwenzeke ephathini, ekilabhini. Ikota yavuma ukuthi (banayo) inoveli nomuntu osebenza naye emsebenzini, okwesithathu bavumile ukuthi izimpawu zokunakwa zabantu bakwamanye amazwe ziholele ezimeni eziphefumulelwe nezidlalayo, futhi amakhosikazi angalungile athi yimigomo yawo ebalulekile , yilokho impilo akukufanele ukuchitha imali ku-monogamy.
Phambilini bekukholelwa ukuthi abesifazane abanele, abasebenzayo nabacebile bashintsha kakhulu. Kepha idatha yakamuva yezazi zenhlalo. Ukuvukela kwabesifazane akwangazi into efana nezokuphepha noma isimo senhlalo - omama bendlu bashintsha kaningi kunowesifazane webhizinisi. Kufika kuma-90% wabashintshi avumile ukuthi ucansi ohlangothini lubasiza ukuba basuse ngokungafanele ngokomzwelo okungokomzwelo.
Lokho kwabesifazane abathambekele ekukhaphelweni kumyeni wakhe.
-Dedeliwe
Le ntokazi, umshado, yayinemibono yayo ngendoda, yakha okulindelwe kanye nokukhohlisa. Impilo yomndeni ibeke konke okusendaweni yayo, futhi umyeni wakhe waba khona nkosana enjalo, njengoba kwakubonakala sengathi usehhovisi lokubhalisa. Owesifazane ozibheka ngokwakhe ukhohlise, ngokuzimisele ukulungele ukumiselela umlingani. Ngasikhathi sinye, akuhlali kufuna ukucekela phansi umshado, ngoba umyeni angakhululeka kakhulu futhi anethezekile kumlingani ophilayo.Ubuhlanya futhi ukhathele
Uma imizwa yokuba ngumngane womshado ilahlekile, futhi isibindi sokuphula ubuhlobo silahlekile noma kunezinye izizathu zokuhlala emshadweni, isidingo sobusisa, okuhlangenwe nakho kothando, ukudalulwa kobulili babo kusasindisiwe. Kulokhu, i-ajulter ivame ukusindiswa kwe-psyche yowesifazane, futhi imvamisa yonke into iphela ngenoveli enesivunguvungu ohlangothini nasekuweni komshado okhona.
'Bhamekekile
Ikakhulu uma izinga labo lemfundo liphakeme kunokwakhiwa komlingani wabo. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kwahlelwa ukwahlukana kwababili - kungabi lutho oluzokhuluma ngakho. Owesifazane ufuna ukukhula komuntu siqu, futhi umlingani wakhe ofundile kangako uyamukisa kuye, akavumi izifiso zakhe. Umuntu othanda ukukhula kanye nentuthuko yomuntu siqu akuwona umlingani ocansini kangako njengomngane wangempela. Ukuya ocansini kuya esitsheni esinjalo kunamathiselwe ezisekelweni zesibili.-Khuthele
Owesifazane ongapendiwe njalo ngehora unesikhathi esengeziwe sokuthandana (kufaka phakathi kwi-Intanethi), ngokudlala ngothando ngasohlangothini.
Ngaphansi kweminyaka engama-25 nangemva kweminyaka engama-40
Owokuqala asaphila kakhulu, owesibili usuvele uhlakaniphile ngokwanele futhi athatha okuncane ngamaphuzu alandelayo - ayakhiwa, adumazekile, aphuthelwe inqubo evamile futhi ekhathele yinqubo.Ukuba nokuziphatha kwamahhala
Lokhu, njengomthetho, abesifazane ababonile ukuthi umama ushintsha kanjani ukuthi abalingani, abathethelela izintombi, abaluthambisa kalula amadoda, kanye nabesifazane ababenolwazi olucebile lobulili ngaphambi komshado.
Abesifazane baqhubeka nokuvukela umbuso kungabi ngisho nangenxa yezocansi. Bafuna ukuba abafiselekayo, abathandekayo, bafuna bancome, ngaphandle kokuthola lokhu emndenini. Bafuna umucu kanye nemizwa enothando, okuhlangenwe nakho okucebile ngokomzwelo, ukuqonda, ukuxhumana, bafuna ukubamba amagama abo ngamunye, bakwazisa.
Uma indoda emndenini ingenakukwazi noma engafuni ukukubona lokhu, okungukuthi, kungenzeka ukuthi uzoba ngumyeni okhohlisiwe.
Yini amadoda ayilona iqiniso?
Amadoda ama-polygamini ngokwemvelo. Ngakho-ke, akudingekile ukufuna indoda iphuphe futhi iphume ngokwambulwa ngowesifazane oyedwa kuphela. Kodwa-ke, asikho kuphela isifiso semvelo sokuba nabantu abaningi abaningi, kodwa futhi bakhuliswa futhi, inkolo, izimiso, izimfanelo zomuntu siqu. Futhi yibo abavimbela. Izazi zezengqondo zabelwa izinhlobo eziningi zamadoda ezinethonya lezinto zangaphandle hhayi eziningi, futhi ngenxa yalokho zinengcebo evame kakhulu.Ingane Yabesilisa
Ngaphandle, indoda njengendoda, kodwa emphefumulweni uyindodana yaphakade, ehamba phambili, osemusha. Unentshisekelo emidlalweni, awunendaba nokuzinikela isikhathi samahhala kubangani, uvame ukubhekana nemidlalo eyeqisayo kanti umkakhe unesimo esinenhlonipho - noma kunina. Umfazi othe xaxa, ubhekane nokuzithatha koshashayeni, ubeka le nqatshelwe, kulokhu okuhlubuka kwawo oneminyaka engamashumi amathathu noma oneminyaka engamashumi amane futhi akanandaba nokuthola intombi ngenhloso yokuthola izintshisakalo zohlangothi. Kepha amadoda anjalo awathuthukisi ukuphula umshado.
Ubuhle obudala
Lesi sigaba sihlanganisa amadoda eminyakeni engama-40, eshada ngaphambi kwesikhathi futhi ayinaso isikhathi sokuthola zonke izintelezi zokuphila ngaphambi komshado. Eminyakeni engama-40, ukuqonda kuza ukuthi uma kungenjalo manje, sekuvele kungenzeka kuze kube phakade. Bakholelwa ngokweqiniso ukuthi umfazi akasahambi ndawo, ngakho-ke ukukhanya okukhanyayo ohlangothini kuvunywa. Unkosikazi ezimfihlakalo akazinikeli - uyamvikela yena nezinzwa.
Funa ama-adventures
Indoda enjalo inothando olulodwa kuphela - uthando lwe-adventure. Akazi ukuthi ungaphila kanjani ngokuzolile futhi ulinganise, nakanjani kuzodingeka uthole izinzwa ze-adventure nezinkambiso. Isiqubulo sakhe "asinalo suku ngaphandle kwe-adrenaline!" Angaba ngumyeni omuhle, kepha impilo yomndeni iyacasula ngokushesha, iba imnandi kuye. Ukuvukela umbuso kuyadingeka kuye njengekhambi lokudangala. Ngakho konke lokhu, akafuni izindlela ezilula futhi uvame ukwenza amanoveli ayingozi kakhulu - ngokwesibonelo, nentombi yomngane wakhe noma umfazi womngane wakhe, ukuze kube yingozi kakhulu.Ukwanela nokwenele ne-narcissist
Amadoda anjalo azalela umfazi ukuze abonise ngokusemthethweni konke - ungumnikazi, onqobayo, kepha akanciki kunoma ngubani oshade naye. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uyimpahla yakhe, futhi ngenxa yalokho amadoda anjalo anqobayo othandweni lwangaphambili angakufihleli khona nabangane hhayi ngisho nokufihla kakhulu phambi komfazi osemthethweni. Ngokuyisisekelo ababoni lutho olubi ekuziphatheni kwabo. Kepha ukuvukela umbuso ohlangothini lomngane womshado ngeke kwamukele futhi akwehluleki.
Pragmatist
Imvamisa, umshado wale ndoda enjalo ukhona ngokujwayelekile noma ngengozi. Akukho thando nothando, unkosikazi akazimukelekile. Kepha isehlukaniso siyavumelana, futhi kwesinye isikhathi akusizi ngalutho kuye kanye nonkosikazi wakhe. Ngakho-ke, abantu baphila, kepha baqamba igama lo mndeni kunzima kakhulu. Usizi lwempunga njalo endoda indoda ibuza isiphikiso. Umuntu kungenzeka angabi nenkosikazi eyodwa, akazizwa enecala phambi komkayo, ngakho-ke akubeki imaski uqobo, umka-ke uyazi izinto eziningi, kepha ukhetha ukuthula.Ukungabaza Ukulahleka
Amadoda anjalo ahlushwa ukungabaza. Unkosikazi muhle, kepha kungazelelwe kunabesifazane abangcono ohlangothini? Uyabheka, uyahamba, kepha ubugwala kakhulu ukumemezela njengelungelo lakhe, ngakho-ke amanga asontekile. Eshaweni, kuvela ukuthi unkosikazi ngolunye usuku ngeke ame azishiye.
Isisulu sokukhohlisa
Amadoda anjalo ajwayele ukushada nabesifazane abanamandla nabanamandla, ngisho nangokobulili abakwaziyo ukwenza ithuluzi lokuphatha umngane womshado - kusadinga ukutholwa. Ukuzivukela umbuso kuzo kuphela ukwaneliseka kwezifiso zabo zobulili, ukuphumula. Ngokuvamile abawushiyi umndeni.
Izibalo zokushintsha koshade
Izibalo zobuntu eRussia eRussia zifuna ukwazi, futhi zingathakazelisa abamele bobulili obuqinile namantombazane amahle:
- Cishe ama-62% amadoda aguqula abafazi akhetha ukuhlangana ngasohlangothini nabesifazane abashadile, ama-10% kuphela amadoda ashada ubudlelwano obuyingozi namantombazane angashadile anamantombazane angashadile;
- Ukuvukela kwabesifazane kuhlale njalo - kufika kuma-45% amantombazane emshadweni anomthandi waphakade futhi akathambekele ekushintsheni komunye, futhi kuphela ama-19% abantu bamadoda angaqhosha ngokuhlangana okufanayo;
- Kufika kuma-75% amadoda aze afike kwabesifazane afinyelela kwabesifazane afinyelela kumakhosikazi awo ahlelekile ngokuhlelekile nakubayeni noma okungenani bawashintshe;
- ukungeneliseki ngempilo yocansi kuba imbangela yesehlukaniso ngo-9% wamadoda no-13% wabesifazane;
- Isifiso sokuthola imizwa emisha ebukhali siye kwenzeka kwabangu-14% wamadoda no-7% wabesifazane;
- Lolu thando olusha lungu-7% wamadoda nangaphezulu kwama-25% abesifazane;
- Ukwanda kokuzethemba, isifiso sokugomela - ama-14% amadoda anama-4% abesifazane;
- Ukuhlukaniswa isikhathi eside, indawo yokuhlala ehlukaniswe ngokuhlukile iba yisizathu sokungathembeki kwama-12% amadoda kanye nama-8% abesifazane;
- Kusuka ku-boredom kanye nendlela ejwayelekile ebudlelwaneni obusha "run" 3% wamadoda no-7% wabesifazane;
- Ukuvukela okungahleliwe kutholakala (ngaphansi kwesenzo sotshwala, ephathini, ephathini yenhlangano, njll.) Ku-14% wamadoda no-7% wabesifazane;
- Ukuvukela umbuso ngokuziphindisela ngoMlingani ongalungile - ikakhulukazi ukusabela kwabesifazane: Lokhu kugeleza okungu-11% kwabesifazane futhi kwangama-0.5% kuphela;
- Imvamisa ishintsha nozakwethu abangama-30% amadoda kanye nabesifazane abaningi;
- Kunabaningi besifazane e-resort - ama-34% abasebenza nabo aphenduliwe, kanti abangu-19% kuphela bamadoda bazivumela bavule iholide eholidini;
- Nomakhelwane babo futhi ulinganise umndeni, abangane bashintshela kwaba ngu-10% wabesifazane kanye nama-5% amadoda.
Ukungezelela isithombe, kufanelekile ukuqaphela ukuthi ukuzimela okuvame kakhulu kwenzeka endlini yomunye wabathandi. Cishe ingxenye yesithathu yabathandi bakhetha ukugibela ikotishi noma bahlale kubantu abajwayelene nabo. Vele u-10% ususe ifulethi noma igumbi ehhotela.
Ngubani onekhono ngokwengeziwe ngokuvukela umbuso: amantombazane noma abafana?
Uma uthembela kwizibalo, khona-ke amadoda aguqula kaningi, kepha amantombazane awahlali eceleni. Abakhilimu bayakwazi ukuvukela umbuso, ngoba izimo ezingasicindezela kungaba okuhluke kakhulu.
Kubalulekile ukuthi lezi zibhangqa zibeka emcabangweni wokuvukela umbuso. Kusuka lapho kubukwa ngombono wezengqondo, akukho mzimba womzimba noma wokuziphatha - akukho ngxenye. Kusukela ngesikhathi sokuthi omunye wabalingani uyazivumela ukuthi aqukethe imicabango ngobudlelwano obukhona nomuntu ohlangothini, usevele uba ngumsizi. Futhi imicabango enjalo ngisho nasemishadweni ejabulisayo ingafika ekhanda labalingani. Lokhu akusho ukuthi bajaha ukuguquka. Ungakhohlwa ngokuhlangenwe nakho komuntu siqu, uhlobo lomuntu, ukukhuliswa nezinkolelo zakhe nezinkolelo zakhe.
Kepha emindenini lapho ukuqonda, usizo oluhlanzekile, ukwethembana, lapho abashadikazi benezintshisakalo ezijwayelekile futhi bakwazi ukuxhumana nabanye nganoma yisiphi isihloko, amaqhawe awenza kaningi. Konke okubalulekile yimali nekhwalithi yezocansi, ukuba khona kwezingane ezijwayelekile, into evamile yokuzilibazisa, indlela yokwenza ngempelasonto ehlangene, amasiko omndeni kanye nezimpawu ezincane ukunakwa komunye nomunye.
Amathuba okuvukela umbuso akhuphuka emindenini lapho kungekho ukuqonda khona lapho angazi ukuthi kufanele akhulume futhi axazulule izinkinga ezivamile ndawonye, lapho abalingani bengazizwa besekelwa, bangazinaki izidingo zomunye nomunye. Kulokhu, amathuba okuvukela umbuso wesilisa azohlala ephakeme kakhulu kunamathuba okuba abesifazane, kepha ukuvukela umbuso akufakiwe.
Cishe kungani siguquka, okuvame kakhulu amadoda noma abesifazane, ukuthi bathethelela kanjani, babheke le vidiyo elandelayo.