Kwezokwelapha zanamuhla, izinhlobo ezahlukahlukene zokuphazamiseka kwengqondo zichazwe ngokuningiliziwe, lapho umuntu noma omunye umuntu angahlangana khona. Lezi zinkinga zifaka phakathi ukuphindwaphindwa kwe-narcissism. Umbuso lapho umuntu engaboni muntu, ngaphandle kwakhe, kwesinye isikhathi angadlula ngaphezu kwesilinganiso futhi, kulokhu, kungenzeka, avele abhekwe njenge-pathology. Ukuxilonga lesi sifo sengqondo kunzima, ngoba akunakwenzeka ukunika umuntu ukuxilongwa, ngaphandle kolwazi olufanele kwezengqondo kanye nengqondo. Le ndatshana izochaza izici zalesi sifo, izimpawu zalo kanye nezindlela zokwelashwa.
Ubuhlakani
I-Pervice Narcissism iyinkinga yokuphazamiseka kobuntu obuthile kanye nendlela ethile yokuziphatha, engazibonakalisa ngevolumu efanayo nabesifazane, nakubantu. Abantu babantu abanesifo esinjalo babizwa ngokuthi "Narcissus". Kodwa-ke, umuntu akakufanele igama elithi ngemuva komuntu ngamunye onothando, ngoba lesi sifo kunzima ukunquma, ngaphandle kokuba udokotela ochwepheshe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lesi sifo sinamafomu ahlukile lapho umuntu ehlushwa ukugula akunangozi emphakathini. Ubuntu obuhlukile be-narcissism evumayo buhlanganisa:
- ukuzithemba okuphezulu okungenangqondo;
- ukungabikho komqondo wokuzisola noma okuhlangenwe nakho kwabanye abantu;
- Umuzwa wokuphakama ngaphezu kwawo wonke amanye amalungu omphakathi.
Ekhuluma ngendoda "Narcissue", ehlushwa yi-pathology enzima, ungasho ukuthi abantu abanjalo "badlale" emidlalweni yabo ngokumelene nabobulili obuhlukile. Yini, kaningi ithinta kabi eyesibili. Abesifazane baqala ukuhlushwa ukucindezelwa, futhi kwesinye isikhathi ukulimala okungathi sína ngokwengqondo nakho kuyamukelwa.
I-PersongiDIC DAFFILS inendlela ehlukile futhi eqondile yokuziphatha ayikhiqizi ngonyaka owodwa. Abantu abanjalo bavame ukwenqaba izenzo zabo futhi ngokuvamile benza lokho abakwethembisayo. Lababantu cishe bahlala bezama ukunqotshwa intando yabo ye-interlocutor yabo noma umlingani.
Phinta uDaffodils Uthando lokukhohlisa imizwa yabanye ngaphandle kokuthola okuhlangenwe nakho kwangempela. Angajwayelekile kubo. Abantu abanjalo abalokothi bacabangele imibono yabanye. Odokotela abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi abantu abane-pathology ethulwe banegazi elinegazi ngokuphelele futhi liyazwela.
Izimbangela zokuvela kanye nokwakheka kwe-pathology
Kuze kube manje, ayikho impendulo ecacile evela kochwepheshe, kungani kuphakama lo macala. Kepha, njengokunye ukuphazamiseka okuningi kanye nezinhlaka eziningi, kungaba nezimpande ebuntwaneni. Lokhu kungaxhunyaniswa nenkimbinkimbi yokungaphansi, ukunganeliseki ngokubukeka kwayo noma isikhundla emphakathini. Ukucasulwa kwalesi sifo kungabangelwa imfundo engalungile noma ukunakwa okunganele kukhokhwe ingane.
Kwesinye isikhathi ochwepheshe baze bakhulume ngisho nangezifiso zofuzo zalolu hlobo lokuphazamiseka. Futhi kwesinye isikhathi lokhu kuphazamiseka kungaba uphawu lwezifo eziyingozi ngokwengeziwe, ngokwesibonelo, kungahle kube yi-schizophrenia.
Izibonakaliso
Kunzima kakhulu ukubhala zonke izimpawu ze- "Narcissa", ngoba wonke umuntu ungumuntu ngamunye uqobo, ngakhoke isifo singaba ngandlela thile ngezindlela ezihlukile. Noma kunjalo, ezikhathini ezibalulekile kakhulu, ngenxa yokuthi ungabona ngazo i-narcissus, bheka:
- Imicabango enamandla kakhulu ngempumelelo enkulu, okusolwa ukuthi uDaffodil uhlala esetshenziswa;
- Ukuba khona kwezifiso ngokuhlonipha abantu kanye nomphakathi wonke;
- ukuzikhukhumeza kanye nokufisa ngokweqile, kungasekelwa yinoma yiziphi izenzo;
- Ngaphandle kokungaphandle kokugxekwa kwakho;
- zonke izinhlobo zezakhiwo ezifihleyo;
- Sebenzisa abanye abantu ngezinhloso zabo zomusa.
Abesilisa nabesifazane abanale pathology abakaze banentshisekelo ephumelele kwabanye abantu, kubandakanya nalezo zihlobo. Bajwayele ukukhuluma ngezithombe, futhi emva kwalokho baziqhazisa ngazo zonke izindlela. Kunezimpawu ezithile ezinesimo sobulili. Ngakho-ke, amadoda - ama-daffods ahlala azikhukhumeza, afisa ukuceba kakhulu futhi adume kunoma yini.
Amadoda anjalo, njengomthetho, awenqabi, noma ngabe awavumeli. Zivame ukunganakwa kakhulu ngesimo sabamele ubulili obuhle. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abesilisa bafuna kakhulu futhi bayaziqhenya. Amadoda ajwayelekile e-daffodilo ancike ngokwezezimali kuncike kubazali babo noma izintokazi zenhliziyo. Njengomthetho, umndeni ucabanga ngesikhathi sokugcina noma ungacabangi nhlobo, uzibeke phambili. Ngokuqondene nabesifazane, bane-pathology kaPereverny Narcissism uqobo abonakale kulokhu okulandelayo:
- Balandelwa ngokweqile ukubukeka kwabo, bafinyelela okungenangqondo;
- Ufuna ozakwethu abacebile nabavikelekile, noma beqonda ukuthi akuwona umbhangqwana;
- Vuma ngethuba ngalinye, ngazo zonke izindlela zikhazimula;
- Kaningi, esifisweni sokubukeka okuhle, abesifazane-uNarcissus baphendukela ekusebenzeni kwepulasitiki, okunye ukungenelela okuhlinzayo kanye nokusebenzisa kakhulu izimonyo ezihlobisa.
Naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi le ntokazi ingaba ne-pathology yalolu hlobo, kunzima impela ukuyikhomba. Kubukeka sengathi abantu abahlelwe kahle abanjalo ababonakala bengaphili ngokomqondo futhi bafuna izinzuzo zabo, ngokuphambene nalokho, bavame ukuhlonishwa. Amantombazane anjalo, njengamadoda, uNarcissus, akakhethi ukuhola ngokuzimela, ikakhulukazi sebekwezimali abazali. Kunoma ikuphi, abanye abantu bangaba nokuzethemba okukhulu futhi akusho lutho ukuthi bayagula.
Ngakho-ke, kufanelekile ukuthi kuqaphele ukuthi kulula ukuthola umakhelwane wakho, isihlobo noma umuntu ongaziwa, ngisho nanoma ulwazi ngezici ezithile zalesi sifo.
Ukuthuthukiswa kobudlelwano neDaffodil
Ubuntu obuningi, ukubiza ingxoxo nabaphakathi, ngeke babone masinyane uNarcissa. Kunzima futhi ukuveza, ukumbheka nje. Abantu abane-pathology banakekela kakhulu futhi bavame ukukhiqiza umbono omuhle ekuqaleni, ngenxa yokuthi bamnandi kakhulu ukuxhumana nabo. Cishe akunakwenzeka ukusola lutho kuze kube isikhathi esithile.
Izigaba zokuqala zobudlelwano nendoda noma umfazi ohlushwa yi-narcissism yangasese angahle abonakale "amnandi." Abaphenyi abaningi babizwa nangokuthi "i-honeymoon yabo", kepha lapho-ke konke kuguquguqukayo nobudlelwano baqala ukuhluka ngokuphelele. Njengoba abantu abanokuphazamiseka kwe-narcissistic banesifo esibucayi sobuntu, bavame ukuzizwa bengeneliseki, yize bengayikhombi. Kepha lapho umlingani wabo enesithukuthezi ngabo, bayayeka ukuyifihla, bekhombisa umnyombo wawo wangempela. Lapho-ke ubudlelwano ngomqondo ongokoqobo bungaphenduka ubusuku bangempela.
Abukho ubuhlobo obunobungani nabantu abanjalo - kunzima ukusho, konke kuncike ekhemini lesifo nokuthi ukuzithiba akulona kanjani ngokwalo. Kepha uma sikhuluma nge-pathology ebaluleke kakhulu futhi ngokuqondile ngobuhlobo be-pair, khona-ke lobu budlelwano buyisiphelo esifile. Uma bethuthukisa isikhathi esithile futhi benza injabulo, khona-ke ngokuzayo ngeke bakwenze lutho oluhle.
Vele, kungahle kube khona okuhlukile ngababili, ikakhulukazi uma "imvelo ye-narcissistic" isazoba nesifiso sokwelapha.
Amasu wokuziphatha wobudlova bokuziphatha
Naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi ukusebenza kweNarcissa kunzima ukubikezela, ochwepheshe baqaphela izingcezu ezithile kanye namasu athile abantu anale pathology abasebenzisa ngekhono. Ngakho-ke, ukwamukelwa kubhekiselwe kukho.
- Ukweqa noma yiziphi izinkinga, ukugcotshwa kwezimo ekuvumeni kwazo.
- Ukungathandi ukulalela umlingani, ukuqonda imizwa nemizwa yayo. Ukuthi "Ukushintsha" Ukunakwa Ngokugcwele, kuyilapho umlingani exoxa ngokuthile okubalulekile futhi okuphuthumayo. Ngasikhathi sinye, i-narcissus ingasebenzisa ukuhleka usulu, ishintsha kakhulu isihloko sengxoxo.
- Insimbi ekhathazekile ingaba iqiniso lokuthi ingxenye-to-narcissus izodlulisa amagama e-interlocutor yakhe.
- Futhi, abantu abagula okunjalo bangamane nje baqaphele labo abaxhumana nabo ngaphandle kokuchazela izizathu.
- Futhi ekugcineni, bangakhombisa ukuhlaselwa ngokungazelelwe kobudlova, ngisho nangokuhlobene nabathandekayo nezihlobo. Bangavame ukuba ngentukuthelo, lapho kukhona okungahambanga kahle.
UPevosny Narcissus uzohlala ezama ukucekela phansi omunye umuntu ukuze akwazi ukuwela phezu kwawo wonke amandla. Futhi ubuntu obuningi obuthakathaka, ngeshwa, abahle kakhulu ethonyeni elinjalo.
Izindlela zokwelashwa
Ukuxilongwa kanye nanoma yiziphi izindlela zokwelapha kufanele ziqokwe nguchwepheshe. Lesi sifo, njengomthetho, asitholwa ekuqaleni kokuvela kwaso, ngakho-ke kuba yilokhu kungenanzeka, ngenxa yalokho amaseshini wokwelapha anganikezwa yinkinga. Njengomthetho, ochwepheshe bathuthukisa inkambo ethile yokwelashwa, bezama ukuthakazelisa isiguli futhi bayicindezele ukuzethemba. Amapharamitha amahle kakhulu ekwelapheni akhombisa ukuthi amaseshini we-psychotherapy ayakhonjiswa, futhi hhayi ukwelashwa ngezidakamizwa zezokwelapha. Kungakuhle ukuthi kuqokwe okugcina uma kungezwe, ngaphezu kokuphazamiseka okukodwa, umuntu ucindezele, ahlasele noma yimaphi ama-phobias, konke lokhu kudinga ukulungiswa okuphoqelekile.
Kunoma yiziphi izimo ezithile ezinokuphazamiseka okuxubile, uchwepheshe angabeka ama-tranquilizer anesineke, ama-antidesperstant, ezinye izinto ze-sadatives nama-phytoprevation. Kodwa-ke, izidakamizwa zezokwelapha ziveza izimpawu zenkinga eyodwa noma enye nje, ngaphandle kokungakunaki lesi sifo. Ukuze kufinyelelwe umphumela omuhle kakhulu, kufanele kusetshenziswe ukwelashwa okuphelele, okubandakanya imihlangano ne-psychotherative.
Amathiphu
Vele, inketho engcono kakhulu yokugwema izinkinga ukuthi ungaxhumani nabantu abanjalo, ngoba kunzima kakhulu ukumelana nabo. Phinta ama-daffodils njengokungathi ukondla amandla alabo abahlose ukukwenza, kunzima ukwenza ngayo. Njengomthetho, uma umuntu-narcissus ngokunganaki ngokubhekise kowesifazane wakhe empilweni yansuku zonke nasezintweni eziningi, njengomndeni, kunzima ukwenza noma yini lapha. Imvamisa, ochwepheshe kanye nodokotela bezengqondo bomndeni baxazulula izinkinga izimo ezilula ezihlobene nezingxabano zasendlini.
Kepha uma sikhuluma ngeNarcissa, khona-ke ngeke kusazolashwa, noma abantu kuzofanela bahlakaze . Kwesinye isikhathi abesifazane bakhetha ukuthobeka, kodwa futhi, bayabanqoba isikhathi eside. Kufanele kufezeke ukuthi uma kwenzeka ukuthi okhethiwe wakhe uhlushwa yilesi sikhathi futhi ungumashiqela, ngakho-ke leli akulona iphutha lakhe. Ngakho-ke sekuvele kwenzeka. Kepha lokhu akuyona nhlobo isizathu sokukhuthazela nokukuvumela ukuthi uzihlekele ngazo zonke izindlela.
Ezimweni ezingavamile, ukulungiswa kokuziphatha nochwepheshe kunikeza izithelo, kodwa kuphela uma i-narcissistic pervert uqobo inentshisekelo kulokhu, hhayi isisulu sayo. Kukufanele nokuqonda ukuthi abantu - uNarcissus bavame ukuhlupheka kakhulu ngemizwa ebabhubhisa ngaphakathi. Abanye babo bahlushwa isizungu, ngoba abakwazi ukubhekana nabo.
Yiziphi izici nezimpawu ze-narcissism evumayo, bheka ividiyo elandelayo.