Isondo lebhalansi yempilo (izithombe eziyi-13): Ungayenza kanjani imikhakha engu-8 ye-Balance Wheel of Life? Ungasebenza kanjani naye? Ukuzivocavoca incazelo, umbuthano wokugcwalisa imithetho

Wonke umuntu ufuna ukuphila ngokuvumelana naye kanye nomhlaba wangaphandle. Futhi kwabaningi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi izinhloso zabo nezifiso zabo zifakwe eqinisweni. Kodwa-ke, kwenzeka njalo. Ake sizame ukuthola ukuthi yiziphi izizathu zezinkinga ezinjalo nokuthi zingaxazululwa kanjani ngosizo lwento enjalo njengoba Isondo lebhalansi yempilo.

Yini?

Impilo yomuntu ihlukahlukene futhi igcwele izintshisekelo eziningi namakilasi. Kepha uma ucabanga okuhle, ngakho konke okuqukethwe "kokukhona kwethu kungahlukaniswa ezindaweni eziningana lapho sizobandakanyeka khona nakanjani. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi lezi zindawo zivumelana phakathi kwazo, zibe nokulinganisela. Uma enye inciphisa impilo iqala ukugcwala ekuthuthukisweni noma, kunalokho, okunye, kunokungalingani. Ngakho-ke, kuvela izinkinga zemvelo ehlukile.

Isibonelo, umuntu uhehe kakhulu ukwakhiwa komsebenzi futhi wanikela ngaso sonke isikhathi sakhe kulesi sifundo. Kuliqiniso, ububi bakhe buyekwa empilweni yakhe, njengoba kungenaso isikhathi sokunaka izihlobo, abangane, abangane, izingane. Impilo nayo ayihlali ngesikhathi. Kancane kancane, lokhu kuholela ekupheleleni kwezinkinga ezingalungiswa.

Isizathu salezi zinhlamvu silula - ukwakhiwa kwempilo eyodwa yempilo esigabeni sento esemqoka, futhi lokhu kufaka ukungalingani okukhulu, ngoba impilo yonke "ngesikebhe".

Akusabiseko uma kuvela isimo esinjalo isikhashana. Isibonelo, uma udinga ukuletha ngokushesha kuze kube sekupheleni kwephrojekthi ethile ebalulekile. Ngaphezulu kwesikhathi esithile kuthatha isikhathi esiningi, kepha ngokuphetha kwaso konke kufanele kubuyele enkambweni ejwayelekile. Kubi uma kwenzeka njalo, ngokuhlelekile.

Ukuze uqonde ukuthi kungani kungashintshiwe, futhi futhi nokuthola ukuthi ungayibeka kanjani yonke into ngokuhlelekile, kwasungulwa ithuluzi lezengqondo elithandekayo - isondo lempilo yempilo (isondo lempilo). Umqondo wendalo yakhe ubungelwa abanye Semi john meyer. Eminye imithombo ithi wayengumelaphi, kwabanye kuthiwa yi-Psychologist, kanti enye indawo ithi meyer ekhethekile ekuqeqesheni. Kepha lolu akuyona imininingwane ebaluleke kakhulu. Into esemqoka ukuthi ithuluzi lasungulwa kanye nokuzivocavoca okufanayo kuyasebenza ngempela. Futhi manje zifunwa kakhulu emkhakheni wokuzithuthukisa nokukhula komuntu siqu.

Uma ufunda ukusebenzisa isondo lebhalansi, ungabona ukuthi izinkinga zivela kuphi, zihlaziye futhi zinikeze ukuhlolwa kwayo yonke imphem Ngosizo lwesondo lempilo kungenzeka ukubona amandla wobuntu, kanye nobuthakathaka, edinga ukunakwa okwengeziwe, ukuthuthukiswa nokulungiswa okwengeziwe nokulungiswa.

Le ndlela ilula kakhulu. Ngokuthuthuka kwayo, akukho ukuqeqeshwa okukhethekile. Into esemqoka ukuthembeka kuwe futhi, ngemuva kokucabanga, ukunikeza izimpendulo eziyiqiniso zemibuzo. Ngakho-ke, isithombe sempilo sizodonswa ngaphandle kokugcotshwa, ngokufanele. Futhi kuyacaca, lapho udinga khona ukuhambisa.

Kungani udinga ukulingana kwempilo?

Abantu abaningi ngandlela thile baqala ukuqonda lokho, kuyavela, abakaze bajabule isikhathi eside, abazizwa bejabule ngokuphila lokho kuphila kube sengathi kudlula, futhi bambheka kuphela emhlabeni ofanayo. Kepha kuningi okungakaze kube nesikhathi sokwenza, ababonanga kangako, abazi futhi abadali, izinhloso eziningi azizange zifinyelelwe. Izinsuku zinguchungechunge olumpunga oluyindida kwimodi "yomsebenzi womsebenzi". Kunemibuzo efanelekile yokuthi kungani lokhu kwenzeka, yini eyenziwe okungalungile ukuthi ungasilungisa kanjani leso simo. Kepha azikho izimpendulo, kepha ngokungazi lutho zidumaze kakhulu nobuhlungu obuminyakeni obungenamsoco.

Futhi konke ngoba Ingxenye ebalulekile yezimpilo zethu isetshenziswa ngokungafanele ekwenziweni kwezidingo zangaphandle, ngokulethwa kwezimo eziningi ezidalwe ubukhona emphakathini . Ukuphila iminyaka eminingi kwimodi yale "Autopilot" nokujika emuva emuva kwesikhathi Siyaqonda ukuthi lonke inani lesikhathi esiningi esichithwe futhi sizisole lokuthi:

• Izingane zethu zavuka ngokushesha futhi ngandlela thile zingabonakali, futhi okubaluleke, ngaphandle kwethu;
• umyeni / unkosikazi uhlala iminyaka eminingi ngaphandle kothando lwethu, ukunakwa nothando;
• Abazali bafa futhi bengalindi lapho indodana / amadodakazi abo ezoba nesikhathi samahhala sokuxhumana;
• Ngakho-ke amathuba amaningi entuthuko aphuthelwe;
• Ukwakheka okufunayo akutholakalanga;
• Imibono eminingi ayizange iye yangena ngokoqobo;
• Izincwadi eziningi kangaka azifundwa;
• Amadolobha namazwe amaningi awabonwa.

Ukuhlangana kwanyamalala, insizakalo yamandla isiphelile, umphefumulo wephukile. Isithombe esibi esidabukisayo, noma esibuhlungu, akunjalo? Ngakho-ke ngokulandelana Ukuze ungahle uthande isithombe esinjalo futhi ibhalansi yempilo iyadingeka. Ukuze yonke imikhakha yempilo igcwele ngokuphelele futhi ilingana nomunye, iyagcwaliswa, futhi ngasikhathi sinye ubone injabulo nokwaneliseka.

Umsizi omuhle kakhulu ekufezeni inhloso enjalo ukusebenza nendlela ephumelelayo yezengqondo ye- "Wheel of Life Balance".

Ungasebenza kanjani ngombuthano?

Ngakho-ke, I-Wheel of Life noma i-Life Balance Wheel isiyingi esihlukaniswe yimikhakha (izingxenye), ngamunye wawo usho imikhakha ehlukene yempilo yethu. Ukuzuza ekusetshenzisweni kwale ndlela, isondo lempilo liyadingeka yenza kahle. Futhi, njenganoma yimuphi omunye umsebenzi, inenqubo ekhethekile yokubulawa.

Ekuqaleni, kuyadingeka Dweba umbuthano uqobo, Phambili zihlukanise ngemigqa ibe yizingxenye eziningana . Khona- Khomba imikhakha yempilo ezongena ezingxenyeni . Ukuhamba kwesikhathi Gcwalisa umbuthano, uhlole izinga lokweneliseka ngendawo ngayinye yempilo futhi uhlaziye umphumela.

Ukukhethwa kwemikhakha ebalulekile

Iphuzu elibaluleke kakhulu lapho ukudweba isondo kuyinto Ukukhetha izikhalazo zempilo. Lapha udinga ukubheka zonke izici eziphambili zempilo ngaphandle kokulayisha ngokweqile umbuthano ngama-nuances ayizimpawu. Kunconywa ukugqamisa ama-6 noma ama-8 sphere, ngoba izifanekiso ezikhona zamasondo zinezingxenye eziningi ezinjalo. Kepha uma udinga ukwandisa uhlu, ngokwesibonelo, kuze kube yizindawo eziyi-10-12, ungadweba umbuthano ngokwakho, ngaphandle kokusebenzisa ithempulethi.

Kunezindlela ezimbili ezivame kakhulu zokugcwaliswa.

• Classical. Izingxenye zenza impilo, umndeni, umsebenzi, ukuzilibazisa, abangane, ukuzilibazisa, ubuciko, ukukhula komuntu, ukuzijabulisa, ukuthuthuka ngokomoya, ibhizinisi, ezezimali, njll.
• Amahlumela amasondo. Kubandakanya abantu abaxhumene ngokungalingani nempilo yomuntu: Umama, uPapa, unkosikazi, umyeni, umyeni, ozakwabo, abangane, abangane, izintombi.

Kukhona ezinye izindlela, ngokwesibonelo, Kuhlangene. Banikela ezimpilweni zempilo kanye neqhaza labantu. Ingafakwa ohlwini nezikhundla ezifana nokukhanya kwempilo, amandla nethoni, ubumbano nemvelo, ukuzibona nokunye okuningi. Ezwini, Cabanga ngokucophelela impilo yakho ngamehlo angaphakathi futhi ucabange ukuthi kuqukethe ini. Ngemuva kwalokho bhala phansi izinto, bese unquma ukuthi kubo bonke okuthiwa kubalulekile. Lokhu kuseyingi.

Osayizi wemikhakha

Usayizi wezemikhakha uncike enanini lezindawo zempilo ofisa ukuyenza umbuthano wokuhlola ibhalansi. Kukhethwe izikhundla eziningi, imikhakha izobe ikhona. Uma kukhona izikhundla ezimbalwa, indawo izosebenza ububanzi. Imvamisa zenziwa zilingana ngomunye nomunye njenge-daisy petals.

Kepha ungabheka umzuzwana onjalo: Kubo bonke abantu, yonke imikhakha yempilo inenani layo, usayizi wayo ofanele. Kwabanye, umndeni ubaluleke kakhulu, othile ubona umsebenzi wokuphila kwakhe, futhi othile ubeka izinto ezingokomoya eza kuqala. Ngakho-ke, indlela yomuntu ngamunye ayibanjwa. Ungenza imikhakha yamasayizi ahlukile : Lapho ucubungula sonke isithombe, lokhu kuzokuvumela ukuthi uqonde ukuthi yiziphi izindawo ezibaluleke kakhulu. Kepha ekugcineni, iqhaza elikhulu lizodlalwa hhayi ukudlala usayizi womkhakha, kodwa isilinganiselo sokuhlolwa kwempilo ngayinye.

Inhloso enkulu yalo msebenzi ukwazisa ukuthi uzizwa uphumelele kanjani kuzo zonke izindawo. Ukuhlola kwenziwa esikalini kusuka ku-1 kuye ku-10 kuye ku-100 kutholakala enkabeni ye-Corducters, nayo yonke imisebe yomugqa ohlukanisa isondo emikhakheni, hlukanisa ngezigaba ezilinganayo.

Lapho konke kuzolunga Cabanga ukuthi muhle kanjani noma, kunakuleli, ngalinye lalezi zindawo ezizinikezele alithuthukiswanga, nikeza ukuhlolwa kwakho. Wabe esekhipha umkhakha ngaphambi kokuhlukaniswa kwakho ulinganise i-sphere. Ngenxa yalokho, kufanele kube isithombe seqiniso sempilo yakho.

Uma isondo eliyindilinga livela phambi kwakho, khona-ke konke okusempilweni yakho kuyavumelana ngempela, futhi uma izingxenye zamasondo zizoba ngamazinga ahlukile, kuzokhombisa ukungabikho kwebhalansi.

Kugcwaliswa amaphutha

Yize ukugcwaliswa kombuthano kungafanele kubangele ubunzima, abanye abantu benza amaphutha. Cabanga ngalokho okungenziwa okungalungile.

1. Usebenzisa ithempulethi yesondo nemikhakha eqediwe. Kungcono ukungakwenzi lokhu. Kuzoba ukuhlakanipha ukudala isondo lakho bese uhlukanisa kube yimikhakha eminingi kangaka njengoba udinga.
2. Ukuntuleka kwezindlela zebanga eliphakeme kakhulu. Ukuze ukwazisa okuthile, kuyadingeka ukuba nomqondo wokungagculisi futhi ngomphumela omuhle kakhulu. Isibonelo, yini okufanele ibe ekuqondeni kwakho impilo yomuntu siqu ukuze ilinganiswe ngamaphuzu ayi-10. Noma kufanele kube yini impilo, umsebenzi, ukuzilibazisa. Kuyadingeka ukuqonda ngokucacile ukuthi yini ngempela ezokwenza ube ngumuntu ojabulayo. Futhi vele uxoshe kulokhu, unikeze ukuhlolwa kulo mthethonqubo.
3. Ukuntuleka kokunquma izinsuku zangempela ukufeza izinhloso ezintsha. Kubalulekile lapha ngokunengqondo nangokwengqondo hlola amakhono akho futhi uzihlobe kahle nezifiso zabo. Kufanele nakanjani sihlele ukuthi yini futhi nini ufuna ukuyenza. Kepha akufanele ululeze kakhulu uhlaka lwesikhathi noma mncane kakhulu.

Ukuhunyushwa kwemiphumela yokuzivocavoca

Isigaba esikhulu ekwenzeni lo msebenzi Ukuhlaziywa (ukutolika) kwemiphumela inhloso yabani ukuthola ukuthi impilo yakho ingalinganiswa kangakanani futhi in izama ukuqonda ukuthi yini futhi kanjani ukwenza ukubuyisela imali esele . Kuzofanelekile ukubuza imibuzo elandelayo.

Yimiphi imikhakha eyaphenduka yaba buthaka kakhulu?

Uma ngokuhlakanipha futhi ngokweqiniso wawazisa yonke imikhakha futhi wanikeza amaphuzu anengqondo, uzobona ngokushesha, lapho kunezinkinga nokuthi yini okufanele unake. Futhi nakhu kudingekile nje ukuhlobanisa lokhu kuhlola ngenqubo ephezulu kakhulu yamaphuzu. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi kungalungisa ini isithombe bese uletha lesi sikhala sibe esifanele.

Iziphi izici zempilo okalwe yisikhathi esiphakeme kakhulu?

Kuzoba ngokungafani nokuthi lezi zindawo zitholakala. Lokhu kungumphumela omuhle. Mhlawumbe lapho uqala ukuguqula eminye imikhakha yempilo yakho, yilokhu okuzosebenza njengomthombo wamandla akho futhi wengeze ugqozi emizamweni yakho.

Kuhlobene kanjani yonke imikhakha yempilo?

Ezinye izindawo zingaba kude nomunye, ezinye zivame ukuhlanganiswa. Kepha zonke izici zokuba khona zisaxhumene komunye nomunye, ngoba impilo ayilodwa. Ngokwenza ngcono indawo eyodwa, ngokungangabazeki uzobona izinguquko ezinhle kwezinye izindawo. Isibonelo, esondweni lakho, ezezimali, ezempilo kanye nezokungcebeleka ziphansi. Lapho imali ikhula, kuzovela amathuba amasha. Ungaxazulula izinkinga zempilo eziphuthumayo, uphumule, uthathe ikhefu, uqhubeke nohambo, uye kuma-movie, ekhonsathini.

Yini okudingeka yenziwe ukuze iqinise imikhakha ebuthakathaka yesondo lempilo?

Ekuqaleni, kuyadingeka ukunaka imikhakha, i-oda lapho kungalethwa khona ngesikhathi esifushane nangomzamo omncane . Isibonelo, nquma imikhakha emithathu yokuqala, lapho ungalungisa khona okuthile isonto noma amabili, bese kufika izinyanga eziyisithupha, bese kuthi unyaka.

Kulezi zinyathelo ezinjalo, indlela eya ezindaweni eziphakeme nezinkulu kwakhiwe.

Yikuphi kulezi zindawo okwamanje okubaluleke kakhulu?

Lesi umzuzwana obolekwe kakhulu, ikakhulukazi uma izindawo eziningi zempilo yakho "ziyeka" futhi azitholanga amaphuzu angaphezu kwezithupha. Ochwepheshe abaqeqeshi bathi kakhulu Kungcono ukuhlanganyela ngenkuthalo ekuqinisweni kwemikhakha eminingana ehlobene nomunye ngaphandle kokuthola konke ngokwahlukana. Futhi, le ndlela ilele ekungabikho komsebenzi owenziwa yi-monotonous, abantu abacasulayo ngokushesha.

Kepha kufanele sikukhumbule lokho Isisetshenziswa samandla, amabutho, ugqozi, amathuba kanye namakhono ahlukile konke . Isikhathi esithile sizohamba ngokuqubuka kwesifiso sokushintsha konke kube ngcono, uzoba isinyathelo futhi ugcwele umdlandla, kodwa kungekudala usazokhathala, khona-ke inqubo izohamba kancane. Ngenxa yalokhu, uzozwa umuzwa wakho ngeqiniso lokuthi awukwazi ukuletha iphuzu kuze kube sekupheleni lapho ubufuna ukuzizwa ungezeliseki.

Ukuze lokhu kungenzeki Kuyadingeka ukuchaza imisebenzi emithathu ebaluleke kakhulu futhi elula futhi uhlele izinyathelo ezidingekayo zokuzixazulula. Ukuthunga yonke imininingwane ngokuningiliziwe, uphilile futhi uhlola isenzo ngasinye. Kulesi simo kuphela lapho kuzoba khona ukusebenzisa uhlelo lonke: Kokubili ngokuzayo kanye nebanga elide. Ngenxa yalokhu, ukuletha isondo le-Wheel Balance kuya kokujwayelekile ngeke kube semsebenzini omubi futhi onzima.

Kubalulekile ukuqala, bese konke kuncike esifisweni sakho.

Ungasifaka kanjani isicelo sokuzibona ukuzethemba?

Ukusetshenziswa kwalolu hlelo lokusebenza ukuze ukwazi ukuzibona kungaqhutshwa ngezindlela eziningana.

1. Uma ngesondo eliphumayo igebe phakathi kwezindawo lincane Lokhu kusho ukuthi umuntu unesikhathi esanele. Kulokhu, indlela "nomhlaba okwimucu" ingasondela. Lokho wukuthi, kuyadingeka ukubheka nokucabanga ngalokho okungekho emvelweni ngayinye yempilo futhi uzame ukugcwalisa ukushoda, futhi ngokushesha ngemuva kwalokho kuqala ukubona ukuthi kunesidingo sobuntu bakho lapho ubheka khona.
2. Izihloko Ngubani onomkhakha owodwa obuthakathaka, Kunconywa ukuqinisa umsebenzi nakho, ikakhulukazi uma ukuhlolwa kwawo kungadluli iphuzu elilodwa.
3. Nini, Uma iningi lezinkaba lisesimweni esihle, ungakhetha okubili noma okuthathu okubaluleke kakhulu futhi okuthembisa kakhulu kuwe Bese ugxila emizamweni yakho esebenza nabo. Ngenxa yalokhu, kungenzeka kakhulu ukunciphisa ukunaka kwamanye amaqembu aqine kakhulu. Isibonelo, umuntu onayo yonke into ulungile emsebenzini kungenzeka angachithi isikhathi esiningi eholidini elingenalutho, futhi ngesikhathi sakhe samahhala esebenzisa izifiso zakhe zokudala noma into eyithandayo, izinto zokuzilibazisa ezimnandi.

Ngokuzibona ukuzethemba okudingayo ngokushesha Zembula imikhakha edinga ukwenziwa ngcono ukuze ingaphazamisi le nqubo. Lokhu kungenziwa ngokulandelayo.

1. Thola ukuthi yiziphi izindawo ezikhona ukwehluleka okukhulu kakhulu. Nguye ongadonsa zonke ezinye izindawo zokuphila ezansi.
2. Cabanga ukuthi iyiphi imkhakha evimbela ukuzibona kwakho . Mhlawumbe unganaki kakhulu iqiniso lokuthi ungafaka isandla ekuqalisweni kwamakhono akho namathuba. Mhlawumbe udinga ukunaka okuncane emkhakheni owodwa nangaphezu kwenye.
3. Bheka ukuthi yiziphi izindawo eziningi ezithinta bonke abanye. Mhlawumbe ukwenza ukubheja kukho futhi kukhulisa imizamo yabo ekukhuleni kwayo, ungafinyelela ngokushesha nangokungabonakali indlela yokuzibona. Isibonelo, awunamali ukuze uqale ukuthuthukisa ibhizinisi lakho. Ngakho-ke udinga ukuthatha yonke imizamo yokuthuthukisa umkhakha wezezimali.

Lapho unquma ngokwakho ngokucacile i-sphere lapho ungathanda khona ukubona amandla wobuntu bakho, bese uzibeka wena umgomo osimele, ukuze uhlaziye isithombe sonke kuzoba lula.

Ngemuva kwalokho ungakwazi kalula futhi ngaphandle kwezinkinga kungahamba ngendlela efanele, ngaphandle kokuphazanyiswa ngama-trifles.