Kunzima ukucabanga empilweni, njengoba kuvame ukwenzeka ukukubona kuphela ezinganekwaneni noma kumafilimu, lapho umama wokutholwa unomona khona, futhi umama ubonakala emuhle futhi unothando. Kodwa-ke, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo ziyaphawula ukuthi inkinga ikhona futhi ivame ukuboniswa phakathi komama abavele baba namadodakazi amadala namadodana. Lesi sihloko sizokhuluma ngomona womama ezinganeni zakho. Sizohlaziya izimpawu kanye nezimbangela zokuziphatha okunjalo, futhi sicabangele izindlela zokuxazulula le nkinga.
Izimpawu zomona
Njengomthetho, izimpawu zomona zingaqala ukuziveza ngenxa yokuthi owesifazane ngokomqondo kungenzeka angalumisele ukubukeka kwengane empilweni yakhe. Mhlawumbe wayenezinhlelo zakhe zokuphila, njengezitebhisi zomsebenzi noma ukuhamba. Esikhathini esizayo, umama onjalo uzosolwa ngazo zonke izindlela futhi egxeka izingane zawo ngezizathu ezahlukahlukene. Isibonelo, lapho izingane zifuna ukuhlanganyela injabulo yazo naye, kuzokwehlisa imizwa enjalo, ukuphoqa izingane ukuba zithole imizwa engemihle.
Futhi umama angaba nomona futhi akhononda njalo ngempilo yakhe, ethi indodakazi yakhe noma indodana yakhe inhlanhla empilweni kunaye. Ngenxa yalokho, ingane ngeke ikwazi ukuqonda ukuthi kungani umama amphatha kanjalo, futhi azozizwa enecala ngayo yonke imizamo yakhe nempumelelo yakhe, futhi azimangalele anawo amathalente namakhono. Kuyiqiniso, imizwa enjalo izovusa ingane isifiso nganoma yiziphi izindlela zokunyundela ukuba necala labo ngaphambi kukamama.
Imvamisa, lokhu kubonakaliswa ekwethulweni kwezipho ezahlukahlukene ezibizayo nezimanga, okuyinto umama angayithandi ngempela futhi anqamule.
Olunye uphawu lomona lungathandeki kuMama waya ku-satellite yempilo eyakhethwa yingane yakhe. Lokhu kungachazwa ngeqiniso lokuthi ngeminyaka, lona wesifazane ulahlekelwa amandla okuheha abalandeli abesebancane. Emva kwalokho, umfana ngamunye indodakazi yakhe noma umalokazana wakhe noma uMakamalo malungu uyagxekwa futhi exoxa ngokuqhubekayo.
Ukubonakaliswa komona kamama nakho kungavezwa ekunqobeni noma yiluphi usizo nokunakekelwa okunikezwe yizingane. Ngasikhathi sinye, kuzohlala kukhononda ngempilo yakhe, amanani amancane namanani aphezulu ezitolo, eqinisweni lokuthi angeke ukwazi ukuthola amaholide athandekayo nendawo entsha yokuhlala. Kepha kuzosho ukuthi wake wadela wonke amakhono akhe namaphupho akhe ukuze akhule izingane.
Kuyenzeka futhi ukuthi isimo sengqondo maqondana nezingane izingane zabo azinandaba, konke lokhu kubonakaliswa ngesimo sokuvakasha okuvamile nezipho. Konke ukuxhumana nabazukulu bazogxila kuphela ekukhombeni ukuthi amadodakazi noma iNdodana akhulise kanjani izingane zabo - ukubakhethela abaphansi futhi banake njalo.
Umama onjalo uvame ukukhuluma nabanye ukuthi ingane yakhe inomshado ongathandeki, izinkinga emsebenzini, nezingane noma umyeni ongalungile. Ngakho-ke ukhombisa ukuthi indodakazi yavuka iphutha ngemuva. Yize empeleni indodakazi empilweni yendaba ingcono kakhulu kunokuchaza umama wayo.
Izizathu Eziyinhloko
Eqinisweni, omama abanomona abafuni izingane zabo injabulo nenhlala-kahle futhi bangazi nokuthi nxazonke zale nkinga. Emhlatshenweni womndeni, kuthiwa, njengomthetho, imodeli yokuziphatha enjalo idluliselwa kubazali ezinganeni zabo. Ngeshwa, ezizukulwaneni ngezizukulwane, ukungaphansi komama kuqiniswa kuphela, okuvimbela ukuvumelana kwemindeni.
Omama bahlange bahlangenwe nomona kaningi ngenxa yokuthi ebusheni bakhe ezinye izinhloso namaphupho abo azange basebenze noma babengenamathuba okuwasebenzisa. Lapho amadodana namadodakazi akhula, imizwa yomama incipha, futhi enganeni umama abona umphikisi, odala ukucasuka, hhayi uthando. Umona wenza sikwazi ukuzitshela ukuthi sizizwe sinohlobo oluthile lokubaluleka, ngoba akukho lutho oluthandayo okwenzeka empilweni.
I-CORNENItutution kamama ngenxa yempilo yomuntu siqu ephansi ingayibangela ngokungazi lutho ngeke ivume umlingani wengane yakhe, noma ngabe wayelunge kanjani. Umama onjalo akafisi ukwabiwa okungcono kakhulu ezinganeni zakhe, azikholisa ukuthi akekho umuntu okufanele abe nelungelo lokujabula ngakuye.
Ekubhekani kokuqala, isizathu sokuba nomona kungenzeka futhi singabaze ukuyeka izingane zabo, isifiso sokubenza babe umlutha futhi baphazamise zonke izindlela zabo ukuze bangahlali bodwa.
Ngakho-ke uyoba nomuzwa wokuthi bayakudinga, futhi azokwenza ukuba necala lezingane zabo, uma uzama ukuhlukana naye.
Okufanele ngikwenze?
Okokuqala, kuyadingeka ukuvuma ukuthi ukuguqula umama onjalo kuzoba nzima kakhulu, ukube umuntu nje engafuni lokhu ngokwakhe futhi aphendukele kuchwepheshe. Ungazami ukusondela kuye ngethemba lokusungula ubudlelwano noma, kunalokho, zama ukuncintisana, njengoba lezi zenzo zizothuthukisa isimo. Uzozwa ubungozi bakho, uzokusebenzisa futhi asebenzise izinhloso zakho.
Ukuxhumana kufanele kwakhiwe ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze zonke izingxoxo eziphathelene nezindaba zakho noma izehlakalo ezinenjongo kuwe ekuPhila. Ngaphandle kwalokho, ukusabela kunoma iyiphi impumelelo yakho kanye nezimpumelelo kuzoba kubi kakhulu. Izihloko zengxoxo zingcono zikhetha ukungathathi hlangothi, ziphazamise ukunaka kwazo zonke izindlela zisuka kuwe, xoxa ngezindaba zendawo, izinto zokuzilibazisa, ukulima, izilwane, izilwane, isimo sezulu se-TV.
Uma usakuxoxa ngawe ngawe, khona-ke awuboni wonke amazwi kanyoko onokuhlambalaza futhi ngeshwa ukugxeka uhlamvu lwemali oluhlanzekile, ngokuzama ukuzikhumbuza ngalesi sikhathi mayelana neqiniso ukuthi ungowabantu abangenangqondo futhi obuhle kakhulu Udinga ukuzwelana futhi uthathe njengoba kunjalo.
Kunoma ikuphi, kufanele ulwele ukuqala ukuphila ngokwahlukana futhi ungasebenzisi umama wakho emsebenzini wethu, umndeni noma inqubekela phambili yezezimali. Mhlawumbe ibanga elinjalo lizomphoqa ukuthi athole enye into ngomona.
Ungakhohlwa ukungayinaki yonke imizamo yokusolwa ngokuthile komlingani wakho futhi ungamvumeli ukuba athathe isizathu, uma kungenjalo uzolalela izithasiselo ze-Ulcer ekuqondeni kwakho okukhethayo.
Amathiphu we-Psychologist
Umona womama uvame ukuqhathaniswa nomona wentombi owayengazi empilweni. Eqinisweni, kunjalo. Umama uzizwa engenakusiza kwakhe kwangaphakathi phambi kwendodakazi yakhe noma imbangi yakhe - imbangi yakhe. Awuphoqelekile ukuba uzizwe uzizwe ubhekene necala, ngoba noma kunjalo, awukwazi ukwenza lutho ngobuntu bayo. Kuzoba nzima kuye ukubona ukuthi yini okufanelwe yinto ongeyona inhlanhla nje empilweni. Ngeke akwazi ukuthatha inani lakho kanye nempumelelo, kanye neqiniso lokuthi wonke umuntu emhlabeni kufanelekile uthando.
Ungazami ukuthola imvume nokudumisa kunyoko, ungazifuni ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho kufanele uthole ubuhlobo, ngoba ngaphezu kwengxabano nokungaqondi kwakho ngeke ufeze lutho kuye. Uma unomuzwa wokuthi udinga ukwesekwa kwakhe, zitshele kahle ukuthi wenze kahle ukuthi konke okwenzayo, nakanjani uzothola. Hlola imiphumela yakho ngokwakho, imvamisa uyidumise ngisho nakuma-Trifles. Lwela ukuba ngumuntu owanele futhi ovuthiwe ongaxhomekeki ngombono wanoma ngubani.
Ungavumeli imingcele yakho yomuntu kamama. Amabili noma yibaphi othintana nabo kanye nobuncane. Ungagxili emizweni umama wakho abakuncelayo. Funda ukuthi ungagcinwe kumasu wokukhohlisa okusetshenziswayo ukudala imizwa ehlukahlukene engemihle kuwe futhi uchithe ukuvumelana kwakho ngokomoya. Bona lo muntu njengomuntu onomona ofuna ukwedlula okuthile.