Eminyakeni engu-6, ingane isivele iqonda kahle ukubaluleka kosuku lwakhe lokuzalwa futhi imlindile ngokuphelelwa isineke. Isimfanelo esiphoqelekile seholide ngaye siyizipho, futhi, ngokungafani nabantu abadala, bayenzelwe yena - inqubo enkulu yokugujwa ngempumelelo. Ukwanelisa umfana, kuzofanela uzame, ngoba ngalowonyaka ingane namanje asazi ukuthi ungakufihla kanjani ukudumala, futhi okulindelwe ngokuqinisekile akuyona into ethobekile kunazo zonke.
Ubuhlakani
Ukunikeza umfana iminyaka engu-6 ukuthi vele kungenzeka ukuthi kungenzeka - usekhulile ngokwanele ukuba nezinto azithandayo nezifiso ezinengqondo. Ingane enjalo ngeke ijabule kunoma yimuphi amathoyizi, ngoba ungumuntu onezintshisakalo ezakhiwe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lonyaka wobudala usesho ngisho nalezo zipho ezingezona amathoyizi ngomqondo ojwayelekile weZwi.
Ngokuvamile abazali bacabanga ukuthi badinga ukuthulula izingane ngezimangaliso, kodwa empeleni, kwesinye isikhathi akudingekile ukusungula noma yini - kwanele ukumane unake izifiso zengane, noma ngabe zivezwa ngengozi, hhayi umbono osobala weholide elizayo. Umfana ngezikhathi ezithile uthi "ngifuna", futhi awungeke umthengile ngokushesha, kepha ungakhumbula lokho ayekufuna, futhi uqaphele iphupho losuku lokuzalwa. Kwenzeka ukuthi ingane ikhala futhi ayikhulumi ngesifiso sakhe, kodwa kusobala - isibonelo, umfana ohambela ukunaka okukhethekile kuthoba lokuqala. Ekugcineni, izingane azihlali ziqonda kahle abakufunayo, ngeke bakwazi nokuba khona kokuba khona kwalokho obuzozijabulisa ngempela, kodwa lapho nje udinga ukukhuthaza inzalo yengane ibe ngumsebenzi othile - lokhu okudingayo Ukubheka nje ukuthi udlala ini nokuthi yini oyithandayo.
Kulokhu, kukhona "uhlu lokumisa" oluthile, oluhlanganisa izipho ezingafanele zomuntu oneminyaka eyisithupha. Ngokuvamile abazali bathola okuthile kuleli phutha noma ukungazi, kepha cishe azikho amacala lapho intombazane yokuzalwa yayikwazisa. Nazi izibonelo eziphambili zamaphutha:
- Isipho kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi sihambisane nobudala kanye nezinga lentuthuko, ngoba emidlalweni eyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu ingane ayiqondi, futhi izipho zezingane kakhulu sezivele zingenandaba naye;
- Noma kubonakala ngawe ukuthi ingane igxile kakhulu emkhakheni owodwa wezintshisakalo, ungavusi isifiso sakhe kwezinye izindawo, isipho sokuzalwa - uchwepheshe "osemusha" kungenzeka angawazi ungajabuli amagilavu wesibhakela;
- Izingubo ziyi-taboo yeminyaka eminingi yezingane, ngaphandle kokuthi ihlobene ngqo nothando lwengane;
- Eminyakeni engu-6, ukuqwashisa ngobulili bayo sekuphelele, ngakho-ke awunandaba kuphela, kodwa futhi awuzange ulimaze umfana isipho esingathanda le ntombazane, kodwa futhi futhi uComrade ngemuva kwalokho kwenzeke phezu kwawo;
- Amagajethi, ngokusho kochwepheshe abaningi, ukumnika kusenesikhathi - ingane iyakwazi ukuthola ukuthi ingaphandle, kepha impango yakhe yamehlo nokuma kwayo, kanti namanje isikole ngeke siyeke ukuhamba;
- Izipho ezibiza kakhulu futhi azenzi mqondo - abazali bazokhathazeka ukuze umnikazi omncane angaphuli ukuthenga okubizayo, futhi ngemuva kwakho konke, akakwazi ukuthintwa ithoyizi lokushaya uthuli, olungeke luthintwe yizandla zakhe.
Imibono yezipho ezinhle kakhulu zeNdodana
Zonke izipho ezithusayo ezinganeni kufanele zihlale zinika abazali - ziyizihlobo eziseduze kakhulu, futhi ngokuqinisekile zilungiselela lo mcimbi isikhathi eside. Kungenxa yabazali ukuthi iphupho labelwa iphupho, noma ngabe libiza malini - kungenzeka kakhulu, uma lingakunikeli, khona-ke akekho ozonikeza lokhu.
Imibono esiyithumileyo akuyona uhlu oluphelele - obonisa inganekwane, abazali bayohlala bekwazi ukuhlanganisa indodana kanye nokwangempela. Sizodlula kafushane ngezinketho ezithakazelisa kakhulu umfana ojwayelekile oneminyaka engu-6 ubudala.
- Phakathi kwawo wonke amathoyizi, ikhambi elidume kakhulu lizoba, yiqiniso, lizoba yimoto, omunye umbuzo - ngaluphi uhlobo. Ungacabangi ukuthi isipho esinjalo sinqunyelwe emshinini "webhana", ngoba ungahlala uthenga ikhophi epholile yemoto yangempela ngeminyango yokuvula noma imoto efanayo yamaphoyisa ifakwe i-lilac esebenza ngokusebenza. Isihloko esihlukile ngumshini wokulawulwa komsakazo. Lesi sipho kwesinye isikhathi kungenzeka sithokozise ngisho nomuntu omdala, futhi ingane izojabula. I-fastener nayo ingathanda umakhi ocele umhlangano wemoto.
- EzokuThutha - Isipho futhi kufanelekile kakhulu, ngoba izingane zithanda ukugibela kakhulu. Izithuthi zezingane ezidumile, kunjalo, iyibhayisekili - uma linamasondo amane, kepha livumela ukusatshalaliswa kwamasondo amabili okusekelwa, futhi futhi kukuvumela ukuthi uguqule ukuphakama kwesondo nezihlalo zokuqondisa. Lesi sipho sanele iminyaka eminingana. Kungabonakala sengathi ama-skate noma ama-roller athukuthele, kepha empeleni ingane isivele ikwazi ukufunda ukuthi ungaziqhenya ngayo. Akumele sikhohlwe nge-scooter, futhi ezoba endleleni.
- Ukuze uthole ingane ephathekayo, izimpahla ezahlukahlukene zemidlalo zizoba yisipho esihle kakhulu. Qiniseka ukuthi ubheka amabhola, ikakhulukazi ibhola. Isihloko esiseduze singathuthukiswa kwezinye izinkomba - ngokwesibonelo, isethi ephelele yokwakheka ngegama lomdlali webhola olithandayo anganikezwa enganeni. Eminyakeni yamuva nje, izivakashi ezahlukahlukene kanye nezindonga zaseSweden ziya ngokuya zifakwa emafulethini - uma kusekhona ukujikisa, khona-ke ingane izoyithanda.
- Izingane ziyakuthanda ukulingisa imisebenzi yabantu abadala kuze kube manje ayisoli ukuthi empilweni yabantu abadala ezayo ayikwazi ukuzithanda. Ukubuka abazali, bafuna ukufana nabo - ngakho-ke izixazululo ezingejwayelekile ezifana nesethi efanayo yamathoyizi avele emashalofini ezitolo zamathoyizi. Uhlome ngepotimende elinjalo, umfana uzokuzwa ukuqhosha kwangempela, imidlalo yakhe iyoba namaqiniso ngokwengeziwe, futhi yena uqobo angakwazisa ngezinzuzo zomsebenzi kanye nekusasa ukuze abe ngumnikazi wekhaya lakhe noma nje.
- Amathoyizi wezihloko ezempi ngokwesiko afana nabafana, futhi abazali banganika umdlalo ububanzi bangempela ngenxa yesethi egcwele egcwele. Kungafaka phakathi amasosha empeleni, izibalo zemishini yezempi ehlukahlukene, futhi kwesinye isikhathi ziye zakhiwa ngisho okhiye. Isixazululo esinjalo futhi sihle ngoba sivumela umdlalo ohlanganyelwe onama-comrades, okufaka isandla ekuthuthukisweni kwamakhono okuxhumana enganeni.
Zonke ezinye izixazululo zincike kakhulu ekukhetheni kwengane ethile, kepha akufanele kubhekwe ukuthi nakanjani bazothanda okuncane.
Ngokuphambene nalokho, uma unesiqiniseko sokuthi isihloko sibonisa ithoyizi, ingane ibonakala, ithenge isipho sokuqala ngokwengeziwe - mhlawumbe okungekho emshinini ophakeme kakhulu.
Ukukhetha kwe-autista
Ezinye izingane zikhula zihluke kakhulu kunezeningi, nama-austister, ngokwesibonelo, zibona wonke umqondo wosuku lokuzalwa nezipho kuleli holide ngokuhlukile. Ungacabangi ukuthi izingane ezinjalo zicabanga ukuthi zilula, nokho, iqiniso lokuthi umqondo wazo wakhelwa ngendlela ehlukile iqiniso eliphelele.
Okokuqala, kufanele kuqondwe futhi kwamukele ukuthi akuzona zonke izingane zababhaliwe eminyakeni eyi-6 eliqonda inani nenani lesipho. Ngakho-ke, ngesinye isikhathi intshisekelo enkulu yokupakishwa okuhle okukhanyayo, kunokuqukethwe kokuqukethwe, ngenxa yokuthi ochwepheshe bavame ukweluleka ukuthi banikeze isipho nhlobo ngaphandle kokugoqa, ngaphandle kwalokho futhi bangaba nobunzima ngokungenisa nokuphazamiseka kwemali efanelekile. Izingane ezineminyaka eyi-6 ubudala azikwazi ukufihla ukudumazeka kwazo, kodwa endabeni ye-autistic, kuzokhanya ikakhulukazi futhi kungahle kubukeke.
Umqondo we-Autista wakhiwa ngokuhlukile ngokuhlukile. Imvamisa akubonisi intshisekelo enkulu kunoma yini, futhi kungaze kube ngisho nangokwengeziwe ukuthi kungazelelwe kube yintshisekelo entweni engaguqulwanga imidlalo yezingane. Ukusuka kwizibonelo zangempela, ungaletha amakhadi we-contour, e-Enema kanye no-ever bateyela - kwesinye isikhathi lezi zibona ngezikhathi ezithile izinto zithakazelise umfana ngaphezu kwawo wonke amathoyizi athengiwe kuwo wonke ukunambitheka. Akunakwenzeka ukuthi ucasule ingane, ngoba ayizame ukunakekela kahle izinkinga ngokuqondile. Uma wazi ukuthi uyayithanda i-Autistimist, futhi ungakwazi ukukhokhela ukutholwa okunjalo, kungcono vele uyithenge, noma ngabe ekuqondeni kwakho iqhaza kwindima yesipho esingakudoti nganoma iyiphi indlela.
Ama-oustister ahlala kude kakhulu nemikhuba yobudala eyemukelwe - ukuze badlale ngokuphelele kumathoyizi enzelwe izingane ezincane kakhulu.
Yaziswa kakhulu yizingane ezinjalo, ezikhangayo zangaphandle kanye namazinyo amnandi, zivame ukuthanda ukuthwebula, kepha kulokhu ngeke zivimbele usizo ngesimo sezikhunta, okukuvumela ukuthi udale izibalo ezikholekayo ezithakazelisa isihloko. Asithande umfana "nemiphumela ekhethekile", njenge-projector yesibani ngemephu yesibhakabhaka esinenkanyezi.
Izipho Ezilusizo Zomfowethu
Ngokuvamile abazali banikeza umfana oneminyaka eyisithupha oneminyaka eyisithupha, ngoba bangakwazi ukuyikhokhela, ongeke ukwazi ukuyisho ngomfowethu noma udadewethu osekhulile - imvamisa nayo ingumntwana ongekho emthonjeni wemali engenayo. Eqinisweni, kunezipho eziningi ezingabizi ezahlukene zesikole sasenkulisa ezingakwazi ngisho nezinye izingane. Lokhu kuvame ukuthuthukisa izipho ezinganikeza abazali, kepha izizathu zokuhlukaniswa kwezipho "ezichaziwe esivele sizichazile.
Ingane engcono kakhulu futhi engokoqobo yincwadi, kepha enganeni eneminyaka eyisithupha iyadingeka ukukhetha engqondweni. Izingane ezikhona njengamanje ezinjalo sezivele ziyakwazi ukufunda, kepha umbuzo uhlala uvulekile, Mingaki umbhalo awukwazi ukukwazi kahle ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa yintshisekelo. Nakulokhu futhi: noma ngabe isihloko sokushicilelwa siyathakazelisa ingane, akabazi kahle izinhlamvu, ziyoba yisidina futhi zibe yisipho nje. Ngalesi sizathu, okuthandwayo kunikezwa izincwadi ezinemifanekiso - kulonyaka, imibala ekhanyayo ithandwa kakhulu.
Mayelana nentuthuko, i-Encyclopedia ihle kakhulu, ngoba yandisa kakhulu ama-horons aphansi bese iyenza ibukeke, ekwaneliseni ilukuluku, futhi ulwazi olutholakele lungafika lusizo ngisho naseminyakeni yokuqala yesikole.
Kodwa-ke, ngisho nezinganekwane ezingazuza, ngoba okungenani ziphoqa ingane ukuba ifunde, ifaka isandla ekuqongweni kokunakwa, ukuthuthukiswa kokukhuliswa, futhi kwesinye isikhathi - kanye nokwanda okufanayo komkhathi. Enye indlela ethuthukisayo isipho ngumdlalo wedeskithophu. Izingane zikuthanda ukukhulumisana nontanga, kanye nemidlalo yebhodi kuyindlela enhle yokudlala kubo, ngoba akuyona into yokuzilibazisa engayenzi, ithinta kahle amakhono engqondo. Ngisho "Claders" yasendulo "igqugquzela ukuthuthuka, ngoba ingane ifunda ukucabanga ngokushesha, ikhulisa inganekwane (icabanga isimo sezwe lomdlalo), futhi amakhono okuxhumana ayasebenza.
Emidlalweni eyinkimbinkimbi yokunqoba, amakhono abucayi abonakala ewukudla okuchithiwe, amandla okwakha isu, icebo futhi anciphise isisindo. Kubalulekile ukubheka ukuthi lo mdlalo kufanele ukwazi ukuba ngumntwana uma imithetho yayo ingaqondakali kuye, uzomane ayeke ukuba nentshisekelo kuyo ngemizuzu engu-5, futhi yize ngokuzayo uzokwazi ukuhlola, manje uzodumazeka.
Ngasikhathi sinye, isabelo esithile senzalo sisahlinzekwa ngemibala ekhanyayo, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukukhetha umdlalo hhayi umdlalo we-gameplay othakazelisayo, kodwa futhi nokwakheka okuhle kwasekuqaleni.
Ekugcineni, akuzona zonke izipho ezivela esigabeni, ezabelwe abazali, zibiza kakhulu. Umshini ofanayo ungaba mncane futhi ungabizi kakhulu, futhi uma ubudlelwano phakathi kwengane nomfowethu odala noma udadewethu muhle, intombazane yokuzalwa isivele ikwazile ukuhlola ukunaka kwakhe, enakekela isipho.
Ngaphandle kwemali enkulu, kufanele kubhekele kakhulu izintshisekelo zengane - ngokungena ngokunembile emgomweni, izindleko zethoyizi noma incwadi akusenayo inani elincane kakhulu.
Cishe unyaka wokunikeza umfana iminyaka engu-6, bheka ividiyo elandelayo.