Ukuhlukaniswa akuyona inqubo elula. Imvamisa, owesifazane akakwazi ukuqala ukwakha ubuhlobo obusha ngenxa yokulimazeka ngaphakathi kwenzondo yendoda yangaphambili. Ukubonakaliswa kwentukuthelo kuyisigaba esivamile lapho uhlukane. Ukutshalwa kwemizwa engemihle kugcwalisa yonke indawo yangaphakathi yenenekazi, kungamvumeli ukuthi aqaphele isabelo somsebenzi wawo ekuxhumekeni okunqanyuliwe.
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Ukuvuka kwenzondo kwalowo okhethiwe kwangaphambilini kukhombisa ukuthi kusenokubaluleka okuthile kwale ntokazi. Imvamisa, imbangela yenzondo kumyeni wakudala ihlupheka kakhulu. Owesifazane ngemuva kokuhlukana angazizwa enomuzwa wokuzonda kanye ngumuntu othandekayo ngezizathu ezahlukahlukene.
- Imvamisa ukubhujiswa kwenyunyana kuhambisana nezinsolo ngokweqile. Ukuhlelela kwengxenye yesibili kuthathelwa indawo ukwehla okuphelele. Kunomzamo wokubuyisela ukuzethemba kwakho ngenxa yomunye umuntu. Ngaleso sikhashana ngivuka inzondo.
- Owesifazane angajabulela ukuqhamuka iqhaza kwesisulu, ngakho lapho ehlukana, usola umyeni wakhe ekukhapheleni. Lowo owake washada naye uthanda ukwenza icala kumlingani othile, atshele abanye ngokungabi nabulungisa kokusuka kwakhe kuye. Ubheka ngokwakhe kwahlazeka futhi wamophule umfazi. Ukuze kudonswe inzondo yendoda exwaye, udinga ukuyeka ukuba yisisulu.
- Kwesinye isikhathi ukuvukela kwakhe ukuvukela kwakhe okungapheli kuholela ekuzondeni komuntu wangaphambili. Ekuqaleni, umfazi angavala amehlo abo kubo. Kodwa-ke, kancane kancane ukuthukwa kuningi futhi ngaphezulu kugcwalisa inhliziyo yakhe. Ngenxa yalokhu, umuzwa wokuba nomunyu nokuphelelwa yithemba uthathelwa indawo ubutha kanye nokuqonda.
- Ukuxabana njalo, ukushayisana kanye nezingxabano zomndeni kuhlwanyela okusanhlamvu kwesimo somuntu okhethiwe kukhethiweyo. Akunakwenzeka ukuthanda umuntu ovame ukushaya umngane wakhe. Ukungajabuli ngokuziphatha kwendoda kukhula ku-angling. Kukhona ubutha obuqinile obuya eScoundrel.
- Owesifazane angazizonda amacala akhe akhethwe. Kwesinye isikhathi indoda icasule umlingani womshado futhi ihlazisa isithunzi sayo phambi kwabantu bakwamanye amazwe. Umlingani ubekezelela indlela aziphatha ngayo isikhathi eside, kodwa ukubekezela kwawo kuza umkhawulo. Izinhlamba eziqoqiwe ziyisizathu sokuphula ubudlelwano. Ngemuva kwesehlukaniso, le ntokazi iqala ukuzonda owayethandekayo.
- Uma owesifazane ngemuva kwesehlukaniso aqala ukuhlangana nomunye umuntu, indoda eyangaphambili ingayicasula. Intokazi iyamthanda ngobuqotho umlingani omusha, ikubheka njengereferensi ebuhleni nobudoda. Ngokuphikisana nesizinda sokuqina kwesiso esisanda kufika, ukubukeka kanye nobuhlobo bomyeni wangaphambilini kubangela imizwa engemihle kowesifazane, kuze kube yilapho benenyanya eligcwele. Inomswakama ngisho nasemizini yakhe, ukushukuma komzimba, isimo sobuso namazwi.
Ungasusa kanjani inzondo?
Okokuqala, kuyadingeka ukuqeda yonke imicabango emibi. Ngibonga isiphetho sokuxolelwa okufika ngesikhathi ebudlelwaneni obukhathele. Yamukela ukugeza okuphumuzayo, hamba uyothenga, uthathe izinto ozithandayo ozithandayo. Qala kaningi ukuvakashela iminyuziyamu, izinkundla zemidlalo, amapaki kanye nezinye izindawo zamaholide. Vakashela abazali bakho, izihlobo kanye nabangane. Kulokhu, ngeke ube nesikhathi seDuma ngobudlelwano obungemnandi.
Kungenzeka ukuyeka ukuzonda umlingani wangaphambili ngosizo lwezincwadi ezingaphili. Cindezela izimbangela zethemba kuye, zoma ukungalali nokujeziswa eqeleni. Bhala yonke intukuthelo yakho nezikhalazo zakho. Imizwa yakho kanye nemizwa ingavezwa ngemidwebo. Emlayezweni, sicela wazise uhlelo olukhethiwe lokuthi ungamzonda kangakanani. Yenza uhlu lukakhonkolo lokuthi yini ecasulayo kwi-satellite yangaphambili. Emva kwalokho, incwadi kumele ishiswe noma ithumbe emihlambini emincane. Bhala izinhlamvu kuze kube yilapho intukuthelo iqala ukwehla. Inzondo kancane kancane izohlakazeka. Futhi-ke uzokukhohlwa ngisho nokuba khona kwale scoundrel, ngemuva kwalokho uzokuthola ukuthula kwangaphakathi.
Zithande njengoba unjalo. Yenza uhlu lwezifiso zakho. Gxila ngekusasa, chaza imisebenzi yesikhashana neyesikhathi eside yonyaka. Bheka kahle ilitshe. Thola ulwazi olusha, vakashela izifundo ezahlukahlukene, thatha amakhono emikhakheni ehlukene yomsebenzi. Ukuqashelwa kwephupho eliyigugu kakhulu kuholela ekwandeni kokuzethemba nokubhujiswa komuzwa wokubhubhisa wenzondo. Ungesabi ukuyeka umuntu, ubudlelwano nalo owakhiwa ezihlambalazweni zobabili, ukucasuka, ukuthotshiswa kanye nokuxabana.
Inzondo yendoda yangaphambili iyisithiyo ekusungulweni kwempilo yomuntu siqu ngokuzayo.
Shiya lo mphefumulo uwondla esikhathini esedlule. Qhubekela phambili ngaphandle kokubheka emuva. Thethelela umlingani wangaphambili, makahambe. Futhi-ke uthando olusha luzongena ngokukhululekile empilweni yakho.
Zama ukungahlali wedwa. Yenza isikhathi esengeziwe embuthanweni womndeni nabangane abaseduze. Phambili nabo, bacele usizo. Ukuqonda okuvela kubantu abakusekela kuzosiza ekusindeni isikhathi esinzima. Unganqoba intukuthelo neminye imizwa engemihle. Yekani ukuzondla ngamandla wenzondo engemihle. Kwesinye isikhathi izinkumbulo zokudlala isikhathi sokuhlangana esijabulisayo nomuntu wangaphambilini kuvelile ukubhekana nokungathandi. Izikhathi ezimnandi ezivela empilweni edlule zenza kube nokwenzeka ukuqonda ukuthi azikho izizathu ezikhethekile zenzondo.
Uma kungasebenzi ukuze ususe imizwa engemihle, thintana ne-Psyschotherapist noma udokotela wezengqondo. Uzokusiza uqonde isimo samanje, ahlaziye futhi ulungise izinkolelo zakho, bese ukukutshela ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze ngokulandelayo.
Amathiphu we-Psychologist
Uthando olusha umuthi omuhle kakhulu ovela ekuzondeni ngomuntu wangaphambili. Kepha ekuqaleni kuyadingeka ukuletha i-oda ngemicabango yakho. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqeda bonke abangahle bacasule, ngaphandle kwalokho kuzoba nzima ukwakha injabulo ngokuzayo. Ubuhlanya obukhulu kumyeni wakhe, isifiso sokuziphindisela, isimo sikaHysterria sisongela ngqo ebudlelwaneni besikhathi esizayo. Khokha isikhathi esithe xaxa ezidingweni zakho, bonisa umzimba wakho nokunakekelwa kwempilo. Gxila kuwe amandla akho, hhayi kumuntu okucasulayo okwamanje.
Masinyane nje ngemuva kokuhlukana, kuyinto engathandeki ukuhlangana nalowo okhethiwe. Okwesikhashana kufanele uhlale kude nowesilisa uzokuzonda.
Akuwona wonke umuntu wesifazane ongavimba ulaka neminye imizwa engemihle. Uma uzichitha phambi kobuso, uzozisola ngokuqhubekayo. Ekuqaleni, yonke imihlangano kufanele yenzeke phambi kwabantu abangagunyaziwe. Kungenzeka ukudlula izinto ezishiywe ngandlela thile kubo bonke abangane noma izihlobo. Lokhu kuzokuvumela ukuthi uqhubeke indlela yempilo ngaphandle kwezinkumbulo ezingemnandi.
Uma inzondo yesithandwa sangaphambili ivela ngenxa yezizathu ezingaqondakali, kuyadingeka ukwehlisa umoya futhi ucabange kahle. Imizwa engemihle ingavela ngenxa yokukhathala okungokomzwelo noma ngokomzimba. Kulokhu, iholidi elihle likhipha imizwa engemihle. Vakashela umcimbi othile wokuzijabulisa noma uqhubeke nohambo. Ukungathandi kwangaphambilini kuzonyamalala.
Cabanga ngokwengqondo ukuthi ulahlekelwa owayethandekayo owayebathandayo. Akasoze abe ngaphezulu kwesiphetho sakho. Zama ukuhlaziya imizwa yakho. Uma unenjabulo noma ukunganakwa, musa ukuthwala impilo yakho yesikhathi esizayo ngenzondo ngomlingani owasala esikhathini esedlule. Khohlwa ngakho. Kepha uma usaba nobuhlungu nentukuthelo, khona-ke uthando aludlulanga. Ngakho-ke, zama ukubuyisa lo muntu.
Funda ukuthethelela. Skrolela ekhanda lamagama angathandeki, ukuthukwa kanye nokunye okucasulayo, okwenza le nsizwa edlule, ilimaze umphefumulo ngaphakathi. Intukuthelo ingavusa ukuvela kwezifo ezahlukahlukene. Zama ukukhuluma kabi nomuntu owayengumuntu wangaphambilini noma umyeni wakhe. Cela intethelelo ngakho konke ukucasuka komunye nomunye. Izinkinga eziphezulu zama ukuxazulula indlela enokuthula. Uma ungaphenduki ukuthi wamukelwe, sicela uxhumane nabangane bakho noma ngisho nasenkantolo.
