Ukuba othandweni kuyisimo esivamile kumuntu. Ihlanganisa i-psyche kanye nomzimba wonke, igxilisa ngezenzo ezinhle nasekufezeni. Uthando luyisimo esiqala kumuntu ngisho nangaphambi kokuba sifinyelele eminyakeni yokuthomba. Futhi ngemuva kokuba izingane zibe ngabantu abadala, ithuba lokuthandana libasiza ukuba badale imindeni yabo, babelethe izingane, bazizwe bejabule. Kepha akuwona wonke umuntu ongakwazi ukukhokhela ukuze awele othandweni. Abantu abaphethwe yi-dlalaphobia abavumelani nokuthola imizwa enjalo nganoma yiziphi izinzuzo.
Yini?
I-Phyloophobia - inkinga ebanzi kabanzi . Lokhu kungukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okubonisayo. Ekwesabeni kwe-pathological kuwela othandweni. Lokhu kwesaba kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu futhi kuningi, kungaba yisifo sesikhashana esenzeka ngemuva kokuhlangenwe nakho okunzima komuntu siqu, futhi mhlawumbe nenkinga engapheli.
Kunoma ikuphi, iFiloPobic idinga usizo, uma kungenjalo ebeka impilo ebukhoma yedwa, ezwa ukwesaba ukwethuka ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho abalingani abangaba khona, abantu abahle futhi abathakazelayo ababengaba umbhangqwana omuhle ngezindlela zakhe ezingase zibe umbhangqwana omuhle.
Ukuphazamiseka kubizwa ngengozi: UPhileo uhunyushwe kusuka esiGreki "Uthando". Le ncazelo yenziwa ohlwini lokuphazamiseka kwengqondo okushiwo yikhodi yamazwe omhlaba yesifo se-ICD-10 ngaphansi kwekhodi 40.2 - Ukuphazamiseka kwe-Phobic. Igama lale phobia likhuluma ngokwalo. Ukwesaba kungaxazululwa ngakunye, bahlushwa izinsizwa namantombazane nabesilisa nabesifazane abadala. Ngasikhathi sinye, kwabesifazane, inkinga yenzeka kaningi kunakwabesilisa. Ukwesaba kwakhiwa, njengomthetho, ngokusekelwe esimweni somuntu siqu somuntu noma ebuntwaneni, lapho umbono uba yinto ekhulisiwe, ezinkhathini ezibizwa ngokuthi ngobucayi.
Izici ze-phylophobia zingavela kuwo wonke umuntu olahlekelwe uthando - ukuhamba komlingani, ukukhaphela, ukukhaphela, ukufa. Kepha imizwa enjalo ingeyesikhashana, futhi yesaba kancane kancane izindida zothando ezintsha, umuntu ulungiselela ubudlelwano obusha. Uma i-phyloophobia yeqiniso iyakhula, kungenzeka ukuthi ngeke kube khona ubudlelwano obusha.
Ngokwesisekelo se-phyloophobia cishe ingxenye yesithathu yamacala, i-narcissism kanye ne-egoism iyakhula.
Imvamisa, i-phyloofa iqala ukusebenzisa kabi utshwala nezidakamizwa 'zokuchoboza' ukwesaba kwabo kwangaphakathi nokungqubuzana (Kumuntu, ukwesaba kwathandana nesidingo semvelo sobudlelwano nobulili obuhlukile). Izinto zotshwala nezingqondo zengqondo zizonikeza impumuzo okwesikhashana, kunoma yikuphi, kuze kube isikhathi lapho kuba umlutha.
Ngokuphikisana nesizinda se-phyloophobia, ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okuhlangene kuvame ukukhula, ingozi yokuthola ukudangala kwanda. Amanye ama-phylofoby axazululwa ukuze azibulale, futhi angazitholi thina "salokhu" kulomhlaba.
Izimbangela Zenzeka
Uthando lungamandla amangalisayo kanye nomphumela umuzwa wokuthi kungakhulisa umuntu esibhakabhakeni esikhombisa enjabulweni noma enze okuseshwa kakhulu emhlabeni ngemizwa ebonakalayo. Akukho lutho olumangazayo eqinisweni lokuthi uthando oluyimbangela yentuthuko ye-dlalaphobia. Ukwesaba phambi kothando njengoba lokho kungathola abantu beminyaka ehlukene - kusuka kwintsha kuya kubahola impesheni.
Ama-Psychiatristrists athi ngezindlela eziningi amathuba okuphambuka kwengqondo athonywa uhlobo lobudlelwano bemindeni, ingane egubhelwa ebuntwaneni. Kufika kuma-95% e-phylophobia, njengoba kwenzeka, zinezimpande zazo ezinganeni nasebusheni.
Imvamisa, ingane inezimfuneko zale phobia ngenxa yamahlazo emndenini, ubudlelwano obukhulu babazali. Ngasikhathi sinye, i-phyloophobia yabesifazane ivame ukubalwa esimweni lapho uyise enza khona yiTran, ehlushwa. Ingane ibona indlela umama ahlushwa ngayo, futhi ayifuni ukuzibandakanya okufanayo, ukukhomba ubudlelwano babazali nomqondo "wothando."
I-phobia yabesilisa ibekelwe uma umama emi njenge-destot, futhi uBaba uphazamisa ukuthotshiswa, ukuxhashazwa. Kulokhu, umfana ubuye wakha umbono ongalungile wabesifazane bebonke futhi ebudaleni bazama ukugwema uthando, hhayi ukuvumela ubuhlobo obungathi sína. Kunoma ikuphi, i-phyloophobia isebenza njengendlela yokuvikela, ngakho-ke ingqondo izama ukuvikela umuntu ezimweni ezibonakalayo njengengozi.
Umuzwa wengozi yilokho ingane eya nayo ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho boFakazi abazali abalandelayo. I-Psychology yomuntu enenkinga enjalo ye-phobic imnikeza izimpendulo kuyo yonke imibuzo yangaphakathi. Ukusondela, uthando, umshado, umndeni wakhe kuyindawo yezobutha, ukuhlala kuyo kuhlangana ngobuhlungu nokuhlupheka. Ukuvimbela le ndoda noma owesifazane othile azame ukungathandi othandweni.
Kepha lesi sinqumo asikwazi. Ngakho-ke nginqume ubuchopho, owakha ukwesaba okunamandla, okwesaba kwesinye isikhathi, obona umuntu ngaso sonke isikhathi, lapho nje esefika ethandweni.
Imbangela ye-dlalaphobia entombazaneni ingaba Ifa elivela kuMama oyedwa ofake "wonke amadoda - ama-bastards, adinga kuphela" . Izahlulelo ezifanayo ezilinganiselwe ezinobunzima obunephutha (kodwa kuphela ekhelini labesifazane) kwesinye isikhathi ezidlula amadodana obaba beSolo.
Imbangela evamile ye-dlalaphobia ithathwa njengento engemihle yomuntu siqu, imvamisa iwela eshumini nambili nangobudala bobusha. Kulokhu, ukwesaba ithemba lokuthandana nesenzo sokuhlekwa usulu kontanga. Impela kwakukhona uthando lokuqala olumangalisayo nolungafanelekile, okuhlangenwe nakho okungekuhle kokuya ocansini noma ukulahlekelwa kothandekayo.
Uma insizwa noma intombazane ikhula ngaphansi kwesichotho sokuhlekwa usulu, imvamisa iqiniseka ukuthi ayisebenzi futhi ayikwazi ukuthola umuzwa wokuphendula ngokwesimiso. Kulokhu, indlela evikelayo yakhiwa njengesilinganiso sokuvimbela - uma ungafuni ukwenqatshwa, khona-ke akukho lutho oluzothandana. Isihlangu esifanayo se-psycho-esingokomzwelo sakha i-phylofoby eyasinda othandweni lokuqala olungafanele.
Uma umuntu othandekayo efa noma eshiya elinye (elinye) - lesi yisizathu esinamandla kunazo zonke sokukhuthaza i-phobia emusha. Noma yiluphi uhlobo lokulahleka okunjalo kumuntu odala ukuthatha kalula ukwedlula osemusha umhlaba wonke ongaphethwa ngalo entweni eyodwa. Ubuhlungu obuqotho benza abantu bavale izwe lakhe elingaphakathi ukuze bahlangenwe nakho kothando - lokhu futhi kuyisivikelo, kepha vele ubuhlungu obukhona ebudlelwaneni obusha.
Kwabadala, i-phylophobia ingathuthuka ngokulwa nobuhlobo obukhulu emshadweni, futhi imvamisa iqala isehlukaniso. Ngasikhathi sinye, isizathu esivame kakhulu sokuthuthuka kokuphazamiseka kwengqondo, izazi zezengqondo zibheka ukuvukela komshado.
Izibonakaliso
Ukwesaba ukuwela othandweni kuyazibonakalisa emazingeni ahlukahlukene. Ungambula kalula i-phyloofob, kepha ukuze uzishintshe ngokwakho noma uzame ukwakha ubudlelwano obusondelene naye ngaphandle kosizo lwe-psychotherapist noma udokotela wezengqondo ngeke asebenze.
Izimpawu zibonakaliswa ku-emkhakheni nasekuziphatheni. UPilophobe ngokwakhe uzinikele ngokuphelele ngombiko wokuthi unokwesaba kwe-pathological yokwakha ubuhlobo obusha nabobulili obuhlukile. Uyakuvuma, akwenqabi futhi angaphikisana kalula, kungani kunjalo, yiziphi izizathu anazo ngokuziphatha okunjalo. Futhi ngenkathi siseduze, i-phyloofob ayinabalingani abangaba khona, kuyavutha, kepha kwesinye isikhathi akunakwenzeka ukugwema izimpawu ezibukhali lapho kushayisana uthando.
I-Phyloophobia cishe ihlala iboniswa kumlingiswa womuntu. Uyashintsha, eba kubi ngokwengeziwe, umuntu uqobo ungobugovu impela, wenza konke okusemandleni ukuze abanye bangacabangi ukuthi basondele kuye njenge-satellite yempilo engenzeka. Ezimweni ezinzima, ama-filophobes avela ngokuhlaselwa kwesabane ngaso sonke isikhathi Lapho ehlangana nomuntu osondelene ngangokunokwenzeka esithombeni esifanele esikhona ezingqondweni zomunye wethu. Ngasikhathi sinye, ama-phobia awesilisa nowesifazane anezimpawu ezihlukile.
Isintu
Ukutshela izehlakalo zesikhashana, imihlangano "ngobusuku obubodwa" ukuze kuhlangatshezwane nezidingo zemvelo zocansi. Zivame ukuguqula umlingani, zikwenze kalula futhi kalula. Futhi kungabonakala sengathi abanalutho olungcwele. Kepha akunjalo. Vele umuntu oziphatha kanjalo okuhlukile kokuvikelwa engozini engenzeka ukuthi uthando olukhulu lungathwala.
Uma omunye wabalingani abanjalo bezenteketweni enquma ukukhipha i-phyloofob ngaphansi komqhele noma umane anikeze umbono wobudlelwano besikhathi eside, izimpawu eziningi zokuphazamiseka kwe-phobic zingavela esigulini, futhi kwesinye isikhathi ukuphelelwa yithemba, kukhona a Umuzwa wokuntuleka komoya, isicanucanu, izimo ezinyanyekayo ngokunethezeka, ngifuna ukubaleka ngokushesha okukhulu ngangokunokwenzeka.
I-Poophobians ayikwazi ukudideka nge-SongSophobis kanye nama-asexuals. Bonke bahlelekile ngezifiso ezisondelene nokubona kwabo, abamesabi abamele ubulili obuhlukile. Kepha babhekene nokuheha kuphela ngokobulili futhi akukho okunye. Amadoda-phylofoby angaphendula ngokweqiniso uma ebabuza ngqo ukuthi bakwesaba kakhulu. Iningi libonisa ukuthi babavimbele kude nokwesaba ukulahlekelwa yinkululeko yomuntu siqu, ukuba bathembele ezenzweni nasekwenzeni omunye umuntu, ukwesaba ukungaziphathi.
Imvamisa nge-phyloophobe Ukwesaba kuphenduke ukwenziwa ngokwezimali ukukhondla ngokwezezimali ukondla umndeni (Imvamisa ebuntwaneni, umfana wabuka indlela umama athobela ngayo uYise ngokwenza imali encane). Amadoda-phyloofos abukeka kancane kancane, awanikezi okushiwo ama-trifles ekhabethe labo, awayinaki imithetho - ngokwesibonelo, ayiphuce. Uthando olukhulu kakhulu ukuba sezinkampanini ezingaziwa, ngoba kuzo akekho umuntu ozobuza imibuzo engakhululekile ngempilo yomuntu siqu. Abantu abanokuphazamiseka kwengqondo okuvame ukutholakala kuma-nightclub.
Abantu
Abamele ubulili obuhle ngokuphazamiseka okunjalo kwe-psyche baziphatha okufanayo. Bangakwazi ukufenda, akubangeli imizwa engathandeki. Kepha ithemba lobuhlobo obude obude bebangela ukuthuka. Kwesinye isikhathi abesifazane banamathela ekugwemeni ukuziphatha nhlobo - zama ukungajwayelani nabesilisa ukuthi bangaweli ngothando olungenangqondo (Lesi sici sibonisa amafomu amakhulu e-phyloophobia).
Uma i-fan iqala ukuthatha isinyathelo kuqala, igcizelela ebudlelwaneni obungathi sína, lona wesifazane uyesabisa, uyawesabisa, kuba nolaka, unolaka, uhlala esimweni sokukhathazeka nale ndoda.
Imvamisa i-phyloophobia kwabesifazane ihamba nokwenqena ukuba nezingane . Akukona mayelana nokuzala inzalo noma okwezezimali zesikhashana nakwezinye izinkinga, kepha mayelana "nezezingane" - inkolelo yemibono ngezinzuzo zokungabi nabuntwana. Uma owesifazane onesifo esinjalo asaxazululwa enganeni, khona-ke ikhetha lokho kuphela, ukwenqaba ngamabomu ukushada nokukhulisa umntwana kanye nomlingani.
Yikuphi i-fillofa enomuzwa lapho "insongela" uthando noma ithemba lobuhlobo obungathi sína akulula ukuliqonda.
Cabanga ukuthi abantu abaningi ngokwesaba okunjalo bangalawula imizwa yabo ukuze bangathandi othandweni. Kepha azikwazi ukulawula ukubonakaliswa kokuzethusa uma kwenzeka kushayisana nesimo esibuhlungu. Balahlekelwa umuzwa wangempela, umhlaba wonke ujikeleze ube yisabekayo eyodwa eqinile, izandla ziyavela, ukushayela kuyafundwa, ukuphefumula kuba nzima. Ezimweni ezinzima, umuntu angalahlekelwa ukwazi.
Izimpawu zokuhlaselwa kwesabani zingavela emcimbini lapho isiguli ngokwakhe sabamba khona ngokungazelele ukuthi umlingani waqala ukumthakazelisa njenge "nto enhle".
Ungenza ubudlelwano nama-pilophobes kuphela ngemithetho yabo. Noma kunalokho, ngokuya ngemithetho yokuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Ukuze ukhulume ngokunye, kufanele usize umuntu aqede ukwesaba kwakhe. Kwenze kungahle kube yi-Psychiatrist, i-Psychotherapist, ezokhomba izinga lokuphazamiseka ngezivivinyo ezikhethekile futhi linikeze ukwelashwa okwanele. Ukuhlolwa, kusetshenziswa yisikali sokukhathazeka sakudala nokuhlolwa okukhethekile okubandakanya izingqinamba ezihlobene nemizwa ngemuva kokusondela kobulili kuyo, kanye nemibuzo ngezinga lokuzethemba.
Izindlela zokwelashwa
Inkambo yokunakekelwa kwe-psychotherapeapeutic iyadingeka cishe njalo. Izindlela ezikhanyayo ze-phyloophobia kuphela ezigabeni zokuqala zingaqedwa ukuphumula nokwandisa izinga lokuzethemba kubantu bobulili obuhlukile. Uma ukwesaba kukhona isikhathi esingaphezu kwezinyanga eziyisithupha, ngaphandle kosizo lochwepheshe akunakukwenza. Udokotela uzosiza ekususeni futhi afeze izimbangela zeqiniso, aphakamise izinkumbulo zezingane, azonikeza ithuba lokubabheka ekubukeni okusha, okudala.
Ngokwelashwa, ukwelashwa kweGestalt kuyasetshenziswa, kanye nokwelashwa okuqondayo kokuziphatha, lapho ukufakwa okudala okuyiphutha kuthathelwa indawo okusha, okuhle.
Kwezinye izimo, imishanguzo isizwa ukuqeda i-phyloophobia, kepha ayinqunyelwe ngokwahlukana, kepha phakathi ne-psychotherapy futhi kuphela uma umuntu esevele enokuphazamiseka kwengqondo, ukucindezelwa noma i-neurosis noma i-neurosis. Kulokhu, imishanguzo yenza indima enezimpawu - lapho icindezelekile, ngokwesibonelo, kuthathwa ama-animepress.
Uma uPhilophobia wethulwa ngokuzimela, ngaphandle kwezimpawu ezihlobene, imishanguzo ayinqunyelwe.
Njengezindlela ezisizayo, eziklanyelwe ukufundisa umuntu ukuthi aphumule, asebenzise i-acupuncture, massage, electrone. Isiguli sinconywe ngokuqinile ukuthi sibukeke ngokuthinta ama-movie ane-Finale ejabule, futhi afunde izincwadi ezifanayo. Inketho yokwelashwa ephumelelayo yinkambo, ngemuva kwalokho isiguli singaya ekuguqukeni kancane kancane, ukuhlangana kahle nomlingani.
Kwabalingani, odokotela banezincomo zabo - Njengoba zilulama, kufanele zivame ukukhuluma ne-Poolophobe eyangaphambilini mayelana nomuntu uqobo, kanye nokukhombisa ukuzwela okuphezulu, ukunakwa nokunakekelwa nokunakekelwa.
