Singajabula yini ukufeza ukuphakama kuzo zonke izindawo kanye nenhlala-kahle yengqondo? Vele, wonke umuntu uzalwe ukuze aphile futhi athole injabulo kuyo. Kwesinye isikhathi ezinye azisebenzi. Mhlawumbe ngoba siyakhohlwa ukuphendukela emvelaphi esingayisiza. Kulowo nalowo kithi, kukhona ukuxhumana nomhlaba wangaphandle ngokwaziso. Kwesinye isikhathi kufanelekile nje ukuphendukela kuwe, futhi inhlanhla izophenduka ubuso. Ungaxhumana kanjani? Ngosizo lweziqinisekiso.
Yini?
Isikhalazo ngaphakathi kwe- "i" siqinisekisi. Umsunguli wale ndlela uthathwa njengo-Emil Kue. Usosayensi odumile waphikisa ukuthi lapho umuntu ephinda kaningi imishwana efanayo, "Ngijabule," uqala ukukholelwa kulokho okushiwo yilokho okushiwo. Ngenxa yalesi senzo esilula, ujabule ngempela. Qondisa isifiso esenziwe nguwe ngesimo sebinzana ngaphakathi kwakho, futhi ngokuqinisekile lizofezeka. Ungasiphathi lesi sitatimende. Yingakho.
Ngenxa yokuthi ubiza umusho ofanayo ngasikhathi sinye izikhathi eziningana, uzihlelela impumelelo.
Isebenza kanjani? Bonke abanobuhlakani balula. Isiqinisekiso yisikhalo sakho. Njengomphumela wokuthi usebenza njalo ekuqapheleni kwakho, uqala ukucubungula ikusasa lakho. Usuvele akekho umuntu oyimfihlo ukuthi imicabango yabantu iyenziwa izinto ezibonakalayo. Njengomunye ngaphandle kwanoma yiluphi udaba, imicabango yakho iqala "ukuqongelela" esitsheni, okungukuthi, engqondweni yethu. Ngemuva kwesikhashana, noma yisiphi isitsha sizochichima. Ngakho-ke kuzoba njalo kuwe. Ngokushesha nje lapho ubuqili buzizwa bungaphezulu kwemininingwane, kuzofanela ukuyikhipha.
Umuntu uyinhlayiya yendawo yonke, okusho ukuthi uhlotshaniswa naye. Ngenxa yale mpahla, singathumela amandla esikhaleni. Lapho "inqwaba yamandla" enjalo, ngesifiso sethu, izofinyelela umgomo wayo - ukuxhumana namabutho aphezulu kakhulu, khona-ke angezwa lokho okucelayo. Isifiso sizofezeka. Isiqinisekiso singamabinzana amahle akwazi ukuguqula isimo somuntu ngekusasa lakhe elizayo. Le ndlela ifana nenqubo ye-NLP (Neurolyngokuic Programming). Kalula nje, le yindlela yokusekela ubuntu obuthile.
Imvamisa, imikhuba enjalo isetshenziswa yizengqondo nakudokotela bezengqondo. Kodwa-ke, othisha, odokotela kanye nochwepheshe abathi, munye, munye, basebenza emkhakheni, lapho udinga ukusebenzisana kakhulu nezingane noma abantu abadala ukuthi basebenze no-Azami. Lowo ozosebenzisa iziqinisekiso kufanele acabangele ukuthi kuzoziveza kuhlelo oluthile. Abanye bazoqala ukungabaza ukuphepha kwendlela. Kodwa-ke, noma yimuphi uchwepheshe uzokutshela ukuthi le ndlela iphephile ngokuphelele futhi ilusizo ku-psyche yabantu.
Kuphela kudinga ukusetshenziswa kahle. Okokuqala, khipha zonke izikhathi ezingezinhle. Khumbula ukuthi imishwana yakho kufanele yenziwe ngokwezifiso kuphela. Kufana nalokhu: "Ngingcono kakhulu", "Ngiphilile futhi ngimuhle." Ngemuva kwalokho awunalutho ukwesaba. Awukwazi ukuthuthukisa inhlala-kahle yakho kuphela, kepha futhi uphumelele kakhudlwana.
Ukubukisisa
Ngakho-ke, iziqinisekiso ziyakwazi ukuguqula impilo yethu ibe ngcono. Uma uthatha isinqumo sokuqala ukwenza le ndlela, wabe unomuzwa wokuthi sekuyisikhathi sokushintsha ikusasa lami. LOKHO OKUFANELE Uguquke, awungabazeki.
Into esemqoka ukukholelwa kulokhu futhi ulwele ukuphumelela. Kepha kungakanani okungashintsha ukuguqulwa. Isiphetho sakho sincike esifisweni nasekuqondisweni okukhethiwe.
Futhi lokhu akumangazi, ngoba imishwana yezinhlelo ehlanganisiwe ingaba nezinhlobo ezimbili.
Jwayelekile
Kuhloswe ngazo ukuguqula impilo yakho kube ngcono ngokujwayelekile. Isibonelo, "Ngiyabathanda bonke abantu, futhi bayangithanda," "Ngijabule (a)," ngivuka nsuku zonke ngisesimweni esihle. " Uma ungaphishekeli izinhloso ezithile, le ndlela ingafaneleka ukuthi ikhona.
I-inphmicalization of jikelele emugqeni ingaba wusizo ekuvinjelweni kwezifo ezahlukahlukene. Bazosiza futhi ukubuyisela isimo sengqondo futhi basuse izimpawu zokukhathazeka. Imishwana enjalo ethi "Ngihlala nginempilo (a)", "Nginempumelelo kuyo yonke imizamo" ingakuvikela ezifweni nasezinhluphekweni. Zingaphindwa ngaphandle kwekhefu amahlandla ambalwa ngosuku. Ukusuka kulokhu kubi ngeke kube yinoma ngubani, futhi ungazizwa uqiniseka ngamakhono akho.
-Ngavamile
Iziqinisekiso ezinjalo zihlose ukucaciswa kwesifiso. Ake sithi kudala ufuna ukuthenga imoto. Lapho-ke uzohambisana nesifanekiso esinjalo: "Ngathenga imoto." Ungakhohlwa ukuthi la magama adinga ukwengeza uhlobo lomkhiqizo nombala wemoto. Ukucaciswa okwengeziwe, kukhudlwana amathuba okuthi uthola into ethile edwetshwe engqondweni yami.
Ungabuza ezinye izinzuzo ze- "i" yakho. Isibonelo, ufuna ukuya eyunivesithi, bese uphinda ibinzana elithi "ngifunda eyunivesithi" ngasikhathi sinye. Khumbula ukuthi lesi sitatimende sidinga ukuthi kubhekwe kakhulu ekucoxweni: lapho ufunda khona inyunyana. Zonke lezi zinto ezikhohlisayo ngokuqonda kwazo zingabanjwa nsuku zonke. Futhi kaningi uzophinda amabinzana abe yithuluzi, kukhulu amathuba okuthola lokho okufunayo.
Imithetho yokuhlanganiswa
Abanye abantu abangalinganiswanga bangafunda ekhaya ngendlela. Banelungelo eligcwele. Kuyadingeka nje ukuthi uqonde ukuthi wonke umuntu unobuningi bawo, futhi amandla enkoleleko ancike kukho.
I-axiom ukuthi la mandla anamandla ngokwengeziwe, amabutho kuwe ngokukholwa kwanoma ngubani, okubandakanya nawe. Iziqinisekiso ziyindlela yokwandisa izinga layo lamandla.
Usebenzisa imishwana, ubopha uphawu emiphumeleni emibi evela ngaphandle. Ngakho-ke, uqala 'ukugcwalisa' kusuka ngaphakathi kwamandla amahle ngokwabo abekelwe. Futhi umphumela uzoba ngumvuzo omkhulu wemisebenzi.
Ngakho-ke, unqume ukwenza iziqinisekiso nsuku zonke, bese usebenzisa eminye imithetho.
- Owokuqala wabo akusoze wasebenzisa izinhlayiyana "hhayi". Khumbula ukuthi indawo yonke ayiboni le ngxenye yenkulumo, ngakho-ke ngeke kube nomqondo. Ngakho-ke, ngeke kube nomqondo futhi kusuka emushweni ohlanganisiwe. Ungabhali ukuthi - "Angisiye ubuwula", bese ngibhala i- "Ngihlakaniphile" kahle.
- Njalo qala ibinzana elivela kwizabizwana "Mina". Uthola wena nobuchopho bakho, ngakho-ke bhala. Ngendlela, isabizwana esithi "Me" futhi asikufanelekile ukuyisebenzisa, njengoba inezinhlaka ezifanayo "hhayi". Awukwazi ukubhala "nganikwa ifulethi," futhi udinga ukuthi uthi "Ngithole ifulethi."
- Bhala njalo ukuvunywa kwamagama. Akunasidingo sokusho imishwana okuhloswe ngayo ngokuzayo. Isibonelo akusho ukuthi "ngizothenga imoto", kepha udinga ukuthi "ngathenga imoto." Kungcono ukwengeza ukuthi yimuphi umbala, omusha noma cha. Uma uthintana ngokwakho njengoba kukhonjisiwe endabeni yokuqala (ngokuzayo), khona-ke isifiso sakho singabambelela "phakathi nesikhathi samanje nekusasa noma silahlekelwe ngokuphelele kwelebhu yesikhathi esizayo. Ngemuva kwalokho awusindi lutho oluhle.
- Ukufakwa akufanele kube yinde kakhulu. Isibonelo: "Ngathenga imoto ebomvu futhi manje ngiya emsebenzini ngakho nokunye." Khuluma ngokucacile: "Ngathenga imoto entsha ebomvu (kungcono ukuyibiza ngokushesha kuhlobo)." Lawa magama amafushane kanjena acacile acacisa inhloso. Ngaphandle kwalokho, udida ukwazi kwakho ngemininingwane engadingekile, futhi uzolahleka ngemuva kwengqondo yakho.
- Sebenzisa kuphela iziqinisekiso ezinhle. Ungazami nalokhu kufakwa ukulimaza abanye abantu. Wena ngokwakho ungagula ngenxa yezenzo ezinjalo.
- Ungakhohlwa ukuthi isimo sengqondo esihle kuphela esikhona ezifundweni. Uma ufuna ukuzivikela esweni elibi noma umuntu olimazayo, vele ukhohlwe ngakho. Kepha kini bavikele ukuvikelwa. Isibonelo, "Ngivikelekile ngokuphelele (a) esweni elibi (ukulimala noma umona)." Ungabiza amagama amathathu ngokufaka isiqinisekiso esisodwa. Amagama anjalo adinga ukubizwa phambi kwesibuko futhi abheke ngqo emehlweni. Akube yi-ozithanda.
- Kholwa ngokuqondile kulokho. Kungcono ukubona ngeso lengqondo lokho ofuna ukungena engqondweni yami.
- 'U-oda "ukwenziwa kwezifiso eziningana ngasikhathi sinye. Isibonelo, uma ngempela ufuna ukushada, thenga indlu, imoto, ifenisha futhi uqale inja encane, bese ucabanga ukuthi yini ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe kulezi zinto. Wonke umuntu futhi ngokushesha uthole, yehluleka ngokucacile. Zama ukuhlala ezintweni ezidingeka kakhulu. Okokuqala udinga ukuthenga ifulethi, bese kuphela bese uqala umdlwane noma uthenge imoto. Emotweni ngeke ukwazi ukuchitha ubusuku, futhi ngeke uvunyelwe izilwane ezisefulethini elisuswayo. Ngakho-ke, faka izinhloso ezicindezela kakhulu.
- Musa ukusebenzisa ukuqhathanisa amabinzana. Isibonelo, "Ngathenga imoto engcono kunamakhelwane kaVasya." Ngakho-ke akunakwenzeka ukusho. Udinga ukuthi "ngathenga umshini ongcono kakhulu emhlabeni."
Isetshenziswa kanjani?
Iziqinisekiso zansuku zonke zihlanganiswa ukuze kukhulunywe njalo ungasondela ngokushesha ekusebenzeni kwephupho. Lapho uvame ukukhuluma imishwana oyifunayo, okungcono. Kulezi zenzo ezinjalo uzoba mubi. Uqala nini uvalo nokwethuka, yini okufanele yenziwe kuqala? Yebo kwehlise umoya. Futhi kanjani ukukwenza, uma ungazilawuli? Kudingeka uphazanyiswe enkingeni.
Kungcono ukusiza imithandazo kulokhu, kepha ungasebenzisa iziqinisekiso. Ukuphindaphinda kwesigqi sebinzana elithile kuzobuyela kuwe ibhalansi yengqondo emizuzwini embalwa. Zama ukwenza ukuhlolwa okunjalo, futhi wena ngokwakho uqiniseka ukuthi. Iziqinisekiso zihlanganiswa futhi zisetshenziselwa izinhloso ezihlukile. Uma ungasazi ukuthi ungazisebenzisa kanjani, kufanele ufunde imininingwane.
- Ukuze usuku lwakho luhlale lubanjelwe "kukhiye ofiselekayo", hlukana futhi ufunde isiqinisekiso sasekuseni "namuhla." Kufanele zithunyelwe ezifisweni zakho zansuku zonke. Bangaba yinto evamile, enjengokuthi "Ngiyaphumelela (a) futhi ngiyaphila" noma "Ngiyawuthanda umhlaba, futhi uyangithanda." Kulokhu, usuku lwakho kuzofanela luqhubeke nenothi elihle. Futhi ngokhonkolo: "Ngithole iphesenti lokuthengiselana namuhla (a) (a) iphesenti lokuthengiselana (shayela)" noma "Ngisebenza ngempumelelo (a) "Ngidlule ukuhlolwa (ngaleso sikhathi esifundweni)." Izenzo ezinjalo zizokusiza unqobe izikhathi ezingezinhle zansuku zonke kanye ne- "Grey Weekdays".
- Kusihlwa ungabiza iziqinisekiso zokuphuma. Kuyadingeka ukwenza ukuze ukuvuka kwakho kulula. Ukuze wenze lokhu, kufanele uhlale egumbini lodwa nawe futhi ngaphambi kokulala, umemezele kaningana "Ngavuka emzaneni omuhle kakhulu ekuseni." Ngakho-ke ungasindisa isimo sakho sengqondo, futhi ngeke uwele ekucindezelekeni kuzo zonke izinhlobo zezinto ezinhle.
- Iziqinisekiso zansuku zonke ziyakwazi ukuguqula indlela yakho yokuphila ukuze ingaziwa. Uma ungagculisekile ngendawo lapho kufanele usebenze khona, bese wenza amabinzana "ukuze asebenze". Ufuna ukuyishintsha bese uthola enye indawo "yesinkwa"? Bese ngithi la mazwi alandelayo ekuseni nakusihlwa: "Ngithole umsebenzi okhokhelwa kakhulu emphefumulweni" noma "ngathola ukuthi ngaqala ukuthola iholo elikhulu emsebenzini." Lapho nje ufinyelela inhlala-kahle yezezimali, uzoqala ukuzihlonipha, ungaya eholidini futhi uthenge izingane izipho eziningi.
- Amagama amahle ayakwazi okuningi. Musa ukuhlehlisa izinguquko ukuze kube ngcono. Kunabantu abafuna ukuguqula kakhulu indlela yabo yokuphila. Kulokhu, iziqinisekiso ezilandelayo zisizwa: "Ngashintsha impilo yami ngathi ngicebile (oh), muhle (oh) futhi ngiphumeleli (oh)" noma lutho engiludingayo. " Bazolungisa ukwazi kwakho, uzovele uqhubeke nomgwaqo omusha futhi. Ukuze wenze lokhu, udinga isifiso, futhi kuzovela uma kuvela imizwa.
- Iziqinisekiso zingaqukatha amagama wokubonga. Kungashiwo ukuthi le yindlela engcono kakhulu yokucela umkhathi "konke ngokushesha." Njengoba wonke umuntu azi, ingqondo ephezulu ayibekezeleli ubuhle. Futhi uma unesizotha futhi uveza amazwi okubonga empilweni yakho kuphela, izenzo ezinjalo zizothola impendulo enhle. Uma ufuna ukubonga indawo yonke ngokukunikeza ingxenye encane yesikhathi sokuphila kulomhlaba, khona-ke ngaphambi kwala magama alandelayo njalo kusihlwa ngaphambi kokulala: "Ngibonga indawo yonke enginakho" nokuthi "ngiyajabula ( kanye) okuzalwe futhi bahlala phakathi kwabantu "noma" ngithanda wonke umuntu - bobabili abantu nezilwane. " Impilo yakho uqobo izogcwaliswa ngezikhathi ezinhle nemizwa ehambisana nezinto ezilula kakhulu. Uzojabula futhi uphilile.
- Iziqinisekiso ezinhle kakhulu kusihlwa. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi ebusuku ukwazi kwethu kuhlelwa kakhulu ukuxhumana nesikhala. Ephusheni, sixhuma kwelinye lonke livela endaweni yonke. Ngakho-ke, amaphupho eza kithi. Kusho ukuthini? Lokhu kusho ukuthi udinga ukusebenzisa lewashi ukufeza izinhloso zakho. Ngemishozelo ethokozisayo ethokomele ethokozisayo odinga ukuhlala egumbini lodwa, khanyisa umlilo (kuyasiza ukusungula konke ukuxhumana okudingekayo), ziqale ukukhuluma ngamagama anjalo: "Ngiyawuthanda." Ake sisho le nkulumo kasikhombisa. Ngakho-ke uphakamisa izinga lakho lamandla. Lapho nje lokhu kwenzeka, ungaphikisa izicelo. Isibonelo, "Ngicebile (a) futhi ngihlala ngithola engikufunayo." Okulandelayo, shayela noma inani ofuna ukulithola, noma cela umsebenzi wakho ukuthi uhambe "ukhuphuke." Kungashiwo ukuthi: "Ngithole (a) noma ngithole amadola ayizinkulungwane eziyishumi noma ama-ruble." Uma ukhethe umsebenzi, bese usho lokhu okulandelayo: "Ngaba (a) futhi (igama lesikhundla ofuna ukusithola)."
Ekuphetheni, kuyadingeka ukungeza leyo "mlobi" iziqinisekiso yilezo ezikwazi ukuletha esiphelweni sakho solwandle. Ungacabangi ukuthi kulomhlaba yonke into iyadida futhi ayinakufinyeleleka. Uma ungakholelwa ukuthi isimangaliso singenzeka kuwe, khona-ke ungapheli amandla.
Umkhathi uhlakaniphile futhi unomusa, okuthi futhi nawe "ungasebenza" amandla aphezulu kakhulu. Ungakhohlwa ukubuza, futhi izicelo zakho zizolalelwa.
Ukuthola okuthile, udinga kancane - lokhu kuyinto efuna kakhulu. Ingqondo yomuntu ayifundwa ngokuphelele, akekho owaziyo ukuthi angaziphatha kanjani esimweni esithile. Uma abantu abahlakaniphile beza ne-NLP kanye neziqinisekiso, khona-ke le mikhuba inelungelo lokuba khona nokusetshenziswa.
