Uthando luyimizwa enhle, kepha lapho omunye wabalingani eqala ukwenza izimfuno ezengeziwe kokhethwe wakhe, onomona ngazo futhi ngaphandle kwesizathu, khona-ke inyunyana enjalo ingaba seduze kwengxenye yokwehlukana. Ukusuka kowesifazane unaka kangakanani ngomlingani wakhe, impilo yabo ehlanganayo ezayo incike.
I-Psychology ngomona wesifazane
Kukholakala ukuthi umhawu umuzwa owukubonakaliswa kothando. Kepha akulungile. Umuntu obona lo muzwa ungumnikazi kanye ne-egoist, ngaphandle kwalokho, engazethembi. Owesifazane onomona ukhonkolo kakhulu futhi usola. Ubona ukuvukela umbuso kuzo zonke izenzo zomlingani kanye namasosha akhe namasosha akhe yinto enhle yokonakalisa impilo hhayi kuphela kumlingani wakhe, kodwa futhi nabanye.
Ngokomqondo womhawu, akuveli kulelo ndoda ezithanda yena, kepha ofuna ukumthanda.
Ochwepheshe bezengqondo bathi umhawu emithanjeni emincane "yethamo" uwusizo kakhulu. Ivumela bobabili ababambisene ukuba babe "kuTonus".
Lo muzwa uvela ngenxa yokwesaba ukulahlekelwa isithandwa sakhe, yize, imvamisa, umhawu ngomndeni uqobo ungaphazamisa isifungo sokwethembeka.
Umhawu kwabesifazane ungavezwa ngezindlela ezihlukile. Ukubuyekezwa okuthile kuqala ukulandela ingxenye yabo yesibili, funda imiyalezo, ukuqasha abaseshi bokungasese. Bakwenza buthule, kancane kancane "ukushayela" ngokwabo kusuka ngaphakathi.
Enye isigaba seLadies, kunalokho, igeleza yaba yi-hysterics, izenzo zazo ziba ngokungalawuleki. Ngemuva kwenhlaka elandelayo, bangakhuluma nendoda futhi bathole isizathu sokungaqondi. Kepha kuyakuba njalo kuze kube kuqubuka okulandelayo komhawu.
Izimbangela
Ngokusho kochwepheshe bezengqondo, izimfuneko zokuvela komhawu zivela ebuntwaneni. Kuya ngokuthi le ntombazane yakhuliswa kuphi. Ngiseyingane, lezi zimfanelo namanje azikhonyiswa kahle, kepha, umuntu omdala, owesifazane uqala ukusesha ekuziphenduleni nasekusekeleni umlingani wakhe impilo. Ithonya lomunye labesifazane liboniswa nguye emabeleni, ngoba kufanele abe ngowalo ngokugcwele.
Izimbangela zesikhwele zingehluke kakhulu.
- Ukungabi nabulungisa. Ukuhamba noma uhlala nomlingani womshado womphakathi, owesifazane uyazibona naye njengomunye. Bangumbhangqwana futhi kufanele ukuba ngokuhlukile okungomunye. Uma umyeni eqala ukubukela "kwesobunxele", wephula indlela edaliwe, futhi etholwa ngowesifazane onjengezinto ezinjengabulungiswa.
- Ukukhaphela. Owesifazane udala umhlaba wawo okhethekile emphefumulweni, lapho bobabili abalingani benezintshisakalo ezifanayo, impilo, izimfihlo ezijwayelekile. Uma eqala ukusola ukuthi inyunyana iyawa, uzizwa esengumnikeli. Abaningi babona ngobuhlungu "ukukhaphela" kusuka kumlingani futhi basebenzise inkinga lapho kungenjalo. Ukubheka intombi edlula intombazane, izingxoxo nozakwethu, ukuphuza itiye elihlanganyelwe emsebenzini kuzobonakala njengokungaziphathi kahle njengokukhaphela.
- Umuzwa wokuba phansi. Owesifazane uqala ukuziqhathanisa nabanye, ngenkathi ethola inqwaba yezakhiwo. Uma kwenzeka eminyakeni emincane yancishwa abafana, kwandisa isimo. Kubukeka ngaye ukuthi umyeni angathola umlingani omuhle kakhulu, ohlakaniphile, othambile, owesabekayo. Wabheka eduze okhethiwe wakhe, abe semanzini anovalo, ekhathazekile ukuze angathwali abanye besifazane.
- Enye yezizathu zoMhawu umuzwa wokuziqhenya okuncishwe amathuba. Lawa mantombazane, kunalokho, azenzele ngokungadingekile nokuqwashisa ukuthi umlingani adonsela ukunaka kwimbangi, kubaholele ekuthukutheleni. Bajwayele ukuba yisizinda sokunakwa ngaso sonke isikhathi, ukuheha imibono yamanye amadoda ngokwabo, ukubukeka kwabo ngokucophelela. Ukuqonda ukuthi indoda yakhe iqala ukunganaki izibonakaliso hhayi kuye, kepha umphikisi, imholele ekufuneni, angaqala ukuziphindisela umyeni wakhe noma imbangi yakhe.
- Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa inhlala-kahle ebonakalayo, umyeni adala ngayo. Abesifazane abanjalo bavame ukuhlala ekhaya nezingane, ukuba nezindlela ezengeziwe zokuba khona. Indoda ingukuphela komthombo weholo kuye. Unomona ngaye kuwo wonke umuntu ongaludinga usizo lwakhe lwezezimali.
- Wesaba ukuhlala wedwa. Abesifazane abaningi besaba ukuhlala ngaphandle komlingani, ikakhulukazi njengoba kunezibonelo eziningi, lapho amantombazane amahle amahle ehlala eyedwa eqedwa. Lapho esethole okhethiweyo wakhe, baqala ukumqapha, ngenkathi umoba ngokuphepha.
Isizathu somhawu kungaba ukuswela njalo kwendlu yomlingani kanye nokuba khona kwayo njalo.
Uma abashadikazi behlala bendawonye ekhaya futhi emsebenzini, khona-ke noma yisiphi isimo esingesijwayelekile singabonakala njengokuvukela umbuso. Endabeni lapho umlingani evame ukushiya umlingani, awunalo ithuba lokulawula ukuthi ubani, okuholela futhi ekungathembi nalukwethemba.
Izibonakaliso
Isibonakaliso esikhulu somona wabesifazane ukubhekisisa njalo ngezenzo zendoda. Kepha zikhona ezinye "izimpawu" zalesi simo.
- Ukuphaphama okungapheli. Ebunyeni obunjalo, owesifazane uqala ukulawula umlingani wakhe. Uyazi ukuthi usebenzisa kuphi futhi naye isikhathi esihlangana naye emsebenzini. Lokhu kuvezwa ukulawula izingcingo zakhe, ukufunda i-SMS. Unkosikazi uqala wamangalela umyeni wakhe kunoma yisiphi isimo, afanelana nezimo eziphathelene nangokuthi ngaphandle kwesizathu, ngaphandle kokunikeza umyeni wakhe ukuba ahlangane nabangane - ngemuva kokuthi bonke abesifazane bengaba khona.
- "Umsebenzi" wokucabanga. Ukuhlala ekhaya kuphela, oshade naye eqala ukumela ukuthi umyeni ngalesi sikhathi angakushintsha. Imicabango enjalo ingaba ngokoqobo kangangokuba iletha umfazi ukuba aphasise. Ingxoxo elula yocingo nomuntu osebenza naye angavusa ukuhlaselwa komhawu kumkakhe. Kukhulisa ingcindezi, amakhanda aqala.
- Ukumangalela kuye. Owesifazane onomona uqala ukusola umlingani wakhe. Yena naye kufanele afakazele ukuthi akunjalo. Ngemuva kwesikhashana, lesi simo siphindaphinde siphindaphinde ama-Finals afanayo.
- Ukugoqa. Akufanele akhiphe indawo yesehlakalo nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, kunoma iyiphi inkampani. Ngeke ikhethe izinkulumo, inciphise izwi noma ukushintsha ukuqonda. Intokazi enjalo ayinamahloni ngamazwi noma kuphi, kungakhathalekile ukuthi sinjani.
Owesifazane uzolawula umlingani wakhe, ume yena ukuze aqhubeke nomsebenzi. Angaze eza ehhovisi ukuzoqiniseka ukuthi amazwi oshade naye ayiqiniso. Isimo singakhula uma umyeni wakhe esebenza eqenjini elinabesifazane abasebasha abancane. Umona weManiacal akazazi izithiyo. Owesifazane uzolwela indoda yakhe, yize kungekho zidingo zalokhu.
Ungabhekana Kanjani?
Kufanele kube nokusebenza njalo kuwe. Ingubo yakudala engenamusa noma yekhanda le-rash-hair ayiphefumulelwa muntu. Owesifazane kufanele athande ukukhombisa kwakhe esibukweni. Uma anelisekile naye, kuzoba nokuncoma okhethiwe wakhe.
Kulabo abangagculiseki kahle ngokuzindla kwabo, abalungisa izinwele, ama-stylists bayosindisa. Uhambo oluya esikhungweni sokuqina lungafanele futhi luhlehlise isikhathi eside.
Owesifazane uqala ukudala izithombe ezingekho ekhanda, ngaleyo ndlela azibhubhise. Kwe-Psychology kukhona igama elinjalo ngokuthi "Okwesithathu Omfundi".
Iqembu lengozi lifaka abesifazane abahlushwa izifo ezingalapheki kanye nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo, kanye nabantu abane-psyche ebucayi.
- Amantombazane amadala ahlushwa ukuphazamiseka kwe-sclerotic. Ukwazi ukuthi ngeke bakwazi ukukhumbula okuningi, bayaqiniseka ukuthi bakhohlisiwe futhi bayabashintsha.
- Abesifazane abagula kakhulu. Bakholelwa ukuthi akekho odingekayo futhi owayenzelwe yonke imithwalo, imbongi nganoma yiziphi izindlela zidonsela ukunakekela bona.
Ungaqhubeki umhawu.
Lokhu kusho ukuthi udinga ukufunda ukunikeza uthando lwami kumlingani, futhi ungakufuni kuye. Kuyadingeka ekubonisweni kokuqala komhawu ukushayela imicabango ecasulayo.
Umphumela
Ukubonakaliswa komhawu ngokweqile kungadala ukulimala okungathi sína kwezempilo. Ekuhlaselweni kokuqala kukhona umthwalo omkhulu ohlelweni lwezinhliziyo kanye nezinzwa. Ukungavikeleki kwehla, ukungasebenzi kahle kwenzeka emsebenzini wezitho zangaphakathi. Abesifazane bahlakulela ukukhuluphala, ukuhlaselwa yisifo senhliziyo, unhlangothi, ukuwohloka okuningana.
Owesifazane kufanele ahlaziye isimo samanje ukubona ukuthi kungukuthi ukusolwa kwangempela kanjani. Uma izimpawu zokujezi zibalulekile, futhi yena angazilawula, ungazama ukubaphatha ngamahlaya, noma ngefilosofi.
Uma kungumhawu weparanoid, engalawulwa, khona-ke kufanelekile ukufuna usizo kochwepheshe.
Ukusiza oshade naye ukuthi abhekane nenkinga, umyeni kufanele abonise ukubekezela nokuvinjwa. Kulokhu, kuzobona ukuthi asikho isizathu sokukhathazeka. Phakathi kombhangqwana, ukwethembana kufanele kuphakame, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuxhumana kaningi komunye nomunye, xoxa ngezinkinga ndawonye.
Imvamisa, umhawu uvuka ngenxa yokuzethemba okuphansi, ngakho-ke umlingani kufanele ahlale enomuzwa wokuthi kubaluleke kangakanani kuye njengowesifazane. Kudingeka 'uphathe umphefumulo wakhe.
Nganoma iyiphi indlela, udinga ukuthola i-Golden Maild, kubalulekile ukuthi ozakwethu bethembane futhi abanasizathu isizathu somhawu. Ukuze ufinyelele ukuvumelana ebudlelwaneni, kufanelekile ukuthola indlela yokuphuma ezimweni ezinzima. Kuphela-ke ungasindisa ukuzethemba nothando komunye nomunye.
Okuningi ngomhawu wabesifazane nokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nakho, bheka ividiyo engezansi.