Umona ungenye yemizwa yasendulo eyayikhona kumuntu. Ekuseni kokuzalwa kwempucuko, lo muzwa uvunyelwe ukudala izizwe: umhawu kanye nokusabela ngolaka kwabesilisa akuzange kuvumele abanye abesilisa abasebenza ngocansi olunamandla ukuze baqhubeke nobuso belangabi. Khona-ke umhawu waholela ekwakhekeni komndeni oyedwa. Kepha lokhu umuzwa wasendulo akasishiyi wedwa kanye nabantu besikhathithu, futhi esimweni esisodwa, kuzwakala cishe kuyo yonke into, kungakhathalekile ubulili, iminyaka yobudala kanye nomsebenzi. Kulesi sihloko, sizokhuluma ngokuthi singabhekana kanjani nalo muzwa onzima kakhulu futhi siyeke ukuphazamiseka wena nezinsolo ezizungezile.
Ngabe umhawu oholelani nokuthi kungani kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ulwe?
Umhawu empilweni yethu awugcini ebudlelwaneni bothando. Kunomhawu wezingane, kukhona umhawu kubangani, osebenza nabo. Noma yiziphi zalezi zinhlobo zibonakala ngesivunguvungu esinamandla ngokomzwelo. Imizwa yomuntu onomhawu ingehlukile kuma-nuances; Ngokuvamile, noma yimuphi umhawu uhlala wakhelwa ngemizwa emibili eyinhloko: Ngokwesaba ukulahlekelwa okuthile (uthando, into yalolu thando, ukubaluleka kwalo, igunya nesisindo) kanye nentukuthelo okuhloswe ngalo kulokhu, okungokwakho kuphela.
Noma ngabe kuyadingeka ukusho ukuthi intukuthelo, futhi ukwesaba kuyimizwa ebhubhisayo, ebhubhisa kancane kancane umuntu nempilo hhayi kuphela abanomona, kodwa futhi ababa nomhawu. Lokhu kuyabonakala ikakhulukazi endabeni ye-paranoid, umhawu ongenampilo, ngenxa yalokho ukubulala nokuzibulala okuvame ukufezeka.
Kwi-Psychology, izinhlobo eziningi zomhawu zihlukaniswa, ngamunye wengozi ngendlela yawo. Isazi sanamuhla sokusebenza kwengqondo uDaniel Puertas, ofingqwana nemisebenzi kaSigmund Freud nabanye ochwepheshe abadumile futhi baletha umbono wabo emcabangweni owodwa emazwini alula futhi anembile.
Umona we-paranoid - Isimo sobunzima bezengqondo, ukuphazamiseka okukhohlisayo kwe-paranoid-deanciation yomuntu, lapho indoda enomona iqiniseka ngokulinganayo ku-TRESABO, futhi ingacabanga ukuthi i-classifier izama ukumbutha noma ukuqeda ngandlela thile.
Umhawu we-narcissical - Isimo lapho umhawu wesaba ukulahlekelwa yinto yothando, njengengxenye yobuntu bakhe, uvezwa kakhulu uthando olukhulu, hhayi komunye umuntu.
- Umhawu we-psychopathic - Isimo se-psychopathy, esiyingozi kakhulu kubo bonke ababambiqhaza kulesi simo, sibonakaliswa ukungacabangi kokuphendula okunoshukela nokuzivikela kokuhlaselwa kwentukuthelo.
Umhawu we-marochistic - Ukuhlupheka ngenxa yokuhlupheka. Uma kungekho ukuvukela umbuso, "kubahlushwa" futhi zizisola ngokwakhe, ngaphandle kokubonisa ubudlova, kepha ukuzama ukuhawukela nxazonke.
USchizoid Umhawu - Kuboniswa abantu abancane abangakhungathekayo abasendleleni yabo yokugcina imibono ngokuvukela kwabo, ngoba ibanikeza unembeza ohlanzekile ukuze ulondoloze ibanga lomlingani.
Umhawu we-hysterical - Njalo ukukhathazeka kuphela ngokomzimba, ukuvukela ngokobulili (okuqanjiwe noma okungokoqobo), ngenkathi imizwa yezinzwa zothando nothando ayihlobene nezwe, okungukuthi, umona, onomona ngomhawu ukhathazekile ngeqiniso lokuvukela umbuso komzimba. Uqhubeka ngobudlova.
- Umhawu we-Ossential-Compestive - "Umsebenzi", izibopho zangaphakathi ezisolwayo. Iningi lakhiwa ngenxa yemibono ebekelwe ebuntwaneni ukuthi kungenzeka ukukhombisa uthando kuphela lapho kufinyelelwe khona izimo ezithile (izifundo zifundwa, igumbi liyasuswa). Kubonakaliswa isiko elishubile, nsuku zonke: hlola umlingani wefoni, thola ukuthi ngubani owambhalela, lapho ayembhalele khona.
Emsebenzini wanamuhla wezengqondo, kunezinhlobo eziningi zomhawu ngombala wazo ongokomzwelo. Ukuzimisela kohlobo kubaluleke kakhulu ukuze uqonde ukuthi ungamsiza kanjani umuntu ukuba asuse imicabango nokuziphatha okulimazayo.
Okumhlophe - Hhayi i-pathological, hhayi umhawu obuhlungu, ohlukile ngezikhathi ezithile kuwo wonke umuntu ojwayelekile wengqondo. Akunakuhlukumezeka, izinsolo ngokweqile, ukungathembani okumangalisayo, ukuziphatha okuyingozi. Umona wanele, ulalela izwi lengqondo, kuya ezimpikiswaneni, amaqiniso. Imvamisa, umhawu onjalo ukuvumela ukuba 'uvuselele' ubuhlobo ku-pair, ikakhulukazi uma behlala isikhathi eside.
-Luhlaza okwesibhakabhaka - Umona onezimpawu zokukhathazeka okwandayo. Uma ungamsizi umuntu, ungaguqulwa ube yinkinga ye-neurotic. Kubonakaliswa ukwephulwa kokuqonda okujwayelekile, ukuhlaselwa kwezinyembezi, imizwa yokudangala, ukuphazamiseka kokulala.
-Yimpatho - Eseduze kwe-pathology yengqondo, ngoba umbono uphinde uzalwe kancane kancane. Imvamisa iqhubeka nokulwa nesizinda se-neurotic state esivele ikhona. Ngo-20% wamacala abantu, kungenzeka ukuthi "ubuyise" engokoqobo, ekuphumuleni - umhawu uyazalwa kabusha emyalweni.
- -Bomvu - Okuyingozi kakhulu, nge-pathological, paranoid. Ephelezelwa ukungabinangqondo, ngenkathi umuntu uqobo engahlukanisi iqiniso, futhi ubuwula bakhe bubheka ukuphela kweqiniso. Idinga ukwelashwa kwengqondo, imvamisa ngokusetshenziswa kwemithi.
Ingozi enkulu yanoma yiluphi uhlobo lomhawu eqinisweni lokuthi ubuhlobo obukhona bubhujiswa, impilo yokuvukelayo iyawa, nalowo oba "yisisulu" sakhe. Uyacelwa ukuthi uqaphele, kwizibalo zokucatshangelwa ngo-30%, futhi zichithe ubudlelwano, kufaka phakathi kaningi futhi ngenxa yomhawu komunye wabalingani - kuze kube ngu-45%.
Lokhu umuzwa wakudala, uma kungakuvimbanga ngesikhathi, kungahlehlisa impilo yabantu. Ezingeni lengqondo, i-paranoia, i-schizophrenia, ezifweni ze-psychososomatic - ukwephulwa kwezifo zombono zombono, ukuzwa, kungakhulisa.
Kepha ngisho nasesigabeni sokuqala, isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuthuthukiswa kwesifo noma ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo, umhawu ubangela izinguquko zomzimba: Le ndoda iqala ukulala okubi kakhulu, isifiso sakhe siyahlupheka, sihlakazeka futhi singenasici konke okungahlangene nakho konke okuhlobene nomhawu wakhe, futhi kuhlobene nanoma yiziphi izinto ezincane ezingaba nobuhlobo nazo.
Ungawunqoba kanjani umhawu ongenasisekelo?
Uma amasu akho engafakwanga kwisehlukaniso, ehlukana, egumbini esibhedlela sezengqondo ukuze athole ukwelashwa ngokwengqondo, futhi futhi unombono othile wokuthi kuzodingeka ulandele umlingani ukuthola ubufakazi bakhe, isikhathi sokucabanga ukuthi ungathola kanjani Susa lo muzwa ongathandeki futhi onobungozi.
Njengoba umhawu wesilisa nowesifazane unomehluko othile ezimweni ezithile nasezimweni zokubonakaliswa, izincomo zokuqothula zihlukile kulabo nabanye.
Isibindi
Isikhwele sabesilisa sivame ukuhlotshaniswa ngokuqondile nokuzithemba okuthintekayo. Kungakho imicabango ebhubhisayo itshelwa ngokuthi omunye umuntu angaba ngcono embhedeni, angathola okuningi. Indlela enengqondo kunazo zonke esimweni esinjalo sokuba isitezi esinamandla sizokwandisa ngokwakho. Bhalisela ejimini, ulethe umzimba wakho ngesimo esihle, ushintshe umsebenzi ukuze uthakazelise ngokwengeziwe (futhi mhlawumbe kangcono kunalokho okukhokhelwayo), gxuma nge-adrenachute eyeqile: gxuma ngeparachute, iya ezintabeni , ndiza ama-paraglids. Uma kungamukeleki kuwe, thola izinto zokuzilibazisa ezingaphansi, into esemqoka ukuthi iphakamisa inani lakho emehlweni akho.
Uma umuzwa wokuhlupheka uvuka ngenxa yokuba khona kwakhe okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe okungesikhathi esedlule (wayekade eshintshe umngane noma unkosikazi), kufanele ahlulelwe ngokuphilile futhi aqonde ukuthi noma yini yakho yamanje ayinalutho okufanele ibonwe ngokuphelele Khokhela izenzo zandulela kwakho.
Cabanga, ngoba ukukhethe kahle, hhayi omunye. Lokhu kusho ukuthi ubudlelwano nawe buqonde ngaphezu kwalokho obungabonakala ekuqaleni. Abesifazane baboshelwe kakhulu ekuzwaneni kwekhaya, emndenini, nasekushintsheni, ngokwezibalo, ikakhulukazi amadoda.
Yekani ukusola, hlola ifoni yayo ephathekayo lapho isendlini yokugezela, funda imiyalezo yayo kanye nokuqhuma kwayo emlandweni wezindawo zokuvakasha. Uma efuna impendulo embuzweni wokuthi ungaba kanjani nezocansi ngokwengeziwe, akusho ukuthi intombazane yanquma ukwandisa ubulili bayo komunye umuntu. Ngokunokwenzeka okukhulu, ukukwenzela wena.
Mayelana nakho konke okukhathazayo, kungcono ukukhuluma ngokukhululekile. Lokhu kuzosiza ukuletha ukuzethemba ebudlelwaneni bokuthi abesifazane babongwa kakhulu futhi bazokusiza ukuba ulahle umhawu ongenasisekelo. Kuyanconywa futhi ukuthi zisebenzise izindlela zokuvikelwa kwengqondo ekuhlaselweni okusha komhawu. Bona wonke umcabango mayelana nokungakhathali okungenzeka kwentombi, indoda, enokuzalwa kwayo ekucabangeni kokucabanga, udinga ukuthola okungenani izingxabano ezintathu ezinengqondo, ukuphikisana kweqiniso.
Isibonelo: "Akazange abambezeleka emsebenzini!" - Izimpikiswano ze-Logic kungenzeka zibe zinjalo: "Inhlangano yakhe ngalesi sikhathi ayisebenzi", "Ngakubona kuphuma emsebenzini ngaphambi kwesikhathi futhi ngikwazi ukuqondiswa okungaziwa", "Ngiyazi ngokuqinisekile ukuthi unesithandwa sakhe!" . Uma kungekho bufakazi balezi zingxabano, akukho lutho oluzokhathazeka ngalo. Esitatimendeni ngasinye, kuhlale kukufanele ukuzikhulela wena: Yebo, walibaziseka, kodwa waxwayisa ngokuthi uzofika kamuva, ngoba kwadingeka ahambe nentombi esiya esitolo noma afonele umama wakhe. Wethembe umlingani. Ubuchopho besilisa obunengqondo ngaso sonke isikhathi bazama ukulandela "ukucabanga kobumsulwa."
Uma kungekho lutho olusizayo, futhi umhawu wawubuthi ngokoqobo impilo yakho, futhi nawe, uzama ukuyiphuza bonke abasolwane ngayo, futhi kulokhu kubaluleke kakhulu kuye, futhi kulokhu okukule: Psychotherapists banezindlela eziningi zokusiza nge-pathological umhawu ngaphandle kwesizathu.
Intombi
Isici somhawu wabesifazane - kuma-hypertrophies wokuhlangenwe nakho kwangaphakathi. Ngisho nesejwayelekile, "umhawu" omhlophe ungadala ubulili obulungile kummeleli wobulili obuhle kuya ku-rummage ocingweni lomlingani wakhe, ukufika eqinisweni. Lapha, into esemqoka ukungahleleki kabusha, ngoba lona wesifazane kusukela okujwayelekile futhi okulinganiselayo kuya komona we-pathological isinyathelo esisodwa.
Umhawu wabesifazane uvame ukuhlotshaniswa nomuzwa wokusongelwa kwezwe lomndeni. Kubukeka ngaye ukuthi indlela ejwayelekile iyophuka nakanjani uma umyeni ehlela "kwesokunxele", futhi njengakubantu, isimo sithonye ukuzihlola.
Okufanele ukwenze - Umbuzo akulula. Qala kangcono ngokwenza ngcono ukuzethemba: Yenza i-hairstyle yakho oyithandayo, uvuselele ikhabethe lakho, ulahlekelwe amakhilogremu athile, uzitholele into oyithandayo futhi ethokozisayo. Lokhu kuzosiza ukungaphazamisi kuphela imicabango nokusolwa okungathandeki, kepha futhi kuzokhulisa inani lakho emehlweni ozakwethu.
Kwabesifazane, indlela engenangqondo ilungele kahle kakhulu. Ngomcabango ngamunye ongemuhle, owesifazane umane kufanele aphikise ukuthi akukho lutho olunjengona ngempela, futhi kungumdlalo nje.
Khuluma nomlingani. Umuntu ofanele nonothando uzokwazi ukuqonda imizwa yakho, futhi uzokwazi ukuqeda ukungabaza. Gwema inhlolovo, inani elikhulu lezingcingo ngosuku ngesidingo sokusho ukuthi le ndoda seyini manje esenzayo. Futhi ngokuqinisekile awudingi ukumba emotweni yakhe noma ifoni: imizamo yokulawula nakanjani izobonakala, bese usuvele uwele esimweni esingakhululeki.
Zama ukuhlela ukusebenzisana okuningi: Kusuka emkhankasweni kuya esitolo ndawonye (awukwazi ukudlulisa iphakethe ngemikhiqizo esiqwini, kunzima!) Ngaphambi kokubuka umdlalo webhola we-mug. Sivame ukuzibuza ngokwengeziwe ukuthi yini ehehayo endodeni, funda ukuhlukanisa umbhoxo kusuka ku-basketball, mbonise ukuthi uthanda ngempela into yokuzilibazisa. Futhi-ke izinga lokuzethemba lizokhula, futhi kuzoba nezizathu ezimbalwa zokusolwa.
Kuthiwani uma bevuka?
Wonke umhawu othintekayo ongenhla awunangqondo, hhayi ukuba nenhlabathi. Kepha kuthiwani uma kunesizathu noma ucabanga ukuthi unjani? Kulokhu, kunzima kakhulu ukubhekana nemizwa engemnandi. Masichaze ngokushesha ukuthi isizathu somhawu singase sibe nenhloso futhi sibe khona. Esimweni sokuqala, isizathu esisheshayo sosola ukungahambi kahle sisesimweni esithile sokuziphatha (sasusa indandatho, akuthathi ukuhlaselwa okunobungane nemihlangano, kuzama ukugwema ukusondelana okusondele kakhulu, AKUFUNI ukulala, emotweni kusobala ukuthi othile ushayela, ngaphandle kwakho, njengoba isihlalo sisuswa ngendlela engajwayelekile, njll; ekugcineni, wena ngokwakho wabona umlingani onomphikisi (imbangi). Imvamisa kukhona okuningana Izizathu ezinjalo, amandla awo ahlanganisiwe.
Izizathu ezihlaselayo ziyizihloko zakho. Unethemba lokuthi umlingani ushintsha kuphela ngoba ubambezeleka emsebenzini, yize futhi bayazi ukuthi unomsebenzi ongeyenakele. Ucabanga ukuthi ukuvukela umbuso kungaba kuphela ngoba ukuya ocansini emndenini sekuncane; Ngasikhathi sinye, akukhumbuli ukuthi umlingani angaba nezinkinga, okubandakanya nempilo, ukuthi empeleni angakhathala.
Kunzima kakhulu ukuhlukanisa ngezinye izinhloso ezintweni ezibonakalayo. Kepha indlela ephuma esimweni ayikho kangako:
Misa "ukukopela", wenqaba izinsolo kanye nokumangalela, ukunqoba imizwa yawo engemihle bese ubeka esikhundleni sawo.
Qala ukufuna ubufakazi bekhonkrithi nobungenakuphikwa bokuvukela umbuso.
Esimweni sesibili, uzothola izizathu ezinhle zokuyeka umona uma i-ajulter ingatholi isiqinisekiso sayo. Kepha lokhu kungabiza kuwe: umlingani ofunde ngokungathembani angahlukana nawe bonke ubudlelwano.
Noma ngabe yiziphi izizathu onikezwe zona, zihlukile kumaqiniso anamashumi amabili nanye. Ngamunye wabo ungathola incazelo yesibili, enengqondo engahlangene ngalutho nokuvukela umbuso. Uma ubudlelwane bomgwaqo, ukubangenisa umlingani akukho sifiso, kungcono ukuzama ukubhekana nomhawu, ngaphandle kokujoyina indlela "yomseshi ozenzele ngayo".
Kuzoba nokufakwa okulula kulokhu:
Akekho umuntu okufanele ahambisane nokulindelwe kwakho;
Wonke umuntu unelungelo lezimfihlo zomuntu siqu, isikhala somuntu siqu kanye nesikhathi sabo samahhala, noma ngabe abantu beshadile, ngoba umshado awuyena ujele;
AmaJelies asheshe alahlekelwa inhlonipho kumlingani, kanye nokusuka komuzwa obalulekile, njengenhlonipho, akukho thando, ayikho enye indlela.
Uma uvame ukuyiphindaphinda futhi ungakwenzi lokho okungabhubhisa ukwethembana nenhlonipho, ngeke kube nzima kangaka ukuyeka umona, njengoba kubonakala. Uma kungekho kusola ukuthi kusolwa, akunakwenzeka ukwethemba, kukhona obunye ubunzima ebudlelwaneni, kungcono ukuxhumana nochwepheshe: udokotela wezengqondo noma i-psychotherapist mantson. Kuzoba kuhle uma okuthandayo (othandekayo) futhi uheha usizo lokuzisiza, futhi ucele umuntu obala ukuthi akwendlele kuleli bhizinisi elinzima - ukulwa nomhawu. Kulokhu unesifiso.
Ungayeka kanjani umhawu ngawo ngaphambili?
Imvamisa, nangemva kwesikhashana ngemuva kokunqanyulwa komshado noma ukunqanyulwa kobudlelwano, abashadikazi bangaphambili bayaqhubeka nokufudumeza umhawu wodwa kude. Kunalokho akunakuba nomhawu, kodwa "impindiselo" encane yalowo onamathemba angazange afezeke, ubudlelwano akwenzekanga. Ngasikhathi sinye, omunye wobambisene ubeka ubudlelwano bakhe obusha ezansi, kwenza konke okwathi ingxenye yakudala yazi ukuthi izinguquko zenzekile empilweni yomuntu ngamunye. Isifiso sokumbonisa (kuye) ukuthi awumubi kangangokuba (yena) uyakuqonda ukuthi uluhlobo luni lwesiphetho olulahlekile, kuyaqondakala futhi ngokwemvelo.
Kungani umlingani wesibili "eqala" kulokhu futhi aqala ngomona cishe ngempela? Igama elingukhiye lapha "cishe". Lesi akusona isikhwele esingaka, zingaki izinhlamba, ezingabizi kakhulu, ezingabizi, ezingabizi zona zangaphambili; Umuntu akacasulwa ukuthi umlingani wangaphambili wahlangana nomunye, kodwa iqiniso lokuthi "kuye, okuhle, ngokushesha lathola indawo!". Lokhu kukhale ukuqhosha okusengozini futhi akukho okunye.
Ukumboza ngefomu elinjalo lomhawu kulula impela: Yazi ukuthi uzizwa ethuka, futhi usakuqonda ukuthi lokhu kuthumba futhi kwakukhona inhloso yalowo owakukhombisa impilo yakhe entsha. Ungavumeli ukukhohlisa. Yekani ukuhlupheka futhi ubhekane nedivaysi yempilo yakho, ezongivumela ngemuva kwesikhathi esithile ukunikela nangomqondo ongamahora amaningi emizwelo engemnandi mayelana nokuthi unakho konke kahle.
Uhlobo oluhluke ngokuphelele lomhawu kulokhu okwedlule komuntu. Kunzima ikakhulukazi kwabesilisa nabesifazane abazihlanganisa nomlingani nomlingani onezingane ezivela emshadweni wangaphambilini, futhi okusekela ubudlelwane obunobungane nabafazi noma abayeni.
Ukungabaza kulesi simo akuhlali kungenasisekelo. Ukwakha ubudlelwano obuqinile nomlingani onjalo, kudingeka uqiniseke ukuthi ubudlelwano "lapho" buqediwe. Ngeshwa, abashadikazi bangaphambilini bavame ukuqhubeka nokuhlangana ngezikhathi ezithile futhi bajoyine othintana nabo kakhulu kungaba nje kwimemori yakudala yokukhuluma ingilazi yetiye. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kwaphela "ukulimala" okusobala "okunjalo", kodwa udinga ukulinda futhi uhlupheke? Uma ubudlelwano bungaqediwe ekugcineni - okwedlule kuvame ukubiza omunye komunye, kuvame ukubhala kabusha, kuhlangane - kuyadingeka ukubeka yonke into esendaweni yayo.
Uma umlingani enganikeli ngomona kwangaphambili, futhi imihlangano yalo ikhawulelwe emihlanganweni nezingane, ngaphandle kwalokho, unobuhlobo obukhulu, akufanele ulawule umlingani, awudingi ukumbona ngokufanayo umndeni. Akufanele, kuphansi futhi akulungile. Ukubhekana noMhawu kuzoba nakho kaningi, kepha kungenzeka ukuthi ukunqobe. Konke ukungaqondi kulokhu kuzosiza ukuxazulula ingxoxo yokuzethemba.
Ungalokothi uziqhathanise nabalingani bakudala kothandekayo wakho. Wena uhlukile (Okunye), futhi uma yena
Ungafunda Kanjani Kubangani Abanomona?
Lo mhawu obizwa ngokuthi unobuntu uyisimo phakathi kwabantu abadala nabazimele akuvamile, kuvame ukucacisa izingane nentsha. Uma umuntu omdala enomona ngomngane noma intombi komunye ojwayelene naye - lokhu kuwuphawu lokungavinjelwe ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo , ngenxa yokuthi umuntu wamane nje "wabambeka ebuntwaneni." Isimo salokho abangane abanjalo sivame ukuba nozwela njalo futhi sidabukisa, njengoba bezisola ngengane engenangqondo futhi ebabazekayo. Uma umngani eqala 'ngokungathandeki' ngokuqina kancane, lapho isihawu sithathelwa indawo ukucasuka kanye neqiniso lobungani lifakwa ngaphansi kophawu lwemibuzo olukhulu. Abaningi kulula ukususa umuntu onjalo embuthanweni wokuxhumana kunokuba abekezelele ama-whims akhe nomhawu.
Cabanga ngakho konke, uma kungazelelwe uzizwe icala futhi ubhuleke ngaphakathi komuzwa wentshiseko, uma umngani wakho osondelene naye, ehamba nabanye abangane ngokudoba, epikinikini noma olwandle, futhi (umuntu osondele kakhulu useqhamuka eKindergarten!) ungayifaki. Abangani abaphoqelekile komunye nomunye. Abaphoqelekile ukukhuluma ukuthi baya kuphi futhi bafuna ukuchitha usuku nobani. Ungawuphathi umuzwa wokunambeka kulokhu kungomusa.
Isikhwele esihluke ngokuphelele ngumhawu wama-halves akhe kubangani abakhona. Ngesikhathi esifanayo sinomona futhi kubalingani babo, futhi bahlanganyele ozakwabo. Kulula kakhulu ukudlala futhi ube ngumashiqela wangempela, ozophazamisa umkhankaso ohlanganyelwe wabangane nge-movie noma kwiklabhu, imihlangano yabafundi ekilasini nakwabafunda nabo ekilasini.
Qondisisa umlingani wakho ngeke abe nenjabulo kulokhu othako lokuba bonke abantu obajwayele, futhi ungakufaka esikhundleni sawo wonke ama-spectrum adingekayo. Ukushiya umlingani wedwa, ubeka engcupheni yokuthi ngelinye ilanga uzokushiya kuwe: AKUSEKHONA UKUHLAZIYA KULULA. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uyohlala esola eqinisweni lokuthi akanakho ukuxhumana ngaphandle kombuthano womndeni.
Ezimweni ezinomhawu wabangane nabangane abangaphezu kwengxenye yempumelelo esendleleni yokuyeka ukungajabuli - lokhu kuwukuqonda kobubi obungenzeki. Uma uqonda ukuthi akunakwenzeka, kusho uhhafu osondelene naye.
Funda ukuzibeka engqondweni ngokuba ngumlingani wakho. Futhi kulokhu, isimo singabukeka sihluke ngokuphelele. Le ndlela izodinga ikhono elithile, ukuqeqeshwa kwengqondo nokubekezela, kepha imiphumela ngeke izenze ukulinda. Ukususa umhawu - inqubo ihamba kancane.
Ungalokothi ucindezele amaphuzu abuthakathaka: "Sithole okuningi ngawe ndawonye, futhi wena ...", "lapho ngibi, ngoba ngikusizile!". Ubungani obuqotho nobuqotho akudingeki izikhumbuzo ezinjalo, umngani wami uyaziswa ngokungafanele ngosizo oluthile esimweni esithile, kodwa nje lokho - konke ngokuphelele, nazo zonke izenzo nezitatimende.
Uma usuphenduke isisulu somhawu onobungane, zama ukudlulisa yonke le micabango kumona Futhi futhi uqoke ngokucacile imikhawulo evunyelwe. Ungazigxeki, ungavumeli umngani akhohlise impilo yakho lapho unelungelo lokunquma ukuthi yini futhi enze kanjani.
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Uma uhlushwa umuzwa womhawu, izeluleko zochwepheshe bezengqondo abaqeqeshiwe bazomsiza. Zicabange ngamafuphi.
Ngokweqiniso bavuma ukuthi 'uyagula' futhi uphathe umhawu wakho ukuthi uzofa kanjani, okuzofanela ukwelapha.
Qiniseka ukuthi uzama ukuthola imbangela yemizwa yakho. Uma ungakwazi ukuthola isisusa ngokwakho, thintana nodokotela wezengqondo noma ubani omethembayo ukutshela konke futhi uthole izizathu ndawonye.
Qonda ngokusobala ukuthi yimiphi imizwa ephethwe nguwe ekuhlaselweni komhawu: icala, ukuziqhenya okungakaze kwenzeke, intukuthelo, ukwesaba noma omunye umuzwa. Lokhu kuzosiza ukulawula imizwa yakho.
Funda ukuzelapha kangcono: Thuthukisa, ufunde, ushintshe umsebenzi, isithombe, ufunde ukuzithanda esibukweni.
Hlela ngokucacile isikhathi sakho, zama ukuziboleka wena. Ubunikazi - inhlabathi evundile yemicabango ehlukahlukene ebonakalayo.
Yenza izinguquko ezinhle ebudlelwaneni nothandekayo wakho. Khumbula ukuthi intukuthelo ikhiqiza intukuthelo, futhi ukulawula okuphelele yisifiso sokugijima. Zama ukuhlanganyela imizwa emihle, futhi ukuphendula kuzothola okufanayo okuzosiza ukukhulisa izinga lokuthembela komunye nomunye.
Ungabhekana kanjani nomhawu nokuthi ungaliphatha kanjani, uzofunda kuvidiyo engezansi.