Iminyaka emihlanu yokuqala yokuphila kunye, kwisikhumbuzo sokuqala esibalulekileyo, amaqabane azama ukubhiyozela isikhumbuzo ngasinye. Kwiminyaka emibini emva komtshato, abancinci babhiyozela iphepha lomtshato. Kufanelekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba zeziphi izithethe kunye nezithethe ezikhoyo zokunika amaqabane.
Ngubani igama lesikhumbuzo?
Iminyaka emi-2 emtshatweni linyathelo lokuqala elinzima ukuya kwiminyaka emininzi yolonwabo lwentsapho. Isikhumbuzo sesibini somtshato sibizwa ngokuba ngabantu bephepha. Igama lobomi bomtshato ophakathi kwemini emibini lokomfuziselo. Emva kweminyaka emibini, ubudlelwane phakathi kwamaqabane azange bube namandla, babuthathaka kakhulu kwaye kulula ukwaphula, njengephepha.
Ngaphambili, esi sikhumbuzo sabizwa ngokuba yikotoni, kuba ubudlelwane phakathi kwezinto zisebuthathaka, imiphunga kunye ne-cotton ilaphu likulula ukungxama.
Ukuhlala kunye iminyaka emibini, amaqabane aqala nje ukuba aqhelene noluntu ngalunye, baqala ukufumana imikhwa kunye nezinto ozithandayo. Amaqabane amancinci akabubulumko ukuphepha iingxabano ezincinci kunye nengxabano, amancinane, amancinci ahlehlela phakathi kwabo. Kwaye ingxabano encinci inokwaphula ubudlelwane babo obuthathaka. Amaqabane azama ukuthintela ukungqubana, funda ukubanjwa ngakumbi, unomonde kwaye ulumkile. Uthando oluphindiweyo kunye nokuhlonipha uNcedo olungatshatanga kuphela ngovuyo lokubhiyozela usuku lwabo lwesibini lomtshato wabo, kodwa lufumana amandla namandla ukuze uphile ubomi obude nolonwabileyo. Isikhumbuzo sesibini sobomi obuhlanganisiweyo sisabizwa ngokuba ngabantu abancinci kuba abantu abancinci banokuqalisa inqanaba elitsha lokuphila kunye, njengoko besitsho, 'nephepha elicocekileyo ".
Ke ngoko, ngala mhla mthendeleko, amaqabane omfazi kufuneka acele uxolo, ashiye zonke izithsaba kunye neengxabano, qhubeka - ukufezekisa ubomi babo obonwabisayo.
Izithethe kunye namasiko
Kukho izithethe ezininzi ezinomdla ekufuneka zibhalwe ngakumbi. Ngolu suku, amaqabane amancinci afanele abhale kwiphepha elicocekileyo lephepha zonke iimpawu zesiqingatha se-, abangazithandiyo kwaphela. Emva kokuba umyeni wakhe nenkosikazi batshintshana amanqaku kwaye bazifunda ngokuvakalayo. Ngesiko, kufuneka lwenziwe kwitafile yomthendeleko okanye ubuncinci phambi kwabazali bakho. Abameli besi sizukulwana sikhulu kufuneka bancede amaqabane abancinci ukuba bayiqonde imeko, cebisa indlela yokuziphatha ukuze uxhathise ukungqubana kwimeko enye okanye kwenye. Omncinci kufuneka aphulaphule ngononophelo kwiingcebiso zabadala, kwaye emva kokufaka zonke iingcebiso ebomini.
Ukuba amaqabane amancinci akafuni ukusebenzisa izalamane kwiingxaki zabo, oko kukuthi, esinye isiko, ngakumbi. Kwakhona, umyeni nenkosikazi yakhe kuya kufuneka babhale onke amaxesha amachaphaza, zonke ezo thungu zibonakala ngathi zizinto eziluncedo kwinxalenye yabo yesibini. Emva kokuba kufuneka wenze iphepha kula maphepha, ezona nqwelo moya ziqhelekileyo esizenzayo ebomini. Nihambe kunye. Kuyacetyiswa ukuba uyenze ukusukela kusasa ukuze imini yonke idlulile. Ke, amaqabane akhutshwa ebomini babo konke okubi kakhulu kwaye ashiye ulonwabo kuphela, uthando novuyo.
Ngokwesiqhelo, ukubhiyozela kwesikhumbuzo kufuneka kuhonjiswe ngamanani okanye ngemibala yephepha. Ungayalela amaphepha amaphepha amahle okanye iintlobo ngeentyatyambo zephepha. Kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba usebenzise amanani oqobo ongunyaka wokuhombisa, nganye ibaluleke kakhulu. Emva kokubhiyozela umbhiyozo, qiniseka ukuba uza kuthatha nawe amanani ambalwa okanye imibala njengesikhumbuzo sephepha leminyaka kwaye njengophawu lwemanyano yakho nothando. Gcina ezovenkileni ezinjalo ngombhiyozo kwibhokisi okanye kwibhokisi entle.
Ngokwesiko, ngalo mhla, amaqabane aselula athambisa iimpahla ze-cotton ilaphu lemithunzi yokukhanya. Inkosikazi inokukhetha i-chatweight kwaye inxibe kakuhle ye-beige okanye nasiphi na esinye isibane esikhanyayo. Kwaye iqabane lifanele libeke ihempe yomthunzi omnye njengesinxibo somfazi wayo. Ukongeza, uninzi lwamaqabane azama ukumamela amakholwa amadala. Inye kuphela into ithi umfazi ufanele abe seholide kwizihlangu ezindala. Oko kukuthi, kuya kufuneka unxibe izihlangu ezintsha. Izihlangu zakudala, ezomeleleyo ziya kuba lubomi bomtshato odibeneyo.
Yangoku
NguBiennium wobomi bomtshato, indoda nomfazi wakhe kufuneka balungiselelene izipho. Ewe kunjalo, nayiphi na iholide ayikho ngaphandle kwemibala. Kule mibhiyozo yosapho, iqabane linokuzisa isidlo esingaqhelekanga esingaqhelekanga. Inokuba ziintyatyambo zephepha lepredi. Kodwa ukuba yayingaqhelekanga nangakumbi, unoku-odola isikhuselo esikhethekileyo seetshokholethi zetshokholethi ezimnandi. Ukuba ufuna ukunika iintyatyambo zethu eziphilayo eziqhelekileyo, emva koko uyenzele i-boqueet ukuba ingasongeli songanga. Ngoku unokufumana iphepha lokusongela iphepha elifana nephephandaba okanye iPapyrus yakudala.
Amaqabane osuku anokuthintela ngamnye umfuziselo, kwaye nezipho ezihlekisayo. Umzekelo, unoku-odola i-t-shirts hits kunye nezibhaliweyo "owona myeni" kunye "nomfazi obalaseleyo". Kuyenzeka ukutshintshiselana idiploma okanye idiploma apho iimpawu ezintle zomyeni nomfazi zakhe ziya kuboniswa. Kunokwenzeka ukuba u-odole ii-mugs ze-bhadi ezinombhalo wokuqala kunye nefoto yabo ekwabelwana ngayo.
Rhoqo kusasa, amaqabane aya kuba nakho ukusela ikofu okanye iti kwaye ukhumbule isikhumbuzo esidlulileyo ngobushushu.
Ukuba sithetha ngezipho ezisebenzayo, unganika umyeni wam idayari kwikhava ebiza kakhulu. Into enjalo iluncedo kwindoda nganye, kwaye le yangoku iya kuba yeyona nto iphambili yomtshato wephepha. Ukuba unqwenela, unoku-odola umbhalo otyunjiweyo okanye wesikhumbuzo esiphezulu. Kumfazi njengesipho, unokukhetha idayari, kodwa ayiqhelekanga. Ngoku unokufumana ngokulula iidayari ezahlukeneyo kwintengiso, kwiphepha ngalinye apho kukho imibhalo epholileyo. Ungayikhetha idayari "kwibhinqa leshishini", "i-blonde entle", "ngeendlela ezimnandi" kunye nabanye. Ukhetho lukhulu kwaye unokuhlala ufumana into eyiyo kwaye ilungele.
Ukongeza, unganika umbala omnye. Ngoku bathengisa ukukhetha ngokuthe ngqo kubantu abadala sele beneseti yeepensile zombala. Ukutya okunjalo kuyanceda ukujamelana nemincili, phumla kwaye uzole. Kwaye kukho imibala ekhethekileyo enezangqa zemilingo kwiinguqulelo zeyona minqweno ixabisekileyo. Ngoncedo lokungaqhelekanga, ngalinye lamaqabane alinakuzola nje imithambo, kodwa neyasondela iphupha labo.
Abahlobo kunye nezihlobo banokunika amaqabane amancinci njengezipho zokomfuziselo nezisebenzayo. Ewe, esona sipho semveli somtshato sephepha yimali. Zama ukubanika ngaxeshanye. Umzekelo, unokuthenga i-nibling enkulu nakwinkxaso-mali nganye yotyalo-mali kwisidima esithile. Kwaye unokutyala imali ethile kwimvulophu engaqhelekanga, umzekelo, ngohlobo lwemvelaphi okanye entliziyweni entle.
Kwaye nabahlobo banokufumana iKhalenda yosapho. Ewe kunjalo, kwiphepha ngalinye lekhalenda kufuneka kubekho iifoto ezidibeneyo zamaqabane. Unganika abanzi bobubi bebhiyozo ye-albhamu entle yeefoto. Kwaye njengokungongeza kwintshayelelo enjalo, unganika isatifikethi sePuses sosapho lwefoto yosapho. Kwisipho ke siya konwaba ngokuqinisekileyo.
Kuba amaqabane aqala nje indlela yabo yosapho, eyonwabisayo, kunokwenzeka ukuba ubanike into kwizixhobo ezilungileyo. Kodwa kuphela kwimeko oyaziyo kakuhle ukuba isixhobo seNdlu abanayo. Umzekelo, unokuveza umatshini wekofu. Kwaye ungongeza isipho esinjalo kunye neendebe ze-steam ze-qabane okanye incwadi ngeendlela zokupheka zekofu. Okanye unganika umoya hidifier ngencwadi yeengcebiso zomntu okanye iseti yeoyile evuyisayo.
Ungayalela iphephandaba elikhethekileyo okanye imagazini malunga nobomi bamaqabane amancinci. Kuya kubakho amabali anomdla malunga nobuqhelekileyo babantu bosapho. Unokongeza iindlela zakho ozithandayo kunye neengcebiso zobomi bentsapho obonwabisayo. Lonke iphepha lephephandaba elinje okanye iphephabhuku kufuneka lihombise ifoto yocwecwimi. Kwaye unokunika umfanekiso omuhle, umzobo wosapho, iincwadi ezihlangeneyo okanye amatikiti amahle okanye amatikiti amatsha kwindawo yethiyetha.
Abazali banokunika abantwana babo izipho ezixabisa ngakumbi. Umzekelo, unganceda uhambo oluncinci ubuncinci kwikhaya leholide yelizwe. Emva kweminyaka emibini yokuhlala kunye, emncinci, kunokuba njalo, uyathanda ukuba uchithe imihla emininzi yedwa, kude nomsebenzi nobomi. Ukongeza, unokunika abantwana izatifikethi ezahlukeneyo abaza kuyisebenzisa, umzekelo, ukuthenga izixhobo ezinkulu zasekhaya. Ungamnika umyeni wakhe kunye nenkosikazi. Umlingane kukubonelela ngobhaliso kwindawo yokuzivocavoca, kwaye umfazi ukwiziko elifanelekileyo. Ngokufanelekileyo, kungcono ukunika olo bhaliso kwiziko elinye ukuze amaqabane anokuhamba kunye. Kwaye abazali banokubothusa abantwana babo isidlo sangokuhlwa sababini.
Ukubhiyozela njani?
Kuyenzeka ukuba ubhiyozele umbhiyozo kwindawo ecekecekileyo okanye kwiholo yendawo yokutyela kunye nazo zonke izalamane kunye nabahlobo. Konke kuxhomekeke kumnqweno kunye nobuchule bamaqabane. Naphi na apho uqaphele khona umtshato wephepha lakho, igumbi kufuneka lihonjiswe. Njengoko kuchaziwe apha ngasentla, amaphepha ephepha, iintyatyambo kunye namanye amalungu kufuneka zibekhona njengeyona mihlobiso iphambili. Kwaye unokucelwa ukuba enze iphepha elibhalwe ngokwenziwa ngokwesiko. Ukubukela amanani omninzi angaqhelekanga kwaye mhle, kufuneka eme etafileni yamaqabane amaqabane.
Akukho zithethe kunye neengcebiso ezithile malunga nokhetho lombala. Ke ngoko, amaqabane amancinci anokuhombisa ngaphakathi usebenzisa imibala abayithandayo kunye nemithunzi. Ngendlela, ukukhetha umbala omnye okanye omnye umbala wombhiyozo, khumbula ukuba ngamnye kubo unamandla awo aqinisekileyo, oya kuthi achaphazele ngokuthe ngqo umoya weholide. Umzekelo, umbala omhlophe utsala uvuyo kunye nendlela elungileyo, ebomvu, amandla kunye namandla, kodwa lo mbala qaqambile akufuneki ube kakhulu kwi-Inter engaphakathi, kungenjalo iya kutsala imeko eyingozi. Blue luphawu lobuhlobo kunye nokuzinikela. Uhlaza ngumbala wamandla afanelekileyo, ofanelekileyo kwaye uzolile.
Unokukhetha imibala emininzi ngaxeshanye. Umzekelo, itafile yetafile kunye neenapkins zinokuba luhlaza, izitya ezimhlophe, kwaye amakhandlela abomvu. Konke kuxhomekeke ekukhetheni kwesibini esitshatileyo kwaye kuba bafuna ukuchitha iholide yabo ngokuhlwa.
Ngokwesiko, i-napkins yephepha ifakwe etafileni kwingokuhlwa enjalo. Zijongeka zintle kwaye zifuzisile.
Njengonyango, unokukhetha nayiphi na izitya ezifana neqabane. Ungalibali ukuba kufanele kubekho izitya ezahlukeneyo nangayiphi na iholide. Njengoko besitsho, kuba yonke incasa. Iziqhamo ezitsha nezinenjini kwitheyibhile yeholide ziya kuba luphawu lolutsha nothando. Ngokwesiqhelo, isikhumbuzo sizama ukukhetha iziqhamo, amaqhina abomvu njengophawu lothando kunye nokuzinikela.
Ewe kunjalo, umhlobiso wetafile yomthendeleko kufuneka abe yikhekhe eliyinqaba nengcambuso. Unokukhetha ukhetho lweklasi kunye neengubo okanye amahobe. Kwaye ungabonisa i-fantasy kwaye u-odola ikhekhe elingaqhelekanga eliza kufanekisela iphepha lesikhumbuzo. Umzekelo, unokucela ii-copeciowers ukuba ihombise ngephepha lephephandaba elimnandi. Kwaye unokucela kwakhona ukuba wenze umsongo owenziwe kwi-mastic emnandi eya kuyihombisa ikhekhe. Unokwenza umbhalo obhaliweyo onomdla kumsongo. Ukongeza, ikhekhe lethekhe linokuhonjiswa ngamanani eliza kufana nePhepha lePhepha.
Malunga nento onokuyinika iphepha lomtshato, jonga ividiyo elandelayo.