Kutheni le nto uninzi lwethu seziganeko ezimbi zikhumbula ngcono kunokonwaba? Kutheni le nto abanye bemoyike ubumnyama, amanzi, okwesithathu - umlilo? Umntu othile ulungele ukunceda nangawuphi na umzuzu, kwaye umntu uya kudlula ngokukhululekileyo? Intsingiselo ebalulekileyo kukuba siziva okanye siziva, sinenkumbulo yeemvakalelo.
Phawula
Inkumbulo yeemvakalelo inceda ukugcina ingqondo yomntu yonke into awayeyifumene kwimeko ethile. Emva koko, olu lwazi luba ngumqondiso wokuphinda-phinda iimvakalelo ukuba iimvakalelo, zivavanywe kwisenzo kwixesha elidlulileyo, zazilungile okanye zisinqanda kwikhomishini okanye isenzo esithile ngaphambili, safumana i-char .
I-Peveve Petrovich Bogna-Utitshala obalaseleyo kunye nesithandi-sobulumko kwinkulungwane idluliselwe kwi-psychology, seza kwisigqibo sokuba Umntu uyabona iziganeko ezenzeka apha kwaye ngoku. Kodwa ukanti, ukubetha imeko yenzekile ngaphambili, kwangoko wafumana umqondiso kwixesha elidlulileyo, eyenza iyeke okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, qhubeka nokuqala kwimizekelo yexesha elidlulileyo. Apho Ngokukhethekileyo ingqondo igcina ingqondo egciniweyo ivakalelwa kukuba imangaliswe, ukubandezeleka, uloyiko. Ngapha koko, oku kusebenza kungekuphela nje ebantwini, kodwa nezilwanyana.
Kwaye lona sizathu sengqondo ebanceda ukuba baphuhlise imvakalelo yokuzilondolozwa.
Ingaba isebenza kanjani?
Umzekelo, unokuzisa inja enemoto. Emva kwemeko yoxinzelelo, akasayi kubonakala ecaleni kwendlela. Kwenzeka into efanayo nabantu, kuphela ngokwahlukileyo kwizilwanyana Uloyiko olunjalo lungakhokelela ekuphaphaleni kakhulu kunye nolumkiso, kodwa nokuba uphosa. Ukuba umntu ebuntwaneni uhlala eva iimvakalelo ezimbi, kwaye ngakumbi, uloyiko, kwixesha elizayo, uya kuba ngumntu owoyikayo kwaye uya kuba ngumntu owoyikayo nobalaseleyo.
Yiyo loo nto, inkumbulo yeemvakalelo ichaphazela ngqo indlela umntu aya kwanelisa ngayo ubomi bakhe, kwaye sobabini noluntu.
Iyavela loo nto Imeko yenkumbulo yeenkumbulo yi-Akin yesalathiso sesakhono sethu kungekuphela nje ekulondolozeni, kodwa nakwimfesane, kunye nemfesane - Uvelwano . Nangona iimvakalelo ezimbi zisenokungabi naziphumo ezothusayo. Umzekelo, indoda ebuntwaneni yandlelwe yi-Dack Bone, abazali bakhe boyika kakhulu kangangokuba inkwenkwe yasiwa esibhedlele. Yonke into yenziwa, kodwa ngoku umntu endala akakunyamezeli okanye izindlu.
Iziphumo zinokubaluleka ngakumbi. Ke, abantu abasindileyo begonyamelo okanye baxhaphaza ebuntwaneni, bahlala benciphisa unxibelelwano lwabo, abanakufezekiswa ebomini, abanakuziva benemvakalelo yemfesane, bethatha iingxaki zabanye.
Ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukukhula amandla omntu wokuzalwa okuphendulayo okanye inkumbulo yeemvakalelo.
Iindlela zophuhliso
Inkumbulo yeemvakalelo ilula. Kubalulekile ukuba wenze oku kubuntwana bhedeni, ukuba ujonge umntwana emhlabeni wonke, kuba akangekhe abe nesifo, kodwa yena uya kuziva sizithemba ngakumbi. Khumbula, okukhona umntu onokukhumbula izinto ezintle, womelele ubomi bakhe.
Nalu uluhlu oluncinci lweengcebiso eziya kuthi zincede umntwana wakho kwixesha elizayo.
- Yibani nothando nomntwana, kungekuphela xa kukho, ukuba ungamdumisa, kodwa rhoqo . Naxa uhamba nje. Nikela ingqalelo kwizinto ezintle, xelela ngendalo, iintaka, izilwanyana kuphela kwiqhosha elifanelekileyo. Ndikholelwe ukuba uqala ukothuka ngokubonakala kwenja kwaye uthi yoyikeka, umntwana wakho uphakame ukoyike, kwaye engaphumi nezinye izilwanyana.
- Rhoqo umntwana onobude, "hugs", wenze izipho ezincinci ezintle. Khumbula ukuba ukhunjulwe kakuhle, okuthetha ukunceda ukugcwalisa inkumbulo yeemvakalelo ezineenkumbulo ezilungileyo akufuneki kumgangatho, kodwa ngenani.
- Ukuba umntwana uyacaphuka ngento ethile, zama ukulahla okanye ucime le mvakalelo kwinkumbulo yakhe . Yiza nendlela yokuphazamisa. Yiya kwiqhinga. Umzekelo, yenza umntwana akholelwe ukuba ukusilela kwakhe yinto nje engeyomfuneko yokuphosa. Kwangelo xesha, qiniseka ukuba umbonisa esi siqwengana sephepha, hlukana kwaye uphose. Ngendlela, ukugxila enjalo kusebenza nabantu abadala.
- Indlela efanayo yokuphelisa ukungalunganga . Guqula amava akho okanye amava umntwana kwizifundo ezingeyomfuneko okanye kwizinto ezimbalwa, esongela ibhegi engafunekiyo kwaye uthathe i-bin yenkunkuma.
- Susa umdlalo ngebhola. Ukhumbuza "edliwayo- ngokuzenzekelayo". Abathathi-nxaxheba kwisangqa baphosa ibhola enye. Lowo ubambekileyo ufanele axelele yonke loo nto umnyhadala owamvuyisa. Ngenxa yoko, yena ngokwakhe 'ukucoca "inkumbulo yakhe ngokweemvakalelo, kunye nokunye uqwalaselo kumaza afanelekileyo.
- Kodwa ukuba ebuntwaneni usenaziimvakalelo ezintle, emva koko gcwalise intloko yakho. Ukucamngca yindlela evavanywe ngenkulungwane. Xa uziva ngathi "umhlaba kuwe ungalunganga", vala amehlo akho kwaye ukhumbule ixesha elifanelekileyo ebomini bakho. Qala kuqala, umzekelo.
- Enye indlela yokucamngca: Vala amehlo kunye nokudlulisela kwi-etham ye-grey ukuya kulwandle olufudumeleyo, nokuba azange lubekho ixesha elide kwaye ayizukuhlala ixesha elide. Khumbula okanye uze nephunga kunye nombala wamaza, ngokwakho awuyi kubona ukuba uza kuwuva njani kungekudala ukuba uza kuwuva njani ukuphefumla komoya ovuthuzayo wolwandle.
Funda ngokugqithisileyo. Ukuntywiliselwa kwibali lomnye umntu, nokuba libali lezinto eziyintsomi okanye ubuntu odumileyo, uyalibala ngokuzimeleyo malunga neenkxalabo zakho kunye neengxaki zakho.
Kwaye mhlawumbi uza kufumana kwincwadi kunye neempendulo kwimibuzo yakho.
