"Uye ngaphaya kwe-" -Siva eli binzana xa umntu esenza into ngokuchaseneyo nemithetho eyamkelekileyo ngokubanzi. Kodwa, njengokuba uyazi, kukho izinto ngaphandle komgaqo ngamnye. Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka uqhubeke ngaphaya. Le ndlela yokusombulula ingxaki ligama elithi "Ukunqanda".
Yintoni?
Igama livela kwigama lesiNgesi "isakhelo", igama elithetha "isakhelo". Ukusuka apha, igama elithi Refrague lenziwa, enokukhetha iindlela ezahlukeneyo zesandi "Faka kwisakhelo esifanayo", "faka kwisakhelo esitsha". Ngolwimi olulula, "utshintshe isakhelo." Le ndlela ihlala isetyenziswa kwi-NLP. Ngayo, unokutshintsha indlela yokucinga okanye umbono wesiganeko esithile, Phinda usebenzise, tshintsha iipateni.
Ngoncedo lwezicwangciso zentetho, oochwephesha bengqondo banokuchaphazela ukuqhelaniswa nobuntu. "Amanyathelo", ngokuthi, iya kuba yindlela oziphethe ngayo, isokoyika. Ngoncedo lokungcikithi, unokususa iialarm, phuma kwimeko yoxinzelelo. Oku kufezekiswa ngenxa yenyani yokuba Umntu uqala ukujonga imeko ye-off okanye imeko elusizi okanye umsitho one-engile eyahlukileyo.
Ifana neglasi edumileyo: yena okanye isiqingatha ngokupheleleyo, okanye isiqingatha singenanto.
Isebenza phi?
Okokuqala, Indlela yokuphinda isetyenziswe ngokubanzi kwi-psychology ukukhulula uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo, ukutshintsha indlela yokuziphatha, iphucule iimpawu zobuqu, ukubhengeza amandla okudala. Oku, oochwephesha bezengqondo banyanzela umthengi ukuba ajonge ingxaki okanye achukumise umbuzo wakhe kwelinye icala, fumana imilo elungileyo emfanekisweni, ebonakala ngathi iyindoda emnyama. Ngenxa yoko, uya kuqhubeka nobomi ngentloko ephakanyisiweyo.
Ukuphinda kusetyenziswe kusetyenziswa kulawulo. Indlela efanelekileyo xa ishishini lifuneka okanye kufuneka uyikhuphe kwinqanaba eliphezulu. Ke, iindlela zolawulo zitshintshiwe, kukho abasebenzi abafanelekileyo, amandla ahlanganisiweyo atyhilwa. Indlela ilungele ukudityaniswa kwamaqela amakhulu, ukwenziwa kwemvakalelo yoxanduva nokuzinikezela kubo kunye nenkampani. Ukuchasana kubangela ukuba umnqweno wokuphucula.
Inceda ukuphikisa kunye nokuthengisa. Umthengisi onamava unokuhlala ecenga umthengi ukuba atshintshe umbono wakhe. Umzekelo, ukuba umthengi ulinde isaphulelo kwimpahla, inokuchazwa ukuba kwivenkile yakho sele ixabiseke kakhulu. Ukuba i-kutsha ivelisiwe liSebe leza inkxaso ye-rand yophawu oludumileyo, unokumqinisekisa ukuba uza kuthengwa kuwe xa inkampani ayichithwanga kwintengiso ebiza kakhulu. Ke, iimpahla nangona ziphantsi, kodwa kungekho mandundu kunokuba ngubani ovelisa uphawu oluzinzileyo.
Kutshanje, igama elithi "ukuyeka" kwavela kwimfundo. Nangona kuyisebenzise kule ndawo, mhlawumbi njalo. Umfundisi olungileyo obalulekileyo umfundi uyayiqonda isifundo ngokuqinisekileyo ngokuqinisekileyo uya kumnika ukhetho oluninzi lokuqhelana nento . Ngaba ungayithandi ikhemistry yomntwana wakho? Kwaye ukuba ujonge kule scansiance kwelinye icala? Sika kwimyuziyam yobunjineli, umzekelo. Emva kokubona apho uvavanya obaziyo obonakalayo, yena onesabelo esikhulu sokungafikeleli kwisifundo esilandelayo se-chemistry kwimimoya ephezulu.
Izimvo
Ukugxininisa kunceda ukutshintsha inkqubo yamaxabiso abantu. Kodwa ngaphambi kokusebenzisa ubuchule anjalo, ingcali kufuneka imisele ukuba kukukhathaza, kwaye emva koko khetha indlela yokwenza le ndlela. Zimbini kuzo.Ukwazisa umxholo
Ithetha isiphumo seLizwi. Ingcali iyakutshintsha imeko yemeko ekhathazayo. Iya kumnika intsingiselo entsha ye-semantic, inyanzelisa ukuba kutheni le nto okanye ingenakwenzeka okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ifanelekile kwimeko nganye.
Kuya kunceda ukujamelana nemikhwa enza ubomi bakho.
Umxholo
Inceda umntu ukuba abone intsingiselo eyahlukileyo kwinto eyenzekayo. Utshintsho kwintloko yakhe. Ukutshintsha ingqalelo kwiingxaki okanye ukuchitha isisombululo sayo.Ubuchule
Nazi iinjongo eziphambili kunye neenjongo zokuphinda kwenzeke:
- ukususwa kwexhala;
- Ukutshintsha indlela yokuziphatha;
- Ukufumanisa ubuchule;
- Ukufumanisa amathuba.
Ukuhlaziywa kweziganeko okanye izinto ze-phenomena kunokwenzeka. Eyona nto iphambili kukukhetha indlela esebenzayo.
Indlela yokutyibilika
Olona hlobo lwengqondo oludumileyo nolusebenzayo yinketho, Ibalwe amanqanaba amathandathu okanye amanyathelo.
- Inyathelo 1 . Siyakhawulezisa kwaye sivakalise oko kukhathaza. Sibonisa ingxaki ngohlobo lweeleta, amanani okanye ibala nje uhlobo oluthile lombala.
- Inyathelo 2. Sizama ukuqala incoko ngenxalenye yokwazi, enoxanduva lwale meko ebomini. Zama ukumcela ukuba aphendule. Kubalulekile ukufumanisa ukuba uza kunxibelelana njani nendlela ofuna ukufumana ngayo, iimpendulo ezingathandekiyo ezifana "noEwe" kunye "no" okanye ulinde iimvakalelo zomzimba emzimbeni.
- Inyathelo 3. . Buza eli nxalenye ininzi yokuxela ukuba ifezekisiwe ngokuziphatha kwakhe. Mnike esinye isisombululo, isisombululo esimkelekileyo ngakumbi kwingxaki. Ukuba oku akuyo, zibuze umbuzo wokuba i-chas yakho ithunyelwa ukuba iqhubele phambili.
- Inyathelo 4. Siqala incoko yabanye kwelinye, kwinxalenye yakho eyiyo. Sibeka umsebenzi ozahlela neendlela ezi-3 zokuziphatha ukuze zifezekise injongo. Sidlulisela idatha ebangelweyo yenxalenye edale yingxaki.
- Inyathelo 5. Hlala phantsi kwitafile "yokuxoxa". Sigqibe kwe "pact" kwaye ayisachukumisi iindlela ezisetyenzisiweyo ngaphambili. Kwimeko yokuba ingqondo yakho yengqondo ivumelana nolunye ukhetho olucetywayo, le migaqo mali iqale ukusebenza. Ukuba akukhange kubenjalo, sithembise ukuba ubuyela kwiskimu esidala, kodwa kuphela emva kokuba iza kuzama zonke iindlela ezicetywayo zokwenza ishishini.
- Inyathelo 6. Sijonge iintshaba kunye nodaka. Buza inxalenye yokuqala ye-subconstaneous, nokuba unobumelwane bamalungu akho afuna ukuthatha inxaxheba kuvavanyo. Buza kwaye malunga nabo banxamnye nabo. Iintshaba kufuneka zazi ebusweni.
Ukuqonda
Ukuhlaziyeka kwengqondo kuya kunceda ukutshintsha umbono wakho ngeziganeko ocinga ukuba uthandabuze. Kuya kufuneka ubaphathe kakuhle okanye utshintsha inkanuko yakho.Uninzi lwethu luqhelekile kwipeyinti. Kunjalo ngoba Kuya kufuneka ufunde ukubona i-charms nakwezona zingathandekiyo. Sukuzibandakanya kwiholide yakho. Ngaphambi kokuba usithi, ayinathemba, zama ukufumana oovimba basekhaya, baya kutya. Ekugqibeleni, emva komtya omnyama uhlala mhlophe, Umsebenzi wethu awuphumli kwindlela ephantsi kwempembelelo yokudakumba. Sukuzithoba izandla zakho.
Ngobukrwada
Khumbula into ebangela ubundlongondlongo. Zama ukufunda ukunqanda ukuhlaselwa kwakhe. Ngaba uyayikhupha isibakala sokuba oogxa bakho abaninzi abanamava bahlala befundisa into? Phatha iingxoxo kunye nabo njengezifundo zasimahla. Okanye, ngokuchasene noko, ngaba oogqirha abaselula abazizidenge abazizidenge kubo? Ke zama ukubaphatha njengabantwana bakho abancinci-kungekudala okanye kamva baya kuba nombulelo kuwe ngezifundo. Umsindo awunguye oncedisayo. Guqula ngenceba, ukutshintsha isimo sengqondo malunga nento eyenzekayo.
Isengqiqweni
Zama ukucinga ngendlela efanelekileyo. Akukho sidingo sokutshintsha la magama, fumana nje iinkcazo ezifanelekileyo. Umzekelo, udiniwe kukuhambo lweshishini olungapheliyo, kodwa kakhulu sele ekwazile ukufunda endleleni! Okanye uhlala uguqula imeko, kodwa iluncedo kwi-psyche, ukhululwe kukhathalelo lwasekhaya, akufuneki ukupheka isidlo sangokuhlwa.Nokuba kwenzeka ntoni kuwe okoyikisayo kwaye oku akunakwenzeka ukufumana nawaphi na amaxesha okwenza, khumbula ukuba la mava aya kuba luncedo kuwe kwixesha elizayo.
Iyakhanya
Ukukhawuleza okuqinisekileyo kusetyenziselwa ukubethelela ithemba ebantwini. Ubuntu baphulukene nentsingiselo yawo ebomini, uya kubanceda ekufumaneni iinjongo aze ahambe nabo. Apha kuyimfuneko ukutshintsha ezinye iikhonsepthi zabanye. Umzekelo, sifikelela kwingxaki njengento yokutshintsha.
Fumana amagama ukuqinisa ukuthandabuza okanye ukungakwazi ukufezekisa nantoni na. Endaweni yoko, "kufuneka ndizixelele", endaweni yokuba "ndinethemba" - "Ndiyazi ngokuqinisekileyo" - "OKO" "Eli lithuba lokufumana amava amatsha" kwaye kunjalo .
Indlela yeempawu ezingalunganga
Uninzi lwethu lusenokubonakala lubonakala ngathi siyiwotshi yonke yeengxaki, kwaye konke kuba asikwazi ukujamelana neempawu ezithile okanye ezinye izinto. Zama kwaye ujonge ngokwahlukileyo. Ukuba ucinga ukuba unqwenela wena nakwabanye, ke mhlawumbi ubeka ibha kwindawo yokuphakama kwaye ungafuni ukuyihlisa.Ngaba ucinga ukuba womile kakhulu kwaye unesityholo semvakalelo ngokunxulumene nabantu esibathandayo? Kodwa isenokuba kukuba ubanike into ngakumbi xa uphatha inkampani yonke ngendalo okanye uthenge intombi yedoli, iphupha ngantoni. Awutsho nje, kodwa yenza, kwaye lo ubonakalisa kakhulu iimvakalelo zakho kunamagama nje. Apha sele uqalile ukuncuma, kwaye ke imisebenzi edlulayo.
Imibutho
Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuphefumla umbutho, khumbula ukuba kuya kufuneka ukoyisa hayi kuphela uloyiko lwakho kunye noloyiko. Kuya kufuneka ukhusele umbono wakho wembono yakho ngaphambi kweqela. Ke, ngamazwi, enabo owona mchasi uchasayo kakhulu wohlengahlengiso luya kwenza abancedisi kunye nabalingane. Chaza abantu utshintsho oluqinisekileyo oluzilindeleyo, kwaye kuphela emva koko uye kwinto yokuba kuya kufuneka benze kwaye kuya kufuneka balahlekelwe.
Imithambo
Isamkela imvume ebonisa indlela yokutshintsha isimo sakho sengqondo malunga nemeko yakho, bambalwa kakhulu. Nazi ezinye zazo."Nam futhi ..."
Lo msebenzi unokwenziwa ngaphandle koncedo lwengcali. Thatha iphepha kwaye ubhale iimpawu zakho ezi-5 obonakala ngathi ungenanto. QAPHELA ngamnye ngamagama "ndim". Umzekelo, "Ndibawa kakhulu", "ndingoyiki kakhulu", "ndidinisa kakhulu", "nditya kakhulu", "nam ndiziimbi kakhulu." Kwaye ngoku masijonge ezi mpawu zakho ngokwahlukileyo.
Singena kwiziphumo ezinokubakho kwikholamu ekufuphi. Awubawa, kodwa uqoqosho, kuba, ngokungafaniyo nommelwane, ungaze uthathe imali ngaphambi komvuzo. Awukhange uxhase, kwaye ufuna kwaye ngenxa yoko uhlala ufumaneka. Awutyi kakhulu, kodwa unencam kwaye uluncedo kwaye awunangxaki ngomdla, njengokulala, ngendlela. Awukhathalelanga kakhulu ukuba ungakanani na kwaye unenjongo. Ke ngoko, nonke niyazenza ngexesha, ngokungafaniyo nabantu osebenza nabo.
"Mhlophe mhlophe"
Lo msebenzi unokwenziwa ngokuzimeleyo, kodwa kungcono ukucwangcisa umdlalo onjalo kwinkampani yabantu abaninzi. Umsebenzi wako wonke umntu kukuza ne-opithet elungileyo yomntu okokuqala iphawuleka kakubi. Umzekelo, "isidima" asilahleki xesha lilize, ngokucacileyo ilandela injongo yakhe, iyayazi indlela yokuxhathisa izilingo. "Kanganjalo" lixabiso elifanelekileyo, elinamava, kwaye ke, ukuba nelungelo lokufumana icebiso, abantu abaninzi abaphunyezwa ebomini.I-mines ngaphezulu uya kuphumelela uya kuguqula kwizenzo, kokukhona uya kuba sisimo sakho sengqondo ebomini.
"Reguff"
Ukwenza lo msebenzi Udinga ubuncinci abantu ababini. Omnye uxela elinye igama elingathandekiyo, umsebenzi wesibini kukubeka ngokukhawuleza. Umzekelo, ubize eTolstoy. Impendulo yakho - "Kodwa amadoda afana neefom ezivunyiweyo." Okanye uva ukuba ulivila. Impendulo isenokuba yile ilandelayo: "Kodwa andazi ukuba yintoni ukunyamezela."
Imizekelo
Cinga ngemizekelo eliqela yendlela yokusebenzisa ukonakalisa ebomini bethu.
- Umphathi wakho uyafuna kakhulu . Uyakoyika yonke incoko nayo. Yijonge kwelinye icala: Cinga ngomphathi nomcebisi wakhe, njengomfundisi esikolweni, ufuna ukuba ufumane ubungakanani bolwazi oluphezulu.
- Ucebise kwindawo enye, ngelixa oogxa bakho baqhuba kwizitepsi zomsebenzi. Kodwa awukhathali emsebenzini kade, kwaye uchithe impelaveki nosapho lwakho.
- Abantwana bakho bade babize abaphangi. Abahlali endaweni yomzuzu. Kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba bangaze bavele iindawo ezikhoyo ezivela, azisongelwa ubunzima, zikhula ngakumbi. Kwaye kuyanceda ukuthenga.
