Ngcono, namhlanje ungaliva icebiso kwindawo yokuthuthuzela. Kodwa ukusasazeka kwale thuba lengqondo akwenzi luqondakali kangangesiqingatha sabo bayisebenzisa amaxesha ngamaxesha. Le ndawo inokuba mnandi kwaye iyingozi, ukuba iyimfuneko ukuyishiya, eli nqaku liza kuxela.
Yintoni?
Kwi-Psychology "Indawo yentuthuzelo" - Inkcazo eyodwa ibeka indawo yobuqu yendawo ephilayo apho iimeko zikhuselekile kwaye zikhululekile zenzelwe abantu. Ukuba sithetha ngamagama alula, indawo yokuthuthuzela yimeko yentuthuzelo yengqondo, ukuzola, ukuzithemba ezantsi kwangoku nangomso. Inesikimu esikhethekileyo sobuqu, iipateni ezinika umntu ukuba aqonde ukuba ukhuselekile ngokupheleleyo. Izenzo zomntu ngamnye zixelwe kwangaphambili, ziyaqondakala kuye ngowona ndalo, xa unxibelelana okanye ukuzonwabisa okuthile, kuyazi ukuba yintoni na imiphumo enokubala. Ibala uxolo nokuphumla kuyo, inciphisa imvelaphi yoxinzelelo.
Ukusukela kule ndawo yokujonga, indawo yokuthuthuzela yile Ixabiso lendalo iphela, kuba ubukho bayo buxelela umntu malunga nozinzo ezithile ebomini bakhe . Kodwa kukho iintshaba zazo. Ukuba ixesha elide kule ndawo, iza kuqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba ukukhula komntu kuye kwanqunyanyisiwe, kuyacothisa, yonke into izinzile kakhulu kwaye kuyafuneka ukuba umntu abe neenjongo zokuseta usukelo, ukuze afezekise, sebenza ngokwakhe, ukuphucula. Kukwindawo entle, njengakwi-Swamp.
Kufanelekile ukuyiqonda le nto, kuyaqonda ukuba lixesha lokutshintsha into, unganikezeli kwinkohliso yendawo yokuthuthuzela, kuba ingayicothisi ingozi ezininzi, kodwa imele ingozi ethile. Ke, kangangeminyaka, umntu akanakutshintsha nantoni na, ukubandezeleka okuthobeka kwabaphathi, umvuzo ophantsi, kwaye uyayikhohlisa imvakalelo yozinzo lobuxoki kunye noloyiko lokulahleka "kunye ne iblue ezandleni zakhe.
Ukoyika ukunika indawo entle kuye kwenza umntu axhase ubudlelwane nabahlobo abaye bayeka ukuba banomdla kuye kwaye bamthanda ezantsi. Ukoyika ukuphulukana nokubona intuthuzelo yangoku kuthintela umntu ukuba aphule umntu ongenamveliso kunye noqhawulo-mtshato, avume ukuhlangana nomthandi wakhe okanye inkosikazi, zama ukufumana ulonwabo lokwenene.
Kunjalo ngoba IBog yengqondo, ekubhekiswa kuyo njengendawo yokuthuthuzela, ithathwa njengeyona nto imbi, ifuna ukulungiswa . Ngayiphi na imeko, le yindlela oochwephesha baseRussia kunye nonyango lwengqondo. Abantu abasebenza nabo bangaphandle abahlali bavunyelwene.
Iingcali zaseYurophu aziboni nto ikhutshelweyo emzini, ekholelwa ukuba eyona nto ifanele yenzeke ngayo kukwandisa imida, ungayishiyi. Kwaye enye, kwaye enye inqaku linelungelo elipheleleyo lokubakho, kwaye bobabini bangabaxhasi babo kunye nabachasi.
Ingaba isebenza kanjani?
Umntu ngamnye unento yayo, umntu ngamnye, yentuthuzelo. Akukho mpawu zimbini. Okokuqala, esi sisitulo esiqhelekileyo esingaqhelekanga kwaye siPhiat, kwenye - indlu epholileyo yabazali. Nokuba yeyiphi na indawo yakho yokuthuthuzela, iya kusebenza ngokwemithetho ethile. Okokuqala, kurhoxile konke ukuzikhethela ukwenza, ukulungelelanisa, ukuqwalaselwa kwiipateni zendlela yokuziphatha kunye nezenzo "kumatshini". Yiyo loo nto, indawo inokuthathwa njengemeko ekhethekileyo yomphefumlo, esiqala ukunamava, ukuba kwiimeko ezithile.
Umntu okhule emzimbeni nasengqondweni moya akafiki 'kwi-Stight "umntu akhule ixesha elide, aphumele, aphuma kwindawo yokuthuthuzela, enze into entsha kwizinto eziqhelekileyo ebomini bakhe . Kodwa abantu abaphila nabo abaninzi kakhulu, ba le. Uninzi luxhomekeke kuxinzelelo, kwaye ke ukubaleka kwindawo ekutyibilikeni iba sisiqhelo kubo, kwaye xa sele bebambekile apho, baqala kakhulu. Umthetho weNdawo kwiNdawo yakudala yoLuntu. Siqhele yonke into kunye nokuzinza. Kwaye nokuba kukho into ekubonakala kuyo ibonakala ingakhululekanga kuyo, ingamkelekanga, ingathandeki, iseleyo ngaphakathi, siqhele kwaye siqhele kwaye siqale ukwenzela le nyaniso iqhelekileyo.
Kwinqanaba le-GOOST, umntu uyazi ukuba ukuntywila. Ke kutheni engathathi nto? Kwaye nantsi iindlela ezinzulu. Kwiingcinga malunga neenjongo ezilele ngaphandle komda ochaziweyo, umntu uqalisa ukuqonda ukuba iya kufuna utshintsho olusisiseko kwinyaniso. . Imveli yakudala kwinqanaba elinzulu lithi "" Kukho ingozi enokuba yingozi, kuba iziphumo ezivela kwimveliso "apho" azikho zingekabalwe ngenkqubo yesiqhelo. Umntu uqalisa ukubafumana uxinzelelo ngazo zonke izinto zakhe ze-hormonial kwaye "kubandakanya" ukuzikhusela okungaziqondi, kwane-quamp "yayo kwaye isusa ucingo oluziimitha ezintathu. Uxinzelelo kwangoko lubuyayo, imvakalelo yokuthuthuzela. Inkuthazo iyaphuma, umntu uziva ngathi wenza inzame yokuphuma, kwaye inyani yokuba akaphumelelanga, akazange akhathazeke kakhulu, kwaye uhleli kwi-commational ".
Ixesha elingaphezulu, ukubuyela rhoqo kwezi "zokuqonda" kuya kusinda ngakumbi.
Ngaba ufuna ukuphuma?
Lo mbuzo awunampendulo yonke. Inyani yile Iingcali kwicandelo le-psychology zihlala zicebisa wonke umntu ukuba agqithe ngaphaya koko uqhelekileyo, ukuphikisana ukuba uluncedo kakhulu. Kodwa ulumke ngakumbi kwaye ude noGyorha Psychotherapists, ukujongana nomda we-psyches kunye neengxaki, kwaye ukuba umntu unengxaki enkulu, kungcono ukushiya yonke into njengoko injalo. Ngayiphi na imeko, ngaphambi kokusombulula iingxaki. Ngaphandle koko, kunokwenzeka ukuba 'uphelelwe phantsi "kungekuphela nje ngenxa yesifo sokuqala, kodwa kunye nokuphambuka kwengqondo ngokusisigxina.
Kufuneka iqatshelwe ukuba Uninzi lwabantu abangenazo iingxaki zangaphandle ezibalulekileyo kunye neemfuno eziphambili ngezintsozelo zengqondo, ukuphuma kwindawo yentuthuzelo akuyi kwenzakalisa kwaye kungancedi nokuphumelela, kubudlelwane, ukuziqonda, ukuziqonda kakuhle . Rhoqo, ubomi uphosa i-US Gyp "Swamps", kukho ezinye iziganeko ezaphulwa kakuhle indlela esetyenziswayo kunye nezenzo: uqhawulo-mtshato, ukugxothwa ngesiquphe, ukusweleka kwesiquphe kunye nolunye ugityi. Ngokwesiqhelo, ukuba ubukele ngononophelo, oku kuyenzeka xa umntu sele ekhona kwi-verge okanye kwinkqubo yokwahlukana. Ke ubomi banyanzela ukuba siqhubele phambili, ngakumbi, fikelela ukuphakama. Kodwa ngaba kufanelekile ukulinda inkathazo kwaye "pink" ukusuka ngaphandle ukuba ungaqala ngokwakho utshintsho?
Ukuthatha amanyathelo okuphuma kwizizathu ezininzi. Hulisa iimfuno zabantu. Kwaye nokuba kubonakala ngathi akukho nto itshintsha ebomini, iimfuno zisanda, kwaye kubalulekile ukuba uqhubeke nomntu. Nantsi imizekelo ebonakalayo. Njengomntwana, sonwabile xa sasibandakanya ikhathuni kwaye sanika ipipi. Xa saphula, bayeka ukuvavanywa kwabo ifilimu kwaye ipipi iyaneliswa, iimfuno zethu ziye zahlukile. Ezi metamorphoses zenzeka ngokuqhubekayo ngexesha lobomi. Ngaphambili, ukuhamba kunye phesheya kwakuyinto entle, into engazange ichukumiseke kwaye ayifumaneki, nanamhlanje, ngokuhamba kwexesha, ngokuhamba kwamaxesha omhlali ngamnye ongumhlali weplanethi ityalwe. Ngaba kunokwenzeka kwi-windows jikelele? Okanye yonke into efanayo, kwakhona ngokutshintsha iintlobo zeemfuno?
Ukuphuma kwindawo yokuthuthuzela kuseza nezenzo, ukufundisisa, ukufumana amava amatsha, uhlala ujolise ekufezekiseni iimfuno okukhulayo. Umntu akavakalelwa kukuba ubomi buhamba kuye, ukwisihlalo, kwiziko labo.
Ndingaphuma njani?
Zininzi iindlela Eyona nto iphambili kukuyiqonda ngokucacileyo imfuneko kwaye uqalise ukusebenza. Inyani yangoku ayisiyiyo kuphela indlela yophuhliso, kusekho iindlela ezininzi zomsitho, kwaye akufuneki woyike ukushiya eyakho i-swamp "ye-swamp" yamathuba amangalisayo, amangalisayo.
Uninzi lweengcali ze-vistters zincomeza Yenza xa ushiya indawo yokuthuthuzela kwisicwangciso sokusebenza esicwangcisiweyo. Sikhumbula malunga nale "umgibe" oya kulungiselela ukungazi ', kwaye ezi ziya kuba noloyiko kunye nokungaqiniseki, uxinzelelo. Isicwangciso siyimfuneko ukuba sizinyanzele ukuba senze inyathelo lokuphendula ngoxinzelelo. Ukuba ayisebenzi, enye inzame engaphumelelanga yokuphuma okanye yandise intuthuzelo yobuqu ihlala iphelela kweli nqanaba.
Ithagethi
Ukuba awunayo injongo, emva koko akuyi kubakho "igumbi lokukhanya", indawo ebalulekileyo yesalathiso esiya kunceda ukwandisa imida yendawo entle. Bhala zonke iinjongo endifuna ukuziphumeza kuzo, nokuba zizinto ezingaqhelekanga okanye ezimangalisayo. Khumbula ukuba kufuneka wenze iinjongo ngokuchanekileyo. Akukho njongo yokuthenga imoto, kodwa kukho usukelo lokufumana inkululeko yeentshukumo, ukuze ukwazi ukuhamba emotweni. Akunakubakho kujoliso lwezigidi zeedola. Injongo kukuphila ngokuchuma, vumela ukuthenga okubizayo, kunye nesigidi yenye yemisebenzi. Ukuba ufuna, umsebenzi yeyakho. Bala nje isixa esifunekayo semali kwaye uqhubeke ukufumana umthombo wabo-umsebenzi omtsha, okwethutyana, dlala i-lottery.
Ukufunda ukuchaza usukelo akukho nzima. Jonga umbuzo, kutheni ufuna le okanye oyifunayo - imali, uqhagamshelo, ubudlelwane, olunokwenzeka? Impendulo kwaye iya kuba ligama lenjongo. Iinjongo ozenzayo, ngcono. Hambisa iithagethi zexesha lokuphumelela, ukuba kukho imfuneko, faka i-Coyyna ethile, iya kunceda ukujamelana nokuhamba, kwaye iya kuba yindlela yokuziqesha.
Qiniseka ukuba ubhala iinjongo ephepheni, kufuneka ubabone, qhubeka.
Inkuthazo
Rhoqo ucinge ukuba uyakufumana, uza kuba njani xa injongo iza kufezekiswa, lungisa iimvakalelo zakho, zikhumbule. Oku kuya kuba sisiseko senkuthazo. Nje ukuba umnqweno wokuyeka yonke into kwaye ubuye kuxinzelelo lwengqondo "quag", ivelisa ezi mvakalelo kwimemori kwimemori, ziya kuba "ngabavuni" ezizokunceda ukubuyela kwikhosi oyifunayo.
Inkuthazo ngaphandle kokugada ayinakwenzeka, yiyo loo nto eli linqanaba lesibini lomsebenzi olwenziweyo kwaye uphume kwindawo yokuthuthuzela. Ukuba kukho iingxaki kunye nentando, kufanelekile ukufumana iqabane elinokuthenjwa kunye namaqabane. Yabelana ngeenjongo kunye nemibono kunye nabo sibathandayo, umhlobo, intombi, umntu esimthandayo, kodwa ngoko nangoko walumkisa ukuba ungaphakathi, ucele ukukhohlisa ukuba uthumele kwinjongo, ngaphandle koqhanqalazo lwesaqhwithi. Inkuthazo ikhuthazwe ngakumbi ukuba umntu onxulumana nawe uyakuthatha isigqibo sokuya kwinjongo, uya kuhamba uqeqesho, iikhosi, iKliniki yeMida, izifundo zeSikolo, kwiSikolo seMisimbo kwiimeko ezigqithisileyo. Uhlasela xa kuya kuba gwenxa, uya kuzola xa uloyiko luya kuqala ukuthatha ngaphezulu, i-ash, ekugqibeleni.
Ukuthweswa isidanga kubalulekile
Njengayo nayiphi na into ebalulekileyo, akufanelanga ukutsiba i-bibs yakho yengqondo "ye-swamp typs" nge-Gallop. Ukuphuma kwindawo yokuthuthuzela kufuna ukulandelelana, kwinguqu ukusuka kwinqanaba ukuya kwinqanaba ukuya kwinqanaba, ukukhangela iimpazamo, uhlalutyo lotshintsho, uhlengahlengiso. Lo msebenzi awusebenzi ngenkampani eqinileyo. Isomeleleyo iya kuba sisiqalo, sinokwenzeka okuphezulu kwengqondo yeempazamo ezibalulekileyo. Senza ngokuthe ngcembe, ihamba kwiinjongo zokwenza izizathu zokukhuthaza, ukusuka kwiinjongo zokukhanya ukuze zintsokotha ngakumbi. Bekambelela kwisicwangciso esihlanganisiweyo, landela imihla eqikelelweyo. Khumbula ukuba isivuno esikhawulezayo esivela kwindawo entle yonyusa amathuba okuphazamiseka kwengqondo, ukwahlukana kwengqondo.
Kodwa musa ukuzama ukucacisa ukungasebenzi . Ukuba uziva ngathi unokwenza ngaphezulu, kodwa ukonakatha okunyukayo, kuyayicacisa le nto yokuba ngesibakala sokuba ulwando olugudileyo luyacetyiswa, ke, unengxaki, nokuba yintshukumisa, okanye inkuthazo, okanye enye.
Ngenye indlela, inokuba ngumdlalo olandelayo wokungazi nto, nto leyo ephosakeleyo, izama ukukhusela ubuntu bakho kuxinzelelo kunye noloyiko lwalowo ungaziwayo, olapha kwelinye icala leSwamp.
Sukungxama ngokugqithileyo
Ukuba ubambe isiqingatha se-AFA ngencwadi ebhedini, Ngokucacileyo akufuneki ukuba usebenze ngokukhawuleza kwibala le-moya ekufuphi ukutsiba ngeparachute . Ukuba awuzange uzibandakanye kwimidlalo, ayifanelanga ukuba iphinde ibeke i-rod inyuke, ubunzima bayo obugqithile kunexesha lakho kunye nesiqingatha. Igqithisile yenye ingozi ekufuneka uyazi kwangaphambili. Iindlela ezigqithisileyo zihlala zityhalela utshintsho olukhawulezileyo.
Nje ukuba sivakalelwe kukuba ukuphuma kwakungabi saba liqhinga elinqabileyo kwaye wade wanikela ngolonwabo, evunyelwe ukuba ave indlebe yobomi osele uyilibele, unokunciphisa ulawulo lokukhula kweemfuno. Umzimba uya kuqala ukufuna i-adrenaline, kwaye isongela imiphumo engathandekiyo, ukwenzakala, ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Akukho mfuneko yokuba ungxame kwintloko entsha ngentloko yakho, unika onke amakhosi, akasayi kukhokelela kwiimvavanyo zempumelelo ngolwalamano olutsha, ukuba kukho imali eninzi, kwaye awuyi kufumana mali.
Zilawule, bhala imihla ngemihla utshintsho olwenzeke kuwe kwidayari yakho. Ngelixa ukuqulunqa imvakalelo eLizwini. Ukuthandwa kuyanda, ukwanela kokuqonda kwenyani, esifunekayo.
Ubudala - hayi isithintelo
Akukho mida yobudala yokwandisa indawo yokuthuthuzela. Umzekelo woku kunokuba ngabadla umhlala-phantsi, kuphela emva kokukhululwa kokuphumla okuthe kratya, wafumanisa ukuba umhlaba, izinto ozithandayo, utshatile, uphumelele kwintsimi. Imizekelo enjalo iyiseti enkulu. Ukuba iminyaka ididekile, yenza ulwazi lolwazi malunga nabantu abakwiminyaka yakho bakwazile ukutshintsha ubomi obuqhelekileyo. Cinga rhoqo malunga nabo, jonga iifilimu zebhayoloji, funda iincwadi. Esi iya kuba sisizathu esongezelelweyo.
Ngokwesiqhelo, abantu abadala bafumana ubunzima obungakumbi xa besa imida yendawo yokuthuthuzela. Kunzima kubo ukutshintsha iintshukumo zesiqhelo, ufakelo, isimo sengqondo sakho, zinokuchaphazeleka boyika kunye ne-phobraham. Kunzima ukumisela iinjongo, kuba zihlala zibonakala zifezekisa into okanye emva kwexesha kakhulu, okanye hayi.
Ukuba yonke into injalo, kuya kufuneka ufune uncedo kwi-psychologist elungileyo okanye i-psychotherapist. Ezi ngcali ziya kunceda ukuqaqambisa iinjongo, izicwangciso zesishwankathelo kwaye zibe ngamahlakani anokuthenjwa kwiinguqu ezithandekayo.
Ngamafutshane, esi sisiseko sokuphuma kwindlela yokuphuma kwindawo yokuthuthuzela. Njengengcebiso esebenzayo, nantsi.
- Yandisa isangqa sonxibelelwano . Nokuba uyinto engenamsebenzi ngamava, kufanelekile ukuvumela unxibelelwano olutsha kubomi bakho. Makwenzele isiqalo iya kunxibelelana ne-Intanethi, ngokuthe ngcembe yiyise kubamelwane, abantu ongabaziyo esitolo, kwindawo yokumisa ibhasi, esitratweni. Khumbula ukuba ukwandiswa kwesangqa sezonxibelelwano kuvula amathuba ongezelelweyo ekufezekiseni iinjongo zakho, kuba phakathi kwabantu abaqhelileyo abatsha kunokuba banokubanceda kakhulu.
- Ukuhamba. Akukho mfuneko yokuba ungenise amatyala ngokukhawuleza kwaye uthenge itikiti kumazwe ashushu ashushu. Ukuhamba, awudingi mfuneko enkulu. Qala kuhambo lwempelaveki ukuya kwisixeko esilandelayo, hlola imiqobo ephambili, iMyuziyam, yiya kwindawo yemidlalo yeqonga, cafe. Thatha i-gland ukuya ehlathini. Kubalulekile ukuba inye kuphela imeko-le ndawo kufuneka ingaqhelekanga, awuzange uyeke kuyo. Yinto enokuqinisekisa ukuthembana kweemvakalelo kunye namava amatsha.
- Yonke imihla yongeza izinto ezincinci. Sithetha ngento engaphazanyiswa kakhulu yimida ye "swamps", kodwa iyenza imvakalelo yenovelwano. Zama ukulungiselela isitya esitsha kwiseti yesiqhelo yeemveliso zemveliso. Intshukumo ilula, kodwa ifuthe le-lorssel. Endaweni yenoveli yothando, khetha umcuphi okanye umcuphi wokufunda ngokuhlwa. Thenga izihlangu ezitsha, nokuba indala "ubuncinci apho."
- Yandisa amandla. Ukuba utshintsho lomsebenzi alucwangciswanga, emva koko cela umphathi ukuba enze imisebenzi yakho yesiqhelo ngento entsha, into enokuba engafanele ndiyenze ngaphambili. Ukuthatha inxaxheba kwiprojekthi entsha, isikhundla esitsha kunye nokutshintsha kwishedyuli yomsebenzi kuya kunceda ekuboneni ukuhamba kobomi kungenjalo, ngakumbi.
- Guqula inkqubo yosuku. Akukho mfuneko yokuba uyenze ngokumangalisayo, kodwa uhlengahlengiso oluncinci aluyi konakalisa. Yongeza uhambo lokubukela ukuya kwipaki, musa ukoyika ukutshabalalisa uzinzo kunye nokuthuthuzela okuyingozi, kubangela ukuba uhambe ngokuhlwa ngaphambi kokulala ngaphambi kokulala ngaphambi kokulala. Ukuba kunzima ukwenza le nto, nto leyo kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba ufumane isilwanyana, umzekelo, injana. Ukuhamba naye kuya kuba nayo nayiphi na imeko.
- Funda . Ulwazi olutsha kunye nezakhono azisoze zonakalise. Ayifanelanga ukuba yi-progussics okanye i-microbiologys. Bhalisela iikhosi zolwimi lwangaphandle, ulwazi lwakhe luya kuba luncedo ekuhambeni, kwaye ekufumaneni umsebenzi omtsha, othe wenzayo. Funda ukungena kwi-nyonit, ubumbeka, usongele ubuhle obumangalisayo obuvela kumaRhinestones, ubutshela obunodongwe, ukusebenzisa amathuba okuba-iincwadi, iividiyo zoqeqesho, amanqaku oqeqesho. Imeko ebalulekileyo-ikhosi yokufunda kwakho kufuneka ixabiseke kakhulu ekufezekiseni isiphumo sokuphumeza indawo yokuthuthuzela.
- Zikhulise kwinqanaba elitsha. Okweli nqaku sele unomaleko wolwazi, izakhono, izakhono. Banyule kwinqanaba elitsha, phucula, sebenzisa ingcebiso yeengcali, nxibelelana namaqela anomdla, funda uncwadi lweprofayile.
- Thatha isigqibo malunga neengxaki ezindala. Ixesha lokuphuma kwindawo yentuthuzelo lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuthatha isisombululo kwiingxaki ezisele zihlehliselwe "kamva." "Emva koko" beza.
Ingxaki nganye ecombulukayo iya kuzisa ulwaneliseko lokuziphatha kunye nengqondo, nangaphezulu kokubuyisela uhlaziyo lwehomoni.
