Ukuphuhliswa komntu ngokuhambelana nalo kudla ukuthintelwa kukungaphantsi kwengqondo, ngembonakalo apho umntu okwishumi elivisayo kuziva kakubi kunabanye abantu, avakalelwa kukungazithembi kwimikhosi yayo. Oku kwenzeka ngokuncipha kokuzithemba.
Iimpawu zokwenziwa
Ukuzihlola komntwana okwishumi elivisayo kusenziwa ngenxa yokulungelelaniswa komntu. Uvavanyo lwayo lukhula ngokusebenzisana kwabantu, ingxelo ekhoyo kunye nesiphumo semisebenzi yomfana oselula. Ukuzithemba kukuphucuka eluntwini. Amantombazana amaninzi ahlala evavanya kwinqanaba elisezantsi kunabafana. Amantombazana ubuhlobo ezibalulekileyo kunye nabanye abantu kunye zesibheno inkangeleko, omncinane ukuzithemba njengenqobo bakhonza volitional iimpawu yokunxibelelanisa, ngokwasengqondweni data emzimbeni. Ukuqulunqwa kwetafile ye-matrix kwenza ukuba ikwazi ukuqonda amandla okuzingca.
Abantwana bathambekele ekunikezelweni kweempawu zabo. Ubugqwirha xa kuvavanywa kuyavela kubonakala kumntwana oneminyaka elishumi ubudala. Eli nqanaba lobomi lamantombazana amaninzi kunye namakhwenkwe abonakaliswa ngokuchonga ngakumbi kunempawu ezintle. Isidingo esibukhali sokuzithemba sivela, kodwa ukungakwazi kufumaniswa ukuba kuhlole umntu wayo ngokufanelekileyo. Ngokufikisa, ukuqonda kwakhe kuyasondela kwizimpawu ezifanelekileyo. Ukususela kwiminyaka eli-12 ubudala, abakwishumi elivisayo bamamela uluvo ngoontanga. Ngovavanyo olwaneleyo ngokubanzi, isimo sengqondo esingalunganga kwi-RIT
Kwiminyaka eyi-14 ubudala, umntwana okwishumi elivisayo ugxile kumgangatho othile, obenzela iimpawu ezithile zomntu. Umntwana okwishumi elivisayo uvavanya isazisi sakhe, athelekisa indlela aziphethe ngayo nemigangatho ethile "efanelekileyo. Uzama ukufumana indawo yakhe eluntwini, yiva kuyinxalenye ngaye.
Isisombululo kwingxaki yokuzimisela ngokwakho ngokuvunywa kwezimangalo ezithile zentlalontle kuyanceda lo mfana uqonde intsingiselo yobukho bayo.
Amanqanaba
Indima enkulu ekusekweni kovavanyo oluchanekileyo lwezenzo zezenzo zidlala ugxininiso lomntwana okwishumi elivisayo kunye novavanyo oluphezulu ngovavanyo lwemigaqo yemigaqo yokuziphatha. Ngamanye amaxesha umsantsa phakathi kokuzithemba okuqinisekileyo kwaye kufanelekile.Yanele
Uqikelelo lokwenyani lomntu wakhe, ubuchule kunye nezenzo zabo zivumela umntwana okwishumi elivisayo ukuba achaze ngokufanelekileyo amandla ngemisebenzi ebekwe phambi kwakhe nakuphi na ukuntywila kunye neemfuno zabantu basemzini. Uqikelelo olwaneleyo lunegalelo lokuqonda okuqinisekileyo kwenkqubo yayo yokuziphatha kunye nezenzo. Abantu abanokwazi okunjalo bayasebenza, banobuhlobo kwaye bajolise ekufundeni abangqongileyo nabangqongileyo.
Ngaphezulu
Uqikelelo olusezantsi loontanga abakwishumi elivisayo lunokuba negalelo ekuphelisweni kokungafaneleki kokuzithemba kwakhe. Ingozi yangaphakathi idala umnqweno womboniso wokubetheka kwayo. Uloyiko lokuziva ungazali bakhe ngenxa yokuba umntwana esoloko engqina ukubaluleka kwako ukuphumla. Ulutsha olunjalo lunomdla wokuzibonakalisa ngemisebenzi enemveliso.
Kunzima kumntu ophezulu kakhulu phezulu kakhulu ukumisela ubuhlobo. Abajikelezileyo baziva bengonwabanga ngomxholo okrelekrele, ngenxa yoko bafuna ukunqanda ukunxibelelana naye.
Iphantsi
Uzinzo lwengqondo olusezantsi luhlala lubangela ukuzithemba kwakho. Ezi mpawu zilandelayo zingqina ukuba ukuqonda okuncitshisiweyo
- ukungakhathali kwiingubo, ithambeka;
- Ubuso bobutshekileyo obunzima;
- Uloyiko lokubukela abantu ngqo emehlweni;
- Umnqweno wokuhlala ungaphawulwa;
- indawo yokuhlala;
- Ilizwi elizolileyo, intetho eninzi;
- ebandakanya amanqaku kwi-Insotion, ecela uxolo rhoqo ngezenzo zabo;
- umngeni, ukugqibelela kakhulu kwezenzo zabo;
- ukutyhilwa kweengenelo zabo;
- Inqanaba elincinci lezinto zoncedo;
- ukurhanelwa njengenkumbulo kumhlaba ojikelezileyo;
- ukungathembani ebantwini.
Uxilongo
Uphando, oochwephesha bengqondo basebenzisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo.
- Sebenzisa indlela yokulinganisa kokuzivavanya, i-demo-rudrinstein ifumana inqanaba lamabango ofikisayo. Ubudala bobudala buguqukela kwiminyaka eli-10 ukuya kweli-16. Ubukhulu bomsantsa phakathi kwamanqanaba amabango kunye nokuvavanywa kokuzimisela.
- Vavanya V. V. Novikova "Ndikwenze ukuba ndikwazi ukumisela imeko ekuthinteli ngayo okanye ukubandakanywa kokuzithemba komntu wakhe.
- Inqanaba eliphezulu, eliphakathi neliphantsi lokuqikelela ngokwakho, ukwanela kunye nokungafaneleki kwentokazi yokuzithemba kunceda ekuchongeni ubugcisa s. A. Budassa.
Izizathu zokuzithemba okuphantsi
Imbono eqalisiweyo ichatshazelwa yinto yelifa: ubuchule bengqondo kunye nakwezomzimba, ubushushu, uphawu. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu yimfundo. Ukugcinwa ngokugqithisileyo, ukhathalelo olungapheliyo okanye, ngokuchasene noko, ukunqongophala kolwalamano olufudumeleyo lwabazali kumntwana kuchaphazela ukuzithemba.
Abantwana abangafunekiyo abavela kwiminyaka yosana baziva benganyanzelekanga. Abanayo inkxaso yabazali, bave i-cursed, hayi umntu asimahla. Iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo zomntwana zichitywe ukuba abazali bahlala emcaphukisa. Umntwana onjalo akakwazi ukuzithanda. Uhlala ewuva ukungafezeki kwakhe. Abantwana abanamdla kwizimvo zabanye. Uvavanyo lomntu wasemzini ludla ngokudlala indima yokuthatha isigqibo. Ukuba abafundi ofunda nabo, abahlobo, ootitshala okanye abantu abaqhelekileyo baphendule kakubi malunga nedatha yangaphandle, emzimbeni okanye yengqondo yomntwana, emva koko unokuyihlola okanye abonakalise ubundlobongela kwabanye.
Ulutsha lunxibelelana ngenyameko kwihlabathi elibonakalayo. Kunye nendlela yesiko leshumi elivisayo, i-cyberbling isasazeke ngokukhawuleza. Ungenzi ialarm encinci kwishumi elivisayo kunokonzakala ebomini bokwenyani. Impembelelo yazo nakuphi na ukungcungcutheka kubume bokuzithemba okuphantsi kunene. Ishumi elivisayo inyusa inqanaba loxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo, ukulala kwentloko, ukulala kuyaphazamiseka, inkanuko iyabi.
Abanye abantwana baqala ukucinga ngokuzibulala. Abanye banomnqweno wokungqina kwabo abanye.
Ungaziphakamisa njani?
Ukuphucula ukuzithemba kufuneka ngokuthe ngcembe. Okokuqala, kufuneka siphuculwe kwezo ndawo zinikiweyo. Kuyimfuneko ukupha ixesha lokuzikhusela, funda uncwadi olufanelekileyo. Inkwenkwe kufuneka ikwazi ukubandakanyeka komnye umdlalo. Umlinganiso oyindoda omnandi unyusa inzala kumantombazana.
Intombazana efikisayo ibaluleke kakhulu xa ijonge ngasemva kweentombi zakhe. Akakhathali kwiimbono zabazali, ootitshala, oontanga. Intombazana inceda ekunyuseni ukusebenza ngenkangeleko yakhe. Awudingi ukuba utyhile ngokupheleleyo iimpawu zendalo ezinjengokuthozama kunye neentloni. Abantu abancinci ngokukhawuleza baphulukane nomdla kwihlathi elincinci. Ifanele ifundwe ukutshintsha i-shiene kunye ne-rigor.
Kuya kufuneka uzithande ngazo zonke izinto eziluncedo kunye nezibonelelo. Akufuneki ibandakanyeke kwikhethe. Vuma iimpazamo zakho, zama ukuzilungisa. Kuyimfuneko ukulwa ubuvila bakho, kuba ihlala iphazamisa indawo yokuthuthuzela kwaye isasazeke ngendima yelahleko. Ndwendwela uqeqesho olukhethekileyo olujolise ekuphuculeni ukuzithemba. Ungathandabuzi ukuncoma.
Uncumo rhoqo, vuyisa yonke imizuzu yobomi. Kholwa kuwe kunye nabanye. Yamkela indlela yakho. Wahlukile. Akukho namnye umntu ofanayo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukufumana indawo yakho. Hlawula ingqalelo efanelekileyo kwiiklasi zakho ozithandayo, umdla kunye nezinto ozithandayo. Khangela iitalente zakho. Khangela amandla, uphuhlise. Khetha umsebenzi kwishawa.
Incoko kunye nabanye, akukho mfuneko yokukhalaza ngobomi bakho obungathandekiyo. Zabalazela ukunceda abantu abafuna inkxaso yakho. Izenzo ezinjalo ziyanceda ukukhulisa ukuzithemba.
Ngenxa yokulungiswa kokuzinciphisa, iingcali zicebisa oku kulandelayo:
- Lungisa kwidayari yakho nayiphi na impumelelo yakho (lo msebenzi unceda ukuqaphela kwaye uvavanye naliphi na i-HART);
- Yenza uludwe lweempawu zakho ezingama-30 zeempawu zakho ezintle, ngokuthe ngcembe baphinda baphinde baze baphinde;
- Zenzele izincomo ezahlukeneyo;
- Isipho esikwindawo yakho owaziwayo, umzekelo, umlingisi okanye imvumi, kwaye unxibelelana nabanye, ebonakalayo ukuba lo awunguye, kwaye umntu owaziwayo uthetha umlomo wakho ngalo mzuzu.
Iingcebiso
Ulutsha lufuneka kakuhle, kuba ukulala kwanelanga kwanegalelo ekunciphiseni kwethemba kunye nokuzithemba. I-toweight, ifom ehlwempuzekileyo yendalo yokuphucula imvakalelo yokwahlula-ntle nokungasebenzi. Isondlo esipheleleyo kunye nemidlalo eqhelekileyo isuswa kwiingcinga ezimbi, inike amandla omzimba, amandla nempilo.
Iingcali zinika abazali icebiso elibalulekileyo.
- Umntwana phawula ngokuchonga nabazali , ke kubaluleke kakhulu ukutyala iingcinga ezimbini ezibalulekileyo entlokweni yakho: "Ndiyindoda epholileyo," ungumntu onesithukuthezi, ulunge ngakumbi kunam. " Dumisa abantwana bakho. Gxininisa ukuba amandla abo alungile. Vakalisa ukholo lwakho kubuchule bomntwana. Inkxaso yoomama entombi noncedo lukaTata kuNyana womntwana okwishumi elivisayo.
- Musa ukugxeka umntwana omncinci, njengoko engaqinisekanga ngesibongozo sakhe. Amagqabantshintshi abalulekileyo anciphisa kakhulu ukuzithemba. Musa ukuthelekisa umntwana nabanye abantwana, nkqu nakwizizathu ezifanelekileyo.
- Nceda umfana omncinci uve ubuhle kunye nomtsalane wakhe. Jonga u-stylist uncedwe ukunceda ukhethe isitayile esifanelekileyo. Kuyimfuneko ukubeka amazinyo kunye nolusu. Ulutsha lukhathazekile kakhulu luphando lolusu ezahlukeneyo, kodwa uhlala uthandabuza ukuthetha ngayo. Thatha umntwana kwi-cosmetologist.
- Nika abantwana bakho ithuba lokufumana abantu abaqhelileyo. Bazirekhode kumacandelo kunye nee-mugs, thumela kwinkampu yezemidlalo nakwiziko lokuzonwabisa. Kwiqela elingaqhelekanga, umntwana unikwe ithuba lokutyhila ngendlela entsha. Isibonda sesangqa sonxibelelwano, ubuso obahlukileyo bokuxelwa komntu. Yandisa umbono wakho.
Ukuba kunzima ukujamelana nawe neengxaki zomntwana wakho, nceda uqhagamshelane nengcali. Umsebenzi kunye nogqirha wezengqondo unokutshintsha ukucinga komntwana okwishumi elivisayo, hlengahlengisa ufakelo lwayo.
Kuyacetyiswa ukuba kufezekiswe ezi ndlela zilandelayo zokuphucula ukuzithemba. Fumana isizathu sekratshi.
- Gxila kumava, hayi ngenkangeleko. Inkangeleko yotshintsho ngokukhawuleza. Imithetho yobuhle iyatshintsha.
- Zibandakanye nemidlalo, ubugcisa. Funda ukudlala isixhobo somculo.
- Yiya kwimizamo yokuphumelela ekufundeni. Yazi intembelo ngamandla abo.
- Qiniseka ukuba uthathe uxanduva. Fumana umsebenzi wexeshana. Zuza imali inokuchithwa ekufundeni, nceda abantu. Yiba livolontiya. Nceda izilwanyana, abantu abadala nabagulayo.
Phuhlisa ubuntu.
- Sukuzama ukukholisa abantu. Akunakwenzeka ukuba uthanda wonke umntu ngexesha elinye. Yenza isenzo. Yiba ngumntu olungileyo.
- Fumana isitayile sakho esikhethekileyo. Thabatha impahla yefashoni, kwaye lowo ubonakala emhle kuwe, uza ebusweni bakho, ekwabalaselisa kwisihlwele. Yenza umfanekiso owodwa.
- Jonga i-hygiene yobuqu. Coca amazinyo akho, ukubala iinwele zakho, sebenzisa i-deodorant. Nxiba kuphela izinto ezicocekileyo nezicocekileyo. Musa ukunxiba iimpahla eziqwengiweyo. Izinto kufuneka zilingane nobungakanani bakho. Lahla impahla esondeleyo kakhulu okanye impahla yezambatho.
- Funda umdaniso omtsha, umsindo uhlobo lwemidlalo okanye ubugcisa. Thatha inxaxheba kukhuphiswano.
- Zonwabele kubahlobo abanokuqonda, bayakuthanda kwaye bakuxabise. Sukuba ngabahlobo nabantu abanomona inkqubela yakho okanye bakukhuphe.
- Musa ukoyika ukubonisa uluvo lomntu. Inkunkuma yokuphuma ebantwini. Ungavumeli ukuba uhlambe. Zibonakalise iifektri.
Susa ukungahambi kakuhle.
- Musa ukuchitha ixesha elininzi nabantu olungiselelwe i-piessistic. Ubomi buhle. Umntu, ucinga ukuba ungonwabi, ongonwabanga. Cinga rhoqo ngendlela efanelekileyo. Tshintsha ngemifanekiso engalunganga kwiingxelo ezifanelekileyo.
- Soloko ugxila kuphela kwimpumelelo. Nakuphi na ukusilela kubona njengamava odingayo. Zama ukulungisa iimpazamo, qhubeka indlela.
- Akukho bantu bafanelekileyo. Zabalazela ukufezekisa iinjongo zokwenyani. Cinga ukuba onke amanyathelo. Sukuziva udanile xa kungenakwenzeka ukufezekisa okungaphezulu kunokuba ndingathanda.
- Yeka ukuphendula kwizimvo ezibalulekileyo. Umntu ngamnye unelungelo lokufumana uluvo lwakhe, kodwa isenokuphoxeka. Thatha ukugxekwa okwakhayo.
- Ukuphuma. Zenzele yonke imihla kwinto yokuba ungumntu omangalisayo. Kumandla akho ukujamelana nazo naziphi na iingxaki zobomi. Ufanele ukonwaba.
