Mhlawumbi, phantse akukho mntu unokunyaniseka ngokunyaniseka enolwalamano olufanelekileyo emtshatweni. Ngokwemvelo kwaye iqhele ukuzama ukuvumelana, ukusondela kunye nemeko enobungozi kwindlwana yosapho lwayo. Kodwa ukufezekiswa kolo lwalamano sisiphumo sokusebenza okukhulu kunye nemihla ngemihla nganye yamaqabane. Ke ngoko, kwimeko yobunzima, akukho mfuneko yokuba unikezele kwaye uhlise izandla zakho, kungcono ukuyihlole imeko, uqonde iingxaki kwaye ubavumele ukuba bavumele.
Iqabane lakho elikhubazekileyo
Kunzima kakhulu ukunyamezela imeko yeemvakalelo kwintsapho. Abafazi abaninzi banyanzelwa ukuba banyamezele isibakala sokuba umyeni uyeke ngalo lonke ixesha, agxeke, ugxeka kunye nokuthuka. Ngapha koko, inokuhlala iphantse ibe phantse okanye kwizizathu eziphikisayo. Indoda, njengoko besitsho, iya "ukuqala ngesiqingatha sokujika": Dshoni, ivakalisa ukungabinamali kukutya okuphekiweyo, sebenzisa indlu, ingcikivo ithi inkosikazi yakhe.
Amagama a-Andoid anokuphindaphinda kwakhona ngaphandle koxolo olandelayo. Amabango aya isiba mancinci kwaye ngokucokisekileyo. Itshata inyamezele, abafazi abaninzi bakulungele ukuthatha isigqibo malunga noqhawulo-mtshato nakuqhekezwa kobudlelwane nomntu osithandayo. Zithini izinto ezibangela ukuba kunjalo kwiqabane?
Ungayitshintsha imeko engathandekiyo engathandekiyo kwaye useke ubudlelwane kuphela ukuba ingcambu yeengxaki isusiwe okanye ilungiswe.
Indoda inokubonisa iimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo kumfazi wakhe ngenxa yesinye okanye ezininzi kwezi zinto zilandelayo.
- Rhoqo, ibhinqa likhalaza ukuba umyeni uhlala ekhwaza na ngaphandle kwezizathu ezibalulekileyo kwaye awonelisekanga yiyo yonke into, kodwa kwangaxeshanye akazami ukuvavanya imeko yemvakalelo yesibini. Iimpawu ezifanayo zinokuba Uphawu lokuqokelelwa koxinzelelo, ukudinwa okungapheliyo okanye ukugcwala kwengqondo kwengqondo. Uninzi luhlala lunxulunyaniswa neengxaki emsebenzini. Itshata emva kosuku lokusebenza kwaye ngaphandle kokukwazi ukukhulula uxinzelelo ngezinye iindlela, indoda, ibuyela ekhaya, ikhwaza kwaye igobe umfazi wayo ngobukho bamaqhinga.
- Mhlawumbi ukuziphatha ngokupheleleyo kusapho ukubonakaliswa kweempawu zobuntu kunye nomlinganiso weqabane lakho. Ngaphambi kokuqeqesha, babenokuphila nje. Ubomi obuqhelekileyo buhlala bunamandla kakhulu ukutyhila umntu kwelinye. Umzekelo, i-cholerik, ilukhuni nje ukuba phantse iphantse inomsindo, ihlala ikrwada kwaye ihlala iyenza amagqabantshintshi ngeenxa zonke. Ngelishwa, kwanomntu osondeleyo nothandekayo uyakuphepha ezo zinto zibonakalisayo.
- Kuyimpazamo ukuba umntu phantse ayonwabile ngobomi bezesondo, ngakumbi xa uqhelekile. Kodwa ayikho kwaphela. Kwaye kunjalo Ukophulwa kubudlelwane bezesondo Ihlala ingunobangela wokugaya nokuphulukana nokuqonda. Le meko iyinyusa inyani yokuba kude kuzo zonke izibini zilungele ukuxoxa ngokwaneleyo nge-goximes esondeleyo, ngokuchanekileyo, inomdla kwiqabane lakho kwiqabane. Rhoqo umfazi ngokubanzi akathambekele ekukhangelwe ukufuna ingcambu yeengxaki kule ndawo, ngaphandle kokubona ubudlelwane phakathi kwezesondo kunye nonxibelelwano kubomi bemihla ngemihla. Oku kushiya ingxaki ingasonjululwanga kwaye ngokuhamba kwexesha kunyusa uxinzelelo phakathi kwamaqabane.
- Njengabafazi, abameli besini esomeleleyo Yinto eqhelekileyo ukwenza into ethile yobomi bakhe. Ukuqala ukukuqonda ngakumbi, umyeni ujongene nezo okanye ezinye izinto ezipholileyo. Ngokukodwa ibonakaliswa kukungoneliseki ngumfazi wakhe kwikhefu lokuya kubeleka. Ibhinqa elikhulelweyo ngeli xesha lifumana utshintsho lomzimba, kunye nokuguquguquka kwimeko yemvakalelo. Ewe, umntu unokuqonda ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba akuhlambe kule, kodwa awukwazi ukuthintela kwiimeko ezininzi. Inyani yile yokuba yena ngokwakhe uphoxekile kwaye akanalo ixesha lokwamkela umgangatho osemgangathweni kunye nomfanekiso womfazi othandekayo. Kubonakala kuye owaphambi kwakhe phantse omnye, engaziwa kuye ngaphambili, umntu onxulumene naye ngemitshato.
Intetho, ukugxeka kunye nokugxeka kunye nokugculelwa, kuchazwe kwidilesi yesiqingatha sesibini, kukuzama ukuqubuda umntu owenziwe ngaphambili kwaye abonakale.
- Umamazala unokwenza ngokwezifinye unyana wakhe nxamnye naye onyuliweyo kuye. Ngaso nasiphi na isizathu, kwakuqala ukungasebenzi, umama uya kuzama ukuphelisa isibini kulwalamano. Ukuba indoda ibotshelelwe ngamandla kunina, kokukhona uninzi luya kulithatha ngokungaboni kwaye ngokungazi kakuhle kunye nezimvo zawo kunye namabango.
- Eyona nto ingathandekiyo kunye neyona nto ibalulekileyo yokuziphatha ebukhali kunye nokuziphatha okukhulu kwendoda kunokuba njalo IRoma ecaleni. Inokuba kutsha nje kweemvakalelo eza kuphele kungekudala. Kodwa ngexesha lesikhundla sabo, iqabane lobomi liyaphela emehlweni eqabane. Kodwa inkanuko entsha, ngokuchaseneyo, nje iyachuma iminqweno kwaye ihlala ineenzuzo zokucinga.
- Ii-obonts zokucaphuka kunye neengcikivo zinokusebenza Iimpazamo zokwenyani zomfazi. Rhoqo ukungazithembi okugqithisileyo akusivumeli ukuba sihlole ngokufanelekileyo iimpawu kunye nezenzo zakho. Mamela kwaye uzijonge. Ngaba ubonakalisa uhlaselo olufanayo olungalunganga kubudlelwane neqabane lakho? Ngaba izindlu zakho nezitya zingenanto? Ngamanye amaxesha umntu obhinqileyo akafuni kuvuma ukuba wenza into embi okanye engathandekiyo kwaye ngenkani ume ngokwakho, ephindaphinda kwakhona iimpazamo zakhe. Kwaye umyeni unyanzelekile ukuba aveze amabango kunye nezimvo kwifom yomgibe, ebukhali kwaye afikelele "kumfazi wakhe.
- Mhlawumbi umyeni wakho wabukela ulwalamano lwexesha nabazali bakhe. Rhoqo kwithuba labadala, abantwana abanjalo, bengangomzekelo ofanelekileyo, emtshatweni wabo uqala Khuphela imodeli yokuziphatha kwamalungu osapho.
Unganceda njani wena nendoda?
Okokuqala, qonda ukuba ukuba uyibeka imeko ye-samoek, phantse ngokuqinisekileyo iya kutshintsha. Ekumiselweni kobudlelwane boMtshato oQhelekileyo bubalulekile Ukunyaniseka, uthando kwiqabane kunye nonyamezelo. Ngaphandle kwezi mpawu akunakwenzeka ukwakha ukuthembana kunye nokunxibelelana ngentlonelo nakwisithuba se-trunk, nangakumbi emva kokugqitywa komanyano kunye nokuqala kobomi obudibeneyo.
Sukuphelelwa kwexesha kwiincoko ezolileyo. Abameli bendawo eqinileyo, nangona besenza ngakumbi ukugcina ngokwabo, besasabela kakuhle nakweyiphi na incoko enobukrelekrele neyaba nentembelo nomntu osondeleyo. Ukuba indoda yakho ineengxaki emsebenzini, inkxaso kwaye ithathe, ibonise into oyikholelwayo kuyo. Ukuba ingxabano iqala ukuveza, zama ukungaqali. Sukukhwaza ukuphendula kwaye ungayikhanyisi impikiswano. Ingxubusho ekhethekileyo eyongezelelweyo yengxaki isebenza ngakumbi kunokwazi ukuthuka kunye nokuthuka.
Ngamanye amaxesha kungcono ukushiya indoda enye kwaye ikunike ukuthoba. Ukuba ngobunono kwaye ngaphandle komnxeba, mxelele ukuba amazwi akhe okwenza buhlungu kakhulu. Cacisa ukuba ungathanda ukuthetha ngale ngxaki ngokuzolileyo, ngoko ke mcele ukuba akwazi ukujamelana neemvakalelo. Emva koko, shiya igumbi okanye uye kuhambo olufutshane.
Ingxabano ilunge ngakumbi ukusika ekuvukeleni kwakhe kunokuba kugxilwe kuyo kuya kuguqula izithuko, eza kubuhlungu kuzo zombini ezihlazo kwaye ihlazeke.
Zama yonke indlela efanayo yokuxoxa ngeemvakalelo zakho ebhedini nomyeni wakho. Ukuba kuyacaca ukuba wena neqabane lakho azikulungelanga kwincoko enjalo, musani ukoyika ukunxibelelana nomcebisi wobudlelwane bokwabelana ngesondo. Mamela icebiso logqirha wezengqondo ocebisa kule ndawo. Ngelishwa, kwilizwe lethu, kwilizwe lethu, uninzi luye lwalugcina umkhethe kunye nokuzihlaziya ulwalamano olusondeleyo. Kodwa ezo thethwano zinceda abantu abaninzi abatshatileyo banxibelelanisa ubomi bezesondo kunye nobudlelwane, kunye nokuxhathisa ukugqabhuka.
Nceda indoda yakho iqonde kwishishini elinomdla okanye lokuzonwabisa. Ubomi abufanele buncitshiswe kuphela emsebenzini nakwintsapho. Umda onjalo wezinto zayo kunye nomsebenzi uyadinisa kakhulu, ukhokelela ekufundeni nemvakalelo. Mnike ukhetho olukhethiweyo lokwabelana ngempelaveki okanye nakweyiphi na indawo yokuhlala. Mhlawumbi, inkanuko entsha iyonke iya kuvela kwisibini sakho. Kwaye le yindlela elungileyo yokufumana i-rappochety kwaye isombulule ukugaya.
Zama ukusebenza kwiintsilelo zakho. Thetha nabahlobo abasondeleyo okanye abazali kwaye ubuze ngokunyaniseka kwaye ngokunyaniseka kukukhomba. Ungazikhuseli kwaye ungabuxabisi ubuthathaka bakho. Amaqhinga anjalo aya kukhokelela kubuvila bokuziphatha, ukukhathazeka kunye nekratshi. Kwaye ezi mpawu ziphawuleka kwaye azithandeki ngazo nakuphi na ukunxibelelana kungekuphela nje ngaphakathi kwesinye isibini, kodwa nakwezinye iindawo.
Zibukele. Xhasa imbonakalo ecocekileyo nakwimiselo yasekhaya. Ngamanye amaxesha tshintsha umfanekiso wakho, iya kwenza isiphumo se-novelty emehlweni eqabane. Zama ukuseka ubudlelwane bokuthembana kakuhle nabazali, abantu abasondeleyo nabahlobo bomyeni wakho. Nokuba umntu ovela kubo akathandekiyo nasiphi na isizathu, ulondolozo lonxibelelwano kunye nabo uya kukunika amanqaku amabini amahle.
Okokuqala, unokuchaza ngokupheleleyo ukuba ngubani owukhethwe nguKho, fumana amaphupha abantwana bakhe kunye nolutsha kunye nezinto ozithandayo, izinto onomdla kuzo, izinto ozithandayo. Ngokungathandabuzekiyo kuya kukunceda kubudlelwane. Okwesibini, ungakuthintela "ukuphathwa gadalala" kusapho okanye kubahlobo bomlingane. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba unayo ingcambu yabo, banokubangela uluvo olubi ngawe kwaye bakuphathe ngokungathembani. Ngumhlaba lo ngulungoka, ubunkokheli, nokubeka umyeni nxamnye nawe.
