I-ALAS, ayizizo zonke izibini ezinokusindisa umanyano lwakho. Ngenxa yeemeko, ukungcatsha okanye impawu nje ezingachanekanga, amaqabane eemeko ezithile anyanzelwa ukuba enze isigqibo esinzima. Uqhawulo-mtshato lutshintsha kakhulu indlela yobomi, ikhosi yesiqhelo. Eli xesha linxulunyaniswa nomthwalo weemvakalelo kunye namava, icinezelelo lihlala likhokelela ekudalweni naselunzulu kwamadoda nabafazi.
Yintoni ekhokelela kwimeko yoxinzelelo?
Ebomini, wonke umntu kufuneka ajongane nexabiso elininzi lobunzima. Ukugqabhuka komtshato woMtshato Wenakele kakhulu iimvakalelo, ididekile kwaye izisa ngamanye amaxesha uxinzelelo olubonakalayo. Xa isigqibo kuqhawulo-mtshato samkelwa kwaye saziswa, kwizicwangciso ezidibeneyo kunye nobomi bangaphambili, umnqamlezo kufuneka ubeke umnqamlezo.
La mava kunye neemeko ezilandelayo zinokukhokelela kuxinzelelo emva komsantsa.
- Imvakalelo yokungafunelwa kunye nokungabi nalinto. Ngalo lonke ixesha, la maqabane aphila "avakalelwa sisiqingatha sabo sesibini, athontelana onke amathemba kuphela kwimfazwe nomyeni wakhe okanye umfazi wakhe.
- Ukuphoxeka kuwe, ukophulwa kweqhayiya kunye nekratshi. Ukuba uqhawulo-mtshato lwenzekile ngenxa yobudlelwane obutsha okanye ingxabano, amava anjalo ahlala ethuthumbile kwaye akaphumi.
- Ukuziva unetyala phambi kwabantwana, uloyiko lokuphulukana nalo lunxibelelwano.
- Ndicela iimpazamo zangaphambili. Rhoqo, emva kwekhefu, amaqabane e-Eks awela ukuziinzamo ezinzulu, ukugweba kakhulu kuzo naziphi na iziganeko ezidlulileyo kunye nokungaziphathi kakuhle emtshatweni.
- Ubunzima bezemali. Emva kokupheliswa komtshato, uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali losapho oludibeneyo losapho luhlasela, abantwana bahlala kwelinye lamaqabane angaphambili abakhathalele. Ingxaki isenokukhangela izindlu ezintsha xa uqhuba.
- I-Torzia enemvakalelo yokuziva unetyala okanye ihlazo.
Imbonakaliso kunye nekhosi yokuphazamiseka kwengqondo
Uqhawulo-mtshato lunokuba ziindidi ezimbini:
- ngesivumelwano sodwa xa isigqibo senziwa ngamaqabane bobabini;
- Iqaliswe kwelinye icala, ngelixa omnye umsant akafuni.
Ukuqhawula uqhawulo mtshato kunokubizwa ngoxolo. Emva kwabo, owayesakuba ngamaqabane ahlala ekwazi ukulungiselela ngokukhawuleza ubomi babo. Banokunxibelelana ngokupheleleyo ngokupheleleyo emva kwethutyana. Kodwa nakule meko, owayefuduse amaqabane akazange akhuselekile nxamnye nokuvela kokuveliswa koxinzelelo.
Kwicala lesibini, amava ecala lasekhohlo kunzima kakhulu kwaye anamandla. Ixesha lokuseka imeko yengqondo yengqondo kunye nesakhiwo esiphilayo kule meko ihlala ihleli.
Nakubantu, kwaye kwabasetyhini, iimpawu zokuphazamiseka koxinzelelo zijonga ngendlela eqhelekileyo:
- Ukungakhathali okuqinileyo, okungakwaziyo ukoyisa;
- ukungakhathali okungapheliyo;
- ukwaphula iqhekeza okanye i-insomnia;
- Izikhukula, ukukhupha inzondelelo, ukungakwazi ukujongana neemvakalelo;
- Rhoqo, uxinzelelo lubonakaliswa yimisindo yomsindo kunye nolwazelelo lwabantu Obathandayo;
- Imvakalelo yengqumbo enzulu kwiqabane, umnqweno wokuziphindezela;
- Uloyiko phambi kwekamva, imvakalelo yokungabi nathemba kunye nokungamampuli kobomi obungaphezulu;
- ukuwa ukuzithemba, ukunganyaniseki;
- utyekelo lokufumana utywala kunye neziyobisi, ukwandisa ukuxhomekeka okudlulileyo;
- ukungafezeki, ukuhlaselwa koyike, uloyiko olungathethekiyo;
- Hlukana nenkangeleko yakhe nezempilo, umntu, oko kufuwulweyo, "uyaziqhekezela";
- Ukuvalwa ngokwakho, ukuntywila kwesangqa sonxibelelwano kuko konke ukwala abafowunelwa;
- Ukutyekela ngokuzibulala, umnqweno wokunciphisa amanqaku ngobomi.
Ngoxinzelelo, ikhosi ende iphawulwa. Ukuba iimpawu enye okanye ezi-2-3 ziqwalaselwa kwiiveki ezimbalwa, emva koko ziya kungekho, ke le yimeko nje yokuhlaselwa lusizi. Akusoyiki kwaye kunye naye kwiimeko ezininzi ukulawula ukujamelana ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngaphandle kwemiphumo.
Enye into kukudakumba kwengozi yokwenyani enokuphinda isebenze kangangeenyanga nakwiminyaka. URhulumente onjalo uya kukwenza ubomi obukhulu ubomi, impilo, indoda yengqondo nebhinqa. Kule meko, kubalulekile ukukunceda uphume kweli meko ngokukhawuleza, ukujamelana noxinzelelo kwaye uqalise ngokuphila ubomi obugcweleyo.
Kubantu abajamelana noqhawulo-mtshato, imeko yoxinzelelo yenzeka ngamanqanaba aliqela. Kuxhomekeka kwiimpawu zobuqu kunye nemeko ethile, ixesha ngalinye ngalinye lalingafani. Olona khetho lubalaseleyo kukuhamba ngokukhawuleza kwezigaba ngasinye ngaphandle kwe-jams kuyo nayiphi na enye yazo.
- Inqanaba lokuqala kukukhanyela imeko yangoku. "Oku akunakuba yiyo kwaye ungaze ube" - le ndlela yokuphendula yindlela yokukhusela i-psyche. Ngokusebenzisa uxinzelelo olungavumiyo, olungenakuphikiswa kwengqondo luhlehlisiwe.
- Umsindo kunye omile. Emva kotshintsho kwesi sigaba, indawo yokuqala iza ngobundlongondlongo kunye nomnqweno wokukhusela umdla wabo. Ngeli xesha, ukonakalo kunye neengxabano ezinzima zibonakaliswa, eziphinda zinike amaqabane omnye komnye.
- Umnqweno obukhali wokubuyisa iqabane. Iinzame ezinqwenelekayo zokumisela ubudlelwane, ukweyisela iqabane okanye iqabane ukuba liphinde liphinde liphinde. Kunokubakho iingxoxo ezingathandekiyo, izipho, izipho, izoyikiso.
- Inqanaba lamava asebenzayo. Ixesha lokuthatha ixesha lokwamkelwa kwemeko yangoku kunye nokuqala kokubekwa kuyo. Emva kwazo zonke iindlela zokukhusela zisebenzile, i-psyche yomntu inyanzelekile ukuba yamkele umsantsa kunye neemeko ezintsha. Ukusukela kweli nqanaba, amava okukhawuleza kunye nenkqubo yokubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo iqala. Kula manqanaba apho ukulibaziseka rhoqo.
Emva koko, ixesha lenqanaba ngalinye lokungakhathali kunye nobuchule bamava kuxhomekeke kwizinto ezininzi:
- Iminyaka yangaphambili yamaqabane, ixesha lokutshata kwabo kunye nolwalamano olubelekileyo;
- Ukufumaneka kwenkxaso ebantwaneni, abazali, nabahlobo kunye nabo ubathandayo;
- Iimpawu zengqondo kunye noxinzelelo lokunganyange koxinzelelo lomntu ngamnye wangaphambili;
- Ubudlelwane emtshatweni kunye neemvakalelo omnye komnye ngexesha lomsantsa;
- Iinkalo zamava kaMazali zoqhawulo-mtshato;
- Izizathu ezizodwa zokuqhekezwa koBudlelwane bomtshato (inkcitho, inkohliso yokuphazamiseka kwezemali, izalamane okanye imikhwa eyenzakalisayo okanye imikhwa eyenzakalisayo okanye ukuxhomekeka kwelinye lamaqabane, ubundlobongela basekhaya, njl. Njl.).
Ungazinceda njani?
Kwimeko yokudakumba kakhulu kwaye evuthayo, akunakwenzeka ukuba ivumele yonke into kwi-samoek. URhulumente onjalo unokuthi emva koko ashiye uphawu olungapheliyo kwi-psyche, impilo eqinile. Nokuba inzima kangakanani indoda okanye umfazi ngeli xesha, kubalulekile ukuba uqokelele yonke ukuthanda kwakhe kwaye ithumele ukuze ibuyele kubuntu obugcweleyo.
Ingcebiso yogqirha wezengqondo iya kunceda ukukhulula uxinzelelo kunye nokuqhelisela imeko yengqondo yengqondo emva koqhawulo-mtshato.
- Musa ukuzinqanda iinyembezi kunye nosizi. Iziphumo zemvakalelo ezisebenzayo zinika iziphumo ezilungileyo. Intlungu kunye nentlungu kufuneka ziphile kwaye kuphela emva koko ungayeka yonke into enxulumene nale meko.
- Ungavali ngokwakho. Vumela abantu abasondeleyo, izalamane okanye abahlobo ukukunceda. Incoko yentembelo, intetho yamava iya kunceda ukoyisa uxinzelelo.
- Zive ukhululekile ukuguqukela kwi-psychologist okanye i-psychotherapistry. Rhoqo, ithuba elinjalo liyaliwa, ukuqwalasela oku kubonakalisa ubuthathaka. Okwangoku, uncedo lobungcali lunceda ukususa amava anzima ngengqondo.
- Izinto zokuzonwabisa kunye nemfundo yezemzimbeni ziya kunceda ekuphumeni koxinzelelo. Ukuba awukayithandi enye into, fumana umsebenzi onomdla. Bhalisa kwindawo yokuzivocavoca, isitudiyo sokudala, khanyisa nayiphi na isixhobo somculo. Oku kuya kwandisa ezo moya kwaye kwandise isangqa sonxibelelwano.
- I-antidepressunts isusa uxinzelelo lwengqondo. Kodwa amayeza anjalo anokumiselwa kuphela ugqirha wengqondo okanye ugqirha wengqondo, emva kokuvavanya imeko. Ukongeza, kwiimeko ezininzi, i-antidepressants ingumlutha. Emva koko, unyango olongezelelweyo luyafuneka ukuba lususe ukuxhomekeka kubo.
- Ibhunga elilandelayo lisebenza ngakumbi kwabasetyhini, kodwa lingathetha ngokuyinxalenye yamadoda. Zithathe , jonga umfanekiso omtsha uze ubani nge-windows, ezenza i-riarstyles.
- Sukungxama ukuqala ubudlelwane obutsha obizwa ngokuba yi-Shed. Oku kunokukhokelela ekuphoxekeni okutsha. Thetha ngakumbi nabahlobo kunye nabantu abathandekayo kuwe.
- Akukho tyala alithuli utywala beentaba , kwaye nangaphezulu musa ukuchukumisa izinto zengqondo. Umbuso omfutshane kakhulu uya kutshintshwa kukuphathwa kwemeko yeemvakalelo. Indlela efanayo yobomi ngokuqinisekileyo iya kuchaphazela impilo.
Nawaphi na amava obomi anokuhlawulwa ngokwakho. Hlalutya iimpazamo zakho, chaza iimbono ezintsha. Rhoqo, umsantsa kunye neqabane uzisa inkululeko yokwakha ubomi obungaphezulu, ivula iminqweno entsha.
