Abanye abantu bakholelwa ukuba ubuhlanga babantu bahluke kakhulu kwibhinqa. Kutyholwa ngokungaphezulu, kwaye akufuneki ukuba uphathwe nzulu.
Ngokoluvo lwabo, kufanele ukuba lubonwa ngumfazi wayo njengohlobo lokukhanya, oluphawulekayo lwamadoda ngenxa yokucinga kwabo.
Ngaba onke amadoda ayakwazi ukuvukela?
Wonke umntu obhinqileyo uza kuwuphendula lo mbuzo, uzoba ngamava obomi bakhe. Abanye ke baya kuthi kukho amadoda angaguquki, kwaye aba yindoda yabo. Abanye, ngokuchaseneyo, baya kuphendula ukuba bonke abameli besini esomeleleyo bayakwazi ukungcatsha isiqingatha sabo sesibini, ukuba kubizwa imiqathango ethile.
Kwaye abo kunye nabanye balungile kwizimvo zabo, njengoko ngamnye kuthi engumntu ngamnye kunye neembono zobomi. Ithini imodeli esecaleni kwengcambu?
Lo mbuzo awunakuphendulwa kwicala elinye. Ngeendlela ezininzi, isimo sendoda kumfazi wayo siphantsi kokuziphatha komfazi ngokwayo. Rhoqo kukho iimeko ezinjalo apho indoda enye iziphatha ngendlela eyahlukileyo kubafazi abahlukeneyo kwindalo.
Konke oku kuyenzeka, kuba omnye wabo uyakuvumela ukuba atshintshe okanye aziphathe ukuze umyeni anyanzelwe ukuba ajonge ecaleni. Omnye ubamba unyuliweyo wakhe "kwi-mittens" okanye ukuze angabinamnqweno wokujonga ngasekhohlo.
Naziphi na izinto zothando zinokusetyenziswa ukuba uqhuba umsebenzi osisigxina wothintelo lwenkani. Kanye njengokuba indoda enesidima nethembekileyo inokuhamba ngomlomo ukuba isiqingatha sakhe sesibini asikhathalelanga ukugcinwa kobudlelwane.
Makukhunjulwe ukuba umtshato ngumsebenzi onzima kakhulu. Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi kubafazi. Yiyo loo nto bathi abameli baseFrance ngabagcini bentliziyo.
Kodwa kuyo yonke le mithetho kuya kuhlala kukho into enye, kodwa ngaphandle. Kukho iimeko ezinjalo xa umfazi engenamandla phambi kweemeko.
Ewe, kukho abantu abangakwaziyo ukuya kubudlelwane bexesha elide. Kwaye iimeko ezinjalo ziyafumaneka.
Kwimeko enjalo, akufanele ugxeke umfazi. Ifanele iqondwe ukuba uneqabane elinemeko yengqondo engazinzanga. Eyona nto inokwenzeka, imeko enjalo yabangela ukwenzakala kwengqondo, mhlawumbi nabantwana. Yiyo loo nto indoda-i-dohun ayinakuyeka ukukhetha kweqabane elinye.
Isithuko esishicilelweyo sicela umntu ukuba azise amanyathelo rhoqo ngokwakhe, uyakwazi ukufumana isibini nangaliphi na ixesha. Ayizukukhatywa, iphoswe kwaye ihlazisiwe, njengoko kunjalo, ngokugqibeleleyo, ifezekiso.
Ukudibana nale ndoda injalo kwaye iyakuqonda into ebalulekileyo yendalo yakhe, Sukucaphuka kwaye uzame ukufumana iziphoso kuwe ukuze uzithethelele ekuziphatheni umbono.
Kule meko, eyona ndlela ilungileyo iya kuthatha isigqibo sokuphelisa unxibelelwano ngalo lonke ixesha. Makukhunjulwe ukuba ebomini uya kuhlala ufikelela kwindoda eya kukwazi ukukunika uthando nembeko.
Amanani
Iingcali emva kokuba izifundo ziye zaphikisa ukuba amadoda kwiimeko ezininzi atshintsha ukuze aneliseke ngokwesondo. Imeko yabo yengqondo ayisoloko ibandakanyeka "kwinkqubo. Yiyo loo nto abaninzi abaxambulisasayo ukuba ububi bukaThixo athetha nto.
Abafazi batshintsha "Ngayo yonke iNtsiziyo" kwaye balinde iqabane labo ukubuya okufudumeleyo kwengqondo okufanayo. Akumangalisi ke ukuba bathi umntu obhinqileyo etshintsha umyeni wakhe nokuba akwindawo esuswayo, engacacanga ifenitshala kwaye azama ukucwangcisa indlwane yosapho.
Kodwa ngaphandle kwako yonke into, uninzi lwezinto zethu zexesha lethu, phantse i-51%, musa ukujongana nenkululeko ukuba iphathwe uqhawulo-mtshato. Mhlawumbi oku kuyenzeka kuba ngaphezulu kwe-70% yamadoda nangaphezulu kwe-26% yabasetyhini batshintsha isiqingatha sabo sesibini malunga nobomi babo.
Sinika ezinye izibalo.
- Emsebenzini, malunga notshintsho lwama-30%, eli nani liquka amadoda nabafazi. Ngokwesiqhelo, ukungcangcazela okunjalo ngenye yexesha elinye.
- Abamelwane batshintsha i-14% yamadoda nabafazi.
- Ukuba sekhefini, abafazi (34%) batshintsha ngaphezulu kwamadoda (20%).
- Kwindalo okanye kwi-cottage, i-30% inyangwa, kwaye kumagumbi apho omnye amaqabane ahlala nosapho, abangama-30% abantu abatshintsha.
Ngenxa yoko, kunokutshiwo ukuba ayingabo bonke abemi beplanethi yethu bayakwazi ukuvutha kwenkqubo.
Usapho olunamandla kunye nabantwana bahlala benqanda iimpembelelo ezikhokelela ekuziphatheni okubi.
I-Psychology kunye nezizathu
Iingcali zengqondo ziyaphakamisa ukuba zininzi izinto eziyimfuneko kunye nezinto ezibangela ukuba umntu ovuthayo umntu ovuthayo. I-phenomenon enjalo ibangela ingxaki ephakathi. Emva kweminyaka engamashumi amane, abanye abayeni baqala ukubonakala ngathi babonakala ngathi ubomi bezesondo basebenza.
Ngapha koko, ngeli xesha, abantwana kwiintsapho ezininzi baba ngabantu abadala. Babonakala benomdla wabo kunye nezinto zokuzonwabisa. Inkathalo yabazali ihamba ngasemva. Indoda ayivayo mntu odinga umntu, kwaye uyamtyhalela ukuze azifumane njengomntu kwezinye iiklasi.
Imvakalelo yesidleke elonakalisiweyo ligama lale nto. Indoda yimqendu, isetyenziselwa ukunceda uncedo kunye nokukhathalela. Intloko yosapho iyaqhubeka nokusebenza kwaye "ukutsala intambo", kwaye imbuyekezo kunye nolwaneliseko olungaziva. Uhlala esiya kwinto yokuba unyana wakhe usenokuzifaka izibonelelo zezinto ezibonakalayo, kwaye intombi ikhathalela ummeli ophambukele ngokupheleleyo.
Ngokuchasene nale meko, indoda iqala ukubonakala ngathi lukhulu ebomini bakhe luphoswe kwaye aluvavanyi. Ukuba ummeli onjalo womgangatho oqinileyo akafumani ndlela yokuphuma kwimeko yangoku, emva koko inokuthotyelwa kwengqondo yengqondo. I-psychosomakis iza kubandakanya izifo ezinzulu.
Ke ngoko, ukwenzela ukubandezeleka ngokwemvelo kuxinzelelo, ufuna ukubamba kwaye afezekise ubude obukhulu. Kwaye yintoni eyenza? Ewe, iimpembelelo zothando. Impendulo kwezi gusts zihlala zikhona. Ngokuqinisekileyo siza kudibana nomntu obhinqileyo oyahlulahlula izinto ozithandayo kunye nemozulu ephakanyisiweyo. Umhlaba kule meko uza kudlala iipeyinti ezintsha.
Ke kuyenzeka xa nelinye iqabane elinothando liqala "ukuya ngasekhohlo" ekusekhoni ngokunyaniseka. Kuyavela ukuba amadoda aguqula abafazi bawo, kodwa ungashiyi usapho. Rhoqo, iqabane lakho kukuthi ukungazi ukuba umyeni wakhe unenkosikazi.
Iimeko, xa abafazi babo bebekwe ityala ngobuncwane, bafumaneka kuluntu lwethu. Isizathu sokuba ungoneliseki ngokwesondo okanye isimo sengqondo sokubanda somfazi wakhe. Ukonyusa ukuzithemba kwakho, indoda ngenxa yokungakhathalelwa kuya kukujonga "ecaleni".
Inani elincinci labameli besondo esomeleleyo, okokuqala bengakwazi ukwenza usapho oluqinileyo. Izinto ezininzi zengqondo zichaphazela le phethanon. Indawo ethile yokugcina izinto kunye nesimo sengqondo semfundo esikhoyo kumadoda anjalo asisoze sincede ukugcina ulwalamano lwexesha elide kunye nabasetyhini.
Kuya kufuneka sivume ukuba kukho abameli besini esiqinileyo kwiplanethi, enokubangelwa kukususwa kwe-bachelors. Ukuba indoda ihlala yedwa, oko akuthethi ukuba akanalo ubudlelwane bothando namaqabane. Ngokwesiqhelo, ubudlelwane obunjalo abupapashwanga, kwaye ngenxa yoko akunyanzelekanga nto.
I-Bachelors ihlala njengengcuka enye. Ungazami "ukuthoba" kanjalo. Zizenza zibe mbi ngakumbi.
Iziphumo
I-echobe engalunganga kumyeni kaJamani inokwahluka. Xa umfazi efumanisa ukuba ukungcatshwa kwendoda yakhe, ukuzithemba kwakhe kuwa kabukhali, kwaye uwela kuxinzelelo. Ngokuchasene noku, yonke intsapho iyahlupheka kwaye kuqala kubo bonke abantwana. Ke umfazi uqala ukuba nomsindo ngeqabane lakhe ngenxa yeempazamo zakhe. Kwaye le meko ayipheli ngaphandle kwento. Iimvakalelo ezingalunganga azizange zincedile omnye umntu.
Ngenxa yoko, ummeli womgangatho owonileyo wangena ngequbuliso ukuze aziphindezele. Ukutshatyalaliswa kwentsapho apha kuya kuba nzima. Xa amaqabane awayehlala emtshatweni ixesha elide, ke ukuvutha komsindo komnye wabo kuya kujongeka 'kukudubula phakathi kwesibhakabhaka esicacileyo. " Asingabo bonke abafazi abakwaziyo ukuxolela inkanuko yeqabane, kwaye kufuneka ukhumbule.
Isiqingatha sobuqhetseba soluntu sinobunkunkqele. Ukusuka ekuphelisweni, umfazi olahlekileyo unokuthatha isigqibo ngempindezelo. Oku akunakuvunyelwa. Abantu abaninzi banokuva ubunzima kwizenzo zakhe ezingxamisekileyo, kuquka nabantwana bakhe. Ukuba umntu obhinqileyo uyaphula umthetho, kuya kuba noxanduva ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye le yintlekele eya kuzisa umonakalo ongapheliyo kuwo wonke umntu.
Kwaye enye into ebaluleke ngakumbi, engenakuphulukana nembono yempindezelo kukuphulukana nentembelo. Umfazi okhubekisayo akasayi kuphinda akwazi ukufudumala kwiqabane lakhe. Uya kubonakala kuwo onke amanyathelo apho umyeni wakhe atshintsha kwakhona. Kwaye emva kwexesha elithile, ukukrokrela kwakhe kuya kwaneliswa. Kodwa ngelixa imeko yokuphumla iza, kuya kubakho ukohlwaya uninzi kunye neengxaki kusapho.
Ukuba kwenzeka ukuba kwenzekile, akufuneki kuthengwe kwingqumbo. Kuyimfuneko ukuba uphile. Ixesha linyangwa, kwaye ingqumbo yakho iya kuhamba ukuba uyafuna.
Indoda ijonge ingxaki
Amanye amadoda ngokubanzi akakholelwa ukuba ingcambu yabo yinto engaphezu kwendalo. Kuza kwinto yokuba abanye abameli besini sithetha ngolu hlobo: "Ndenza ntoni? Ndinelungelo elipheleleyo lokuvukela. Umfazi wam kunye nosapho abafuni nto. Andiseli, musa ukutshaya. Ngaba ndinganako okungenani iflethi ethile? ".
Kunzima ukucinga, kodwa uninzi lwazo luqinisekile ngobulungisa babo kwaye abakholelwa ukuba benza into engalunganga. Ummeli onjalo wesini esomeleleyo akasayi kutshintsha umbono wakhe. Iya kuhamba ngasekunene kwaye ishiywe de ibe namandla aneleyo. Ewe, kubalulekile ukongeza loo ntsapho uhlobo olunjalo lwamadoda lunqabile.
Oku kuziphatha kuyinto yendalo kwi-egos eqhelekileyo. Ebomini, ufuna ukuzama yonke into ngokukhawuleza. Uhlala ekwimeko entle. Ngumfazi nje kunye nomthandi nje abaziva bengonwabanga kakhulu ngesatellite yobomi. Kuyinyani, ayingawo onke amadoda angabathengi babo abathandayo. Phakathi kwabayeni abangalunganga kukho abo bafumana ukubandezeleka kwengqondo ngokunganyamezeliyo kuba kufuneka bafumane inqwelo moya kwaye balahlekise.
Uya kukuqonda ngokugqibeleleyo okungalunganga, kwaye umtshato ungawa emvukelweni. Uloyiko kunye nokuzisola kwesazela kubonga indoda ngaphakathi. Kodwa oku akanakwenza nantoni na ngenxa yokuba umfazi nomthandi womthandi maze ammeze ngeendlela, kwaye ngamnye kubo ngendlela yakhe.
Imeko kule meko ivunyelwe ngeendlela ezimbini: umyeni ushiya usapho kwinkosikazi yakhe okanye uhlale. Apha yonke into iza kuxhomekeka kwiimeko ezikhulayo.
Ungaphila njani?
Ukuba kukho umnqweno omkhulu, ungasinda kule phethanon. Thatha iimvakalelo zakho zitshintshile kwaye ungene ngendlela efanelekileyo. Ngaphandle kwale nto, ubumbeko akufuneki lwenze nantoni na. Ke kungcono ukuqhawula umtshato okuthile ukwenza into. Ke, uthathe isigqibo sokulondolozwa kosapho kunye nomtshato. Emva koko yenza oku kulandelayo:
- Musa ukuchulumancisa indoda yakho, ungakukhumbuza ngombuso;
- Yenza i-tuby atraly endlini, lungiselela izinto ezahlukileyo kwaye ulungiselele i-teant yeti;
- Rhoqo, yenza indawo yothando xa ungomnye kwiqabane lam;
- yiya kutyelela abahlobo abasondeleyo kwaye ubonise yonke into eyephucukileyo;
- Kuya kufuneka ubonakale umyeni wakho ukuba ujonge abanye abantu basetyhini, kuba oko kuhlala kufuphi;
- Thatha uqeqesho oluhlangeneyo lwezemidlalo;
- Ihlala ishiya usapho lonke kwindalo;
- Nxibelelana nezihlobo ezisondeleyo, abazali;
- Sukutsala kwiingxabano zakho zabantwana- zisencinci kwaye ziya kukhathazeka kakhulu ngento yokuba uMama notata banokuqhawula umtshato.
Zonke iinzame zakho aziyi kudlula ngaphandle komkhondo. Ngokuthe ngcembe, iintlungu zixakekile, kwaye kwangaxeshanye imvakalelo yethemba iya kuvela. Nguwe ngokwakho awuyi kuqaphela ukuba wonke umntu uza kuqwalasela indlela oyifunayo. Into ephambili ayihlali kwingxaki kwaye ayizukuwa kuxinzelelo.
Ungayiphepha njani?
Kholwa ukuba akukho mngcipheko uyakuthatha isigqibo sokukhokela umyeni wakho ukuba utshatile uziva ngathi wawungaphantsi kuwe kubo bonke ubutshaba. Ayizukuchitha ixesha ekuthembekeni kwakho Xa abanye abantu behambahamba, aba mandundu, bajongeka kakhulu kunabodwa kwaye bahle.
Khumbula ukuba amehlo akho afanele apeyintiwe, kwaye i-hairstyle ikwimeko entle. Ngelixa usebenza ngokulondolozwa komtshato wakho, inkangeleko yakho kufuneka ihlale ingenasiphoso.
Sukuyikhanyela umyeni wakho enophawu olusondeleyo ngaphandle kwesizathu esikhethekileyo. Ukusilela kwakho kufuneka kube ngokuchanekileyo. Kwangelo xesha, musa ukuba nongenelelo kakhulu, ngakumbi ukuba sele usanda kobuqhetseba. Kungenjalo, umyeni wakho uya kuqala ukuqonda kwaye unexhala malunga nokungaguquguquki kwamandla akhe angamadoda.
Zama ukuphepha ukungaboni ngasonye kwaye ngaphandle kwesizathu. Zabalazela ukuqondwa kokubini kunye nokuhloniphana phakathi kwakho. Yiba nethemba nokuba akukho meko.
Umntu ngokwakhe unokuzijikelezile kwaye abo ubathandayo babe yinto entle. Konke kuxhomekeke kuwe kuphela, kwaye ungacingi rhoqo ukuba umyeni angakutshintsha nangaliphi na ixesha. Yilwa noloyiko lwakho kwaye ubakhubekise.
Uluvo lweNgcali malunga neRouason jonga le vidiyo ilandelayo.