Ekuhlaleni, ukuxoxa kwamadoda kuhlala kuxoxwa ngakumbi, yenza iinkcukacha zabo, bonisa indoda eneqhawe lokwenyani, ngelixa i-heason engeyiyo isihloko esithandwayo sengxoxo. Ibhinqa elitshintshe umyeni wayo ligwetyiwe eluntwini, kwaye ezi zibakala zikhula ngokuthandwa. Kwaye ke umbuzo uphakama-Ngubani otshintsha amaqabane rhoqo: amadoda okanye abafazi?
Ngaba batshintsha bangaphi abantu abaninzi?
Sukucinga ukuba iitrektara ziyindoda ikakhulu. Abafazi abahlali benamatyala. Iingcali zemihla ngemihla ze-Telegraph zeza kwesi sigqibo, nto leyo eyakhanyeziwe zonke iinyani. Bapapasha idatha yabo efunyenwe yimfesane enkulu engaziwayo. Iziphumo zazo zibonise oko I-2 yabafazi aba-5 ubuncinci batshintsha abayeni babo okanye abasesikweni, ngelixa kuphela kumadoda ali-10 asombululekile kwi-AJULTER.
Malunga nesiqingatha sabafazi abaqinisekisiweyo ngokwemigaqo yokungaziwa ngokuvavanywa, baxela ukuba le nto yenzeka emcimbini, kwiklabhu. Ikota yavuma ukuba (banayo) inoveli enomsebenzi, owesithathu wavunyelwa ukuba iimpawu zokunikela ingqalelo kumazwe avela kwelinye ilizwe zibakhokelela ekubeni baphefumle kwaye badlale iimvakalelo ezizeleyo ukuba ngaba yimigaqo yabo ebalulekileyo , obu bubomi abufanelanga ukuchitha kwi-monogamy.
Ngaphambili yayikholelwa ukuba ukuzinza ngokwanele, ukusebenza nabafazi abazizityebi batshintsha ubukhulu becala. Kodwa idatha yakutshanje yezonyango iphakamisa loo nto Ukuvutha kwenkazana ayizazi into enjalo njengokhuseleko okanye imeko yentlalo-iinguqu zasekhaya kungabi ngaphantsi komfazi weshishini. Ukuya kuthi ga kwi-90% yabatshintshi abavunyiweyo ukuba isini esecaleni kuyabanceda bakhuphe i-overvollicage engalunganga.
Oko bafazi bathambekele ekungcatsheni umyeni wakhe.
Uphoxekile
Eli nenekazi, umtshato, lalinemibono yalo ngendoda, lazakhele ulindelo lwabo kunye nokukhohlisa. Ubomi bosapho bubeke yonke into endaweni yayo, kwaye umyeni waza waba yinkosana, njengoko kwakubonakala ngathi kwi-registry. Ibhinqa eligqwetha likhohlisiwe, lilungele ukutshintsha iqabane. Kwangelo xesha, ayisoloko ifuna ukutshabalalisa umtshato, kuba umyeni unokukhululeka kakhulu kwaye ekhululekile kwiqabane eliphilayo.Ukubiza kwaye udiniwe
Ukuba iimvakalelo zeqabane zilahlekile, kwaye isibindi sokwaphula ubudlelwane abuphelele okanye kukho ezinye izizathu zokuhlala emtshatweni, imfuneko yokuba nesisa, ukuvezwa kwesini saso sigciniwe. Kule meko, i-ajalter ihlala sisindiswa kwi-psyche yabasetyhini, kwaye ihlala iphela ngenoveli enesaqhwithi ecaleni kunye nokuwa komtshato okhoyo.
Ifundile
Ngakumbi ukuba inqanaba labo lemfundo liphezulu kunokuyilwa kweqabane labo. Kungekudala, isahlulo sicwangcisiwe kwisibini - asiyonto yokuthetha ngayo. Ibhinqa lifuna ukukhula komntu, kwaye iqabane lakhe elifundileyo elifundileyo limhleka, alivumeli iminqweno yakhe. Umthandi oya kuthi uxhase ukukhula kunye nophuhliso alusosithuba sesondo njengoMhlobo wokwenene. Ukwabelana ngesondo kwi-adterter kuqhotyoshelwe kwiziseko zesibini.Inesithukuthezi
Umfazi ongakhange apeyintiwe rhoqo ngeyure unexesha elingakumbi lokuthandana (kubandakanya kwi-Intanethi), ukudlala ngothando ecaleni.
Ngaphantsi kweminyaka engama-25 kwaye emva kweminyaka engama-40
Eyokuqala iseyinto emnandi kakhulu, eyesibini sele ilumkile ngokwaneleyo kwaye yayithatha kancinci kwinqaku ngalinye langaphambili - lenziwa, lidanile, laphoswa yinkqubo.Ukuziphatha ndokuziphatha
Oku, njengommiselo, abafazi abaye bakubonile indlela umama etshintsha ngayo amahlakani, elungisa indlela amantombazana, enamakhoboka ngokulula kunye nokutshintsha amadoda, kunye namava anesondo awayenamava atyebileyo ngesondo ngaphambi komtshato.
Abafazi bahamba bozuko bahlala nangenxa yesabelana ngesondo. Bafuna ukuba yinto enqwenelekayo, bathandekayo, bafuna ukuba bathande, bengamkeleki oku kusapho. Bafuna inkcitho kunye neemvakalelo ezithandekayo, amava atyebileyo anemvakalelo, ukuqonda, ukunxibelelana, afuna ukubamba amagama abo, azixabisayo.
Ukuba indoda kwintsapho ayinakukuqaphela le nto, oko kukuthi, amathuba aphezulu ukuba abe ngumyeni okhohlisayo.
Yintoni amadoda ayinyani?
Amadoda ziipolygamins ngendalo. Ke ngoko, akunyanzelekanga ukuba ndifune indoda ukuba iphuphe kwaye iphuphe ngokutyhila umfazi-kuphela. Nangona kunjalo, akukho kuphela komnqweno wendalo wokuba namanenekazi amaninzi, kodwa ukhuliswe, ukhula, imigaqo, imikhwa. Kwaye ngabo bathintela. Iingcali zengqondo zabela iintlobo ezininzi zamadoda anefuthe lezinto zangaphandle ezingakaninzi, kwaye ngenxa yoko banobuncwane kakhulu.Umntwana oyindoda
Ngaphandle, umntu njengendoda, kodwa emphefumlweni uhlala emntwana ngonaphakade, elona xesha libe lishumi elivisayo. Unomdla kwimidlalo, ungakhathali kwixesha lasimahla kubahlobo, uhlala ejongene nemidlalo egqithisileyo kwaye umfazi wakhe kufanelekile ngentlonelo - umama wakhe. Oyena mfazi, ethathela ingqalelo usana lweqabane, ubeka izithintelo, kokukhona eli thuba liminyaka engamashumi amathathu okanye elineminyaka engamashumi amane okanye elikwishumi elinesibhozo leminyaka elishumi elinamashumi amane aneminyaka elishumi elinesibhozo ubudala. Kodwa loo madoda abagungqiyo ukuba baphule umtshato.
Ubuhle obukhula
Eli nqanaba liquka amadoda kwiminyaka engama-40, eyakha yatshata kwangethuba kwaye wayengenalo ixesha lokufumana yonke imibala yobomi ngaphambi komtshato. Kwiminyaka engama-40, ingqiqo iza ukuba ayikabikho ngoku, sele ingalindelekanga. Bakholelwa ngokunyaniseka ukuba umfazi akasafiki naphi na, kwaye ke ukukhanya kwenziwe ukukhanya ecaleni kwecala kuyavuma kakhulu. Inkosikazi yeemfihlo ayizinikezeli-ikhusela nemithambo yayo.
I-Cecker ye-adventures
Indoda enjalo inomnqweno wokwenene wenene-inkanuko ye-adventure. Akazi njani ukuba aphile ngokuzolileyo kwaye alinganiswe, ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kufuneka afumane i-adventure kunye ne-ticklerthy. Imongolo yakhe 'ayingosuku ngaphandle kwe-adrenaline! " Usenokuba ngumyeni olungileyo, kodwa ubomi bosapho buyacaphukiswa ngokukhawuleza, bube mtsha. Ingcungcuko iyafuneka kuye njengesinyane sokukhathazeka. Ngayo yonke le nto, akafuni iindlela ezilula kwaye ahlala enza iinoveli ezinobungozi kakhulu - umzekelo, nentombi yomhlobo wakhe okanye umfazi womhlobo wakhe, ukuze imnandi ngakumbi.Ngokwakho kunye ne-narcissist
Amadoda anjalo azala umfazi ukuze akwazi ukubonisa yonke into - umniniyo, ophumeleleyo, kodwa akaxhomekeki nakubani na kwiqabane lakhe. Ngaphezu koko, yipropathi yakhe, kwaye ke amadoda anjalo enoloyiso olutsha kwi-love of Thando akayifihli kubahlobo kwaye engafihli nakanjani na phambi komfazi osemthethweni. Ngokusisiseko aziboni nto imbi kwindlela abaziphethe ngayo. Kodwa ukungcakama ecaleni kweqabane akusayi kuze yamkele kwaye ayiphumeleli.
I-ragmatist
Ngokwesiqhelo, umtshato wendoda kudala wabakho kuphela kumkhwa okanye ojongiweyo. Akukho thando nothando, umfazi akamkelekile. Kodwa uqhawulo-mtshato luvisisani, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha alubonakali kubo kunye nomfazi wakhe. Ke ngoko, abantu bahlala, kodwa balithise igama le ntsapho kunzima kakhulu. Uxinzelelo lwegrey mihla le enje ibuza ukuba i-asterter. Indoda ayinayo inkosikazi enye, akaziva enetyala phambi komfazi wakhe, kwaye ke akezi nto zininzi, kodwa ukhetha ukuthula.Ukuthandabuza ilahleko
Amadoda anjalo atshutshiswa ngokuthandabuza. Umfazi ulungile, kodwa ngequbuliso kukho abafazi abangcono ecaleni? Ujonga, uyashukumisa, kodwa yena ulihlahlaleko kakhulu ukuba ulivakalise njengelungelo lakhe, kwaye ngenxa yoko uxoki kwaye ujijekile. Kwishawa, kuya kuthi ukuba umfazi ngenye imini uya kumi, azishiye.
Ixhoba le-wimipulations
Amadoda anjalo ahlala etshatile kubasetyhini abagunyazisiweyo nabanamandla, balawula ngezesondo ukwenza isixhobo sokulawula iqabane-kusafuneka sifunyazwe. Ingcumo yabo kuphela kolwaneliseko lweminqweno yabo yesini, ukuphumla. Zihlala zingashiyi usapho.
Amanani otshintsho lotshintsho
Iinkcukacha-manani zesenzo eRussia zinokwazi ukwazi, kwaye kunokubangela ukuba bobabini abameli bomeleleyo kunye namanenekazi amahle:
- Malunga ne-62% yamadoda atshintsha abafazi akhetha ukudibana kwicala kunye nabafazi abatshatileyo, kuphela i-10% yamadoda atshatileyo otshatileyo kunye namantombazana angatshatanga;
- Ukuvutha kwabasetyhini kuhlala kungaphezulu-ukuya kuthi ga kwi-45% yamanenekazi atshatileyo kwaye akathambeli ukuyitshintsha, kwaye yi-19 yeepesenti zamadoda anokuqhayisa ngesixa esifanayo;
- ukuya kuthi ga kwiipesenti ezingama-75 zamadoda ukuya kuthi ga kwi-24% yabasetyhini abatshintsha ngendlela efanayo nabafazi babo kunye nabayeni babo okanye ubuncinci bakutshintshe;
- Ukungoneliseki kubomi besini kubangela unobangela woqhawulo-mtshato kwi-9% yamadoda ne-13% yabasetyhini;
- Umnqweno wokufumana iimvakalelo ezintsha ezibukhali ziyinto ye-14% yamadoda ne-7% yabasetyhini;
- Olu luthando lutsha yi-7% yamadoda nangaphezulu kwe-25% yabasetyhini;
- Ukunyuka okuzithembayo, inkanuko yokuqinisekisa - i-14% yamadoda kunye ne-4% kuphela yabasetyhini;
- Ukuzahlula ixesha elide, kunyanzeliswe indawo yokuhlala eyahlukileyo iba sisizathu sokungathembeki kwi-12% yamadoda ne-8% yabasetyhini;
- Ukusuka kwisithukuthezi kunye nenkqubo kubudlelwane obutsha "baleka" i-3% yamadoda ne-7% yabasetyhini;
- Ingqeqesho engaqhelekanga (phantsi kwesenzo sotywala, kwitheko, itheko lenkampani, njl njl) kwi-14% yamadoda nabafazi;
- Ukuvutha kwengqondo kwiqabane elingalunganga-ikakhulu indlela yokuphendula yabasetyhini: Oku kuhamba i-11% yabasetyhini kunye ne-0.5% yamadoda;
- Uninzi luhlala lutshintsha noogxa bama-30% amadoda kwaye phantse babafazi abaninzi;
- Kukho amabhinqa amaninzi kwindawo ekuchithwayo - ama-34% aphendule abasebenzi, ngelixa i-19% yamadoda ayivumela ukuba umntu ovuthayo kwiholide;
- Kunye nabamelwane bawo kwaye bakumalunga nosapho, abahlobo batshintsha ukuya kwi-10% yabasetyhini kunye ne-5% yamadoda.
Ukongeza umfanekiso, kufanelekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba eyona nto ihlala ivela endlwini yenye yabathandi. Malunga nesithathu sabathandayo ukukhetha ukukhwela i-cottage okanye ukuhlala kwimicimbi eqhelekileyo. I-10% isuse igumbi okanye igumbi kwihotele.
Ngubani onokwazi ukuvukela: amantombazana okanye abantu?
Ukuba uxhomekeke kwiinkcukacha-manani, ke amadoda atshintsha rhoqo, kodwa amantombazana akahlali ecaleni. I-Creamers iyakwazi ukuvukela, kuba iimeko ezinokutyhala zinokuba zezona zahlukileyo.
Kubalulekile ukuba isibini sibekwe kumxholo wokuvukela. Ukusuka kwindawo yokujonga oochwephesha bezengqondo, akukho ndyebo yomzimba okanye yokuziphatha-ayinasiqingatha. Ukususela ngalo mzuzu ukuba elinye lamaqabane livumela ukuba zicamngce ngobudlelwane obunokubakho nomntu ecaleni, sele ungumbhedu. Kwaye ezo ngcinga nakwimitshato eyonwabileyo inokuza entlokweni yamaqabane. Oku akuthethi ukuba bayakhawuleza ukutshintsha. Ungalibali ngamava akho, ubume bomntu, ukukhuliswa kunye neenkolelo zakhe.
Kodwa kwiintsapho apho ukuqonda, uncedo oluthe kratya, ukuthembana, apho amaqabane anomdla khona kwaye ayakwazi ukunxibelelana nangasiphi na isihloko, isabelo senzeka kancinci. Zonke izinto ezibalulekileyo linani kunye nomgangatho wesondo, ubukho babantwana abaqhelekileyo, umdlalo oqhelekileyo, indlela yokuphumeza impelaveki, izithethe zosapho kunye neempawu ezincinci zokunikela ingqalelo omnye komnye.
Inokwenzeka yokuvukela kovuko kwiintsapho apho kungekho ukuqonda apho bengayazi indlela yokuthetha nokucombulula iingxaki eziqhelekileyo kunye, apho amahlakani azivanga khona, musani ukutyeshela iimfuno zabanye. Kule meko, amathuba okuba umvukelo eyindoda aya kuhlala ephakame ngaphezu kokuba amathuba entokazi, kodwa ukuvutha komzimba akukhuphela ngaphandle.
Malunga nesizathu sokuba sitshintshe, abasoloko bengamadoda okanye abafazi, indlela yokuxolela, jonga kule vidiyo ilandelayo.