Yenza intombazana ethembekileyo okanye umfazi - iphupha lomntu. Aba bame abameli besini esomeleleyo batyalela imali kule nto kwaye bajonge phi na amantombazana, akusoloko kucacile. Masizame ukuqonda ukuthembeka ukusuka kwinqanaba lokujonga i-psychology kwaye sixele ukuba bangabafazi abathembekileyo.
Ngubani?
Indoda ekwinkqubo yendaleko ifumene kakhulu, kodwa kaninzi, ngelishwa, ilahlekile. Ke, akukho ngokwesiko ukwenza ukhetho kube kanye, kwaye ayinamsebenzi ukuba ithini na - malunga nemoto, umsebenzi okanye ubomi besatellite. Abantu bavuma ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba banyanzelise, ukwahluka phantsi kweemeko ezithile. Amaxesha ombingelelo, xa wayekho "endinokuphelisa ngokulula" (nina bafazi) okanye "ukwala ubomi bakho ngenxa yobomi bakho ngenxa yombono omkhulu, umzekelo, wasala ngasemva , ukuzisola okukhulu kwabalungileyo.
Ukunyaniseka kwakhona kuye kwatshintshelwa, kodwa isaqwalaselwa njengenye yeempawu eziphambili zomfazi kunye nentombi entle yehlabathi. Ngenkqubela phambili yoluntu, isimo sengqondo sokungathembeki kwabasetyhini phantse asitshintshi, abasesininzi isininzi siqinisekile ukuba lo mfazi unyanzelekile ukuba aqhubeke nokunyaniseka. Kodwa abafazi emva kokuba betshathiswa kunye ne-shoption yesondo bafumanisa ihlabathi elitsha - ilizwe lokungcatsha.
Iingcali zentlalo ezazama ukufunda ukuthembeka kweza kwisigqibo sokuba ukuthembeka kokwenene kumaqabane abo Gcina malunga ne-20% yabameli besini esifanelekileyo. Ukuya kwikota yawo onke amanenekazi atshintshana emadodeni, kwaye okungenani nje emva kokuba ucinge nge-arhente, ukudlala ngothando, wamanga kwicala, kodwa akafikeleli ngokwesini.
Umfazi ngamnye wesithathu ucebisa ukuba amabakala awavumelekanga. I-5% i-5% ivuma ubuhlobo obungaphandle. Uninzi lukholelwa ukuba nantoni na enokwenzeka ebomini, kwaye akukho namnye, njengoko besitsho, ayikho i-inshurensi. Oko kukuthi, kunokwenzeka ingcinga kwaye nokuba sizathu sokunganyaniseki sele sikhona.
Uthini - eyona ntombazana ithembekileyo? Inokuba yi-blonde okanye i-brunette, i-stadira enevumba elimnandi okanye elinobubi.
Ukunyaniseka akunakuba luhlobo oluthile lwesimilo. Endaweni yoko, yile nto kanye eyenziwayo kwinqanaba elincinci - Umzekelo wabazali, ukukhula, inkolo, eyakuqapheleyo.
Intombazana ethembekileyo ihlala ivela kusapho apho kukho iziseko ezithile, izithethe, kodwa ayonelanga ukuba zijonge izalamane ziqonde ukuba le ntombazana ithembekile emfazini wayo. Oku kunzima kakhulu ukuyiqonda.
Inye kuphela into eyaziwa ngokunyaniseka - uninzi lwabafazi abathembekileyo lungonwabisi ebomini. Bahlala bephoswa. Amadoda afuna ukuzinikela ebusweni, kwaye emva koko, akukho loyiko lokuphulukana nomntu omthandayo, kuba kuyacaca ukuba iyinyani kwaye ayizukuya naphi na, yonke into sele iyiyo woyisa. Abafazi abathembekileyo kwindalo bahlala bekhulisa kwaye basweleke bodwa kwaye bengafumani sonwabo nabantu. I-Psychoanalys ibango ukuba inyanzelekile ukubandezeleka, ifuna ukushiywa, ukungakwazi kuyenza ngokwabo.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuthembeka kwelona xabiso likhulu, idayimane kwinkunkuma yolwalamano lwabantu ezahlukeneyo. Akukho nto iyothungela ukuba wonke umntu uzama ukuyifumana, akacingi ukuba kamva ube kamva.
Leliphi ilizwe abona bafazi bathembekileyo?
Rhoqo unokuva ukuba abameli bezizwe ezithile zezona zinto zithembekile okanye ziphakathi. Ngenxa yoko, i-frivolism kunye ne-feaings ichazwe ngesiFrentshi, ubutshinga kunye nokungabikho kwemvakalelo - isiNgesi, sicinga ukuba i-Italians, ngokuthozama ebizwa ngokuba yi-chekens, kabardynoki. Kodwa umbuzo wokunyaniseka awuyonto ilula njengoko kubonakala. Olu ayisiyonto ingumlinganiso okanye ubushushu besizwe. Ke ngoko, kucacile ukuba ukuphendula, uMtshakazi woluphi na ilizwe afuna ukutshata nentombazana ethembekileyo, enzima.
Isizwe ngasinye sinamagorha kunye neecrintels ezifake ibali. Isizwe ngasinye sinabafazi abathembekileyo nabangachanekanga. Kwelo mazwe apho iinkolo zibaluleke kakhulu, apho imithetho izama ukuzalisekisa, apho ibhinqa lokungathembeki linokufumana amanqaku ngamatye okanye lijolise ekukhuleni kwamantombazana. Ngenxa yoko, abameli bendawo yaseCaucasi, abafazi base-Arab bahlutha ngokuthobela umgama, ukuthobela nokunyaniseka. Kodwa kukho enye ingxaki - abantu bahlala bengayixabisi le nto kwaye ukungafani ngokwabo akuhluthi.
Oku kuthetha ukuba umfazi othembekileyo unokufumaneka kulo naliphi na ilizwe, kodwa apho uMbutho ungunqulo lwe-Orthodoxal, olunokwenzeka lunokwenzeka ngaphezulu.
Apho bajonga phi iqabane elichithwe?
Into yokuqala emadodeni ekufuneka ayikhumbule yile, abafazi abajikelezileyo sele beyenzile njengobuqu, belungisa kwaye baphinde bahlawule ngaphezulu, kuba olu luhlobo lokwenene.
Ke ngoko, imiqondiso yeqabane lakho elithembekileyo kufuneka lijonge ngononophelo nangaphambi kokuba wenze isicelo kwaye uxelele intombi kwi-ofisi yobhaliso.
Oku kuyafuneka ngokukhethekileyo ukuba abo babenethemba lokwenza nayiphi na intombazana ukuba benze iqabane elithembekileyo lobomi. Ayisebenzi. Onke amanenekazi aneminyaka eli-18 asele elungile okanye ongendawo, kodwa aqinile, enziwe ngobuntu.
Apho ahlala khona la mantombazana, oya kunyaniseka kwintanda, akanakuphendulwa. Kuyo yonke indawo. Abakhulileyo eluhlaza, abakhuli, abaphulukanga, kwaye ngenxa yoko intshabalalo exhaphakeyo emqolombeni ithembekile, ingabi sayifumana. Kwisicholo sasebusuku, intombazana inokuza kwintlanganiso yabafundi, ngosuku lokuzalwa lwentombi. Kucacile ukuba phakathi kwabalawuli bezimilo zokuzonwabisa azikho amanenekazi anjalo-ukuphakanyiswa kungavumeli.
Iingcali kwicandelo le-psychology zicebisa ukuba ungakhathaleli ubuhle obuqaqambileyo, ukuba umsebenzi kukufumana iqabane elithembekileyo, Kunye nabameli abancinci ngakumbi bosapho lwabasetyhini. Kodwa kunyanzelekile ukuba unikele ingqalelo kumantombazana aqala ukuba kuqala kunxibelelwano lwabonakala ngathi luphawu. Kule meko ukuba indoda ayizukungadlulanga ukuxabiseka kwentombazana ngenxa yenkanuko yesiphelo, kula maxesha ukuba uvavanyo lwayo lweempawu luya kuba yeyona njongo iphambili.
Iimpawu zokunyaniseka kwixesha elizayo azifumanekanga kwintlanganiso yokuqala, kodwa ngonxibelelwano olusondeleyo. Jonga ukuba inomdla kangakanani kuwe. Intombazana ethembekileyo ayifane ifane ilungele i-hysterics kunye nemiboniso yekhwele, engathandani nabahlobo bakho kwaye ingathandani, hayi "ukulala" iifoto zabasemzini kwiinethiwekhi zentlalo. Ihlala iyinto ethobekileyo ethobekileyo - utitshala, i-Seamstress, uMyili, umbekisi. Kodwa kukho okwahlukileyo, nangona kungafikeleli malunga nokusetyenziswa kobuchule.
Ungayijonga njani?
Ukuba ukunyaniseka sisiqu esinendima ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe, umbuzo wendlela yokuqinisekisa ukunyaniseka kwayo kuya kubaluleka kakhulu. Kungcono ukuhlala kunye ngaphambi komtshato ukuze ubukele indlela indlela aziphethe ngayo kunye nesimo sakhe sengqondo ngayo uya kutshintsha ngokuqala kobomi bemihla ngemihla. Uninzi lunokuxelela indlela yakhe yobudlelwane neentombi, izalamane.
Abantu abathembekileyo bayayinyani kuyo yonke into, kwaye bade bathabatha i-kitten ukusuka esitratweni, bathwala umphathi opheleleyo kwi-Cat yokugqibela. Amantombazana anjalo akazukuvuma kwaye athethelele inenekazi lokuba uyakukhusela kwaye uxelele intanda malunga nendlela etshintshe ngayo umhlobo wakho. Akasoze agwebe, kodwa akasayi kugwetywa.
Akunakwenzeka ukuba iyinyani ngesisombululo sakho. Banokuqala. Ngesiseko sokwazisa amathuba okunyaniseka kube lula kunokujonga iqabane lakho ukungathembeki emtshatweni, ukufunda malunga nokunxibelelana okuhlala kudluliselwe enyanisweni.
Kwaye ukuyinyusa yonke into endifuna ukunika ingcebiso ebantwini: Ukuba udibene nomfazi othembekileyo, mxabisa, umfanele. Onjalo ubuqu zihlala zibuhlungu kakhulu ukuvutha kwengqondo yakho nobuxoki, nokuba zithi cwaka kwaye azithethi nto ngayo.
