Imbonakalo yeemvakalelo esinokuthi sibe namava ebantwini ziyahluka. Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima kakhulu ukufumanisa zombini iimvakalelo zakho ngokunxulumene nabanye, kwaye, ngokuchaseneyo, kwiimvakalelo zabanye. Ezinye iimvakalelo ziyafana kunye nangakumbi ukuba akukho lula ukumisela. Kwinqaku, siza kuzama ukuchaza umahluko phakathi kovelwano nothando.
Inkcazo
Ngokusebenzisana rhoqo nabantu abamnandi kwaye banomdla wokuchitha ixesha, zihlala zihlala zinemvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo. Kwiimeko ezininzi, oku kuyimbonakaliso yovelwano okanye uthando. Uninzi lwaludida la magama mabini, ngempazamo ukubathatha ngempazamo kwinto enye. Nangona kunjalo, oochwephesha bengqondo abanobuchule bathi ezi ziimvakalelo ezimbini ezahlukeneyo, phakathi kwawo umohluko omkhulu. Ukufumanisa ezi mvakalelo, kufuneka unyule iimpawu zabo eziphambili.Uvelwano
Le mvakalelo ihlala ivela njengempendulo kumntu othandekayo. Uvelwano luhlala luvela kwimizuzu yokuqala emva kokuthandana nokunxibelelana. Le mvakalelo isekwe kwimiba engaphandle kweengxaki zokuvavanya ukusuka kwicala.
Sithetha ngezinto ezinjalo:
- Imbonakalo yomntu enomdla;
- Iimpahla ezinesitayile nemfashini;
- Iimpawu zangaphandle ezikhethekileyo ezifana nabantu;
- Izinto zokuzonwabisa eziqhelekileyo kunye nezinto onomdla kuzo.
Uvelwano luhlobo lwesiseko sokuqhubeka kophuhliso lobudlelwane.
Le mvakalelo ayithethi ukuba kukho unxibelelwano olusondeleyo lweemvakalelo phakathi kwabantu, kodwa ngaphandle kwemvakalelo esisiseko, iya kuba yinto engenakwenzeka ukuyiphumeza.
Uthando
Yimvakalelo eyomeleleyo nesekwe ngoku, ebonakaliswa ngumbala obalulekileyo onomdla. Uthando luthatha ukuqala kwayo kuvelwano. Iingcali zengqondo zibiza nje ukuba imvakalelo yokuqhushumba, enokuvela ngequbuliso kwaye iyothusa umniniyo. Uthando luhlala lunempembelelo entle kuguquko lobuntu.
Kwimeko yothando, umntu ubonakala eyinjongo entsha - ukutsala umdla kwaye njengento yeminqweno yabo. Ngaphantsi kwempembelelo yale mvakalelo, umntu uyakwazi ukwenza amanyathelo ahlukeneyo, ngamanye amaxesha abukhali kwaye engacingi. Isini esimnandi sihlala sitshintsha inkangeleko yabo, iyile indlela ekubonakala ngayo, umfanekiso onomdla ngakumbi. Yonke le nto yenziwe ukutsala iqabane.
Amadoda kunye nabantu bayatshintsha, kodwa ngaphezulu komlinganiswa kunye nokuziphatha. Baba luhlobo lwabakhuseli okanye i-knights, baqalise ukuyifaka yonke indlela kwaye bayikhusele njengenkosazana okanye inenekazi elimangalisayo elivela kwihlabathi lamaphupha.
Ngaphandle kweemvakalelo ezintle komnye umntu, ngokuyimfuneko imvakalelo efunekayo kunye nokuzingca. Uthando lusekwe kumnqweno wokuba ngumntu onomdla wekhonkrithi. Umntu omnye usebenzisa okwesibini ukuhlangabezana neminqweno kunye neemfuno zakhe.
Ivakala i-xescial, kodwa inika olona nkqoniso uqobo lweemvakalelo.
Abantu abalawula uthando bahlala befuna ukuqinisekiswa kweemvakalelo zabo. Sithetha ngezipho, imihla, unxibelelwano rhoqo kunye nezinye izinto ezibonakalisa uthando. Ukuba elinye lamaqabane lizama ukuhamba kwesikimu okanye ukwala ukuthatha, ingqumbo kunye nokucacisa ubudlelwane buqala. Kwithuba elinje lobudlelwane, ungquzulwano lunokuqalisa ngenxa yazo naziphi na izinto ezincinci.
Uthando lusekwe kwiimvakalelo ezimnandi, kodwa ayimniki umntu olwenza ulonwabo olungenamiqathango. Ngaphantsi kwale ngqondo yobuntu, i-jums yemvakalelo ihlala ihlangabezana, ngelixa ineemvakalelo ezimnandi neziphazamisayo. Ukongeza, uvavanyo lokuziphatha kweqabane lakhe luhlala ludlula rhoqo. Umntu othanda uthando akalandeli usukelo lokunika, kubaluleke kakhulu kuye. Kwangelo xesha, akukho mahluko njengoko kusongelwa uphawu lokuthathelwa ingqalelo, ukuba kuphela lo mnandi kuphela.
Ukuba ushwankathela, singatsho njalo Uvelwano yimvakalelo xa uthanda imbonakalo, indlela yokuziphatha kunye nezinye iimpawu zomntu obonakalayo. Ngothando, umntu uba yinto efunekayo kwaye ufuna iqabane lakhe ukuze afumane ukondla ngokweemvakalelo nangokomzimba kuye.
Imiqondiso
Elinye lala maxesha lingentla linempawu zalo. Ezinye zazo zixhaphakile. Ngothando kunye novelwano, amahlakani athanda ukuthetha ngokwabo, yiba yiyo ingcaciso malunga nempumelelo, umdla wobuqu okanye yemihla ngemihla. Xa usiya kwinqanaba lothando, abantu baya kwimodi yeemfuno. Ukufumana rhoqo okuthile kwiqabane, bayazithemba.
Ngovelwano, yonke into ilula kakhulu. Le mvakalelo inokuvakalelwa nokuba akukho nxibelelwano phakathi kwamaqabane, kwaye nokuba incitshisiwe. Ubukho bemvakalelo elungileyo bunokubonisa imithambo, uncumo, iingxoxo ezimfutshane kunye nezinye iindlela zonxibelelwano. Uvelwano lungahlala ixesha elide-kude kube luguqukele kwimvakalelo eyomeleleyo.
Kodwa ukuba amaqabane akaphuhlisi le mvakalelo, ifikile nje.
Uthando luhlala lubizwa ngokuba luncamathiselwe okuqhelekileyo. Kule meko, elinye lamaqabane lifuna ingqalelo rhoqo komnye umntu. Kwangelo xesha, izipho, imihla kunye nezinye iimpawu zeemvakalelo azinyanzelekanga, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, ukuba zikufuphi.
Umahluko
Njengoko kuphawuliwe ngasentla, kukho umahluko obalulekileyo phakathi kwale mvakalelo mibini ichazwe apha ngasentla. Ngamanye amaxesha kwanomntu ekunzima ukwahlula iimvakalelo kwaye uqonde ukuba uziva ngokwenene. Uvelwano, ke uthando luyakwazi ukubopha ingqondo yomntu.
Uthando lwahlukile kwinkathalo elula yezi mpawu zilandelayo.
- Ukuba nje unxibelelwano oluhle nomntu lwanele ukuba luzive lukhululekile, olu luvelwano oluqhelekileyo.
- Kwaye xa ndifuna ukuhlala ndifumana iimpawu zokuqwalaselwa emntwini kwaye ndisondele kangangoko kunokwenzeka, olu luthando. Umnqweno obonisiweyo wokudibana ngokwasemzimbeni. Ngaphandle kohlobo oluthile lokuxinana kunye ne-egodis, ubukho bezi mvakalelo ziyakwazi ukupeyinta kunye nokukhuthaza. Kukho umnqweno onamandla wokuvuya kwaye wabelane nabanye ngale mvakalelo nabanye.
Uthando lubandakanya ukusondelelana nokuhlaselwa ngokwesondo, kunye novelwano kunokuba luhlobo nje. Uthando olunamandla nolunamandla luqala ngovelwano olugqibeleleyo. Eyona nto iphambili kukuba iimvakalelo ziyinyani, kwaye amaqabane anomnqweno wokuqhubeka nolwalamano.
Abanye abantu abawuboni umahluko phakathi kokuthandana nothando, ngakumbi kwiimeko xa befumana iimvakalelo zokuqala. Umda phakathi kwezi mvakalelo zimbini ngamanye amaxesha ufihlwe kakhulu kwaye akukho lula ukuziqonda.
Njengoko sele kukhankanyiwe, uvelwano olutshatise lunepropathi yokuphuhlisa kubudlelwane obukhulu ngakumbi. Ekuqaleni uba luthando, kwaye emva - uthando. Kwezinye iimeko, uvelwano phakathi kwamaqabane luyakhula kubuhlobo, ukumisa kweli nqanaba okanye ngomnqweno ophakathi, okanye ngemvume yenye yazo.
Uphuhliso ngaphambi kothando kunye nobudlelwane obugcweleyo bunokwenzeka kuphela xa bobabini abantu bezama ukugcina kwaye bakha ubudlelwane. Nangona kunjalo, kukho iimeko zamatyala apho omnye wabo enothando, kwaye okwesibini uqhubeka njengabahlobo. Akukho luhlobo lulungileyo ubudlelwane. Kungekudala bobabini abantu baya kujongana nokuphoxeka okukhulu.
Ukuphepha imeko enjalo, kuyimfuneko ukucacisa ubudlelwane kunye nokucwangcisa izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka. Sukwenza iimpazamo kubudlelwane ziya kunceda ugqirha wengqondo. Kwaye kufuneka uzame ukujonga kakhulu kubudlelwane, musa ukunikezela kwiimvakalelo ngokupheleleyo.
Omabini amaqabane, phakathi kokuba ubudlelwane obutsha buvele, kufuneka buchonge ngokuchanekileyo iimvakalelo kunye nezizathu zabo. Nokuba yintoni na eshukumisela ezi mvakalelo - umnqweno wobuso obusondeleyo, unxibelelwano oluqinileyo lokomoya okanye ukunqongophala konxibelelwano.
Ngaba uvelwano lunokuthandwa?
Ukuqwalasela ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuba enye neyesibini iyingqinile, ngokukhuselekileyo sinokufika kwinqanaba elilandelayo kwaye sikhule sinothando. Ke yenzeka kwiimeko ezininzi. Ngophuhliso oluphumelelayo lweziganeko, bobabini abantu bamele bazi ngqo izinto abazifunayo omnye komnye. Kamsinya nje ukuba umnqweno ophumeleleyo uya kuya kumnqweno wokupha, ungathetha ngothando. Imvakalelo eqinileyo eyahlukileyo kwezi zibini zangaphambili zininzi kakhulu kwaye inefuthe elikhulu emntwini.
Abanye abantu, ukuba baphantsi kweempembelelo ezomeleleyo, yenza isigqibo sokuvuma iqabane eluthandweni. Kule meko, ngaphandle kokufumana impendulo efanelekileyo, akufuneki ucaphuke ngaphambi kwexesha. Mhlawumbi umntu wesibini ngoku kwinqanaba lothando, oluya kujika lube lusizi olugcweleyo emva kwexesha elithile.
Inqanaba lobudlelwane babantu yinto enzima neyahlukileyo. Kwintsebenziswano yobuqu bobabini, naluphi na uphuhliso lweziganeko lunokwenzeka.
Umahluko ophambili kolu thando luthando onokuyibona kule vidiyo ilandelayo.