I-Psychologlogy ichaza le ndlela iphambili yengqondo yabasebenzi Emva kokwenza uphando ophononongo, okuqapheleyo kunye novavanyo, umbono uye waqulunqa kangangokuba uninzi lwabemi beplanethi yethu yindawo exhaphakileyo.
Kodwa kweli nqaku asithethi ngayo, ngokuchaseneyo, siza kuthetha ngentshumayelo, siya kujongana nabo bangamadoda. Siza kufunda ukubazi, siza kufunda umlinganiswa, indlela yokuziphatha, siya kuyiqonda indlela eya ekukhetheni, kwaye uqiniseke ukuba ufunda ukuba bathandana.
Ngokubanzi
Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukufumanisa ukuba ngubani umntu ongena ngaphakathi, ukusuka kwindawo yokujonga i-psychology. Lo ngumntu ojolise kwihlabathi langaphakathi kwaye uthunyelwa ngokupheleleyo kuyo. Kuba, iingcinga zabo kunye namava abo kubalulekile, kunqabile ukuba baphume kwindawo yokuthuthuzela, bathembela abantu bancinci kwaye bakhetha ukuba libe lilo.
I-introvent inezimpawu zilandelayo zomlinganiswa:
- Zonke izenzo zayo zicinga ngokweenkcukacha;
- Unxibelelwano aluzange lube nelokuba luyinto engaqhelekanga, inokwenzeka, isukela injongo ethile, ngenxa yoko lencoko kunye naye inokubonakala inamandla;
- ayifuni kunxibelelwano rhoqo;
- Imeko engathandekiyo ishiya umkhondo omkhulu ngokwemeko yeemvakalelo kwaye ixesha elide akazivumeli iingcinga zakhe;
- I-fantasy ihle iphuhliswe kakuhle;
- ubuntu obunenjongo kakhulu;
- Soloko ulawula iimvakalelo zawo, kwaye kunqabile ukuba ubabonise;
- Isigulana, siqwalaselwe, sithambekele ekuhlalutheni yonke into eyenzekileyo.
Umxholo wobudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi uhambelana kwihlabathi liphela. Sisoloko sixambulisana malunga nokuba sihluke kangakanani kwaye singahambelani nabalinganiswa ababa ngunobangela wobudlelwane kunye neemeko ezahlukeneyo ezibuhlungu. Kulungile xa umntu obhinqileyo esaziyo ukuba loluphi uhlobo lomntu ofanelekileyo - umntu ongena ngaphakathi okanye oxhamlayo, oko ukuze ukwazi ukuba nakukwazi ukubona isihlwele, ukuze singachithi xesha!
Iimpawu zamadoda-ingena ngaphakathi:
- thanda ixesha elizolileyo noxolo;
- ukugcinwa kwezimvo kunye nezigwebo;
- Uninzi lwabantu abathandanayo luthanda iincwadi kwaye uziqwalasele esona sipho sigqibeleleyo;
- Uxabiso lwakhe lubonakalisiwe ngezenzo, amagama abo bathetha nto;
- Umyeni we-Enerpot-yonke into enokunqwenela, abanakulingana ebomini bomtshato;
- uthando lokubonakalisa kwaye uthethe ngezihloko ezinzulu;
- Incoko engenanto ayikho kubo, kumfutshane ngokuncokola kwaye nemfutshane;
- Kuthetha ukubonakaliswa kweemvakalelo.
Ungakha njani unxibelelwano?
Uhlobo olunjalo lobuntu luvalwa kakhulu ngaphakathi, olufihliweyo, luhlala kwihlabathi lakhe, kwaye lukhetheke kungekho mntu apho. Xa wayenxibelelana nale ndoda, akunakulindeleka ukuba usebenze kwaye udideke, njengoko ukuzithemba ngokwakhe kunye neenqobo zakhe.
Zonke ezi mpawu zinokusoyikisa ngakumbi umfazi. Xa udibana nomntu ongenamsebenzi, kufuneka wenze kakuhle kwaye uyazi imithetho emininzi esisiseko eya kunceda ukudibana kwaye uqalise ukunxibelelana.
- Intshumayelo ayithandi ubuxoki kwaye ayibizi kakhulu. Gula kakhulu kwaye unyanisekile.
- Qiniseka ukuba uphulaphule le ndoda, bayayithanda.
- Sukuchaphazela xa bencokola abo banokukhumbuza umntu ongenamsebenzi malunga nokusilela kwabo.
- Nceda kwaye uyixhase ngamazwi. I-faayie-i-inerack iyayibulela.
- Sukuzithemba kakhulu. Intsusa ofuna ixesha lokwazi kwaye uphonononge iimpawu zakho ezintle.
- Ulibale malunga nengcinezelo yokuziphatha. Ayizukukhokelela kwinto elungileyo. Veza ukuthamba kunye nembeko, uyakuphendula okufanayo. Kwaye musa ukunyanzela uluvo lwakho. Unokumchaza, kodwa ukuba ufuna ukuhlala yedwa, albukele.
Namathela le mithetho, kwaye kakhulu, enye incoko iyakulandela.
Iimpawu zobudlelwane
Sele siye salungisa ukuba le ntliziyo yamadoda inzima kakhulu. Kukwayobudlelwane, kwaye luthando. Rhoqo, imfihlakalo yayo kunye nokungakhathali inokuphambana kwaye icaphukisa iingcinga ezimnandi kakhulu.
Ukuba i-satellite yakho ibhekisa kuhlobo olunjalo, ilungiselelwe indlela ethile yokuziphatha kubudlelwane, kwaye funda indlela yokuthatha ngokuzolileyo thabatha ngokuzolileyo okwenzekayo. Makhe sihlale kwiimpawu eziphambili, kunye neengxaki zobudlelwane.
- Ungayihoyi umnxeba wakho. Abayithandi incoko yomnxeba. Le ndoda iya kufumana izizathu ezininzi zokuphendula. Yiba nobulumko-bhala umyalezo.
- Umsebenzi kunye nomsebenzi kuphela. Ngamanye amaxesha umbono ophakamayo avela ukuba sele kwindawo yokuqala. Oku akunjalo, ukuba kukho into eyaqala ukuyenza, kuya kufuneka ukhuse esiphelweni. Sukucinga nokwenza ukhethe phakathi komsebenzi nawe. Qonda kwaye wamkele imeko. Ngenxa yoko, akathandabuzi, uya kuvuzwa.
- Unoxanduva kumagama amabini. Ayizithandi iingxoxo ezinde nezingenangqondo, zimfutshane kakhulu kwincoko.
- Ilahlekile kwiinkampani ezinomsindo. Inkampani yabantu abangabaziyo, amaqela-hayi nge-interpoet. Wayethanda isizungu. Mncede adlulise.
- Ayisebenzi kwiingxaki zayo. Uthatha isigqibo seengxaki zakhe aze azicinge. Akasoze akuxelele ngazo. Ukuba uyabona ukuba indoda yakho iba lusizi kwaye iqonde, sukuzama ukukhupha ulwazi kuyo. Buza nje ukuba iyimfuneko, uya kuziphendula.
- Uthanda kakhulu izilwanyana. Kwaye ukuba uyatyelela, kwaye umntu wakho ukhetha ukudlala nenja, endaweni yokuba uhlale phantsi naye wonke umntu osetafileni, ungamngcikivayo, makadlale.
- Ukungakhathali. Ungacwangcisa isiganeko esithile ixesha elide, kwaye ngelo xesha afuna ukurhoxisa yonke into kwaye alele kwisofa. Jonga ukuzola. Nika ukudlulisela yonke into ukuya kolunye usuku.
- Ukucotha. Intlungu kakhulu ekwenzeni izigqibo, yenza isenzo. Kuya kufuneka ngamanye amaxesha uthathe inyathelo kuqala. Kodwa ungalibali ukubuza umbono wakhe.
- Uloyiko lokugxekwa. Ungaze ugxeke amadoda akho-ngaphakathi kwaye abayi kuyithelekisa nabanye. Ukhutyekisiwe kakhulu, kodwa wenza nzima nomntu onjalo.
Lumka, kuba naliphi na inyathelo le-rash okanye igama elikhawulezayo linokutyhala isoka lakho kwaye lithandabuze.
Ndisemathandweni
Sonke simnandi ukwazi kwaye siyive into abayithandayo. Ude uzame ukuba uthandane nendoda engenamntu, kwaye yonke into ibonakala ilungile, kodwa ungayiqonda njani, ngaba uyathanda okanye akathandi? Ngenxa yeempawu zempawu kunye nentlekele ekubonakalisweni kweemvakalelo, kunzima kakhulu ukwamkela isimo sengqondo sokuntywila kuwe.
Makhe sijonge indlela abakhweli abaziphethe ngayo.
- Ukuba ukuze uchithe ixesha kunye nawe, i-inrovelo ishiya indawo yayo yokuthuthuzela, kuthetha into ngokuchanekileyo. Unokuya kwiklabhu, kwitheko, ipikniki, ubuncinci ngaphambili yayingeyonkxaso yokuzonwabisa okunjalo.
- Uthule ngalo lonke ixesha, akaphenduli imibuzo, kwaye uqala ucinga ukuba akanamdla. Ayifane injalo kwaphela. Ukungena ngaphakathi kuthanda kwaye kuyabahlonipha ukuthula, kwaye yayinguwe owaba ngulowo uphumeleleyo kwilungelo lokwahlulahlula naye.
- Intshumayelo inesimo esihle kakhulu sokuhlekisa, kodwa ayizizo zonke ezikubonisileyo. Endaweni yoko, ngokuchasene noko, bakhetha ukubonakala ngathi basongamela. Kwaye ukuba uyahlekisa nawe, uyahleka, ke awusengumntu ongamaziyo.
- Ukuba sele unobudlelwane kunye ne-intervoti, awunayo into onokuzikhathaza ngayo. Ngaphambi kokuba uvume ubudlelwane obukhulu, i-inrobi iya kucinga ixesha elide, ucinga, ukuvavanya imeko ngokwayo, eya kuba yinxalenye yehlabathi lakhe.
Eyona nto ingathandekiyo awunakubona ukuba iimvakalelo ziyaphazamisa kwaye yonke into ayifani. I-introver ayizange ithi kwaye ayisebenzi ukuba akukho luthando, liya kunyamalala. Kwaye uya kuhamba, angabuyi.
Bona Okuninzi.