Ngenxa yokuthwala uvelwano phakathi kwabantu, ubudlelwane obunzulu obunzulu bunokwenzeka. Nangona kunjalo, ekuqaleni komntu omaziyo, akusoloko kucaciswa ukuba kukho ithuba lokuguqula unxibelelwano lube yinto engaphezulu. Siza kuyibona into yokuphila komntu kunye nomfazi, kwaye wenza ntoni ukuba iimvakalelo azikho.
Yintoni?
Uvelwano olufanayo - Le yimvakalelo yokuzinzileyo ngokweemvakalelo yendoda kunye nabafazi omnye komnye. Kule meko, iimvakalelo zinokuba nobuhlobo kwaye zothando. Kwimeko yokuqala, abantu bayinto emnandi kakhulu ukunxibelelana, abacingi ukuba bube nobudlelwane obunokwenzeka. Nangona kunjalo, ubuhlobo phakathi kwabameli bamanqanaba ahlukileyo yinto enqabileyo, ke ukugxila kwinqaku kuya kunikwa kwiimvakalelo zothando.
Kule meko, abantu banomdla omnye komnye, onokuthi kamva akhule ngaphezulu. Iqondo lovelwano lomntu umntu linokwahluka kubanomdla ngokulula kwisaqhwithi seminyango.
Kuyinyani, ayinguye wonke umntu obonisa ukuba ekuqaleni kokuthandana.
Uvela njani?
Akunakwenzeka ukuba uthethe ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kangangexesha elithile umntu aqonde oko akuthandayo omnye. Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka kwimizuzwana yokuqala yokuthandana. Ngamanye amaxesha imvakalelo ikhula kwaye ikhula ngokuthe ngcembe kwinkqubo yonxibelelwano.
Izinto ezichaphazela ukuvela kovelwano, zininzi. Okokuqala, yona imbonakalo umntu. Yenzele ingqalelo kwasekuqaleni. Nangona kunjalo, le nto ayizimiselanga. Kwenzeka ukuba kwinkqubo yonxibelelwano, umbono wokuqala onomdla uya kusiwa kwaye umdla unyamalale. Ezinye iimeko zisenzeka xa umntu etyhilwa kwincoko kwaye Unomtsalane charsma yakhe Ngaphandle kweempazamo zangaphandle.
Uvelwano oluzinzileyo luvela xa izinto ezininzi zingena kwindibaniselwano enye Umntu onzulu kakhulu ukuba angathandani nam ofanelekileyo. yona ilizwi umntu ngendlela Unxibelelwano izimbo zomzimba kwaye ivumba . I-charm yendalo, ingqondo, imvakalelo yokuhlekisa kunye nezinye iimpawu ezibonakalaliswa xa unxibelelwano kunokuphucula iimvakalelo kunye nomnqweno wokuqhubeka nokwazi kwakhona.
Ukudibanisa ubudlelwane obuhambelana, inzala kunye nomtsalane kufuneka ubekhona. Ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukuqhubeka ngononophelo xa omnye umntu ukuba aqonde iinjongo zakhe kwaye akhe isicwangciso sokuziphatha kwakhe.
Imiqondiso
Qaphela ukuba bobabini abantu baziva beyinto enye, kulula.
- Xa uqala uqhelane kwaye ekuqaleni konxibelelwano Abantu abathandanayo bazama ukwenza umbono olungileyo.
- Bachanekile ngokungazi iimpahla, iinwele, Thatha i-plation "ivulekile".
- Umntu oziva umdla komnye umntu unikela ingqalelo kwincoko. Ujonga emehlweni akhe, ubuza imibuzo, ngenzondelelo ixhasa nasiphi na isihloko.
- Ihlazo lolunye uphawu oluthembekileyo lovelwano. Ukuba umntu ogxeka, edidanisa ngamazwi okanye othobekileyo ophantsi kwamehlo, emva koko woyika ukubonisa iimvakalelo kunye nemincili. Rhoqo, nokubanobuntu abazithembayo balahlekile emehlweni abo abathandayo.
- Ukuba abantu bahlangana kwiinkampani ngokubanzi okanye emsebenzini, Xa banomdla, ngokuyeka abanye bayabandakanyeka, bazama ukuthetha kwaye bafumane izihloko eziqhelekileyo.
- Ukuba abantu banxibelelana ngamanye amaxesha, Umdla onyanisekileyo unokumiselwa ngendlela abayiyo Bayakhumbula iinkcukacha zencoko kunye nezinye iinkcukacha ukuba zinomdla kwizinto zokuzonwabisa kunye nokuncamalana.
- Kwakhona, kwimeko yovelwano, umnqweno ophakamayo ukwenza into emnandi. Umzekelo, amadoda athetha uncome, anike iintyatyambo, abonise inkathalo kwaye anikele ingqalelo, anike uncedo kwezinye iimeko.
- Kulula ukumisela ubukho bokutsala umdla, Ukuba, emva kokuthandana okokuqala, umntu ulungisa intombazana ngomhla, kwaye uyavuma. Kule meko, intlanganiso ihlaziyiwe kakuhle kwaye inxibe kakuhle. Bazabalazela ukusondela emzimbeni (bema okanye bahlale phantsi, nokuba banjani na ngengozi).
- Olunye uphawu oluthembekileyo oluvumela ukuba uqonde into oyithandayo kuMntu uncumo lwakhe ngokunyaniseka kwintlanganiso. Nokuba ngosuku oluqinisekileyo, unxibelelwano nento yovelwano inokuphakamisa imood.
- Ngokwahlukileyo, abantu abajamelana neemvakalelo banesithukuthezi. Babhala kwaye babize omnye komnye ngaphandle kwesihlandlo esivakalayo. Entlanganisweni, zikhululekile ngokulinganayo kwaye zincokola, kwaye zithi cwaka.
- Abathandi bahlala behambahamba Ngokuncama imigaqo yakhe, yenza ukothuka okumnandi kunye nesiqingatha sabo sesibini, phawula utshintsho kwimvakalelo yomnye nomnye.
Kuthekani ukuba akukho mpikiswano?
Ngelishwa, ngamanye amaxesha uvelwano aluyomfuneko. Ukufumanisa malunga nayo, kwanele ukujonga indlela yokuziphatha komnye umntu. Ukuba ngexesha lengxoxo ayiphazamisi, ihlala ijonge iwotshi okanye ifowuni, inokuba luphawu lokungabikho komdla. Nangona kunjalo, kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba umnxibelelanisi woyike ukuba ufike kade kwintlanganiso ebalulekileyo okanye ulinde umnxeba weshishini. Kodwa ukuba uyaphoswa ngokunyaniseka, phantse awujongi, ucinga ngowakhe, ungabuzi imibuzo kwaphela, kunokwenzeka ukuba ungabi namdla.
Kule meko, ukhetho lokuziphatha ngokwahlukileyo luxhomekeke ekubeni phole kangakanani isimo sengqondo somnye umntu. Ukuba umntu akabonisi ukungathandi komgangatho kunye nokungathandeki, ungazama ukubonisa inyathelo lokuqala. Kuyenzeka ukuba kusekho umdla omncinci kuwe, kufuneka uphumle kwaye womeleze. Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi. Ukuqhubekayo kukwenza umntu, amathuba okuphumelela. Rhoqo, amantombazana azifihla iimvakalelo zabo ukubona ukuba iqabane lakho liya kufuna indawo yabo.
Malunga namanenekazi amnandi, imeko inzima kakhulu. Ukukhathalela okukhethiweyo lowo unyuliweyo, kumeme imihla, awuzukukhathazeka iifowuni kunye nemiyalezo. Kodwa ngokungathandabuzekiyo kubonisa uvelwano. Umzekelo, ngonxibelelwano ngengozi kubalulekile ukubonisa umdla onyanisekileyo kwindoda, mbuze imibuzo malunga nezinto azithandayo, umsebenzi wakhe. Kwiinkampani ngokubanzi okanye kwiqela, kunokwenzeka ukuba ngamanye amaxesha ukuphosa izimvo ezikhululekileyo kwinto yovelwano.
Ukuba ngonxibelelwano oluthe kratya luye lucacile ukuba akukho themba lokuphindaphindwa, ukuzama ukusondela kufuneka kumiswe. Ukuba umnxibelelanisi ukhalaze, uzama ukumka, emva kokuba umntu enoxanduva, ukutshiswa okanye kwana, kungcono ukumshiya yedwa.
Ngakumbi ukothusa luvuyo lomntu xa umntu wesithathu obonakala ngexesha lencoko . Oku kuthetha ukuba ukunxibelelana kunye nawe akuMhlanguli.
Kule meko, kungcono ukuzama ukufumana umntu oza kukubulela. Njengomthetho, nokuba "ukungqingwa" kwento yokwahlukana kukhokelela kukhokelela kwimpumelelo, ubudlelwane buyapheliswa ngokukhawuleza ngenxa yokungabikho kweemvakalelo ezizeziyo.
