Kunzima ukucinga ebomini, njengoko kusenokwenzeka ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ibone kuphela kwiintsomi okanye kwiifilimu, apho umama umfana anomona, kwaye umama ubonakala ulungile kwaye unothando. Nangona kunjalo, oochwephesha bengqondo baphawula ukuba ingxaki ikhona kwaye uninzi luhlala luzibonakalisa phakathi koonina abasele beneentombi noonyana babantu abadala. Inqaku liza kuthetha ngemona yotata kubantwana bakho. Siza kuhlalutya imiqondiso nezizathu zokuziphatha ezinjalo, kwaye ziqwalasele iindlela zokusombulula le ngxaki.
Iimpawu zoMona
Njengommiselo, iimpawu zomona zinokuqala ukuzibonakalisa ngenxa yento yokuba lo mfazi usengqondweni yengqondo awunakulunga ukubonakala komntwana ebomini bakhe. Mhlawumbi wayenezicwangciso zakhe zobomi, ezinje ngenqanaba lomsebenzi okanye ukuhamba. Kwixa elizayo, umama onjalo uya kukhutshelwa ngandlela zonke kwaye agxeke abantwana babo ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo. Umzekelo, xa abantwana bafuna ukwabelana naye ngovuyo, kuya kukhulula ezo mvakalelo, banyanzela abantwana ukuba bafumane iimvakalelo ezingalunganga.
Kwaye umama unokumona kwaye ahlala ekhalaza ngobomi bakhe, esithi intombi yakhe okanye unyana wakhe unethamsanqa ebomini ngaphezu kwakhe. Ngenxa yoko, umntwana akasayi kuba nakho ukuqonda ukuba kutheni umama emphatha ngoluhlobo, kwaye uya kuziva enetyala ngayo yonke imigudu yakhe kunye nempumelelo yakhe, kunye nokumangalela ukuba unetalente kunye nezakhono. Ewe, iimvakalelo ezinjalo ziya kuphakamisa emntwaneni umnqweno ngayo nayiphi na indlela yokuhleba ityala labo phambi koMama.
Ngakumbi, oku kubonakaliswa kwinkcazo yezipho ezixabisa kakhulu kwaye zimangalisa, othi umama akakuxabisi ngokwenyani kwaye ayeke.
Olunye uphawu lomona kukungakholiswa ngumama ukuya kwisatellite yobomi awayekhethwe ngumntwana wakhe. Oku kungachazwa yinto yokuba ngeminyaka, umfazi uphulukana nokutsala abalandeli ababenabantu basemncinci. Emva koko, umntu ngamnye intombi yakhe okanye umolokazana onokubakho ugxekwa kwaye uqhubeka ngqiqweni.
Ukubonakaliswa komona kamama kungabonakaliswa ngokoyiswa koluphi na uncedo kunye nokukhathalela okubonelelwe ngabantwana. Kwangelo xesha, kuya kuhlala kukhalaza ngobomi bakhe, umvuzo omncinci kunye namaxabiso aphezulu kwiivenkile, kwinto yokuba ayinakukwazi ukufumana iholide entle kunye nendawo yokuhlala entsha. Kodwa iya kuthi yancama igalelo lakhe kunye namaphupha akhe ukuze bakhule abantwana.
Kukwenzeka ukuba isimo sengqondo malunga nabantwana abantwana babo asinamdla, yonke le nto ibonakaliswa ngendlela yokundwendwela kunye nezipho. Lonke unxibelelwano kunye nabazukulwana baya kugxila kuphela ekuboniseni indlela iintombi ezichanekileyo okanye uNyana akhulise ngayo abantwana babo - ukuzinyula kancinci kwaye uhlawule ingqalelo engapheliyo.
Umama onjalo unokuthetha abanye ukuba umntwana wakhe akanamtshato, iingxaki emsebenzini, nabantwana okanye umyeni ongachanekanga. Ke ubonakalisa ukuba intombi iphakamisa isiphoso kwimvelaphi yakhe. Nangona enyanisweni intombi yobomi bomcimbi ilunge ngakumbi kunokuba ichaze umama wakhe.
Izizathu eziphambili
Ngapha koko, oomama abanomona abafuni ukuba abantwana babo ulonwabo kunye nempilo-ntle kwaye bangayiboni yonke into ebuhlungu yale ngxaki. Kwingqondo yengqondo ye-Psychology, kuthiwa, njengommiselo, imodeli enjalo yokuziphatha idluliselwa kubazali nabantwana babo. Ngelishwa, ukusuka kwisizukulwana ukuya kwisizukulwana, ukuphangamileyo koomamano-ntsholongwane lomelezwa, nto leyo ethintela ukuvumelana neentsapho.
Oomama bafumana umona rhoqo ngenxa yokuba kulutsha bakhe ezinye iinjongo zabo kunye namaphupha azange aphunyeziwe okanye babengena kumathuba okusebenzisa. Xa oonyana neentombi zikhula, iimvakalelo zomamama obenza buthathaka, kwaye emtshatweni umama ubona umdlali welinye iqela, obangela ukucaphukisa kuphela, hayi uthando. Umona wenza ukuba ugwebe ukuba bazive bebalulekile, kuba akukho nto inomdla eyenzekayo ebomini ebomini.
Obunjani bomama ngenxa yobomi obungaphantsi buqu bunokubangela ukuba kungamvumeli naliphi na iqabane lomntwana wakhe, nokuba unjani. Umama onjalo akanqweneli ukuba nesabelo esihle kakhulu kubantwana bakhe, eqinisekile ukuba akukho mntu umele ukuba abe nelungelo lolonwabo ngeenxa zonke kuye.
Ekuqaleni, isizathu somona sinokuba kukuthandaza ukuze siyeke abantwana babo, umnqweno wokubenza balikhoboka kwaye sithintele zonke iindlela ukonwaba kwabo ukuze singahlali sodwa.
Uya kuvakalisa ukuba bayayifuna, kwaye baya kwenza ityala labo bantwana babo, ukuba uzama ukumka kuye.
Kwenziwe ntoni?
Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukuvuma ukuba ukutshintsha umama onjalo kuya kuba nzima kakhulu, ukuba kuphela umntu akayifuni le nto kwaye uguqukele kwingcali. Sukuzama ukusondela kuye ngethemba lokumisela ubudlelwane okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, zama ukukhuphisana, njengoko ezi zenzo ziya kwandisa imeko. Uya kuva ubungozi bakho, uya kuba ngumsebenzi kwaye usebenzise iinjongo zakho.
Unxibelelwano kufuneka lwakhiwe kangangoko kunokwenzeka ukuze zonke iincoko malunga nemicimbi yakho yobuqu okanye kwimicimbi enokubangela wena ebomini. Ngaphandle koko, ukusabela nakweyiphi na impumelelo yakho kunye nezinto eziphunyeziweyo ziya kuba mbi kakhulu. Izihloko zencoko ngcono zikhangele phambili, ziphazamisa ingqalelo yakhe kuzo zonke iindlela ezivela kuwe, Xoxa naziphi na iindaba zalapha, zithetha naziphi na iindaba zendawo, izinto zokuzonwabisa, ukwenza igadi, okanye kwiinkqubo azithandayo kwiTV.
Ukuba usaxoxa ngawe, ungaboni onke amazwi kanyoko ngengcikivo kwaye ngelishwa ugxekwa ingqekembe ecocekileyo, ngengqondo izame ukuzikhumbuza nangaphandle kwabantu ngelishwa Kufuneka uvele kwaye uyithathe njengoko kunjalo.
Ngayiphi na imeko, kuya kufuneka uzame ukuqala ukuhlala ngokwahlukileyo kwaye unganikezeli kumama wakho kumsebenzi wethu, intsapho yethu okanye yezemali. Mhlawumbi umgama onjalo uya kumnyanzela ukuba afumane enye into yomona.
Ungalibali ukutyeshela yonke imizamo yokutyholwa ngento yeqabane lakho kwaye ungamvumeli ukuba uthathe isizathu, ungakhathaleli into, kungenjalo uya kuhlala uphulaphula ukhetho lwakho kunye nobomi bomntu.
Iingcebiso ngogqirha wezengqondo
Imona yoomama idla ngokulinganiswa nomona wentombi engazange aqonde ebomini. Ngapha koko, kunjalo. Umama uziva engancedi kwakhe ukungancedisi phambi kwentombi yakhe okanye imbambano yonyana wakhe. Awunyanzelekanga ukuba uzive unoxanduva ngayo, kuba kunjalo, awunakwenza nantoni na ngomona wayo. Kuya kuba nzima kuye ukuba aqonde into oyifaneleyo into ongayiyo nethamsanqa ebomini. Akayi kuba nakho ukuthatha ixabiso lakho kunye nempumelelo yakho, kunye nenyaniso yokuba wonke umntu ehlabathini afanelekile uthando.
Ungazami ukufumana imvume kunye nokudumisa kunyoko, ungafuni qho xa kufuneka ufumanise ubudlelwane, okoko ukongeza kwimbambano kunye nokungaqondi akuyi kufezekisa nantoni na kuye. Ukuba uziva ngathi ufuna inkxaso yakhe, xelela ukuba wenze kakuhle kangangokuba yonke into oyenzayo, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufumana. Vavanya iziphumo zakho ngokwakho, zidla ngokuncoma ngokwakho. Zabalazela ukuba ngumntu onomdla kwaye oqolileyo ongakuxhomekekanga ngombono wakhe.
Ungavumeli imida yakho yomama onetyhefu. Ababini nawuphi na unxibelelwano kunye nayo. Sukujonga kwiimvakalelo ezibangelwa ngumama wakho. Funda ukuba ungagcinwanga kwiindlela ezisetyenziswayo ezisetyenziswayo ukubangela iimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo kuwe kwaye utshabalalise intlomeko yakho yokomoya. QAPHELA Lomntu njengentombazana enomona ofuna ukuninqanda kwinto ethile.