Isikhumbuzo seminyaka engama-35 yokuphila kunye sibizwa ngokuba yi-coral okanye yelineni yomtshato. Bazali abahlala bonwabile kunye emilo emnandi kangangokuba iminyaka emininzi efanelekile kuyo yonke imbeko kunye nokuncoma. Makhe sicinge ngento yokubanika kwisikhumbuzo esinjalo.
Ngubani igama lesikhumbuzo?
Ukuhlala kunye emtshatweni weminyaka engama-35, amaqabane abhiyozela isikhumbuzo sabo esilandelayo. Iminyaka engamashumi amathathu anesihlanu yokuphila kunye phambi kokuba abantu babizwe ngomtshato welinen. Kwaye konke kuba yizicubu zelinen ethathwa njengezona ziqinileyo. Emva kwexesha, isikhumbuzo saqala ukuforali. Eli gama lihle labonakala lingabonakali ngamathuba. Inyani yile yokuba iikorale zenziwa kwiminyaka edlulileyo. Kwaye emva kweminyaka engamashumi elwandle eselwandle, ngokungaqhelekanga, eqinile kunye nokumangalisa i-coral ivele. Ubomi bosapho bube nenxalenye yabo. Ngapha koko, ndihlala kunye iminyaka emininzi kangaka, amaqabane afunda omnye komnye unyaka, wasondela, ubudlelwane bomelele. Ngenxa yoko, izibini ezonwabileyo nezinamandla nezintle zibhiyozela isikhumbuzo seminyaka engama-35.
Ngokwesiko, indawo yombhiyozo kufuneka ihonjiswe ngayo yonke le mithetho. Ngokukhawuleza umntu kufuneka avakalelwe phantsi isikhumbuzo kwaye aqonde ukuba babhiyozela umtshato wekorale. Akunzima ukuqikelela ukuba i-DECOR kufuneka ikhethwe kwizithunzi zekommi.
Ngendlela, ngalo mhla, ukuba umsitho udlula ekhaya, kufuneka ubeke itafile yelinen etafileni njengobomi bosapho obuqinileyo nobuqinileyo.
Le holide yoyolo losapho inesiko lokubhiyozela ukonwaba kunye nomda. Kunokwenzeka ukuba ubhiyozele isikhumbuzo ekhaya okanye kwindawo yokutyela. Ngayiphi na imeko, abantwana kufuneka bazame ukwenza konke okusemandleni ukucwangcisa iholide engalibalekiyo yabazali. Kwaye kubalulekile na ukunika abazali izipho ezingalibalekiyo, nto leyo iminyaka emininzi iya kubakhumbuza ngalo mbhiyozo wosapho.
Ungasikhetha njani isipho?
Ukwenza isipho esinjalo kubazali ukuze bathande kwaye sikhumbule, asilula. Eyona nto iphambili kukuba kubalulekile ukuba uthathele ingqalelo ngexesha lokukhetha isipho, sisipho eso esimele ukuba sisipho, kodwa sifuzisela. Ukukhetha isipho sabazali, qiniseka ukuba ucinga ngezinto ozikhethayo kunye neminqweno yabo. Ngamanye amaxesha abazali bathanda ukuba bangathanda ukufumana kwisikhumbuzo. Ukuba bayahleka kwaye bathule, kuya kufuneka ubandakanye nengcinga yakho, i-intuition, kwaye ukhethe ikhoyo enqwenelekayo.
Ukukhetha isipho, qwalasela ubudala babazali. Kwenzeka ukuba into oyikhethileyo ibonakala iluncedo kwaye kuphela oyifunayo, kodwa kubazali bam iya kuba ingenamsebenzi ngokupheleleyo. Ukongeza, nyusela loo mibala ihambelana nombhiyozo. Oko kukuthi, kunokuba ziimveliso hayi kuphela ngombala wekoral, kodwa ubomvu, pinki kunye ne-terracotta.
Njengomthetho, abazali bayakuvuyela naziphi na izipho kwaye kunqabile ukucela into ebabuza abantwana babo. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba abaphuphi nantoni na. Khumbula, umntu othile ovela kubazali wakhankanya oko babekade bephupha malunga. Mhlawumbi lo ngumatshini wekofu okanye i-multicor entsha. Abazali baya konwaba kakhulu ukufumana inkcazo enjalo ebonakalayo kunye nembumbulula kubantwana abanothando. Qho xa, ukusebenzisa ubuchwephesha obonisiweyo, baya kukukhumbula ngobushushu.
Njengesipho, kunokwenzeka ukuba sinikezele ngetiti ethotyiweyo. Kwaye ukuze eso sipho sifanelanga, unokukhetha inkonzo elula yekorale. Kwaye abazali baya kusixabisa isidima sezipho ezinje ngeengubo ezifudumeleyo, i-sofa entle ebhedini okanye kwisofa, itafile yetafile, itafile entle ngendwangu, i-pilmes entle ngokunjalo. Qiniseka ukuba ukhetha zonke ezi zinto zasekhaya zemithunzi yekorale yokuhlonipha isikhumbuzo seminyaka engama-35. Imiqamelo, itafile yetafile kunye nezinye izinto ezinokukhethwa kwiWebhu. Unga-odola umlobi othile wobukraqo lohlombe, kwaye baya kufana nabantu ngeholide.
Unokunika abazali umfanekiso ohle ngomxholo wesitayile, apho kuya kubakho iikorara. Ungayalela umzobo omuhle wabazali kwaye uyinike isakhelo esifanelekileyo.
Zonke izipho ezingasentla ziziphoso eziza kuza endlwini kwaye zikholisa bobabini abazali. Kodwa, ukongeza kwisipho esidibeneyo, unokunika izipho. Umzekelo, uMama unokunika umqala we-coral ye-com ye-com ye-com ye-coral okanye eyenziwe ngendlela encinci. Kwaye unokunika is sweatshi, isikhafu, iPalatine, isikhafu okanye umnqwazi walo mthunzi mhle. Ukukhetha isipho sikaMama sokuhlonipha ngomtshato wekorale, khumbula ukuba makayithandile. Ukuba umama wakho akangomntu othanda ubucwebe, akunakwenzeka ukuba abeke emqaleni. Kwaye ukuba umama wayengazange anxibe imifuno yeenwele, ke ngoko, kunokwenzeka, umnikelo wakho uya kuba luthuli kwingubo.
Utata, unokukhetha ihempe entle okanye i-tral hirt shirt. Ukuba utata ungubotshe kunye neejekethi, unokuze umenze ngathi uyi-finsing entle njenge-cufflink okanye i-clamp. Izinto ezifanayo kufuneka zibe ngamatye e-coral.
Ukongeza kwizipho ezisebenzayo, unokucwangcisa abazali abamangalisayo. Umzekelo, bathenge itikiti lesibini kwikhaya leholide okanye nayiphi na indawo ekuchithelwa kuyo. Uhambo oluncinci luya kubathanda bonke abazali ngaphandle kokukhetha. Mhlawumbi abazali bade baphupha ngokutyelela idolophu ethile.
Isipho esigqibeleleyo sinokuba luhambo lokuya kwiindawo zokukhumbula usapho lwakho. Unokuzimela ngokuzimela abazali kwimoto yakho okanye kwi-oda i-minibus. Ngexesha lohambo, ungandwendwela indawo yentlanganiso yokuqala, umhla wokuqala, iofisi yeRejistry, apho abazali basayine khona. Qiniseka ukuba uthathe ikhamera kunye nawe okanye uhombe umfoti onobuchule wokufaka lo tyelelo lukhuni. Kwaye emva kokuba wenze i-albhamu ekhethekileyo kwezi foto.
Sonke isipho esivela kubantwana abazali siya kubona ngovuyo olukhulu nombulelo. Izipho ezihle, izipho ze-boequets kunye nezinye izipho zikwiminyaka yomtshato zilungile kakhulu. Kodwa ungalibali ngezi zipho kwaye umangalise ukuba iimvakalelo ezithandekayo ziya kunika abazali abazali. Amaxesha oLonwabo loSapho oluDibeneyo akalibaleki.
Yintoni engacetyiswayo ukuba inike?
Isipho sokuba abazali kufuneka bakhumbule kwaye sifuneka. Abantu abadala ababehlala emtshatweni kangangeminyaka emininzi, ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kubalisa izipho. Kodwa umsebenzi ofanelekileyo kufuneka abe kanye kubo, hayi kuwe. Uninzi lwabantwana lunika abazali igajethi zanamhlanje, ngethemba lokuba baya kufunda ukuzisebenzisa kungekudala. Kodwa ukuba abazali abaziqondi i-elektroniki le-elektroniki kwaye abadingi enye igajethi, emva koko ezo zipho zingami.
Ayisiko ngokwesiko ukunika loo mibhiyozo yesipili, njengoko ithathelwa ingqalelo ukwamkelwa okubi. Akunakwenzeka ukunika iseti yeefolokhwe kunye neempeni, njengoko oku kuya kukhokelela kwingxabano kusapho. SUKUFUNDA I-WRIAT yakho yeHlabathi yaBazali kwaye uyibukele endlwini. Akunakwenzeka ukunika iiseti zezikhafu zempumlo. Kutshiwo ukuba oku kuyakukhokelela kwiingxabano nakwiinyembezi.
Ukukhetha umhlobiso umama wam, musa ukuthatha umgesi okanye amacici aneperile. Kukho umqondiso wokuba eso sipho siya kuzisa okuninzi kumfazi oza kuthatha isipho esinjalo. Awunakho ukunika ii-wallet ezingenanto kunye neengxowa. Qiniseka ukuba ubeke ubuncinci inani elincinci, kungenjalo luya kukhokelela kwiingxaki zemali.
Yintoni enye onokuyenza izipho zomtshato wekorale, ungafunda kwividiyo engezantsi.