Inkcubeko nganye idume ngeeholide zayo, ezahlula-hlulwa ngokungaqhelekanga, kodwa phantse wonke umntu unomtshato. Kubantu ngalinye kukho izithethe zabo zomtshato, njengoko ziphakamile ixesha elide, ngelixa ilizwe labantu. Namhlanje, kukho umahluko omkhulu kwiholide. Inqaku lethu lithathela ingqalelo i-rite yokufumana intlanganiso encinci ngomtshato kunye nezinto abazithethayo.
Isiko lebali
Akukho mtshato ungenzi ngaphandle kokunyanga. Ingqalelo ekhethekileyo ifanelwe bumnandi. Namhlanje emtshatweni kufuneka kubekho ikhekhe entle nenkulu, kodwa i-sperry emnandi yenziwa ngaphambili ngaphandle kobungakanani kunye nobume. Ukusukela ixesha elide, umtshato wenziwe ukuba unyange kakhulu kwaye ube mnandi kakhulu. Ihlala ihonjiswe ngeepateni ezibalaseleyo ezifana nezihombiso zobuzwe. Kufuneka ihlawulwe kwinto yokuba zonke izinto zepateni zinexabiso elithile:
- Ukwahluka kwee-braids kunye nokuluka yimntwali yombutho emibini, kunye nokuqhubeka kwale mihla kwintsapho eyomeleleyo nolomeleleyo;
- Iiroses kunye neziqhamo ze-vaburniser ezifuzisela uthando, ihlonipha kunye nobushushu;
- Swans ngokubhaka kukubhaka luphawu loMtshato ngokwabo, owamkelayo omnye komnye eThando;
- Idiliya yomdiliya luphawu lokuchuma, ukuze ifumaneke kwakhona kwisonka somtshato - unqwenela umnqweno wesibini esitshatileyo wabantwana abasempilweni.
I-Cangoway sisisonka esimdaka esimdaka, esihlala simangalisa. Ubume bomjikelo buyathanda ilanga. Ke ngoko, yamkelekile ukuba iqhekeza libonisa ukwenziwa kosapho olutsha, impumelelo yabo, impilo-ntle kunye nokuchuma. Ngokwesiqhelo, kulisiko ukuqalisa umthendeleko emtshatweni, ngelixa ihlala ikhonza ityiwa, ethanda ukuchuma.
Abazali kwintlanganiso yabantu abaselula bayahamba ngokubhekisele kuluntu olunamandla. Emva kwenxalenye esemthethweni yomtshato, abantu abatsha kufuneka bakume okanye baphule isiqwenga semohlwayo. Leliphi kulwabantu abasandul 'ukutshata oluya kuba sisiqwengana esikhulu, uya kuba yintloko yentsapho entsha. Emva koko, unokukhathalela abahlobo kunye neendwendwe ezeza kumbhiyozo. Ukuba unqwenela, unokukhetha abantwana abasanda kutshata. Ngamanye amaxesha isibini siyinqumle kwinkumbulo.
Kukho esinye isiko elinxulunyaniswa ne-carabin yomtshato. Ngokutsho kwakhe, uMtshakazi kunye nomyeni bafanele baphule isiqwengana sesohlwayo, kwaye emva koko babhangise kwaye baphathene. I-rite enjalo ifanekisela ukuba abantu abasandul 'ukutshata kufuneka baphile ngoxolo nemvisiswano, kwaye ngoku banika ithuba lokugqibela' kwimpompo ". Ukushiya le rite kwimemori, ityiwa eseleyo kufuneka ityhutywe ibhegi yelaphu, iya kuba yiyouvever efanelekileyo.
Ngaphambili belandela isiko, ngokutsho kwesonka somtshato esifanele sibhakwe yintsapho yomyeni. Ngokwesiqhelo le nkqubo ibalulekileyo yokupheka isalamane, ohlala bonwabile emtshatweni kwaye unabo abantwana. Ukuba umyeni kaMama uyahambelana nale mfuno, emva koko walungisa isonka. Kunqabile ukulungiselela isonka somhlolokazi, amantombazana nabasetyhini abangenamntwana. Ngokwenkolelo, umfazi ongonwabi ongonwabanga angayidlulisa ingxaki yakhe kubuze batshayo kwinkqubo yokupheka umtshato weKarabia.
Itekhnoloji yokupheka ayinzima kakhulu, kodwa ngokwesiko, ifuna indlela ekhethekileyo. Ke, umfazi wayefanele ukucula iingoma ezingonwabisi ngexesha lentlama yokuxovula malunga nothando olucocekileyo nolinyanisekileyo. Xa isonka saya kwi-oveni, waqala ukufunda imithandazo.
Inomdla kukuba kwanamadoda avela kwintsapho yomyeni anokuthatha inxaxheba kumalungiselelo obalo lophawu lomtshato. Ukuba indoda ihlale emtshatweni owonwabisayo kangangeminyaka emininzi, inabantwana abaninzi abasempilweni, ifumana ithuba emva kokuxoxa kuvavanyo ukuba libeke umqolomba. Emva koko, ukuthatha inxaxheba kwakhe kuyaphela, umfazi umi ngaseyonayo.
Ngexesha leRussia endala, isonka yayiyimveliso ephambili. Wayenxulumana nentlalo-ntle yosapho. Ngesi sizathu, umthendeleko weholide awunakuvulwa ngaphandle kohlwaywa. Ngokwesiqhelo yayiphekwe ngaphambi kwexesha, ngeentsuku ezimbalwa. Inhlama yaxovula kumgubo wengqolowa, kwaye ihombise le sonka, i-stucco eyahlukeneyo yenziwa ngenhlama yomhlobiso wayo, njenge-spikelets okanye amagqabi. Kwaye ngaphezulu kwesohlwayo, bahlala beqaphela amajuba, efanekisela uthando olungonaphakade.
Udibana njani?
Ngokwesithethe sabantu abasanda kutshanjelwa emva kwenxalenye esemthethweni yomtshato, kuyafuneka ukuba sihlangane nobuchule, kwaye kufanele ukuba sezandleni zabazali bomyeni. Ngokwesiqhelo, umyeni wakhe wamgcina yena, ngelixa iloti yayikwinqaba ekhethekileyo, eyayihonjiswe ngesikhokelo somkhombe. Kwamkelwa ukuba umtshakazi uzibandakanyeka kwi-Emfaderry ye-Sholima yeTowel ngexesha lokulungiselela umbhiyozo, ngelixa wayenethuba lokukhetha ipatheni. Rhoqo, le fikelela ihonjiswe ngamahobe okanye iingcambu, njengemiqondiso yokuzalwa kosapho olutsha.
Ekuqaleni, abazali badibana nabantu abasandul 'ukutshata ngokubhekisele kwizindlu zabazali bomyeni, njengoko kwamkelwa ukuba abaselula balakha nosapho apho. Esinye isizathu sokukhetha le ndawo yentlanganiso sisibakala sokuba yayiyintsapho yeGomo enoxanduva lokulungiselela ukohlwaya umtshato. Imitshato yanamhlanje, ngokuqinisekileyo, yahlukile kwangaphambili, kwaye ezinye izithethe sele zilityelwe okanye zifumene i-edoloving yayo kwitoliki entsha. Namhlanje, umyeni onomyeni emva kokuba ubhaliso lwaseburhulumenteni luthunyelwa kwisidlo, ngokufuthi baqala ukuhlala ngokwahlukeneyo kubazali babo. Ke ngoko, rhoqo abantu abaselula badibana nababophelele kwizandla zabo ekungeneni kwendawo yokutyela okanye cafe.
Ungalibali malunga nendwendwe, kuba nangabathathi-nxaxheba abasebenzayo kwesi siko. Ziindwendwe eziqokelele "ipaseji" ephilayo ". Xa abantu Abaselula Badlula Nathi, emva koko iindwendwe zazigculela ngeengqekembe, i-oats, irayisi, i-millet, iipilisi zentyatyambo okanye ipilisi. Ngenxa yoko, abahlobo kunye nabantu endibaziyo banqwenela ubutyebi novuyo lwentsapho entsha.
Kuya kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo kumazwi kamamazala. Incoko yawo ifanele ibe yeyamntu, kunjalo, iyalandela kwangethuba ukuze ingadibani ngomzuzu ophambili. Ukulungiselela kwangaphambili kuya kuvumela ukuba babele iinkalo eziphambili, kwaye baya kusuka emphefumlweni. Ewe kunjalo, kungcono ukuthetha isicatshulwa ngaphandle kweengcebiso, kodwa ukuba kukho imfuneko, unokuthetha kwaye ufunde. Xa uMthetho-Anitozalahlangana ahlangabezana nokutshata ngokutsheki, isibheno sakhe kufuneka sibhekiswe kuNyana wakhe, kuba kubaluleke kakhulu kuye. Ekuqaleni, kufanele ukuba ivakalise uvuyo ngoNyana, kwaye inqwenelela zonke izibonelelo zosapho lwakhe olutsha.
Nangona iloti ibambe umamazala, kodwa ungalibali umama kaMtshakazi, njengoko ikwadlala indima kwesi siko. Kufuneka igcine iiglasi ezimbini ezizaliswe sisiselo esithambileyo okanye isiqhwala ezandleni zakhe. Xa abancinci abaselula sisiqwengana sesohlwayo, kufuneka basele kwiiglasi ukuya ezantsi emva koko bazibethe, ngelixa bephosa iiglasi kwiglasi yasekhohlo. Oku kuya kuthetha ukuba ulonwabo lufika kwiintsapho zabo.
Xa umkhwekazi enikelwa kumtshakazi nomtshakazi ukuba batye kwiiglasi, kufuneka abonakalise ulonwabo, encothula abantwana ngokusekwa kosapho kwaye banqwenelela okuhle. Ootata basandul 'ukwanda kuthatha inxaxheba kwesi siko. Ngokwesiqhelo, utata womyeni uqhuba itreyi ezandleni, apho ama-apile ekhoyo. Emva kwe-champagne, imibhiyozo "yeCulprit" inokutya kwangoko. Utata womtshakazi ezandleni zakhe ubambe i-icon, kuba ulukuyo uyayisikelela umtshato.
Ndithini?
Rhoqo, umtshato umenyelwe eTamada, okhonza okhokelayo. Kukho uTampada omnye wamenyelwa emtshatweni, ngulowo uqaphele kuzo zonke izenzo nge-karabaya rite, ngelixa unika igama kumthathi-nxaxheba ngamnye wesenzo. Ingcali iyayazi ishishini lakhe ngokugqibeleleyo, indlela yokuziphatha kunye nento onokuyithetha kwintlanganiso yabantu abasandul 'ukutshata. Emva kwebhotwe lomtshato, uMtshakazi ovela emgceni uhlala ethunyelwa kwiseshoni yefoto, ukongeza, izalamane ezisondeleyo zinokuhamba nazo, kwaye zonke ezinye iindwendwe ziya kulinda iingcibi zombhiyozo kwigumbi lokubhiyozela. I-Tamada ekufuneka iqinisekise ukuba bonke abathathi-nxaxheba kwi-rite bengabandakanyeka kwiindawo zabo, kwaye unika igama ngalinye, lazisa ukuphuculwa kwesenzo.
Kubalulekile! Intetho yomama womyeni akufuneki ibe kude kube lixesha elide. Kwanele ukulungiselela izivakalisi ezimbalwa kuphela. Sele emva kwetafile yomtshato, abazali baya kuba nakho ukuthetha ngokupheleleyo.
Bazali bomtshato bavuyisa kakhulu abantwana babo, kwaye batsho amazwi entlawulo. Bamele bathethe ngokunyaniseka, akunyanzelekanga ukuba basebenzise itekisi efundileyo, kufuneka udlulisele iimvakalelo kunye nemvakalelo yakho. Incoko yabazali inokwenziwa ngohlobo lwemibongo okanye kwiproses, ukhetho luhlala lubazali lwazo.
Ingcebiso
Ukuze usuku lomtshato ludlula ngokwesiScript kwaye ngaphandle kokumangalisa ", kufuneka ihlawulwe ukulungiselela. Ukuba sijonga isiko lentlanganiso yabantu abasanda kutshata ngesonka esitshatileyo, kuya kufuneka unikele ingqalelo kwiingcebiso ezinjalo:
- Asingabo bonke abazali abanokubakho emtshatweni wesizathu okanye omnye, ke indima ye-in-in-in-in-in-ofisi kamama kweli lizwe inokwenza isalamane, kodwa sisesihlobo nje esisenyongweni;
- Akunakwenzeka ukuba ithathe indawo yesonka somtshato, nangona siphambi kwesonka esimnandi esimnandi kule holide;
- Incoko kaMama ngomyeni ohlanganisana kakhulu, zinokubonelelwa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, eyona nto iphambili kukunyaniseka neyafudumele.
Indlela yokudibana nomncinci ngononophelo emtshatweni, jonga ividiyo elandelayo.