Indoda nganye inosuku olunye, olusondeleyo, nabahlobo, izalamane nentombazana bakulungele ukumnikela kuye. Sithetha, kunjalo, malunga nomhla wokuzalwa. Kodwa ukuba kwigumbi lokuzalwa, ubunzima buqulathe kuphela apho ukubhiyozela khona, ke kwiindwendwe ziintsuku ezimbalwa, emva koko iiveki zokucinga malunga nokukhetha isipho. Ukukholisa ngokwenene intombazana yomhla wokuzalwa, kufanelekile ukuba uza kukhetho lwakhe.
Ikhuthazi
Ngokucacileyo, iminyaka eli-18 ayisiyonto ilula kuwo omabini la madoda nakwisisimo sokusingqongileyo. Iinjongo, iminqweno iyatshintsha, inyathelo lokuba ngumdala, indawo yokuqala yosuku lokuzalwa.
Ke ngoko, abantu basondelelene nabantu abakwishumi elivisayo kufuneka baphinde bafundwe ngendlela ethile ukumisela indlela yokumnika.
Iikhrayitheriya zokukhetha isipho.
- Ubume bezemali boMnikeli. Okokuqala, kufanelekile ukuvavanya ukuba yeyiphi imali onokuyisebenzisa ngesipho, kwaye koku ukuze usukele kwixesha elizayo. Nokuba uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali oluncinci, unokwenza into eyimfuneko, eyiyo kunye nokumangala, apho intombazana yokuzalwa iya konwaba khona.
- Ukhetho lokuzalwa. Ubuqhetseba bombhiyozo ngamanye amaxesha basitsho ngokuthe ngqo ukuba angathanda ukufumana usuku lokuzalwa kwakhe. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha bayayibona ngokwabo babone ukuba ngeloxesha unokubakho, umzekelo, ijacket, i-wallet, ibhanti, ibhanti okanye ibhegi. Kananjalo, izinto ezikhethwayo ziquka iminqweno engaqhelekanga-inokuba yi tattoo, ukutsiba ngeparachute okanye uhambo lokuya kwindawo yokutyela "ebumnyameni". Kwakhona, nawuphi na umntwana osemzini afuna ukufumana ubuchule njengesipho, ukusukela kwikhibhodi eguquguqukayo okanye imouse engenazingcingo kwaye uphele ngelaptop.
- Izinto zokuzonwabisa kunye nohlobo lomsebenzi oyintanda. Ikhrayitheriya enokuququzelela ukukhetha kwezipho kwiindwendwe kwaye iya kunciphisa ukukhangela. Kule meko, ingqalelo eyodwa kufuneka ihlawulwe kwi-hobby yegumbi lokuzalwa, indlela ajonga ngayo izilwanyana, inomdla wokuyila, isayensi okanye imidlalo.
Ngokucacileyo, amathuba okuba anokubakho okukhethwa sisipho anika izinto ozithandayo wokuzalwa, kule nto kufuneka aphikiswe, anikwe isikhundla sayo semali.
Iintshukumo zezipho
Isikhumbuzo seminyaka elishumi elinesibhozo ngulo mzuzu xa inkwenkwe ijika ibe yindoda. Kwangelo xesha, kuvela umbuzo ojikeleze umbuzo, yintoni onokuyinika unyana wabantu abadala, umtshana, umthambo, umzukulwana okanye isiqingatha sakhe sesibini. Kuzo naziphi na kwezi ndlela, kufanelekile ukuphononongwa iimfuno zendoda kunye nokuzivocavoca ukuvelisa eyona nto ibalulekileyo kwigumbi lokuzalwa.
Ke ngoko, kucetyiswa ukuba uqonde ukuba umfana angathanda ukukodwa kuwe ngokusuka kwezi zinto ungakwazi ukufikelela kuzo.
Kwintombazana
Intombazana yomntu oneminyaka elishumi elinesibhozo ubudala kukuba umntu owaziyo ngaphezu kwabahlobo bakhe okanye abazali bakhe. Ke ngoko, umsebenzi wayo kukwenza isipho esinjalo kwintanda ukuze ingabaleka, kwaye iyasebenza, kwaye ihambelana nemidla yakhe.
Ezona zipho ziqhelekileyo zivela kwintombazana.
- Isipho sesibini. Ukuhamba ilizwekazi, uhambo, iitikiti kwipaki yokuzonwabisa, ithiyetha, ikhonsathi okanye ukuhamba.
- Ikhuphoni yeQonga elinomdla Kwinkampani yabahlobo, kwiinkqubo ze-SPA, echibini, isaphulelo kwindawo yokutyela okanye ivenkile.
- Isipho esiyilayo Ukuqala kwiingoma kunye nemibongo kunye nokucofa umdaniso kunye nokugquma.
- Into yobuqu. Is sweatshi, ubume bebhola, izihlangu, i-wallet, ibhanti, i-backpack okanye ibhegi.
- Ukutya . Isidlo sangokuhlwa senzelwe yena okanye isidlo sangokuhlwa sambini, silungisiwe yintombazana. Rhoqo, amantombazana abhekiswa kule nto ikhumbula ukuba indlela eya entliziyweni yomntu ilele esiswini.
Iingcebiso zezipho zomfana oselula:
- Khumbula ukuba izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka kule meko zizimisele kwisiqingatha sakho sesibini, hayi yeyakho. Ke ngoko, xa ukhetha isipho kwintanda yakho, cinga - lento iya kuba yinto elungileyo kuwe okanye yona.
- Ukubakho kuhle ukuba lo mfo sele ekhankanyi ukuba angathanda ukufumana njengesipho. Ke musa ukuba livila, nikhumbule ngoko ebethetha ngako, kwaye zama ukumenza lo mazwi.
- Cinga ukuba uyithanda kakhulu umfana wakho, kodwa ukuba angakwazi. Isipho esinjalo siya kunandipha ngokwenene igumbi lokuzalwa.
- Musa ukoyika ukwenza into entsha kwaye wenze ividiyo oyithandayo engalibalekiyo, collage, bhala umbongo okanye urhole umzobo.
- Isipho esibizayo kwifom yezixhobo siya kufumaneka kakuhle nakweyiphi na imeko. Ingaba ngumshicileli wetayithe yereyitha, ithebhulethi, i-playStation, umnxeba, i-laptop kunye nezinye iindlela. Kubalulekile ukuba uqonde isidingo seendleko ezinjalo- nokuba umfana wakho ufuna ukufumana into kuwe.
Isipho esivela kwintombazana kwisikhumbuzo seminyaka eli-18 idla ngokulindelweyo, ke kufuneka ukuba sisondele kulo mbandela. Sukuyiyeka kwiinguqulelo zaselwandle. Kungcono ukunika isibakala sokuba akukho namnye umntu oya kumthintela.
Kwaye awungekhe ulibale -ungabizi nje isipho, kodwa sinomdla wokukwenza, kuhle ukumangalisa iqabane lakho lomphefumlo.
Kubazali
Umbuzo wonyana wesipho womhla wokuzalwa ungagungqi kakhulu kumama wonke. Kunzima ukucinga ukuba ndifuna umntwana ngeminyaka eli-18, ngenxa yokuba izinto anomdla kuzo, iiklasi kunye nezinto ozithandayo ziyatshintsha. Ngamanye amaxesha ungathembela kunxibelelwano olusondeleyo lukaYise noNyana, kule meko, kuya kuba lula ukwenza isipho, kuba uYise uyazi kakuhle izinto ozithandayo, kodwa ayiyonyani kuzo zonke iintsapho. Ke ngoko, ngokufuthi abazali benza uhlobo oluthile lumangalisiwe: imali, iiyure okanye amanzi ale ndlu. Kwangelo xesha, izipho zabazali zihlala zixhomekeke kubuchule bezezimali, ke kunokwenzeka ukuba bazikhuphele kuhlahlo-lwabiwo mali kwaye babize kakhulu.
Izipho zoHlahlo-lwabiwo mali ezivela kubazali:
- Izibonelelo zokuhlamba okanye zokuhlamba;
- iwotshi engabizi;
- iimpahla;
- Isipho ngokungqinelana neendlela zokuzonwabisa (ibhola, iigloves ezinomtsalane, zinamathela njalo);
- Iimpahla zesikhumba.
Izipho ezithandekayo ezivela kubazali:
- Ilaptop okanye ikhompyuter;
- ithebhulethi;
- umnxeba;
- Iwotshi yobulumko;
- ukuhamba;
- isatifikethi.
Kubazali igumbi lokuzalwa lilinde isipho esixabisekileyo ngentsingiselo kunye nohlobo oluthile lwesithembiso.
Inokuba sisipho esibi kakhulu kwaye siyinto eyomeleleyo: I-albhamu enemifanekiso yabantwana yetheko lomhla wokuzalwa, usapho lwalusabele okanye uhlobo oluthile lwento engalibalekiyo njengetoni yakhe yokuqala.
Kubahlobo
Izipho ezivela kubahlobo zihlala ziyinto entle, echwayitileyo kwaye ayicocekanga. Abahlobo bahlala bayazi ukuba usuku lokuzalwa luya kuthi luthandabuze. Kwangelo xesha, ukuba isipho sifuna iindleko eziphakamileyo, abahlobo bahlala bephulwe kakhulu kwaye inkcazo eyimfuneko ifunyenwe yimizamo yokudibana.
Ezona zipho ziqhelekileyo zivela kubahlobo:
- imali;
- iimpahla ngoshicilelo;
- Hookah;
- Imidlalo yebhodi;
- Mug ngoshicilelo;
- Isithethi esibonakalayo;
- ukufikelela kwikhompyuter yakho, ilaptop okanye ikhonkco;
- Izatifikethi kwimidlalo egqithileyo.
Iingcebiso zokukhetha izipho ezivela kubahlobo.
- Ngamanye amaxesha kulula ukusebenzisana kwaye uthenge isipho esidibeneyo.
- Ifanele ikhunjulwe ukuba izipho ezingalibalekiyo zihlala zinikwa kwintombazana nabazali. Abahlobo bathanda ukunika into eyonwabisayo yokuphazamisa kwaye sonwabe.
- Isipho sokuqala siya kuthathwa ngcono (ibhotile ye-champagne enamalungu onke abahlobo, ifom yebhola ekhatywayo yegama lokuzalwa kunye nenombolo yakhe ayithandayo, i-sweats ehambelana ne-culpit yombhiyozo).
Ukumangala komhlobo kuthetha ukuba impilo kunye nokulula. Iinzame ezidibeneyo, abahlobo bahlala bengenzi izipho, kodwa nenkqubo yokuyila. Ngamanye amaxesha kukhuphiswano lwenziwa ngokukodwa kwigumbi lokuzalwa okanye ukufuna ukuya kwindlu yakhe.
Rekhoda ividiyo evuyisana nayo bonke abahlobo bakhe, kuquka nabo behla baphuma ngomhla wokuzalwa.
Ukusuka ku-wide
Isipho sikadade sixhomekeke kwinqanaba lokusondela kunye nomntakwabo. Ebhetele bayazana, umntu othile uya kuba sisipho. Ukuba udade mncinci, emva koko kunokuba luhlobo oluthile lokuzoba, umntakwenu endala okanye into eyenziwe ngezandla zakho. Kodwa ukuba udade wayengoyena mdala kwaye asondele kwaye umzalwana, ukhetho oluninzi lunokwenzeka.
Rhoqo udade wethu unika umntakwethu othile, kodwa ungalibali ukuba uMzalwana nodade ngomnye wabantu abasondeleyo omnye komnye. Ke ngoko, isipho esivela kudade kufuneka siphathe isithembiso esibalulekileyo ngokwaso- le yinto ebaluleke kakhulu okanye eyona nto ifanelekileyo.
Ukusuka kukagogo
Umakhulu ngumntu omangalisayo, kuba akazukuyilibala malunga nomhla wokuzalwa komzukulwana, nokuba khange bathethe ixesha elide. UGranny Granny uhlala enesisa Akayi kunika icebiso kuphela, aya kuthi athethe amazwi ashushu, ngokunyaniseka kwaye kuwo wonke umphefumlo uya kuvuyisana, kodwa unike into elungileyo.
Nangona kunjalo, ootata basoloko bengabom ngabom, nto leyo ingumzukulwana ngqo, kwaye uthembele lo khetho kuye.
Esona sipho sixhaphakileyo esivela kugogo:
- imali;
- Izinto ezifunwayo;
- Ixabiso loSapho;
- Nakuphi na ubuchwephesha (umdlali, iwotshi ye-smart, itshathi ephathekayo).
Ugogo, imali ayibalulekanga xa kufikwa kwisipho soMzukulwana, ngokufanayo esi sothuka.
Ngamanye amaxesha umakhulu kunye nabazali bentombazana yemihla yomhla wokuzalwa banika isipho esithandekayo esithandekayo - esothusayo usuku lokuzalwa luyayithanda.
Yintoni enokwenziwa ngezandla zakho?
Akukho mfihlakalo yokuba esona sipho sinesipho esenziwe ngezandla zakho. Xa umntu echitha ixesha elininzi ukwenza isipho, ajonge izihloko ngezihloko kwaye aphuhlise isicwangciso sendlela yokufaka yonke into, intombazana yomhla wokuzalwa ifumana iimvakalelo ezingakumbi kuneso.
Kwangelo xesha, izipho ezenziwe ngezandla zazo zinokwahlulwa zangamacandelo aliqela.
- Ukungalibaleki . Ifilimu, i-albhamu ye-albhamu, umbongo, i-Comge, iposikhadi eyenziwe yi-Skriquique Worky, i-T-shirt okanye i-T-shirt yephepha lomshicileli, inqaku njalo.
- Iluncedo . Is sweatshi engafunekiyo okanye isikhafu, ukulungisa egumbini lakhe.
- Ngokungaqhelekanga . Umdlalo webhodi malunga nentombazana yokuzalwa, i-APP, iphephandaba laseDonga, uMosaic ngefoto yomhla wokuzalwa.
- I-Comic . Iposikhadi echwayitileyo, incwadi yefoto enemifanekiso ethandekayo yetheko lomhla wokuzalwa, ingoma malunga netyala elihlekisayo kubomi bombhiyozo, izipho ezincinci ezinxulumene nombongo onjani yiza ngaphakathi.
Nantoni na kolu lukhetho lubonisa ukubonakaliswa kokunuka kunye nokuyila ukucinga.
Kodwa ukusuka kwiimvakalelo ezifanayo zokuzonwabisa kwigama lokuzalwa liza kuba lukhulu, ke kufanelekile ukuchitha ixesha lokumangalisa umntu omthandayo.
Iimbono zoqobo
Inketho entle yokugcina kwaye yothuse ngokwenene i-culpit yombhiyozo-kukulungiselela isipho sokuqala. Oku kufanelekile ukuchitha ixesha, kuba ezothusayo zihlala zipholile kwaye zibangela ngaphezu kwazo naziphi na iimvakalelo kungekuphela kumntu obafumana, kodwa neendwendwe.
Kule meko, intlalweni inokuba sisipho kunye nentetho.
- Unokuza nomntu omfana omdala omdala. Umzekelo, i-balloon Helloons enobuso bentaka - iziqwenga ezili-18. Inkosi nganye i-Helles Helele kwaye ithi ukubulisa kwakhe, kunye nentombazana yokuzalwa ekupheleni enkosi ngokubulela, esenza izenzo ezifanayo.
- Ungabhala ileta Apho amatyala anomdla kakhulu avela kubomi bentombazana yomhla wokuzalwa aya kuchazwa kwaye athumele nge-imeyile, thumela i-telegraph njengoko yayivela kwixesha elidlulileyo okanye i-Duration kwi-Audio Castese kwaye ibandakanya usuku lokuzalwa kumdlali.
- Yiza nemfuno esixekweni ukuze ube ngumbingeleli wombhiyozo. Shenxisa izikhokelo kwaye uthumele ukukhangela okanye ukusasaza incwadi yesetyhini kubahlobo abahlobo ngamagama amele afumane ulandelelwano lombhiyozo. Emva koko kuya kufuneka aqokelele amanye ibinzana eliya kukhokelela kwisipho. Unokuthenga kwakhona isitya esithandwayo somfazi omncinci kwaye ubhale imithetho yayo kuye kuphela ngomenzi wobubi bombhiyozo.
I-conratrattion yoqobo kufuneka ihambe kunye nesipho uqobo, ukuze igumbi lokuzalwa lingafumani kuphela iimvakalelo, kodwa into enqwenelekayo kwaye inqwenelekayo.
Ke ngoko, ngesiqhelo, ekupheleni kwendlela yokuvuyela ukuvuyela kufuneka kunikwe isipho apho yonke into ebeyilindelekile ngenxa ye.
Ukuba awazi ukuba unike ntoni umntu kwishumi elinesibhozo, ubone izimvo zantlandlolo kwividiyo engezantsi.