Akukho namnye kuthi ofanelekileyo. Iingxaki zengqondo zengqondo kunye neemvakalelo ezimbi zinezinto ezimbi. Sukuphumelela ngabantu ababa ngabazali. Iimpazamo ngokuziphatha nomntwana zihlala zikhokelela kwinto yokuba kubantu abakwishumi elivisayo, okanye imvakalelo yokucaphuka kotata wakhe okanye umama, uhlala ejika abe yintiyo, evele. Kwaye oku kungqineke kunobunzima obukhulu kunye nezinye izinto ezingaqhelekanga ngokweemvakalelo. Kuya kufuneka wazi, ngenxa yeminyaka ethile enokuthi yamthiyile uyise, nendlela yokuhlangabezana nayo.
Izizathu eziphambili
Kwiqela elisondeleyo lentlalontle, njengentsapho, kunzima kakhulu ukufihla iintsilelo zakho, hlala usabelelo olubi. Ngapha koko, Unxibelelwano phakathi kwabantu abasondeleyo ngamaxesha athile iqhubela phambili iingxaki ezithile zobuntu kunye nohlobo ngalunye. Imeko ikhula nangakumbi ukuba umntu unengxaki enkulu kwi-psycho-proise yentliziyo yengqondo: Unomona, unotywala, ukuzingca, unxila, unxano lobuqhetseba, njalo njalo. Ukungancedi kunye nobuthathaka kuya kubonakala ngokucacileyo ngendlela yokuziphatha, nto leyo engenako ukuchaphazela amanye amalungu osapho.
Icandelo elikhulu leSayensi-i-Psychology yengqondo yosapho inikezelwe kwisifundo kunye nokulungiswa kolwaphulo-mthetho kunye neengxaki kubudlelwane obuphakathi kwezona zihlobo zikufutshane. Kutshanje, oochwephesha bengqondo bachitha izicelo ezinzima zoonyana abade babantu abasele bekhule kwaye bekhulela utata wakhe.
Phantse njalo isiseko sobudlelwane obubi abubekwe kwithuba langoku, kodwa ebuntwaneni, ukufikisa okanye ukufikisa kwangoko.
Uninzi lukhona kukho oonobangela be-solar kunye nengqumbo yomoyike kutata.
- Isitayile esigunyazisiweyo sokukhulisa. Umntwana uhlala ephantsi kolawulo, akanakubonakalisa ubuntu bakhe, atyunyuzwa yimithetho emininzi kwaye ezifunwayo ezivela komnye okanye bobabini abazali.
- Isikhombisi sotywala kwaye, ngenxa yokuziphatha kukatata kusapho nasephandle. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, umntwana uhlala ehlonela utata wakhe. Elokugqibela idla ngokuvelisa i-velees kwaye iyenza ibe nzima ukuze kubantwana kunye nokufikisa.
- Ishushu , iimbambano ezixhaphakileyo kunye nokuziphatha komsindo komzali kucinezela kakhulu i-psyche yomntwana.
- Isohlwayo somzimba , Ugonyamelo ngokuchasene nomntwana uhlala ufumaneka namhlanje kwiintsapho ezichumileyo zangaphandle kwaye zikhanyisela iintsapho. Kodwa ukubonakaliswa "kothando" okhohlisayo okuphawuleka kakhulu kwi-psyche yabantwana, zinqunyulwe ngokuqinileyo kwinkumbulo. Le yenye yezona ngxaki zininzi kwaye zikhulisa kwi-Psychology yezeMpance.
- Ukukhathalela upopu ukusuka kwintsapho yomntwana Ngubani omhluthayo ukuba angakhathali kukwenzakala okukhulu. Nokuba ukulondolozwa konxibelelwano kunye nonxibelelwano lwexesha lokunxibelelana, abantwana abalishiyiweyo bahlala bengakwazi ukuxolelwa kubo nakumama.
- Kwenzeka ukuba umntu aziphathe nabantwana bakhe ngobunono Kodwa kunye namanye amalungu osapho beza ngobukrakra kwaye banobubele. Ukubukela ii-scandas, iRugan, ukubetha, umntwana akafumani zimpawu ezintle, ngaphandle kwento yokuba ukungaboni ngasonye akunakuchukumisa. Okwangoku, intiyo eqinileyo kuba utata ngokuhlaselwa koomama bafumana oonyana abagulekayo.
- Unobangela wokulima kwenzondelelo unokusebenza njengomona wabantwana kubazalwana noodade. Oku kuhlala kujongwa kwiintsapho ezinkulu. Ngelishwa, abanye abazali bakungazikhathaleli nje umntu obantwana, behlala besenza isilwanyana sasekhaya, bangathabathela eyokugqibela nasemhlabeni, nakwabasemzini. Ukongeza kwintiyo kunye nokuthuka, ukwenzakala kwabantwana abanjalo baqulunqa uvavanyo olubekiweyo kakhulu, olubangela intsingiselo engapheliyo kuwo onke amabakala obomi.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba useke ubudlelwane?
Omnye wemiyalelo yengqondo kunye neengcali zengqondo zivakala malunga nezi zinto zilandelayo: Ukuqonda kunye nokwamkelwa kwengxaki linyathelo lokuqala nelona libalulekileyo kwisigqibo sakhe. Kwimeko yeemvakalelo ezingalunganga ngokunxulumene noYise, lo mthetho ulunge ngokupheleleyo. Intiyo kunye nentice enyanisweni, okokuqala, "yidle" abo bahlangabezana nabo. Wonke umntu uyakukhumbula indlela ediniwe kwaye ediniwe ukuba uziva emva kokuqhambuka komsindo omkhulu. Kwaye ukuba le mvakalelo isenzeka iminyaka, isenzo sayo sinokuthelekiswa ne-leech suck emntwini.
Ingxaki kukuba uninzi, ngokuchasene nokudinwa kwabo ngokweemvakalelo kunye nengqondo eqhelekileyo, ngengqondo isafuna ukuqhubeka intiyo. Umntu okholelwa ukuba uya kuyikhupha ngokufanelekileyo umzali, umntu okholelwa ukuba ukuxolelwa okunene ngaphantsi kwesidima sayo.
Ke ngoko, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzimamela kwaye uqonde oko kuthwala le mvakalelo ingendawo, nokuba inika ezo ziqhamo kunye neziqhamo olindele kuye.
Iingcebiso ngogqirha wezengqondo
Xa ufika kuwe ngenjongo enyanisekileyo ukuxolela, unokwenza la manyathelo alandelayo esusa intiyo katata wakho.
- Zama ukwamkela inyani yokuba ixesha elidlulileyo alisatshintshwanga. Nokuba ungakanani utata wakho ofuna ukulungisa into, ixesha alinakuphinda libuyiselwe. Kwaye wena kunye notata ngoku ngabantu abohlukene kakhulu, kwaye kwiminyaka edlulileyo kunye neepesenti zeerpile kunye nobunzima kufuneka zishiywe.
- Mhlawumbi, kunye nembono yabantwana bokugqibela, kuninzi okubonakala ngathi kuyanda. Zama ukuskrola ngeziganeko entlokweni yakho, ewachithe kakhulu kwimemori, ijonge kubo njengomdala. Kunokuba nzima kangangokuba ezinye iintshukumisa kunye nezizathu zezenzo okanye indlela yokuziphatha kotata ngoku iyakuqonda ngakumbi.
- Sukuyithiya. Ukungavumi ukucela uxolo kumntu wam mveli. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, isicelo sokuxolelwa kufuneka sigqitywe.
- Rhoqo isiqabu sizisa incoko enyanisekileyo nabo bakhutyekisiweyo. Kuphela yile nto ayifanele ithathe ubume besiya esohlwayelayo ngengxelo yamabango kunye nezityholo. Khumbula ukuba injongo yakho kukuqonda, ukuxolela kwaye uyeke, ungazikhubeki ekuziphindezelweni.
- Thula kwikamva kwaye ucinge kancinci malunga nexesha elidlulileyo. Nawaphi na amava ethu abaluleke kakhulu kwaye aluncedo ukuba uyayithatha. Abazali abasibonisileyo kuthi ngeempazamo zabo.
Kodwa kuya kufuneka uyiqwalasele njengesifundo sobomi. Enkosi kule nto unokukuphepha indlela abangalunganga kwintsapho yakho.
