Ngaba singakuvuyela ukufezekisa ubude kuzo zonke iindawo kunye nempilo-ntle yengqondo? Ewe, wonke umntu uzalelwe ukuze aphile kwaye afumane uxolo kuyo. Ngamanye amaxesha ezinye azisebenzi. Mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba silibale ukuguqukela kwimvelaphi esinokunceda ngayo. Kuwo ngamnye wethu, kukho unxibelelwano nelizwe langaphandle ngokwazi. Ngamanye amaxesha kufanelekile ukuba uguqukele kuwe, kwaye ithamsanqa liya kubuya ubuso. Ungaqhagamshelana njani? Ngoncedo lweziqinisekiso.
Yintoni?
Isibheno ngaphakathi kwakho "Ndi" sisiqinisekiso. Umvelisi wale ndlela uthathwa njenge-Emil Kue. Inzululwazi edumileyo yaphikisana ukuba xa umntu eguquka kaninzi amabinzana, umzekelo: "Ndonwabile," uqalisa ukukholelwa kwinto evakalayo. Enkosi ngesenzo esilula, uya konwaba. Yalathisa umnqweno owenziwe nguwe ngohlobo lwebinzana ngaphakathi ngokwakho, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo luya kuzaliseka. Sukuphatha le ngxelo-ntle. Yiyo loo nto.
Ngenxa yokuba ubiza ibinzana elifanayo kwangaxeshanye izihlandlo ezininzi, uyaziphumelela impumelelo.
Ingaba isebenza kanjani? Yonke ingqinisi ilula. Isiqinisekiso kukubhenela ngokwakho. Ngenxa yenyani yokuba ufaka isicelo rhoqo kwingqondo yakho, uqala ukwenza iprojekthi yakho. Sele kungekho mntu uyimfihlelo yokuba iingcinga zabantu zizinto ezenzeka izinto ezibonakalayo. Njengalowo nawuphi na umcimbi, iingcinga zakho ziqala "ukuqokelela" kwinqanawa, oko kukuthi, kwingqondo yethu. Emva kwethuba, nayiphi na inqanawa iya kuphuma. Ke iya kuba kwimeko yakho. Ngokukhawuleza xa i-subconsion yokuba incinci ivakala ngokungaphezulu kolwazi, kuya kufuneka ikhuphe.
Indoda yinxalenye yendalo, oko kuthetha ukuba unxulumana naye. Enkosi kule ndawo, sinokuthumela amandla ukuba abe sendawo. Xa i-"ord Limp ", ngohlobo lweminqweno yethu, iya kufikelela kwiinjongo zayo kunye neyona mikhosi iphakamileyo, emva koko banokuyiva into oyicelayo. Umnqweno uza kuzaliseka. Isiqinisekiso ngamabinzana afanelekileyo okutshintsha imvakalelo yomntu kwikamva lakhe elizayo. Obu buchule buyafana ne-NLP (i-neurolyolthicyction) ubuchule. Ngamafutshane, le yindlela yokukholelwa kubuntu bomntu ngamnye.
Uninzi lwazo, iinkqubo ezinjalo zisetyenziswa ngoochwephesha bengqondo kunye nabasebenzi bengqondo. Nangona kunjalo, ootitshala, ogqirha kunye neengcali, abathi, enye indlela okanye enye, basebenza kwindawo yabantwana okanye abantu abadala ukuba basebenze kunye no-Azami. Lowo uza kusetyenziswa iziqinisekiso kufuneka uthathele ingqalelo ukuba aza kuziveza inkqubo ethile. Abanye baya kuqala ukuthandabuza ukhuseleko lwendlela. Nangona kunjalo, nayiphi na ingcali iya kukuxelela ukuba le ndlela ikhuselekile ngokupheleleyo kwaye iluncedo kwi-PSYCH yomntu.
Kuphela kufuneka isetyenziswe ngokufanelekileyo. Okokuqala, ngaphandle kwamaxesha onke. Khumbula ukuba amabinzana akho kufuneka enze ngokwezifiso kuphela ukuba enze kuphela. Kunje: "Ndingoyena ndoqo", "ndimhle kwaye ndimhle." Ke awunanto yokoyika. Awunakho ukuphucula impilo-ntle yakho, kodwa iphumelele kakhulu.
Izimvo
Ke, iziqinisekiso ziyakwazi ukutshintsha ubomi bethu ukuze ngcono. Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuqalisa ukwenza ubuchule, emva koko waziva ukuba lixesha lokutshintsha ikamva lam. Iza kutshintsha, awuthandabuzi nangoku.
Eyona nto iphambili kukukholelwa kule kwaye ulwele impumelelo. Kodwa yimalini inokutshintsha inguqu. Ifihlakalo yakho ixhomekeke kuphela kumnqweno kunye nendlela ekhethiweyo.
Kwaye oku akumangalisi, kuba amabinzana okuqulunqwa anokuba neentlobo ezimbini.
Ngokubanzi
Zijolise ekutshintsheni ubomi bakho bokuba ngcono ngokubanzi. Umzekelo, "Ndiyabathanda bonke abantu, kwaye bayandithanda," "Ndonwabile (a)", "Ndivuka yonke imihla kwimeko entle." Ukuba awulandeli iinjongo ezithile, olu khetho lunokufanelekela ukubakho.
I-Infphsication yokuqhelaniswa ngolwazi ngokubanzi inokuba luncedo kuthintelo lwezifo ezahlukeneyo. Baza kunceda ukubuyisela imeko yengqondo kwaye basuse iimpawu zexhala. Amabinzana anjengokuthi "Ndihlala ndinempilo (a)", "ndiphumelele kuzo zonke izinto ezizama" kukukhusela kwizifo nakwiingxaki. Banokuphindwa ngaphandle kwekhefu izihlandlo ezininzi ngosuku. Ukusuka koku kubi akuyi kuba ngumntu, kwaye unokuziva ukuzithemba kubuchule bakho.
Ekhethekileyo
Ezo ziqinisekiso zijolise kwiingcaciso ezithile. Masithi kudala ndifuna ukuthenga imoto. Emva koko uya kuhambelana ne template enjalo: "Ndithenge imoto." Ungalibali ukuba la magama kufuneka ongeze uphawu kunye nombala wemoto. Okukhona inkcazo ngakumbi, kokukhona inokwenzeka ukuba ifumane into epeyintiweyo engqondweni yam.
Unokubuza ezinye izibonelelo kwi "i". Umzekelo, ufuna ukuya eyunivesithi, emva koko phinda ibinzana elithi "Ndifunda eyunivesithi" ngaxeshanye. Khumbula ukuba le ngxelo ifuna ukuba ichazwe ngakumbi: apho ufunda khona kwaye yeyiphi. Zonke ezi zinto zishiywe kunye nokwazi kwabo zinokubanjwa mihla le. Kwaye okuthile uya kuphinda amabinzana e-menit, kokukhona unokufumana into oyifunayo.
Imigaqo yokuqulunqwa
Abanye abantu abangaqinisekiswanga basenokuba basekhaya kule ndlela. Banelungelo ngokupheleleyo. Kuyimfuneko ukuqondakala ukuba wonke umntu unamandla awo, kwaye amandla enkolelo axhomekeke kuyo.
I-Axiom kukuba amandla anamandla ngakumbi, kokukhona nemikhosi emininzi kuwe ngenkolelo yomntu, kuquka wena. Iziqinisekiso yindlela yokwandisa inqanaba lamandla alo.
Sebenzisa amabinzana, ukutywina kwiimpembelelo ezimbi ukusuka ngaphandle. Ke, uqala "ukugcwalisa" ngaphakathi kwamandla afanelekileyo ukuba abekelwe ngokwawo. Kwaye isiphumo siya kuba ngumvuzo omkhulu ngemisebenzi.
Ke, uthathe isigqibo sokwenza iziqinisekiso ngayo yonke imihla, emva koko sebenzisa eminye imigaqo.
- Owokuqala kubo awusoze usebenzise "hayi" isuntswana. Khumbula ukuba indalo ayiboni le nxalenye yentetho, ngenxa yoko ayiyi kuba yingqondo. Ke, akuyi kubakho ngqondo kwaye ivela kwigama elibhaliweyo. Ungabhali ngolo hlobo - "Andizobudenge", kwaye ndibhale "Ndilumkile" ngokuchanekileyo.
- Soloko uqala ibinzana elivela kwi-probree "i". Uyazifumana kunye nengqondo yakho, bhala njalo. Ngendlela, isimelabizo esithi "andikufanelekanga ukusebenzisa, njengoko inayo i-paricle" hayi ". Awunakho ukubhala "Ndanikwa indlu," kwaye kufuneka uthi "ndifumene indlu."
- Bhala rhoqo-ukuvunywa kwamagama. Akukho sidingo sokuthetha amabinzana ajolise kwixesha elizayo. Umzekelo awuthi "Ndiza kuthenga imoto", kodwa kufuneka uthi "ndiyithenge imoto." Kuyacetyiswa ukongeza lo mbala, intsha okanye hayi. Ukuba unxibelelana ngokwakho njengoko ubonisiwe kwityala lokuqala (kwixesha elizayo), umnqweno wakho 'unokubambelela "phakathi kwexesha elizayo nexesha elizayo okanye ilahlekile kwilabhu lekamva. Ke ngokuqinisekileyo awuyi kulinda nantoni na elungileyo.
- Ukufakelwa akufuneki kube kudala. Umzekelo: "Ndithenge imoto ebomvu kwaye ngoku ndiya kusebenza kuyo njalo njalo." Thetha ngokucacileyo: "Ndithenge imoto entsha (kungcono ukuyibiza ngokukhawuleza kwi-brand)." La ngamagama amafutshane kwaye acacileyo acacisa injongo. Ngaphandle koko, ulahlekisa ukwazi kwakho iinkcukacha ezingafunekiyo, kwaye uya kulahleka emva kwengqondo yakho.
- Sebenzisa kuphela iziqinisekiso ezifanelekileyo. Sukuzama ngazo ezi fakelo ukwenzakalisa abanye abantu. Wena unokugula kwizenzo ezinjalo.
- Ungalibali ukuba isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo sihlala sikhona kwiziqinisekiso. Ukuba ufuna ukuzikhusela kwiliso elingendawo okanye umntu oyingozi, ulibale nje ngayo. Kodwa kuwe ukhuseleko. Umzekelo, "Ndikhuselwe ngokupheleleyo (a) ukusuka kwiliso lezinto ezimbi (umonakalo okanye umona)." Ungawabiza amagama amathathu kwi-charmarication enye. Amagama anjalo kufuneka abhengezwe phambi kwesipili kwaye ujonge ngqo emehlweni. Mayibe yeyokuzithemba.
- Kholwa ukunyaniseka koko. Kucetyiswa ukuba ube nomfanekiso ngqondweni oyifunayo ukuze ungene engqondweni yam.
- Sukwenza "uku-oda" ukwenza iminqweno eliqela ngaxeshanye. Umzekelo, ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukutshata, thenga indlu, imoto, ifenitshala kwaye uqala inja encinci, emva koko cinga ngento eya kuba ibaluleke kuwe kwezi mpahla. Wonke umntu kwaye ngokukhawuleza ufumana, ngokucacileyo usilele. Zama ukuhlala kwezona zinto ziyimfuneko. Okokuqala kufuneka uthenge igumbi, kwaye kuphela emva koko uqala inja okanye uthenge imoto. Emotweni awuyi kuba nakho ukuchitha ubusuku, kwaye awuyi kuvunyelwa ngezilwanyana kwindlu esusiweyo. Ke ngoko, faka ezona njongo ziphambili.
- Sukusebenzisa amabinzana-uthelekiso. Umzekelo, "Ndithenge imoto ingcono kunommelwane kaVasya." Ke akunakwenzeka ukuba uthi. Kuya kufuneka uthi "ndithenge owona matshini ulungileyo emhlabeni."
Kusetyenziswa kwanjani?
Iziqinisekiso zemihla ngemihla ziyaqulunqwa ukuze intetho rhoqo unokukhawuleza ukwentshukumo yephupha. Okukhona uphinda uthetha amabinzana amnandi, ngcono. Ukusuka kwizenzo ezinjalo uya kuba mbi. Uqala nini ukothuka kwaye ungqengqa, yintoni ekufuneka yenziwe kuqala? Ewe kunjalo. Kwaye njani ukuyenza, ukuba awuzilawuli? Kufuneka uphazamisekile kwingxaki.
Kungcono ukunceda ukuthandaza koku, kodwa unokusebenzisa iziqinisekiso. Ukuphindaphinda inguquko yebinzana elithile liya kubuyela kuwe ibhalansi yengqondo kwimizuzu embalwa. Zama ukwenza uvavanyo olunjalo, kwaye wena uqiniseke ukuba. Iziqinisekiso zenziwe kwaye zisetyenziselwa iinjongo ezahlukeneyo. Ukuba awukafikeleli ukuba uyisebenzise njani, kuya kufuneka ufunde ulwazi.
- Ukuze usuku lwakho luhlale lubanjelwe "isitshixo esinqwenelekayo", senze kwaye ufunde isiqinisekiso sentsasa "namhlanje." Kuya kufuneka bathunyelwe kwiminqweno yakho yemihla ngemihla. Zinokuqheleka, ezinje "ndiphumelele (a) kwaye ndilungile" okanye "ndiyalithanda ihlabathi, kwaye uyandithanda." Kule meko, usuku lwakho kuya kufuneka luye kwinqaku elifanelekileyo. Kwaye kwikhonkrithi: "Ndifumene ipesenti yentengiselwano namhlanje (a) (a) ipesenti yentengiselwano (umnxeba)" okanye "okanye" ndisebenza, "nakubafundi: "Ndidlulile kwiimviwo (ngolu hlobo)." Izenzo ezinjalo ziya kukunceda woyise amaxesha emihla ngemihla kunye "neentsuku ezingwevu".
- Ukususela ngokuhlwa ungabhengeza iziqinisekiso ngaphandle kwengubo. Kuyimfuneko ukwenjenjalo ukuze uvuko lwakho lulula. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka uhlale kwigumbi ledwa kunye nawe nangaphambi kokuba ulale, biza izihlandlo ezininzi "ndivutha kwimeko entle ekuseni." Ke ungasindisa isimo sakho sengqondo, kwaye awuyi kuba kukudakumba kuzo zonke iintlobo zeqhina.
- Isiqinisekiso semihla ngemihla siyakwazi ukutshintsha indlela yakho yokuphila ukuba ingaziwa. Ukuba awonelisekanga yindawo ekufuneka usebenze kuyo, uze wenze amabinzana athi "umsebenzi". Ngaba ufuna ukuyitshintsha kwaye ufumane indawo "yesonka"? Emva koko biza la magama alandelayo kusasa nangokuhlwa: "Ndifumene umsebenzi ohlawulelweyo emphefumlweni" okanye "ndiyifumene ukufumana umvuzo omkhulu emsebenzini." Nje ukuba ufezekise impilo-ntle yezemali, uya kuqalisa ukuzihlonipha, ungaya kwiholide kwaye uthenge abantwana izipho ezininzi.
- Amagama afanelekileyo ayakwazi kakhulu. Sukuhlehlisa utshintsho olungcono. Kukho abantu abafuna ukutshintsha kakhulu indlela yabo yokuphila. Kule nto, ezi ziqinisekiso zilandelayo ziyancedwa: "Nditshintshe ubomi bam kwaye ndaba sisityebi (oh), intle (oh) kwaye iphumelele nini." Baza kuqwalasela ukwazi kwakho, uya kuqhubeka nendlela entsha kwaye uqhubeke. Ukwenza oku, ufuna umnqweno, kwaye kuya kubonakala ukuba kuyavela imeko.
- Iziqinisekiso zinokuba namagama ombulelo. Kungatsho ukuba le yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokubuza indalo "yonke into ngokukhawuleza." Njengoko wonke umntu owaziyo, kweyona ngqondo iphakamileyo ayinyamezeleki. Kwaye ukuba ukuthozama kwaye uvakalise amazwi ombulelo ebomini bakho, iintshukumo ezinjalo ziya kufumana ingxelo entle. Ukuba ufuna ukubulela indalo iphela ngokukunika iqela elincinci lokuphila kulo mhlaba, ngaphambi kwala magama alandelayo qho ngengokuhlwa: "Ndiyabulela indalo yonke" kwaye "ndiyavuya ( kwaye) okuzalwa kwaye baphila phakathi kwabantu "okanye" ndiyathanda wonke umntu - abantu kunye nezilwanyana. " Ubomi bakho buya kuzaliswa ngamaxesha afanelekileyo kunye neemvakalelo ezinxulumene nezona zinto zilula. Uya konwaba kwaye usempilweni.
- Isiqinisekiso esihle ngokuhlwa. Ungalibali ukuba ebusuku ukuqonda kwethu kulungiswa kakhulu ukunxibelelana nendawo. Ephupheni, siqhagamshele kwindalo yonke. Ke ngoko, amaphupha afikisa kuthi. Ingaba ithetha ntoni? Oku kuthetha ukuba kufuneka usebenzise le mgama ukufezekisa iinjongo zakho. Ukudibanisa amabinzana okhulisa amabinzana ekufuneka uhlale egumbini lodwa, kukhanyise umlilo (kuyanceda ukumisela lonke uqhagamshelo), nikela ingqalelo kuwe kwaye uthandane nendalo, uyandiva. " Masithi eli binzana kasixhenxe. Ke uphakamisa inqanaba lakho. Nje ukuba kwenzeke oku, ungabhengeza izicelo. Umzekelo, "Ndisisityebi (a) kwaye ndihlala ndifumana le nto ndiyifunayo." Okulandelayo, tsalela umnxeba nokuba yeyiphi na le mali ofuna ukuyifumana, okanye ucele umsebenzi wakho ukuba uye "ukuphakama." Kungathi: "Ndifumene (a) okanye ndiphumelele amawaka ali-10 eedola okanye i-ruble." Ukuba ukhethe umsebenzi, emva koko uthi oku kulandelayo: "Ndaba (a) kwaye (igama olifunayo lokufumana)."
Ukuqukumbela, kunyanzelekile ukuba wongeze ukuba "isiqinisekiso" somlingo "ngabo bayakwazi ukuzisa ikamva lakho lolwandle. Ungacingi ukuba kweli lizwe kuyo yonke into iyadida kwaye ayinakufunyanwa. Ukuba awukholelwa ukuba ummangaliso unokwenzeka kuwe, ke musa ukuphelelwa lithemba.
Indalo ilumkile kwaye une-gurve, ethi kwaye unokuthi "usebenze" ngamandla amakhulu. Ungalibali ukubuza, kwaye izicelo zakho ziya kuvakala.
Ukufumana into, kufuneka kancinane - le yinto efunekayo. Ingqondo yomntu ayifundwanga ngokupheleleyo, akukho mntu waziyo ukuba unokuziphatha njani ngendlela ethile. Ukuba abantu abalumkileyo beza ne-NLP kunye neziqinisekiso, emva koko ezi zinto zinelungelo lokubakho nokusetyenziswa.
