Uthando lweyona mvakalelo ilungileyo emhlabeni. Ngubani ongaphupha ngaye, mkhulu kwaye ucocekile? Nangona kunjalo, bambalwa abafumanisa isiqingatha sesibini, abanakho ukuthandwa ngokufanayo kwaye bakuva ngathi wonke umphefumlo. Yenza umphefumlo womphefumlo - ithamsanqa elikhulu kuyo indoda nebhinqa.
Kwaye awudingi ucinga ukuba amadoda kule meko inethamsanqa ngaphezu kwabasetyhini. Kwaye loo nto kunye nabanye baphathwa gadalala kwaye ngokufuna ukonwaba ecaleni kwentsapho yakhe.
Yintoni?
Zonke iimvakalelo zethu zinokujongwa ukuze owona mnqweno usondeleyo uzaliseka. Isiqinisekiso esinceda ebomini ubuncinci izinto ezinethemba. Xa sihlala siphindaphinda amabinzana ngeseti yamagama, senza isiko lesazisi.
Amagama ajolise kuyo "ndi" ndidlula entliziyweni kwaye ndihlala engqondweni yethu. Oku kugxilwe kwinjongo. Ngamanye amaxesha iyenzeka ngokungacingi kumatshini. Ekuqaleni thina siqinisekile ngokwakho, saza saqala ukwenza into.
Uninzi lwamadoda lungathandabuzeki malunga nezithethe ezahlukeneyo kunye nomlingo. Bambalwa kubo abaya kufuna ukufezekisa iinjongo zobomi ngokuphindaphinda amabinzana, oko kukuthi, iziqinisekiso. Iyadinisa kwaye iyahlekisa. Yindlela eqiqa ngayo. Ngapha koko, baya kuthi abo baxakeke kakhulu emsebenzini.
Kwaye lilize. Amandla aphezulu akahlukani abafazi ebantwini. Banceda wonke umntu ngaphandle kokukhetha. Ukuba unqwenela ukufumana iqabane lakho oza kukuthanda kwaye lilibele, ke kufuneka uzame zonke iindlela, kuquka le. Kholwa kummangaliso kwaye uya kufumana owona mfazi mhle ukusuka kwikamva.
Isini esihle silula kancinci ukukholelwa ukunceda, ukuhamba ngaphezulu. Bayalimala, kwaye umphefumlo wabo unochaphazeli kwizinto ezahlukeneyo ezimangalisayo. Ukuphindaphinda kweziqinisekiso akuyi kuba ngumsebenzi okhethekileyo ongafikelelekiyo kubo. Ke ngoko, kufuneka uqale isenzo, kwaye icebiso elingezantsi liya kukunceda.
- Iziqinisekiso somtshato kwangoko Kuyimfuneko ukubiza kusasa kwaye ngokuhlwa kwaxeshanye. Banokuba ngolu hlobo lulandelayo: Amabinzana anokukhulelwa ngokuzimeleyo. Akufanelanga ukuba kungekho mntu kwigumbi xa usithi uthandane. Kwisiphumo esiphezulu, cima ukukhanya kwigumbi lokulala kwaye ujike umculo ozolileyo kwisihloko somtshato. Ke uzimisele kumtshato onokuthi wenzeke kungekudala.
- Unokusekwa kwakhona kubudlelwane obukhulu kunye nomyeni wakho (inkosikazi). Nje ukuba uqale ukukhupha into elungileyo, uphela "usulele" iqabane lakho okanye iqabane lakho ngokufanayo. Zama ukusebenzisa la mabinzana alandelayo: "Mna nomyeni wam (inkosikazi) - bonwabile", "Mna" uphela "," ulonwabo kunye nothando zikwintsapho ".
- Ukuba nempilo-ntle kusapho kunokuxhaswa kusetyenziswa amabinzana alandelayo: "Intsapho yam iqaqamba kwaye yonwabile," "Ndikhuselekile, abantwana bam kunye nendoda bayaphumelela kwaye besempilweni." Ke awuyi kusisindisa kuphela ulonwabo loSapho, kodwa ucinge. Isiqinisekiso kukukhetha ngokuhlwa ngaphambi kokulala. Ungatsalela umyeni kwesi sifundo kwaye uzame ukubhengeza amagama kunye. Ngale nto, uya komeleza isiphumo samagama omlingo.
- Iziqinisekiso zothando amadoda kufuneka eze kwaye aphindaphinde iphupha elizayo . Nangona kunjalo, olu lwazi luya kunceda indoda efuna ngokunyanisekileyo ukufumana uthando lomfazi omnye. Ebusuku, zonke iimvakalelo zethu ziyanda, amantshontsho avulekile. Ngexesha elimnyama kulula ukuphupha nokuphupha. Kwaye njengoko uyazi, amaphupha anesiseko esibonakalayo. Ke ngoko, khetha elinye lamabinzana athi: "Ndiyayithanda indoda entle (ibhinqa)", "Ndonwabile (a), kwaye ndinothando", "ndiyakuthanda (a)." La mabinzana athetha ngokuvakalayo kwigumbi lakho lokulala. Ukusebenza okukhulu kwesiko ukutsala umntu othandekayo, hlalani kakuhle emangalaleni, vala amehlo akho akhankanywe apha ngasentla okanye uze ne-10 ukuya kuma-20 nangaphezulu).
Qiniseka ukuba uzobe umfanekiso wakho wesithandwa sakho kwintloko (Oh) ngexesha leseshoni. Iiklasi ezinjalo aziyi kulinda ixesha elide, kwaye uya kudibana nothando.
Ingaba isebenza kanjani?
Isibini esonwabileyo esonwabileyo. Iintsapho ezisixhenxe sele zizelwe abantwana. Nawe ufuna ukudibana nomntu wakho omthandayo, ukuba uchithe ubomi bam bonke kunye naye. Xa ufuna okuthile, uya kuzaliseka ngokuqinisekileyo.
Nguwo lo mgaqo-siseko ubekwe kwisenzo esinjalo sombuso kunye nengqondo njengesiqinisekiso. Bahlukile. Eyona nto iphambili kukuba amagama alungile.
Xa yonke imihla unqwenela into kakhulu, ke lo mnqweno uqala ukuzenza izinto ezibonakalayo. Nantsi oku kulandelayo: Inye yamandla ijika ibe yenye. Isibakala sokuba iingcinga zethu zizinto zethu, akukho mntu unqatshelwe ixesha elide.
Umzekelo, weza nesiqinisekiso nje esingatshatanga, esiya kuthi sibe sisityebi, kwaye sibekrele, kwaye singabi sangenasifo. Abanye abantu abathandabuzayo baya kuthi: "Funa kakhulu - uya kufumana kancinci." Kwaye baya kuba gwenxa ngokupheleleyo.
Kodwa umgaqo wokuba "ufuna ntoni, uya kuthi ke uya kufumana" isebenza ngakumbi ngakumbi. Ke ngoko, siya kuzama ukufumana inkxaso kwingxelo yokugqibela nokubambelela komnye umgaqo: Sithatha eyona ilungileyo kwaye intle kobu bomi.
Ke, ukuqalisa ukwenza oko : "Ndadibana kwaye ndithandane neyona ilungileyo, intle nenesityebi ehlabathini kwaye yamtshata." Sele senze inyathelo lokuqala lokuphumelela- ubhalisele amagama afunekayo. Ngoku ihlala ibuqubude ebomini bakho, oko kukuthi, ukwenza izinto ezibonakalayo.
Ekuseni nangokuhlwa, phinda eli binzana. Ubuza: "Iya kusebenza njani?" Ilula kakhulu. Awukwenzi kwanto ekhethekileyo koku. Eyona nto iphambili kukungabuyisi ngenjongo ecetywayo.
Xa uqala ukubiza isiqinisekiso, awungekhe uve nantoni na ngosuku lokuqala. Kuyimfuneko ukuqhubeka nokuphatha ngenkani ngokuthe ngqo kwingqondo yakho yokuphumeza umnqweno.
Ngokuthe ngcembe, la magama omlingo aya kukhunjulwa ngentliziyo kwaye uza kufika engqondweni nokuba uhambahamba ngezothutho okanye usemsebenzini. Kwaye oku kuhle kakhulu. Ke ingqondo yakho, njengesitya, "gcwalisa" amandla owachitha kubhengezo lwebinzana. Sonke sidibene nendalo iphela. Iseli nganye yomzimba wethu kunye neengcinga zethu ziyikhonkco elinye elinethiwekhi, elingazange lihambelane nengqondo ephezulu kakhulu.
Xa "ukuntywila" kwengqondo enye kuya kwenzeka, uya kunyanzeleka ukuba athumele intsalela. Eli phunga liqaqambileyo (kufuneka licinge ukuba likhutshiwe: likhupha ukukhanya kwaye libabhabha ngokulula kwaye ngokukhululekileyo) kwaye kukho umnqweno wakho. Emva kokuba olu hlobo lomsebenzi lufikelela usukelo, amandla aphezulu aya kuyiva imithandazo yakho aze ahlangulwe.
Ngokuqinisekileyo baya kudlala iphupha lakho. Yiyo kanye le nto isebenza ngayo.
Ungayenza njani?
Kukho imithetho ethile yokuqulunqwa kweziqinisekiso. Njengoko inqanawa iya kuthi, ize igama elithi, Kwaye le yeyona nto iphambili yokuqulunqa amabinzana ajolise kwimpumelelo yeshishini lakho.
Okokuqala kufuneka uthathe isigqibo sokuba ufuna ntoni, kwaye sele uqala ukwenza into. Ke, nantsi imigaqo-nkqubo apho ungaphumi khona.
- Iziqinisekiso kufuneka zihlale zibalulekile, kwaye akufuneki "zigalele amanzi" ekuqulunqweni kwazo.
- I-parcale ayimkeleki ngokupheleleyo xa kuziwa ekuqulunqeni amabinzana. Ayibonisi sithuba, kwaye ke umnqweno wakho awuyi kuzalisekanga. Awukwazi kuthi "andifuni kutnjwa," yithi "ndiyathanda kwaye ndiyakuthanda."
- Isiqinisekiso kufuneka sizithwe ngokungathi umnqweno sele uzalisekile. Umzekelo, "Ndonwabile kwaye ndinothando." Ukuba ubhale eli binzana kwixesha elizayo ("Ndiya konwaba kwaye ndithande"), ke umnqweno wakho ulahlekile phakathi kwekamva nexesha elidlulileyo. Kwaye lo ngumngcipheko ongasoze ufeze.
- Onke amabinzana kufuneka abe nethemba kwaye athwale kakuhle. Akukho tyala alinakukwazi ukukhupha amandla alo ukuphelisa imbangi. Kungenjalo, uya kubandezeleka ngenxa yesifuba, uya kuthumela ngakulo. Amandla aphezulu akazixoleli iimpazamo kunye nomsindo.
- Zama ukubhala ibinzana elinjalo eliza kuphendula kuphela iimfuno zakho. Kwaye qiniseka ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba umnqweno uza kuzaliseka.
Yonke izenzo zakho ezijolise ekuphumezeni umnqweno Kufuneka ube luhlobo lokholo kwinto oyenzayo. Ukuba awukholwa ekusebenzeni kwale nkqubo, kungcono ungaqali ukwenza nantoni na.
Ngaphandle kwakho ukholo, akukho nto iza kwenzeka: ixesha liya kuphulukana nobukhulu, kwaye lidanile ngethemba lommangaliso. Kwaye le yindlela elungileyo yokudandatheka.
Kusetyenziswa kwanjani?
Ukuze yonke into oyenzayo izaliseke, kuya kufuneka ulahle ukuthandabuza. Ngakumbi le mvakalelo iyindalo emadodeni. Kodwa abafazi, ngokuchaseneyo, bakwazi ukwamkela isibakala sokuba amanye amakhosi aphezulu anceda abo babuza.
Amabinzana kufuneka achaneke, emva koko aziveze ngokuchanekileyo. Kwaye imeko kufuneka ilingane umfanekiso wakho. Ke ngoko, sebenzisa iingcebiso ezilandelayo.
- Usebenzisa isiqinisekiso asifuni mpessus. Ukuze yonke into iyenzeka, kufuneka cwaka kwaye uxolo olujikelezileyo. Kungcono ngenxa yezi njongo kwigumbi elinomnyango ovaliweyo.
- Kuya kufuneka uhlale wedwa ngaphakathi kuwe. Akukho mntu ufuphi. Nditsho nezilwanyana ozithandayo. Banamandla abo kwaye banokuthi "bakwazi ukuba namandla akho ngendlela eya kubo.
- Cinezela amabinzana uhleli kakuhle kwisitulo esihle. Ungongeza imeko ngomculo othuleyo.
- Chaza amabinzana amaxesha angama-30 ngosuku (ungabetha ngamaxesha athile). Kukho amanani athile anegalelo kwisiphumo esikhulu ka-7, 9, 33, 100.
- Kucetyiswa ukuba wenze iiseshoni ngexesha elinye. Ke uhlengahlengise ngakumbi ingqondo yakho ukwenza isenzo esithile.
- Imo engqongileyo kwindalo esingqongileyo kufuneka ingabi ngaphezu kokukhululeka.
Ukomeleza njani isiphumo?
Kuyimfuneko ukwenza into ukuze imizamo yakho ayikho ilize. Hlala uchitha iiseshini ngendlela entle kakhulu. Ayifanelanga ukuba ilungile kuphela, kodwa iphakanyisiwe ngamandla.
Ngeenxa zonke kufuneka zibe yindawo enye. Egumbini kufuneka ususe izinto ezongeziweyo kwaye uhlambe umgangatho. Oku kuya kunceda ukuphucula i-aura yekhaya lakho. Kwaye kuya kunceda ukomeleza umphumo.
Iingcebiso ezimbalwa ezinokukunceda ukuba usebenze.
- Uninzi lwawo onke amathuba ukuba yonke into iza kuya ngokwesicwangciso, inika isipili. Kuyimfuneko ukuhlala phambi kwakhe kwaye ujonge iliso. Jonga umboniso wakho ngokungathi ufuna ukuzichaza. Ngamaxesha athile uya kuvakalelwa kukuba umbono wakho uyasilela ngaphakathi kokuboniswa. Kuthetha ukuba ixesha lifikile, kwaye kufuneka uphumelele, kodwa ngokucacileyo uqalise ukubhengeza iziqinisekiso. Ukuba uziva ungaphakathi kunye nonxibelelwano lwangaphandle, ke ukwi-wave ekwiphepha elifunwayo.
- Kwisiphumo esiphezulu, sibeka ejikeleze indlu yezincamatheli ezineziqinisekiso osifumanayo yonke imihla. Kuyimfuneko ukwenza oku: Thatha imizila okanye iphepha. Amanqaku ombala afanelekile ukuba amabinzana okubhala. Khetha ezona ziqaqambileyo zazo. Bhala amabinzana. Ungahamba ngakumbi kwaye ubonise ileta nganye okanye igama ngalinye kumbala ohlukileyo. Ke uya kuchitha amandla amaninzi, kwaye iziqinisekiso ziya kuba lubala kakhulu. Kwaye iya kuzisa ingqalelo yakho ngalo lonke ixesha. Emva koko, fumana amabinzana akho e-fridge, isibuko sendlu yangasese, kwiholo yeholo okanye kwigumbi lokulala. Naphi na apho uhlala khona. Zama ukuguqula amehlo akho kwaye sihlandlo ngasinye ukuqonda ukuba yintoni ebhaliweyo apho.
- Soloko ucinga ukuba bathini. Kweli nqanaba ufuna ukudibana nothando lwakho. Ke, khawucinge ngomfanekiso wexesha elizayo wendoda yakho oyithandayo. Zive ukhululekile ukuphupha. Okukhona uyifunayo, kokukhona uya kunikwa. Nantsi ibalulekile kuzo zonke iinkcukacha. Ke ngoko, kufuneka uqwalasele i-screcist nganye ngokomfanekiso wakho owenziweyo. Yila rhoqo ngeentyatyambo eza kudibana nawe. Nokuba iimpahla zinokwenziwa, kunye ne-hairstyle, kunye nombala weenwele. Xa lo mfanekiso utsaliwe ekuqiniseni, ke ngokukhawuleza kubomi bokwenyani.
- Khanyisa amakhandlela ambalwa kwaye ubabeke ecaleni kwakho. Ngokuqinisekileyo umlilo ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuwomeleza amandla akho kwaye uya kuyilathisa kwicala elifanelekileyo.
- Ungahamba namanzi. Galela amanzi amancinci acocekileyo kwikomityi. Beka phambi kwakho. Qala ukufundwa kwezifundo. Amandla angayi kuba nakho ukufika ngaphakathi kwingqinisiso aya kuwa emanzini kwaye aya kuhlala apho. Emva kweseshoni, esela amanzi. Ke uya komeleza umphumo. Amandla aphulukene aya kubuyela kuwe kunye nolwelo kwaye ayongeze amandla.
Eyona nto iphambili, ungalibali ukuba sonke siyindalo enkulu. Okukhona sinika amandla afanelekileyo, kokukhona ibuyiselwe kuthi. Nxibelelana neyona meko iphakamileyo, kwaye uya kukuphendula okufanayo.
