Inkqubo ye-Empery iphantsi kwimisebenzi yentlalo-ntle esemncinci. Abantwana bayakwazi ukufumana amava omnye umntu aze aphendule kuye.
Yintoni?
Ukukwazi ukuqonda iimvakalelo kunye namava omnye abizwa ngokuba buvelelane. Imeko inokutyhileka ngohlobo lovelwano, uvelwano kunye noncedo. Uvelwano ekwenziwe abantwana luyisenziwa kwinkqubo yokwazi umhlaba ojikelezileyo, ngokwayo nabanye abantu. Yenzeka kuphela kwasebusaneni. UKrocha uyancuma xa ephendula uncumo, bonakalisa indlela yokukhala okanye ukukhukhumala abanye abantwana. Ukuya kuthi ga kwiminyaka eli-10, umntu ufumana amava afanelekileyo, achaphazeleka ngakumbi yimpendulo yayo yeemvakalelo.
- Inqanaba lokuqala lokuphuhliswa komntwana libonakaliswa ngokufunyanwa kwesakhono sokufumana uvelwano novelwano. I-KROCH inokuzibona ngokwakhe kwindawo yabantu abasondeleyo.
- Inqanaba lesibini linxulunyaniswa nokwazi ngeemvakalelo zobuqu kunye neemvakalelo. Ebusaneni
- Okokugqibela, ukwaziswa kusekwe ukuba abanye abantu baziva. Ngeli xesha, kucetyiswa ukuba kubekho iimeko ezahlukeneyo ezenzekileyo kunye ne-quirys, amabali, imibongo, iikhathuni. Kuyimfuneko ukuxoxa ngeziganeko, abathathi-nxaxheba bawo ngabazali okanye umntwana ngokwakhe.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhetha ukuba nemfesane, kungenjalo uya kukhula ngomntu ozithandayo. Ubukho bemfesane yabantwanamvu ivumela umntwana ukuba afumane ngempumelelo kwiqela loontanga, sebenza kwiqela elinye kwaye uphuhlise ngengqondo. Umntu onemfesane uyakuqonda okwenzekayo nabanye ngalo mzuzu. Ukuba uhlobo oluthile lokukhala okanye uloyiko, emva koko uvelwano lufuna ukufumanisa kwimeko yakhe, kwaye ke uncede ogulayo. Ukusekwa kwemvukelo kuxhomekeke kumava afunyenwe nabantu abadala, amagalelo ngokweemvakalelo nawo, kunye nomsindo wakhe.
Ukungenelela komdaniso nge-empiathia kubizwa ngokutsha komtshato. Ukuziphatha okukhohlakeleyo kolutsha kujongwa ikakhulu kwikholericy kunye ne-melancholic ngomgangatho ophantsi wemfesane.
Impembelelo yeMfundo
Ukuphuhliswa kokuphendula kwabantwana ngqo kuxhomekeke kufakelo lwabazali. Imozulu yengqondo kusapho ibonakaliswa kwiimvakalelo zomntwana. Ukubonakaliswa kothando, ububele, ububele kunye nothando akwanelanga kukukhulisa uvelwano. Kubudlelwane bosapho, kuyimfuneko ukubonisa imodeli ebonakalayo yemfesane. Umntwana kufuneka abone ukhathalelo kunye nobuntununtunu kumakhaya.Ukunqongophala kwempendulo eyoneleyo yeemvakalelo zikamama okanye utata kunokuqhekeza kwaye kuvimbe iindlela zomsebenzi zemfesane. Abantu abadala kufuneka banikele ingqalelo ngabantwana kwiimvakalelo zabanye abantu. Kwinkqubo yoluntu, ngabazali abamnika umntwana imiyalelo yokuqala yemfesane: "Kutheni utyhala inkwenkwe? Wena wenzakalise xa uwele! Ndicela uxolo kwinkwenkwe. "
Njani ukufumanisa inqanaba?
Kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuchonga inqanaba lokuqulunqa uvelwano ebantwaneni. Abaphathi be-precloolers, amagcisa adalwe nguG. A. I-Gundaev kunye ne-yu. I-Athoinkina iyasetyenziswa. Enye yeendlela zabo zibonisa ukuveliswa kwemifanekiso yebali. Okokuqala, abantwana kufuneka babonakalise iimeko ezahlukeneyo. Emva koko bachukunyiswe ukuba uziva lonke iqhawe leli bali. Kwinqanaba lesibini, abathathi-nxaxheba babonisa iimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo. Ingcali yeengcali iziphumo ezifunyenweyo, zifumana inqanaba lokuqulunqa uvelwano kumntwana ngamnye.
Isifo ekuchongeni esikolweni saseJuni saseJuni senziwa ngoncedo lwe-N. E. Iindlela, i-PROSS yohlobo "xa umntu ecaphuka phambi kwam, ... okanye" ungatsalela umnxeba omnye ... ". Isikolo esisesikolweni esinoluvo olungachanekanga lomgangatho weHumane, lifumana amanqaku ayi-1. Umntwana onokuqonda okungaphelelanga ufumana amanqaku ama-2. Abantwana abanembono ecacileyo necacileyo yomqondo banikwa amanqaku ama-3.
Ukuchonga inqanaba lokuphendula kwengqondo kwabafikisayo, iikhweshine ezifuna iimpendulo ezinyanisekileyo ziyasetyenziswa. Iindlela zokubonisa ubugcisa I. Yusupova, v. I-boyko iyathandwa.
Ungakhula njani?
Ukusekwa kwemvakalelo yemfesane, oonontlalontle bacebisa besebenzisa imithambo eyahlukeneyo. Kunyaka wokuqala wobomi bomntu, umsebenzi oluncedo ngumdlalo wokufihla nokufuna. KROCH ihlala ifumana iimvakalelo eziqaqambileyo emehlweni okuba nobuso obukhawulezileyo kumzali emva kwexesha elithile emva kokunyamalala. Umdlalo kwi "Kumitha" unceda umntwana ukuba aqonde ukuba abazali baya kuvela ngexesha elifanelekileyo. Ukususela ngonyaka ukuya kwele-3, kuyacetyiswa ukuba ukhuthaze umntwana ukuba aphulukane nento yokudlala. Kwangelo xesha, mazibekwe emntwaneni: "Mhlawumbi, i-teddy yebhere yakho ihleli phantsi kwebhedi okanye phantsi kwetafile, kodwa ayinakufumana indlela esuka apho." Ke lo mntwana ugxininisa ingqalelo kuphela kwiimvakalelo zayo, kodwa nokunceda abantu abadala, phantsi kwesikhokelo awazenzayo ngokungathembani kwilizwe langaphandle.
Yenziwe kubasuka kwizicelo ze-precloolers, ukuphendula kungamiselwa ukuseka unxibelelwano nabameli beFauna. Izilwanyana zasekhaya zinceda ukuphucula imvo yoxanduva kunye novelwano kumntwana. Ukususela kwiminyaka emihlanu ubudala, umntwana uyakwazi ukuncuma ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ngoncedo loncumo, kufuneka ubonise ulonwabo kwintlanganiso yomhlobo, ukubonakalisa inkxaso yomhlobo owe engxakini, evakalisa uvelwano kumntu ogulayo. Iingcali zengqondo zicebisa ukuzibulisa. Umzekelo, kunikwa ukuba umntwana xa udibana nomama ukuba awungenise esidleleni, notata-shake isandla sakho, ukuze aphulukane neempumlo. Abahlobo banokubawa besebenzisa isenzo "masiyeke amahlanu" okanye moya. Kubantwana abakwiminyaka yase-BastCrioli, kubalulekile ukuba ufunde iintsomi ezigcwele ziimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo, xoxa ngamanqaku kunye nempawu zamagorha. Kuyimfuneko kunye nomntwana ukufumana intsingiselo yentsomi kwaye uye kwisigqibo esithile. Hlala ngelixa ufunda, ubuza imibuzo enje "ngaba ngu-Ivanushka ukuthuka, yintoni ebizwa ngokuba sisidenge?" Okanye "zeziphi iimvakalelo ezavavanywa nguCinderella xa wasishukumisa i-croup?"
Ukuzivocavoca "Nika igama elinothando" libonisa ukuphendula kwi-compliment ukuba ithethe ibinzana elimnandi kumnxibelelanisi. Ngalo msebenzi, abantwana bafunda ukubonisa impendulo kwaye bazise njengesipho ebantwini. Xelela umntwana malunga nabantwana abahamba ngaphandle kwabazali. Kunye ngokuqokelela ipasile yabafundi bekhaya leenkedama. Ukuphuhliswa kwemfesane kwabakwishumi elivisayo kusenzeka ngolwalamano olunyanisekileyo nabazali. Ukuba lo uqhagamshelo luphulukile, le meko uquzeli ichaphazela kakubi ukwenziwa ngokomoya komntu.
Ulutsha lunokufundiswa yimvakalelo yokuba novelwano kunye nokuqonda ihlabathi lokomoya lomnye umntu ngoncedo lokuthembana nobufundiseko kunye naye. Kule meko, kunokwenzeka ukuba senze isiseko esomeleleyo sokufumana uvelwano ubomi bakho bonke.
