Umona yenye yezona mvakalelo zakudala zakudala zenziwa ngumntu. Ekuqaleni kokuzalwa kwempucuko, olu mvakalelo luvumelekile ukuba luzenze izizwe: umona kunye nengqumbo yendoda ayizange ivume abanye abakholwayo besini esomeleleyo ukuze baqhubeke nohlobo lwedangatye. Emva koko ikhwele lakhokelela ekumiselweni kwentsapho ethunyelweyo. Kodwa le mvakalelo yakudala ayisishiyi bodwa kunye nabantu bexesha lethu, kwaye kwelinye okanye enye imeko evakala phantse yonke into, nokuba yindawo yesini, imeko yentlalo kunye nomsebenzi wentlalo. Kweli nqaku, siza kuthetha ngendlela yokujongana nale mvakalelo inzima kwaye uyeke ukuba uphazamiseke ngokwakho kunye nokukrokrela.
Unomona ukhokelela ntoni kwaye kutheni kubaluleke kakhulu ukulwa?
Umona ebomini bethu akaphelelanga kubudlelwane bothando. Kukho ikhwele labantwana, kukho ikhwele kubahlobo, osebenza nabo. Nasiphi na kwezi ntlobo siphawuleka "isaqhwithi" esomeleleyo. Iimvakalelo zomntu onekhwele zinokwahluka kwi-nument; Ngokubanzi, naliphi na ikhwele lihlala likhelwe kwiimvakalelo ezimbini eziphambili: Kuloyiko lokuphulukana nento (uthando, into yolu thando, ukubaluleka kwalo, igunya kunye nobunzima obujolise kuyo, ukuba nguwe.
Nokuba kuyimfuneko ukutsho ukuba umsindo, kwaye uloyiko luyimvakalelo eyonakalisayo, ngokuthe ngcembe butshabalalisa umntu kunye nempilo-cam impilo kungekuphela nje onomona kuphela, kodwa nokuba ngubani na onekhwele. Oku kubonakala ngakumbi kwimeko ye-paranoid, ikhwele elingalunganga, ngenxa yokuba ababulali kunye nokuzibulala bahlala befezekiswa.
Kwi-Psychology, iintlobo ezininzi zomona zihlulelwe, nganye yazo iyingozi ngendlela yayo. Ugqirha wezengqondo wase-Ukraine wanamhlanje uDaniel, owayitshintshe imisebenzi yeSigmund Freud kunye nezinye iingcali ezidumileyo kwaye wazisa ithiyori yabo kwingcinga enye nechanekileyo.
Ikhwele -Imeko yokungafunekiyo yengqondo, ukungaphazamiseki komntu, le ndoda inomona ithembisa ngokuvutha kwengqondo, kwaye inokucinga ukuba i-classifier izama ityhefu okanye ilahle ngenye indlela.
Ikhwele le-narciscal -Imeko apho unomona owoyike khona ukuphulukana nento yothando, njengenxalenye yobuntu bakhe, ubonakalisa ubungakanani obukhulu ngakumbi bomnye umntu.
- Ikhwele le-psychopathic -Imo yesimo se-psychopathy, ingozi kakhulu kubo bonke abathathi-nxaxheba kule meko, iphawuleka kukungaqinisekiswa kwendlela yokuthatha ikhwele kunye nokuzibhokoxa komsindo.
Ikhwele leMasockistic -Ubandezeleka ngokubandezeleka. Akaba nakho ukuvutha kwenceba, aze azixolile, ngaphandle kokubonisa ubundlongondlongo, kodwa azama ukwenza imfesane ngeenxa zonke.
Ikhwele le-schizoid -Kuphawulwa ngabantu abanesigwebo esincinci abakwindlela yabo yokugcina imibono malunga nokuvukelwa ngendlela yabo, njengoko ibanika isazela esicocekileyo ukuze silondoloze umgama kwiqabane.
Ikhwele le-hysterical - Soloko ujamelana nenkani ngokukhethekileyo, intsingiselo yesondo okanye inyani), ngelixa iimvakalelo zeemvakalelo zothando kunye nothando azihambelani nehlabathi, oko kukuthi, ikhwele ikhwele inyani yokuhlonipha. Iqhubeka ngogonyamelo.
- Ikhwele elinyanzelekileyo - "Umsebenzi", ukrokrela ukrokrelwa. Uninzi lwenziwa rhoqo ngenxa yezimvo ezibekiweyo ebuntwaneni kangangokuba inokwenzeka ukuba ibonise uthando kuphela xa iimeko ezithile zifezekisiwe (igumbi lisusiwe). Ibonakaliswa sisiko elinesidima, imihla ngemihla: Jonga iqabane lakho lefowuni, khangela ukuba ngubani obhalileyo kuye, apho wayekhona.
Kwi-psychotherapy yengqondo yanamhlanje, zininzi iindidi zomona ngombala wayo weemvakalelo. Ukuzimisela kubaluleke kakhulu ukuze kuqonde ukuba ungamnceda njani umntu ukuba ahlukane neengcinga kunye nokuziphatha.
mhlophe -Ngabangelokhrejini, hayi ikhwele elibuhlungu, ihlukuthele amaxesha ngamaxesha ukuya umntu ngamnye oqhelekileyo ngengqondo. Akunayo ubundlongondlongo, ukukrokrela okugqithisileyo, ukungathembani okungapheliyo, indlela eyingozi. Unomona unomona anele, umamele ilizwi lengqondo, kwiimpikiswano, iinyani. Rhoqo, ikhwele elinjalo likuvumela ukuba 'uhlaziye "ubudlelwane besibini, ngakumbi ukuba ihlala ixesha elide.
Luhlaza - Umona ngemiqondiso yoxinzelelo olongezelelweyo. Ukuba awumncedi umntu, unokuguqulwa ube sisifo se-neurotic. Ibonakaliswa ngokuphulwa kokuqonda okuqhelekileyo, uhlasela iinyembezi zeenyembezi, imvakalelo yokudakumba, ukuphazamiseka okulala.
Luhlaza -Ngakwindawo yokuthengisa inkohliso, kuba umbono lo tyaba ngokuthe ngcembe. Uninzi luhlala luhamba ngokuchasene nemvelaphi yelizwe elisele likho le-neurotic. Kwi-20% yamatyala abantu, kunokwenzeka ukuba 'abuyise' ukuba senyani, kwikhwele lokuphumla lisaziwa ngokutsha kwimeko ye-patholocal.
- bomvu - Ezona ziyingozi, ze-pathological, paranoid. Ehamba kunye ne-nolfese, ngelixa umntu ngokwahlukileyo engabonakaliyo inyani, kwaye ukungabi nangqondo ifanekayo kwenyaniso. Ifuna unyango lwengqondo, rhoqo ngokusetyenziswa kwamayeza.
Eyona ngozi iphambili yoluphi na uhlobo lomona lulele kwinto yokuba ubudlelwane obukhoyo butshatyalalisiwe, ubomi bemvukelo buye bawa, kwaye lowo ulixhoba lakhe "lakhe. Nceda uqaphele, kwizibalo zoqhawulo-mtshato uthatha malunga ne-30%, kwaye ubudlelwane obutshabalalisiweyo, kubandakanya rhoqo kwaye ngenxa yekhwele lomntu-ukuya kuthi ga kwi-45%.
Le yimvakalelo yakudala, ukuba ayiyilicimi ngexesha, inokujongela phantsi impilo yabantu. Kwinqanaba lengqondo, iparanoia, i-Schizophrenia, kwizifo zengqondo-kwi-Oncolomagical Izifo, ukwaphulwa kwamalungu ombono, ukuva, kunokukhula.
Kodwa nakwinqanaba lokuqala, kudala ngaphambi kokuphuhliswa kwesi sifo okanye ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo, ikhwele libangela utshintsho lwezinto ezizomzimba: Indoda iqala ukulala mbi ngakumbi, ukuthanda kwakhe ukutya, kuyasasazeka ngakumbi kwaye kungcolile kuyo yonke into engenanto yakwenza nomona, kwaye kubuhlungu naziphi na izinto ezincinci ezinokubakho.
Uloyisa njani ikhwele elingenasiphelo?
Ukuba izicwangciso zakho azifakwanga kuqhawulo-mtshato, ukwahlula, igumbi kwisibhedlele sengqondo ngonyango, kwaye unembono ethile yokuba kuya kufuneka ulandele ubungqina ukuze usebenzise ubungqina bakhe, lixesha lokuba ucinge ngendlela yokufumana susa le mvakalelo ingathandekiyo neyingozi.
Kuba umona oyindoda kunye nabasetyhini unemahluko othile kwiindlela kunye neembonakaliso, iingcebiso zokuphelisa zahlukile kwabo kunye nabanye.
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Ikhwele laMadoda lihlala linxulumene ngokuthe ngqo nokuzithemba okuchaphazelekayo. Kungenxa yoko le nto iingcinga ezitshabalalisayo zixelelwa malunga nokuba omnye umntu unokubhetele ebhedini, unokufumana ngaphezulu. Eyona ndlela ifanelekileyo yokuphuma kwimeko enjalo ukuba umhlaba onamandla uya kwandisa ukuzithemba kwayo. Sayina ungene kwindawo yokuzivocavoca, yiza nomzimba wakho ngemisebenzi elungileyo, utshintsha umsebenzi onomdla ngakumbi (kwaye mhlawumbi ungcono kunokuba uhlawulwe), azifumane i-hobby eyokususa i-adrenaline egqithileyo: Yiya ezintabeni , bhabha kwiParaglids. Ukuba ayisamkelekanga kuwe, fumana umdlalo ongaphantsi we-robby, eyona nto iphambili kukuba iphakamise ixabiso lakho emehlweni akho.
Ukuba imvakalelo yokuba nemfesane ibangelwa kukubakho kwamava akhe amangalisayo kwixesha elidlulileyo (ngaphambili watshintsha umhlobo okanye umfazi), kufuneka ugwetywe lisempilweni kwaye aqonde ukuba iqabane lakho langoku alinayo into enyanzelekileyo ukuba inyanzeliswe hlawula ngezenzo zomphambili wakho.
Cinga, kuba ukhetha ngqo, hayi enye. Oku kuthetha ukuba ubudlelwane kunye nawe buthetha okungaphezulu koko kunokubonakala kuqala. Abafazi babotshelelwe kwintliziyo yasekhaya, kusapho, kwaye batshintsha, ngokweenkcukacha-manani, ubuncinci ngamadoda amaninzi.
Yiyeke ukutshitshisa, jonga ifowuni ephathekayo xa isegumbini lokuhlambela, funda imiyalezo yayo kunye ne-rummage kwimbali yokutyelelwa kwezakhiwo. Ukuba wayefuna impendulo yombuzo wokuba indlela yokwabelana ngesondo ngakumbi, akuthethi ukuba le ntombazana igqibe kwelokuba yonyuse ngokwesondo komnye umntu. Inokwenzeka into enkulu, uyayenza kuwe.
Ngayo yonke into ekhathazayo, kungcono ukuthetha ngokufihlakeleyo. Oku kuyakunceda ukuzisa intembelo kubudlelwane abasetyhini kwaye kwaye baxatyiswa kakhulu, kwaye ngokobuqu baya kukunceda ukuba uphulukane nekhwele elingenasiphelo. Kuyacetyiswa ukuba ufezekise iindlela zokukhuselwa kwengqondo kuhlaselo olutsha lomona. Ngayo yonke ingcinga malunga nokungathembeki kwentombi, indoda, nengqondo yayo yokucinga ngokucinga, kuya kufuneka ufumane iingxoxo ezintathu ezinengqondo, ingxoxo yenyani.
Umzekelo: "Wayelibazisekile ngokupheleleyo emsebenzini!" -Iimpazamo zelogic zinokubakho: "Umbutho wakhe ngeli xesha awusebenzi", "ndabona ukuba iphuma emsebenzini ngaphambi kwexesha kwaye ingena kwicala elingaziwayo", "Ndiyazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba wayekunye naye!" . Ukuba akukho bungqina bezo mpikiswano, akukho nto inokukhathazeka ngayo. Kwingxelo nganye, kusoloko kufanelekile ukuba uzisondeze ngokwakho: Ewe, walibaziseka, kodwa walumkisa ukuba uza kuza kamva, kuba kwafuneka ahambe nentombi, afowune. Tshutshisa iqabane. Ingqondo yendoda eyindoda ihlala izama ukubambelela "ekucingelwa ukuba akanatyala."
Ukuba akukho nto incedayo, kwaye ikhwele libonakalise ubomi bethu, kwaye ke, uzama ukusela lonke iqabane, kwaye kukunyaniseka kuye, kwaye koku: Iindlela ezininzi zengqondo zineendlela ezininzi zokunceda ngo-pathological Umona ngaphandle kwesizathu.
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Inqaku lekhwele labasetyhini - kwi-hypertrophies yamava angaphakathi. Ikhwele eliqhelekileyo eliqhelekileyo lisenokubangela isondo esimhlophe kubameli besini esihle kwi-rummage kwifowuni yeqabane lakhe, ukuya enyanisweni. Apha, eyona nto iphambili kukungafundisi, kuba umfazi osuka kwi-physiment nomongameli we-vathoragical inyathelo elinye.
Ikhwele labasetyhini lihlala linxulunyaniswa nemvakalelo yesisongelo sentliziyo yentsapho. Kubonakala kuye ukuba indlela eqhelekileyo ngokuqinisekileyo iya kuphuma ukuba umyeni uyehla aye "ngasekhohlo", kwaye njengakwamadoda, imeko leyo ichukumise uvavanyo.
Yintoni ekufuneka yenziwe-umbuzo akukho lula. Qala ngcono ngokuphucula ukuzithemba: Yenza i-hairstyle oyithandayo, hlaziya iwadi yakho, ulahlekelwe ziikhilogres ezongezelelweyo, fumana uyilonwabisa kwaye elinomdla. Oku kuyakunceda ukungaphazamisi kwiingcinga ezingathandekiyo kunye nokukrokrela, kodwa kuya kwandisa ixabiso lakho emehlweni eqabane.
Kubafazi, indlela engakhathali ilungele kakuhle. Kwingcinga nganye engalunganga, umfazi kufuneka aphikise ukuba akukho nto injalo, kwaye ngumdlalo wengqondo nje.
Thetha neqabane. Indoda eyaneleyo nenothando iya kuba nakho ukuqonda indlela oziva ngayo, njengakuya kuba nakho ukuphelisa ukuthandabuza. Kulumkele ukuphononongwa, inani elikhulu leminxeba emisemini kunye nemfuneko yokuba uxelele ukuba le ndoda ikhoyo ngoku lenzayo. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo awudingi ukumba kwimoto yakhe okanye kwifowuni: Ukuzama ukulawula kuya kubonakala, kwaye ke sele uwele kwindawo engathandekiyo.
Zama ukucwangcisa ukusebenzisana ngakumbi: Ukusuka kwiphulo lokuya kwivenkile kunye (awukwazi ukudlulisela iphakheji kunye neemveliso kwi-trunk, kunzima!) Ngaphambi kokubukela umdlalo webhola kwi-Mug ye-Mug ye-Mug yeBhola yeBhola. Sihlala sizibuza ukuba yintoni enomdla kwindoda, funda ukwahlula umbhoxo kwibhasikithi, mbonise ukuba uyithandayo. Kwaye ke inqanaba lokuzithemba liya kukhula, kwaye kuya kubakho izizathu ezincinci zokukrokrela.
Kuthekani ukuba bangenza ntoni?
Yonke le fisi iphantsi echaphazelekayo ayinangqondo, ingenamhlaba. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba kukho isizathu okanye ucinga ukuba unjani? Kule meko, kunzima kakhulu ukujamelana neemvakalelo ezingathandekiyo. Makhe sichaze ngokukhawuleza ukuba isizathu sokuba ikhwele linokuba yinjongo kwaye liqhelane. Kwimeko yokuqala, isizathu esikhawulezayo sokukrokrela ukungalunganga kukwimilinganiselo ethile yokuziphatha (ishenxise iringi, ayithathi ihlaselo lobuhlobo kunye nokuzilibaziseka ngokusondeleyo, uqhelekile kumbona umntu ongamaziyo, Akaphulukanga, emotweni ngokucacileyo uyahamba, ngaphandle kwakho, njengoko isihlalo sisuswe ngendlela engaqhelekanga, njl.; Imbangi). Ngokwesiqhelo kukho amaqela Izizathu ezinjalo, amandla abo akwimeko ehlanganisiweyo.
Izizathu ezikhoyo zizigqibo zakho. Uqinisekile ukuba iqabane litshintshe kuphela kuba lilibaziseka emsebenzini, nangona besazi ukuba unomsebenzi ongaqhelekanga. Ucinga ukuba ukuvutha komsindo kunokuba ngenxa yokuba isini kusapho sincinci; Kwangelo xesha, oko akukhathali ukuba iqabane linokuba neengxaki, kuquka nempilo, ukuba ngokwenene angakhathala.
Kunzima kakhulu ukwahlula ngamanye amaxesha injongo evela kumxholo. Kodwa indlela yokuphuma kule meko ayiko kakhulu:
yeka "ukukopa", ukutshitshisa ukukrokrela kunye nezityholo, zoyisa iimvakalelo zabo ezingalunganga kwaye uzibeke endaweni yoko;
Qalisa ukukhangela ikhonkrithi kunye nobungqina obungenakuphikiswa benkcitho.
Kwimeko yesibini, uya kufumana izizathu ezifanelekileyo zokuyeka unomona ukuba umntu angabalulekanga akafumani isiqinisekiso sayo. Kodwa oku kunokubiza kuwe: Iqabane elifundileyo malunga nokungathembani linokuqhekeza nolwalamano.
Nokuba ziyintoni na izizathu owawunikwayo, zahlukile kwizibakala kunye nesibini sabo kunye nokuxhaphaza kwabo. Kuwo ngamnye wabo unokufumana inkcazo yesibini, esengqiqweni engenanto yakwenza nokuvukela kwaphela. Ukuba ubudlelwane bendlela, ukuba buphambene neqabane akukho mnqweno, kungcono ukuzama ukujamelana nomona, ngaphandle kokujoyina indlela 'yokuzifundisa.
Kuya kubakho ufakelo olulula kule:
Akukho mntu kufuneka athobele ulindelo lwakho;
Wonke umntu unelungelo leemfihlo zakho, indawo yeyakho kunye nexesha lazo elikhululekileyo, nokuba abantu batshatile, kuba umtshato asiyontolongo;
Iijenaies ngokukhawuleza zilahlekelwe yintlonelo kwiqabane, kwaye ngokumka kwimvakalelo ebaluleke kakhulu, njengembeko, akukho thando, akukho wunye indlela.
Ukuba uhlala uyiphindaphinde kwaye ungakwenzi oko unokutshabalalisa intembeko nentlonipho, akuyi kuba nzima kakhulu ukuyeka unomona, njengoko kubonakala. Ukuba akukho kukrokrela ukukrokrelwa, akunakwenzeka ukuba sithembe, kukho obunye ubunzima kubudlelwane, kungcono ukunxibelelana nengcali: ugqirha wengqondo okanye uxinzelelo lwengqondo okanye i-psychotherapist umntu. Kuya kuba kuhle ukuba uyithandayo (intanda yakho) ukutsala nzima ukuzinceda, kwaye ucele ngokuhlelele umntu ukuba akuxhase kweli shishini linzima - umlo nxamnye nekhwele. Kule nto unomdla.
Ungakunqamla njani uYena wangaphambili?
Rhoqo, kwaye emva kwethutyana emva kokupheliswa komtshato okanye ukupheliswa kobudlelwane, amaqabane afumileyo aqhubeke nokufudumeza ikhwele elinye nomgama. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba nomona, kodwa impindezelo encinci "kulowo unethemba, ubudlelwane abwenzanga. Kwangelo xesha, elinye lamaqabane libeka ubudlelwane bakhe obutsha apha ezantsi, yenza yonke into eyangaphambili yazi ukuba utshintsho lwenzekile kubomi bobuqu bangaphambili. Umnqweno wokumbonisa (kuye) ukuba awulunganga kangangokuba yena (yena) eqonda ukuba loluphi uhlobo lwekamva elahlekileyo, iyaqondakala kwaye ngokwemvelo nangokwemvelo.
Kutheni iqabane lesibini "liqala" kule kwaye liqalise ukuba nekhwele phantse? Igama eliphambili apha "phantse". Le asiyomona omkhulu kakhulu, ukuba zininzi kangakanani izithuko, azibizi, zingafezekanga kolwalamano lwangaphambili; Umntu akakhutyekisi ukuba iqabane langaphambili ladibana nelinye, kodwa inyani yokuba "kuye, kulungile, kwaoko wafumana ukutshintshwa!". Oku kukukhala kweqhayiya elisesichengeni nangaphandle.
Gquma ngohlobo olunje lomona olulula kakhulu: Qaphela ukuba uziva ukuthuka, kwaye ukuqonde ukuba esi sikhalazo kwaye kukho usukelo lwabo lwangaphambili ababebonisa ubomi bakhe obutsha. Musa ukuvumela i-gotriph. Yekani ukubandezeleka kwaye ujongene nesixhobo sobomi bakho, obuya kundivumela emva kwexesha ukuba ndinike kwaye babekade iiyure ezininzi zeemvakalelo ezingathandekiyo malunga nento yokuba unayo yonke into ngokugqibeleleyo.
Imeko eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo yomona kubantu abadluleyo. Kunzima ngakumbi kumadoda nabafazi abazidibanisa neqabane elineqabane elinabantwana abavela kwimitshato yangaphambili, kwaye exhasa ubudlelwane bobuhlobo okanye amadoda.
Amathandabuzo kule meko awasoloko engenamandla. Ukwakha ubudlelwane obuqinileyo kunye neqabane elinjalo, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba ubudlelwane "buphakathi". Ngelishwa, i-qabane yangaphambili iqhubeka iqhubeka idibana amaxesha ngamaxesha kwaye ijoyine abafowunelwa obusondeleyo kwimemori yakudala ukuba ithethe ngeglasi yeti. Kungekudala, kamva, uhlaselo olunjalo "oluhlaselweyo" luphela, kodwa ngaba kufuneka ulindile kwaye uhlupheke? Ukuba ubudlelwane abugqityukiswanga ukuya esiphelweni - owayekade ebiza, ehlala ebhala, edibana - kufuneka akwazi ukubeka yonke into kwindawo yayo kwaye alinde ixesha kumgama okhuselekileyo.
Ukuba iqabane lingavumi ukuba nekhwele ngoThixo, kwaye iintlanganiso zayo zinqongophele ezintlanganisweni, ngaphandle, unolwalamano olunzulu, akufuneki ulawule iqabane, akunyanzelekanga ukuba uxele ngokufanayo usapho. Akufaneleke, iphantsi kwaye ayilunganga. Ukujamelana nomona kuya kuba rhoqo, kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba woyise. Zonke izinto ezingaqondani kule meko ziya kunceda ekusombululeni incoko eqinisekileyo.
Ungaze uzithelekise ngeqabane langaphambili lomntu wakho amthandayo. Uhlukile (enye), kwaye ukuba (yena) ukhethe wena ngoku, ke sisizathu sokuyeka ukuhamba kweengcinga ezigwenxa kwaye uhambe wedwa, kunye neqabane lakho.
Ungakufunda njani ukuba nabahlobo abakhwele?
Ikhwele elibizwa ngokuba luhlobo yinto ebalaseleyo phakathi kwabantu abadala kunye nabantu abazimeleyo ayiqhelekanga, ihlala inesifo sabantwana kunye nolutsha. Ukuba umntu omdala unekhwele ngomhlobo okanye intombi iye kwenye into oqhelene ngayo - lo luphawu lwengqondo nemvakalelo , ngenxa yokuba umntu "enamathele ebuntwaneni." Isimo sengqondo malunga nabahlobo abanjalo sihlala sinemfesane kwaye sinobubele, njengoko bezisola ngomntwana ongenangqondo kwaye oxhaphazayo. Ukuba umhlobo uqalise "ukomelela" owomeleleyo kakhulu, emva koko ububele kuthathelwe indawo kukucaphuka kwaye inyani yobuhlobo ibekwe phantsi kophawu olukhulu lombuzo. Uninzi lula ukususa umntu onjalo kwisangqa sonxibelelwano kunokuba siyinyamekele i-whimps yakhe kunye nomona.
Cinga ngayo yonke into, ukuba ngequbuliso baveza ityala kwaye bevele ngaphakathi kwimvakalelo enenzondelelo, ukuba umhlobo wakho osenyongweni, othetha nabanye abahlobo ngokuloba, ipikniki, kwaye ungayibeki. Abahlobo abanyanzelekanga omnye komnye. Abanyanzelekanga ukuba bathethe phi kwaye bahambe ngawo apho bafuna ukuchitha khona usuku. Sukuphatha imvakalelo yokuba nekhwele kwisimo sengqondo esifana nobuthathaka.
Ikhwele elahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo likhwele lehafu lakhe kubahlobo bakhe abakhoyo. Kwangelo xesha linye nekhwele kunye namaqabane abo, kunye namaqabane amaqabane. Kulula kakhulu ukuba siyidlale kwaye ube yingxaki yokwenyani, eya kuphazamisa ukuqhubana nabahlobo kwimovie okanye kwiklabhu, iintlanganiso zabantwana ofunda nabo.
QAPHELA iqabane lakho aliyi konwaba kakhulu kwinto oyenzileyo kuye bonke abantu abaqhelileyo, kwaye unokutshintsha kuphela kuyo yonke into eyimfuneko yonxibelelwano. Ukushiya iqabane lakhe kuphela, ubeka emngciphekweni ukuba ngenye imini uyakushiya kuwe: ayisasebenzi kwilahleko. Ngapha koko, uya kuhlala egxeka kwinto yokuba akanantlonelo ngaphandle kwesangqa sosapho.
Kwiimeko zekhwele labahlobo kunye nabahlobo ngaphezu kwesiqingatha sempumelelo kwindlela yokuyeka ukuba ngobomi- kukuyiqonda ububi kunye nokungaqhelekanga kwinto eyenzekayo. Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba ayinakwenzeka, ithetha isiqingatha usondele kwinjongo.
Funda ukuzibeka ngengqondo endaweni yeqabane lakho. Kule meko, imeko inokubonakala yahluke ngokupheleleyo. Le ndlela iya kufuna ubuchule obuthile, uqeqesho lwengqondo kunye nomonde, kodwa iziphumo aziyi kuzenza zilinde. Ukususa umona-inkqubo iphumelele.
Ungaze ucinezele iingongoma ezibuthathaka: "Siye safumana lukhulu kunye nawe, kwaye wena ...", "Xa ndandikhohlakele!". Ubuhlobo obunyanisekayo nobokwenene azidingi izikhumbuzo ezinjalo, umhlobo uyakuxatyiswa ngoncedo oluthile kwimeko ethile, kodwa kanye - konke, ngawo onke amaxabiso kunye neenkcazo.
Ukuba sele ulixhoba lomona onobuhlobo, zama ukuhambisa zonke ezi ngcinga kwikhwele Kwaye ikwayinyule ngokucacileyo imida yokuvumela. Sukuzigxeka, ungavumeli umhlobo wakho uqhagamshele ubomi bakho apho unelungelo lokuthatha isigqibo malunga nendlela yokwenza.
Iingcebiso ngogqirha wezengqondo
Ukuba uthuthuzwa yimvakalelo yomona, ingcebiso yeengcali zengqondo zekliniki ziya kumnceda. Khawufane ukuba ube nomfutshane.
Ngokunyaniseka vuma ukuba "uyagula" kwaye unyatheze ikhwele lwakho njani indlela yokufa, eya kufuneka inyange.
Qiniseka ukuba uzame ukufumana unobangela weemvakalelo zakho. Ukuba awukwazi ukufumana izizathu ngokwakho, nxibelelana nogqirha wengqondo okanye nabani na omthembayo ukuxelela yonke into kwaye ufumane izizathu kunye.
Ngokucacileyo uqonde ukuba zeziphi iimvakalelo ezikuwe kuhlaselo lwekhwele: Ukonakala, ikratshi, umsindo, uloyiko okanye enye imvakalelo. Oku kuyakunceda ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho.
Funda ukuzinyanga ngcono: phucula, funda, utshintsha umsebenzi, umfanekiso, funda ukuzithanda esipilini.
Cwangcisa ngokucacileyo ixesha lakho, zama ukuboleka. I-ADmeless-umhlaba ochumileyo wezimvo ezahlukeneyo zengcinga.
Yenza uhlengahlengiso olululo kubudlelwane kunye nomntu omthandayo. Khumbula ukuba ingqumbo iyavelisa umsindo, kwaye ulawulo luphela lunqwenela ukubaleka. Zama ukwabelana ngeemvakalelo ezilungileyo, kwaye ukuphendula kuyakufumana okufanayo ekugqibeleni kuya kunceda ukonyusa inqanaba lokuthembana kwelinye icala.
Indlela yokujamelana nomona kunye nendlela yokuphatha ngayo, uya kufunda kwividiyo engezantsi.