Kuvenga kuna vamwene-mukwasha kunoiswa kwazvo nemamiriro ezvinhu, kumusoro kwehondo iyi. Dzimwe nguva kukakavara kwevakadzi vaviri kunotungamira pakuparara kwemhuri.
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Chero amai vanoona mumwanakomana wake murume akakodzera, kunyangwe zvakadaro anogona kunge asina kukodzera chifananidzo ichi. Muroora-muroora anoonekwa kure nekukwana. Kwete shamwari yakadaro amai vakada mwana wake anodiwa. Anotaridza senge kushaya simba mumwanakomana akasarudzwa. Amai vakaoma kutsungirira kunzwa kwegodo, kusingagutsiswi nemuroora. Vamwene-mukwasha vanoona mukwikwidzi mairi. Kupfuura zvese, kutariswa uye rudo rweMwanakomana runotsvedza pane mumwe wako. Mukadzi anoita kunge asingade mwanakomana wake, saka mukadzi ari kuedza kukwezva kutarisa kune imwe neimwe nzira.
Kana mwana akarwadziswa asina baba, aigara achitsigirwa kuna amai vake, akazadzisa chinzvimbo chemusoro wemhuri. Mushure mekuroora kwemwanakomana, amai vanotanga kuritisa kazhinji kuti vamushanyire, kazhinji vachitsvaga zvikonzero zvidiki zvikuru. Maitiro akadaro emukadzi anogona kudururwa mukusagadzikana kusingaperi kwemuroora nemuroora. Mamiriro acho ezvinhu ari kuwedzera, kuvengana kune vamwene vanomanikidzwa.
Iko pfungwa yezvinhu kunoita kuti kuwedzera kuve kwakashata pakati penyama dzese dzekona. Kujekeswa kwehukama, kuvharirwa kwemurume anodikanwa, chishuwo chekumbirisa muchanza chemakwikwi. Kana vakadzi vese vari vatungamiriri nechisikigo, kurwira "chigaro che" chigaro "hachiganogarwa. Mumwe nemumwe wavo anoti ndiye akanyanya kukwirira kumba. Chishuwo chekudzivirira kukura kwavo chinotungamira kuvengana uye kuvenga.
Dzimwe nguva, nekuda kwemamwe mamiriro anofanirwa kurarama nevamwene. Uye kana ugaro hwaive hwakanga hwave wake, ipapo mukuwamara unomusiya unomisikidza uye kutya. Kupfuura zvese, zvinova mutyairi wemazuva ese mararamiro.
Ravira zvido, tsika, kusvika pakuchenesa, nzira dzekubika ndiro dzinogona kusiyana zvakanyanya. Kana zvidiki zvacho zviri mukuvimba kwemanyorero pane imwe mhuri itsva, pakutanga inotarisirwa kurasikirwa chero kurwa. Mamiriro ezvinhu asinganzwisisike anoshungurudza anowanzodyara ruvengo rwevamwene.
Kana musoro wemhuri ndihwo chete Mwanakomana, saka rudo rwese rwunotarisira chete kwaari. Mune ino kesi, muroora anoonekwa nemunhu akazunza pfuma. Amai vanoita kunge vanoziva chete kuti vangaziva sei munhu waaida uye kuti azvipe sei kufudza. Inongoziva kana zviri nani kunyarara uye chirevo chipi chinofanira kuzivisa nguva inotevera. Pfungwa dzemuroora dzinoonekwa mune bayonets. Kutanga, kuti kunyemwerera kwekupindura, wobva wagumbuka. Kusagutsikana nenguva kunowedzera, zvishoma nezvishoma kushanduka kuita ruvengo.
Kazhinji, zvikonzero zvekuramba kwevamwene kwakasiyana maonero ekurera vana. Ambuya vanosimbirira pachinzvimbo chake, vanoridza chii uye maitiro ekuita. Pfungwa isina kufanana pamhuri, mabasa epamba, kuzorora kunotungamira mukusawirirana uye kusimbisa vasingadiwe nemuroora kuna vamwene kuti vamwene. Kuvenga kuvhiringidza kuenzanisa kwemurume wake waanoda naamai vake vaaida. Kunyanya kana mumwe wako achigara achishoropodza mukadzi wake, achitungamira kuvabereki vake semuenzaniso.
Dzimwe nguva vamwene vanonakidza vanogara vari pamapenzi. Ari kutsvaga musangano, saka zvinowanzoonekwa kushanya. Mukadzi anodzora kutaurirana. Uye muroora anoshanyira kushanya kwaAmai-mukwasha, izvo zvinangwa zvakanaka zvacho zvinoonekwa sekazara kutonga. Chinyorwa chechidiki chinoshungurudzwa nekushanya zvachose kwehama, kuti kunyangwe vamwene vaimbova vasina kuzorega kuvenga.
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Chekutanga pane zvese, edza kunzwisisa kuti vamwene vako-sei vanogona ndapota. Zvakakosha kwazvo kugamuchira chokwadi chekuti haafanire kurarama maererano nemitemo yako, sangana nemimwe zviyero uye kururamisa zvaunotarisira. Ratidza kushivirira kwake. Gara uchienda kunosangana nemukadzi uyu: Tsvaga mutauro wakajairika, wakasimudzirwa pane dialogue inovaka. Iwe haudiwe kukwikwidza nevamwene kuti vamwe verudo uye nevarume.
Iwe unofanirwa kugara uchiyeuka kuti uyu aive mukadzi uyu aipfeka murume wako pasi pemoyo wake. Iye akamuberekera, akaunza sezvaakakwanisa. Iwe pachako wakasarudza varume vemunhu uyu. Saka, chimwe chinhu chaakakwezva pfungwa dzako, chimwe chinhu chakukunda. Amai vakaipa havana kugona kusimudza mwanakomana wake zvakanaka. Izvo zvinodikanwa kuti uite mauto ese kuti akurire kuvenga kwake vamwene. Kurovera kwekugara kuri mumusoro wenyaya dzakaipa dzinotsamwisa kudzikira kwemuviri nepfungwa. Kugumbuka kwakaunganidzwa kunogadzira zvirwere zvakasiyana siyana. Neruvengo rwangu, iwe unoita kukuvadza kusingaperi kuhutano hwako pachako.
Mukadzi uyu anofanirwa neruremekedzo nekutenda. Ratidza kururamisira uye unonetsa nazvo. Ramba wakadzikama uye usatora chikonzero chekuwedzera kurwiswa pauri. Edza kufunga nezve zvido zvamai vako. Kuremekedza Mwari kune vamwene mune chero mamiriro ezvinhu kuchabatsira kuti vabatsire kubvisa manzwiro asina kunaka. Nekufamba kwenguva, Natisk achamira.
Ratidza kutarisisa vamwene vako. Kubatanidza kune zviitiko zvake nehutano. Muudze nhau dzinonakidza. Kufambira mberi kwake kunyangwe iwe uchinge wagamuchirwa kare. Rega zvichizonzwa zvichinzwa kukosha kwavo. Rega ichiraira, taura pachena kusagutsikana kwako. Ziva chiremera chake. Inotsemuka nzira dzese dzakapinza muukama hwako.
Rumbidza Mwanakomana wake, ndinokutendai neku kurerwa kwemurume akanaka akadaro. Admire anogona kukura murume akanaka.
Usakanganwa kurumbidza ndiro dzakagadzirirwa nahwo. Gadzirisa zvipfeko zvevana vako, tarisa kuravira kwake. Kufunga kwako kuchaita kuti manzwiro akanaka mumukadzi. Kurumbidza nemwoyo wose kunobatsira pakugadzwa kwehukama hwakanaka.
Unogona kumira kuvenga vamwene vangu, kana iwe ukatanga kufarira hupenyu hwake hwekupedzisira. Rega zvichikuudza kuti akakwanisa sei kushambadzira panguva imwe chete uye akarova pelleins, mafaira, murwi, gadzirira ndiro nhatu uye uchiri kushanda pamabasa maviri. Edza mupfungwa kudzokorora mamiriro emakore apfuura. Ipapo iwe unogona kunzwisisa zviri nani manzwiro uye manzwiro evamwe-mukwasha. Edza kuwana pamwe naye zvido zvake. Koka wako wazvino uye aimbova vamwene mumitambo, mafaita, kutenga. Tora pamwe chete nekucheka, kudhirowa, Scandinavia kufamba, kusimba, yoga kana aerobics. Isu tinonzwisisa mukadzi akabereka murume, maruva, pipi uye michero.
Usambofa wakamisa womumwe wako kuna mai vako. Mukadzi wangu anogona kuchinjwa chero nguva, uye amai vemunhu vari voga. Hazvina mhosva kuti zvaiita sei zvakaratidzika kwauri, edza kuvaka hukama hwakafanana naye. Mumwe murume, anoda chaizvo amai vake, haana kuzombomutengesa. Hazvina kungoitika mumamiriro ezvinhu anopesana nevarume vazhinji vari padivi paamai. Kana paine akakanganwirwa naamai kuMwanakomana, vozoedza kuidzosera nemanzwiro ako akanaka. Izvo hazvina kukodzera kubhadhara chero kutarisisa kune zvirevo zvinyoro-nyoro kune yako yakasarudzwa. Nyora murume wako nekunetseka, rudo, ratidza kumuremekedza.
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Chishuwo chekugadzirisa maitiro evaAmai-mumutemo kazhinji haagone kupfekedzwa nebudiriro. Usati waumbwa nehunhu, saka chakatsamisa kwazvo maonero akasarudzika haafanire kubudirira. Mukadzi anonzi anozivikanwa, ruremekedzo uye kuongororwa kwepamusoro kwemunhu wake. Edza kugutsa izvi zvinodiwa. Teerera kune zano revamwene. Ukasada iwe, wozviita nenzira yako. Asi usamupa uye usatsamwise. Usapindure kutuka, usaende kune wega, usadzise mamiriro ekunetswa. Maka miganhu yako. Bvumirana pane mabasa epamba uye emari. Kana iwe uchigara pamwe chete, ichazviponesa kubva mukuwirirana.
Usambofa wakapindira nehukama huripo pakati pemumwe wako naamai vake. Usarambidza murume wake kushanyira amai vako kana kutaurirana naye nefoni. Usavhiringidze muhukama hwako hwakaoma pamwe nevamwari vevana. Vaudze chete nyaya dzakanaka nezvaambuya vavo. Kunyangwe iwe uchizviona iye vamwene vakaipa kwazvo munyika, saka vazukuru vari mundirozvo mundangariro vachasara nguva dzinonakidza chete dzakabatana naambuya vavo. Vana havafanirwe kunge vari vatambi kumahombekombe evakuru.
Edza kutendeudzira amai vemurume wake mune hukama, uye kwete muvengi. Haufanire kuzvibata zvine hungwaru uye svina kuburikidza nemazino kunyemwerera kwekunyengera, asi iwe unoenderana naamai-mukwasha. Dzidza kuzvidzora iwe nezviito zvako. Rangarira kuti zvisina basa kusakosha hazvitungamiri kune chero chinhu chakanaka. Pakutanga kwegakava rako nemurume wake, vamwene vanogona kukuisa pamberi pake mune zvakaipa.
Pasina mhosva, usakwezve dzimwe hama kuukama hwako nevana vako, usazvivake zvirongwa zvevakatsiva. Kazhinji maitiro emuroora haavanduri mamiriro acho ezvinhu, asi anomutsamwisa masaisa matsva emakakatanwa. Kuti udzivise izvi, mukadzi anofanira kuomerera kune mamwe mitemo:
- Ratidza kuchinjika muhukama;
- Usanyunyuta murume wangu kuna mai vake;
- Hazvigoneke kubvumira kutaura kwakashata kuna vamwene;
- Usaratidza kuti kururamisa kwake;
- Usakurumidzira nevavakidzani neshamwari dzevamwene dzevamwene;
- Usatore vazukuru kubva kuna ambuya, usapindire kupokana kwavo;
- Mukukakavara nemurume wake, usati mai vake vakavakazve zvakaipa;
- Hapana chikonzero chekuisa pane murume wemurume wako pamberi pevamwene;
- Usambofa wakazvitsiva satellite yaamai vako, usaite chero mapakeji;
- Ipa mafaro evana vamwene nemuroora;
- Usatenderedza chengetedzo yevana vako kuna ambuya vako, usade kugara uchitarisisa vazukuru pazviri.
Vakadzi vazhinji vanoshamisika kana zvakafanira kuti ushandise murume kunyanya hukama nevamwene. Zvakanaka kusatarisana nebou dzevadiwa. Fungidzira mamiriro emurume wako uye usamanikidza kuti anamire pakati pemwenje miviri. Kuyedza kugadzirisa dambudziko iwe pachako. Taura nevamwene vangu, izwi rako maonero, muudze nezvezvaunoona, tsvaga chikonzero chekutora. Zvimwe haana kufungidzira kuti kukanganisa kwakawanda kunokununura sei.
Muzviitiko zvakanyanyisa, zvinoreva kune psychologist. Achashandisa nokungwarira mamiriro acho uye achakubatsira iwe kutsungirira nehumambo hwevamwene.
