Kero yemukadzi wake neshamwari yemumwe mukadzi haasiri kupatsanurwa. Haasi chete - iyo inodiwa mamiriro ekufambisa kweiyo director sera, nekuti, maererano nehuremu, semudiwa kana kamwechete), vakadzi vanowanzo sarudza shamwari yemurume wake. Vatungamiriri pakati pevanenge vevakadzi vakaroora, vechokwadi, vaDociales vebasa (vanosvika 35% yeefuma dzese dzevakadzi), asi zvakare kugoverana kweshamwari dzevakadzi vepwanyana dzakasimba - kusvika pa22%. Mune ino kesi, vanhu vatatu vanouya mumamiriro ezvinhu akaoma - murume, mukadzi uye shamwari. Wese munhu anorasikirwa kupfuura anowana, asi zvakanyanya kuoma, chokwadi, akanyengedza murume wake, nekuti kwaari kunyengedzwa kaviri. Munyaya ino tichakurukura nezvehuma uye zvikonzero zvekunyepedzera kwakadaro uye kukuudza kana kukodzera kukanganwira uye kuchiita sei, kana zvakaitika.
Zvinokonzera
Zvakaoma kutaura kuti kune murume zvichave zvakaoma - kukanganwira mukadzi zvachinja, kana kukanganwira shamwari. Zvakanga zvakakodzera kuti hushamwari hwevarume vanogara vachikura Monolitiki kupfuura mukadzi, uye kutengeswa kweshamwari kumurume kunogona kuve kwakanyanya kungwara kupfuura mukadzi wedhori. Nyika yemurume wake inodonha, nekuti ane kunyepedzera kuti anogona kuvimba naro zvakanyanya zvachose haangave chero munhu - kana shamwari kana vakadzi.
Kumukadzi wake, mamiriro ezvinhu anogona kukudziridza zvakasiyana - Izvo zvese zvinoenderana nemhando yemanzwiro ake kune mumwe wake wepamutemo uye wake comrade. Yeshamwari iri nani, kupandukira kunonyanya kuitika, kungangopera mukushamwaridzana, zvisinei nekuti makore mangani - vanhu vepamoyo vanhu vechirume havafambi munharaunda imwe, uye nekuenderera mberi kwekukurukurirana kwacho kuchave kusakwanisa .
Muroora akanyengedzwa, kurwadziwa kwekutanga uye kamwe kamwe kwekutanga kunopera zvishoma, zvechokwadi zvichatora kuongorora kwemukati kwezvikonzero nei akatendeka nekuda kwechiitiko chakadai. Panguva imwecheteyo, anenge achinge aruramisa chiitiko cheshamwari - anonzwisisa kuti pane mamiriro ezvinhu kana arambe zvimwe uye usazvishandisa pamusoro pemauto echirume. Asi haanzwisisi kunzwisisa kuti nei shamwari isina kuyeuka chikwereti chake pamberi pake.
Mudzimai anochinja murume wake neshamwari yake, kana musikana akashanduka mukomana neshamwari yake uye pensioner uyo anongoerekana asiya mukadzi akura kushamwari yake kubva kuchikoro chekirasi, chinhu chine utsinye. Uye mukadzi anogara ane chikonzero chekushandura.
Sociologist uye purezidhendi wesangano revarungu veSurance Federation, Andrei Zaitsev, uyo, zvinosuruvarisa, aingoita kudzidza kwepfungwa wekufambira mberi kwemuchato muRussia, izvo, zvinosuruvarisa, zvakafirwa muna 2015. Akaedza kutsvaga zvikonzero zvakadzama zvekuti kusundira varume nevakadzi pakusatendeka. Zvidzidzo zvakawanda zvehunyanzvi zvaakashandisa zvakaratidza kuti mukufunga kwavo, kusvika pamakumi mashanu neshanu muzana evamiriri vevakanaka bonde vakachinja varume varo. Mukuita, izvi zvinoita kunge makumi maviri neshanu muzana evakadzi. Panguva imwecheteyo, kazhinji kazhinji treason inoraswa (80%), iyo yakawanda kakawanda, yekubatana kwenguva refu nemudiwa.
Nei shamwari yemurume wangu? Nekuti Zvinoitika kakawanda kupfuura vamwe varume mune imwe kambani nevarume, nekuti neushamwari hwakareba uye hwakamanikana, vanhu vanowanzo shamwari "mhuri" Nekuti iye anowanzojaira mukadzi uye vane zvakawanda zvakajairika. Dzimwe nguva mudzimai akatoda kuraira neshamwari yepamoyo yemumwe mukadzi - kutanga pane zvekutengera murume wake sechipo, uyezve nezvematambudziko emhuri, akabvunza kanzuru. Kazhinji kutengeserana kwakadaro kunoitika kusazvibata, pasi pesimba remamiriro acho ezvinhu, harwunorongwa - vakamwa kwazvo, vakazova vega mune mamwe mamiriro ezvinhu akaoma kana kuti ane hurombo, etc.
Chikonzero chakajairika ndechekusuwa - Mukadzi ane nguva yakawanda yemahara, uye hukama nemurume wake hwakatanga kupera, pakanga paine kupatsanuka kusingagumi kweumwe neumwe, hapana pfungwa dzainge dzisiri ivo vakarasikirwa nekupfuura, ivo vakaunganidza chigumbu kwemakore apfuura. Kana, panguva imwe chete, Comrade Muga anova anotevera kazhinji kupfuura murume amene amene, kunyanya kubvunzurudza nguva dzose, uye shamwari yacho nguva dzose kugadzirira kuteerera mukadzi, kunyanya kana achizvida.
Mumwe mubvunzo ndewekuti sei vakadzi veshamwari vachigara vachiita sevanonyanya kutaridzika kupfuura zvavo? Zvakaoma kutsanangura izvi, kazhinji - chikonzero chiri muchishuvo chekuziva Adrenaline, semumwe munhu, kunze kwemukwikwidzi wake wepamutemo, pamwe nekukwikwidzana kwechisikigo kune vanhu vazhinji vevakadzi. Kunyangwe takataura sei nezvekuziva uye kufungidzira kwemunhu pamusoro pepasi kwechisikirwo, zviito nezviito zvevanhu kazhinji zvakarerekera nemirairo yekare yenyika. Uye haungasiyi chero kupi.
Mumukadzi kumuka, zvichienderana nenyanzvi hwemagariro uye zvepfungwa, pane zvimwe zvikonzero:
- kusagutsikana nemhando kana nhamba yebonde muwanano;
- Kupandukira kupandukira kwaTreason - Rubatsiro rwegirazi rwemurume wake maitiro akafanana;
- kuzvisimbisa, kuwedzera kwekuzvishingisa;
- kushaiwa zvido zvechido, chinangwa chakawanda pamwe nemumwe wake;
- Kunzwa kwechokwadi.
Izvo zvinofanirwa kucherechedzwa kuti vanowira murudo neshamwari yemurume wake kwete kazhinji. Asi kana izvi zvikaitika, ipapo kumisa mukadzi kubva mukudonha kwemhuri kazhinji haachakwanisi. Mune zvimwe zviitiko, vakadzi vanonyanya kusungirirwa pamunhu wemba vanosangana nekunzwa kwechokwadi uye havana kugadzirira kurambana.
Zvinhu zvine njodzi kune murume anofanira kutarisirwa nemurume akasiyana siyana. Kazhinji kazhinji, vakadzi vanoshandura varume vavo vakagamuchira yakakwira dzidzo kupfuura mumwe mukadzi, vakadzi vakazvimirira mune zvemari, vakadzi vasingawanzoona murume wake nekuda kwebasa rake, pamwe neavo vanosangana nekushayikwa kusingaperi kwekunzwisisa kubva pamutemo wavo Muroora.
Njodzi yekudonha kwakadaro iri pachena: Mumhosva isati yapoterera - ruoko kufaira. Mune mamiriro ezvinhu akasimba, murume anogona kubata mumwe, uye nemukadzi wake, anowanzoitika.
Zvekuita?
Zvizhinji zvemurume uye vamwe vese veVaMutambi veVatori vechidhori zvinoenderana neiko uye mumamiriro ezvinhu akaita sei. Mamiriro ezvinhu ane ngozi zvakanyanya - murume uyu akadzoka pamberi pe nguva uye akawana mukadzi wake neshamwari yake munzvimbo isina kujairika. Zviri mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro anouraya zvinyoronyoro zvinowanzoitika.
Kana panguva imwe chete murume akakwanisa kutsungirira nechido chekubata mapanga uye demo, ipapo anofanira kusiya imba nekukurumidza kana nzvimbo yaakawana vadikani. Kana kugumbuka, kana kuedza kunzwisisa izvo zviri kuitika hazvina kukodzera. Chero zvazviri, kwete ikozvino.
Kana murume asina kupupurira kupandukira, asi ruzivo rwacho rwasvika nazvo uye zvine musoro uye rwakasimbiswa, asi pano kufanotaura kwevadikani kunonyanya kunaka. Murume akanyengerwa, zvakare, haakurudzirwe kuti aronge kutongwa.
Mhinduro dzakakosha hadzina kumbogamuchirwa pane "musoro unopisa". Zviri nani kuenda kumumvuri kwechinguva uye zvinyararire zvibvumirano newe, pindura mibvunzo yako yose. Iwe unogona kugara pakabati, mune imwe shamwari, mune yeimba yevabereki, mune yakanyanyisa nyaya, muhotera. Mavhiki mashoma ndiwo mashoma anodiwa kuti arege kuita zvisina musoro.
Pakutanga kuchave nekuregera, kusada kutora chokwadi ndechekuti chii. Ipapo nhanho yekuprotesst ichatanga - yakakosha kuti utsungirire nechikamu ichi chete. Rega mumwe munhu anogona kumira kubva mukuita zvisingaite - hama, comrade, muvakidzani, waunoshanda naye pabasa.
Chete kana zvasvika pakunzwisisa kuti zvinhu zvese zviripo, kuti hazvizoende chero kupi, iwe unofanirwa kusarudza zvekuita zvinotevera.
Shamwari dzinoshanda dzinozora kukanganwira mukadzi wake. Izvi, mukunzwisisa ruzhinji rwevanhu, hazvibvumirwi. Asi pachave nemazano mazhinji ezano pamusoro penzira uye ane hutsinye kubata neye ex-aimbova shamwari. Kana izvi ndizvo zvaunoda kunzwa? Kazhinji kwete kwete. Kana iwe ukaenda kune psychologist kana psychotherapist - mauto ari pamusoro, iwe uchafanirwa kusarudza wega.
Edza kupisa kunze, tarisa mamiriro ezvinhu ari pachikamu, pachinzvimbo cheumwe neumwe wevatori vechikamu. Govera musangano kumukadzi wangu - iwe unofanirwa kutaura, kunyangwe kana mhuri iwe yausingade kuchengetedza zvakare. Unosangana neshamwari here? Iwe unogona kusarudza, asi hazviiti kuti achataura chimwe chinhu chepakutanga, vazhinji vevakaroora vanobatwa paAjulter vari kutanga kupomerwa nezvezvakaitika kumukadzi wake, uye dzimwe nguva vanonyengera kuti haana kuteerera MaSoviet apo mukadzi uyu paakazvisarudzira pamwe chete mune shamwari dzake hupenyu. Kana kukosha kwekutaura kune aimbove shamwari shamwari - iti, asi pasina mhosva haisi mhosva yekuyedza kumutsa kurwa kana kuurayiwa. Toni yakadzikama chete, pasina mhosva.
Izvo zvakakosha kuti uedze kuedza pamwe nemukadzi wangu, kuti zvinhu zvese zvakaitika. Kana murume zvisina kunangana zvisina kukodzera mamiriro ezvinhu akanaka, anofanirwa kubvuma pachena uye pachena. Kutuka kana kurova mukadzi - pazasi pekuremekedzwa kwemurume chaiye, uye saka hazvina kukodzera kuburuka kusvika padanho rekufamba.
Mushure mekukurukurirana kwekutanga, zvichave zvakajeka kana zvakakodzera kukanganwira mumwe wako uye uchengetedze mhuri kana zvichave zviri nani kune wese munhu kana vaviri vachipfeka.
Ndinofanira kukanganwira uye ndozviita sei?
Ndinogona here kukanganwira mukadzi wako mumamiriro ezvinhu aya? Ndinogona. Zvinoita here kuchengetedza mhuri? Iwe unogona zvakare. Asi iwe unofanirwa kunyatsonzwisisa kana zvichidikanwa. Chokwadi ndechekuti kukanganwirwa pachako hakusi kwekunzwa, kwete kamwe chete, zvinouya zvishoma nezvishoma, nehana, kwaari, kwaari achiri kurarama '. Kana mukadzi akaramba nhaurirano, anoda kurambana, haufanirwe kunyadziswa. Izvo hazvina kukodzera kuti kumumanikidza kuti anyadzisa kana kukanganwirwa kwakanyanya. Revel mumabvi emukadzi akasarudzika - chiremba wepfungwa.
Kana mukadzi akagadzirirwa kuponesa mhuri, tora nguva-yekufunga kufunga, usamhanye. Kuwedzera kune chiitiko chisingafadzi uye chakaomesesa, mukadzi achiri kukosha kwauri: Iye murume akanaka, amai vakanaka kwazvo, vakaroora vane hanya. Izvi dzimwe nguva zvinogona kuramba kugumbuka. Funga nezve chokwadi chekuti iye amene anogona kutyisa muzviitiko. Ane kodzero yekuita chikanganiso here? Uye newe? Kana iwe uri munhu ane njere uye unonzwisisa kuti vanhu vese vane kodzero yekukanganisa, inguva yekupindura mubvunzo, kana iwe uchimukanganwira.
Hapana munhu munyika anosungirwa kusangana nezvinotarisirwa nemumwe munhu. Zvakaitika zvakatoitika. Uye utore kana kwete - chete sarudzo yako.
Varume vanowanzotamira paruzhinji maonero eruzhinji, uye zvakanyanya kupfuura vamiriri vechikadzi vasina simba. Ivo vanonetseka pamusoro pezvavanenge vachati shamwari uye vanomanikidza, hama nevavakidzani, kana chokwadi chekusaswa kwevakaroorana neshamwari yatove yeruzhinji domain. Uye ivo vanonyanya kutaura kuti, achati - The Podkinnik uye murume akanyatsojekesa, kana achinge agara uye ararame nemukadzi uyu. Izvo zvinodikanwa kuti upedze nokutendeseka mubvunzo - chii chinonyanya kudhura: mafungiro enharaunda kana hukama nemukadzi chaiye. Kana wechipiri, ipapo iwe haufanire kutarisa padhuze nevamwe.
Kana zvese zvemukati zvinopesana nepfungwa kuti uende pamubhedha mumwe nemukadzi uyu mumubhedha mumwe, garai mune imwe tafura, saka haufanirwe kudzokera kuhukama. Kana paine chishuwo chekuchengeta mhuri - ita nekushinga. Kukanganwirwa mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro kunoda munhu kushinga kukuru uye rupo, rudo rukuru kumhuri yavo, kumukadzi wake.
Rangarira kuti ini ndamboziva, haufanire kudzokera kuchinyorwa ichi. Neshamwari, ingangofanira kusiya ushamwari chete, asi zvakare hukama hwebhizimusi kana vaive. Asi nemukadzi wemukadzi wake, pane kudaro, iwe uchafanirwa kusimuka. Uye chete pamwe, pamwe nekuitisa "basa pane zvikanganiso".
Izvo zvinobatsira kwazvo panguva ino nzira iyo nzira yakakurudzirwa naAbraham Harold Maslow - An America Psychologist uye Muvambi wechikoro cheMunhu Pfungwa. Akakurudzira kutsiva imwe pfungwa isina kunaka kune maviri anobatsira uye ekugadzira zviito. Nzira yacho inonzi chiitiko chinobudirira, chinoshandiswa zvakanyanya mukurasikirwa kwepfungwa, kushushikana uye zvimwe zvinetso zvinorwadza zvakanetsa kurarama.
Mashandisiro azvinoita: Mangwanani, murume wake akarangarira chiitiko chisingafadzi chemukadzi wake chekuseni, chakakanda izwi rinorwadza. Zvinotevera izvi, anofanira kuita zvinhu zviviri zvisikwa, batsira muvakidzani kuti uchinje mutambi wemotokari zvakasununguka zvachose, uyezve kuenda kuna vamwene uye kumupa rubatsiro mumadziro ekupenda mumba yekuchengetera. Kune imwe neimwe yega yakaipa kuita inofanirwa kupikiswa zvakanaka. Zvishoma nezvishoma, ndangariro dzisingafadzi dzakadzingwa kubva mundangariro. Kukanganwika kwazvo, sezvazviri, hazvizoshande, asi kukanganisa kubva pakutambudzika kwavo kwakawanda.
Mukadzi haafanire kunyadzisa, isa mamiriro ake kwaari, kuti azvidzore uye atofungidzira kune vekare mufuma. Kusimuka - zvakare nenzira kwayo yekurambana. Edza kunzwisisa uye kumuremekedza somunhu saiye shamwari yako, saamai vevana vako.
Zvichava zvakaoma kutanga kubata pabonde - nekuitwa chaiko kwemuchero wemuchato, matambudziko ehunyanzvi anogona kuitika. Kana mushure memwedzi mitanhatu mushure mekusasimikira, hazvibviri kuzvimiririra kune mukadzi wepedyo nemukadzi wake, zvinodikanwa kutendeukira kune psychotherapist - nyika dzakachinjirwa ne hypnotherapy uye hypnique.
Dzivirira Treason
Kana iwe uri munhu ane rombo rakanaka kuti ane rombo rakanaka kuve nehupenyu uye mukadzi akanaka, uye shamwari iri nani, chengetedza uye edza kuchengetedza hukama pakati pavo vese padanho rakakodzera. Izvo zvakakosha kubva pakutanga chaiko kuti ugadzirise miganhu inobvumidzwa kushamwari uye kune vakaroora - misangano yavo isina kuvapo kwako, chokwadi, usada chero munhu. Kana, chokwadi, iwe wakasvika muchipatara, uye ivo vaviri vakauya kuzoshanyira murwere, saka izvi zvinotsanangurwa.
Edza kuswededza pedyo newawakaroorana naye, gara uine maonero aanofunga mumakakatanwa panhare shamwari yepamwoyo, "tamba" kwaari. Kana mukadzi achinzwa rutsigiro kubva kumurume wake, haana kujekeswa shamwari yake. Hongu, uye zvisungo zvichakurumidza kunzwisisa kuti ndima ino "tabooo" kwaari.
Sarudza matambudziko ako pachako nemukadzi wako, kwete neshamwari, usakure naye kumashure kwake neshamwari. Mukukakavara zviri nani kubata naye, uteerere uye usasiya hurukuro, neimwe nzira, ichawana "nzeve dzemahara" mukutarisana neshamwari yako yepedyo.
Iva usimbe pamazororo akabatanidzwa, kunyanya kana ivo vachipfuura patafura kana pane zvakasikwa neanodhaka kuperekedzwa. Usapokana nemukadzi wangu mushure megirazi doro, usazvisiyire wega kwenguva yakareba, usakuvadzwa, kunyanya neshamwari, kuti usashandise ivhu nekuda kwemumwe neumwe kwaari kana kutanga kumutaurira yake tsitsi. Panjodzi yakadaro ivhu, mhodzi dzekukweana dzinokurumidza kukura.
Edza kuvimba nezvose zviri zviviri, uye uzviratidze - zvakakosha kuti conrade iri mumhuri yako, uye mumwe wake akanzwa mutoro wega wekuvimba navo.
Nezve zvikonzero zvekuputsa kwemukadzi wake neshamwari yemurume wake, ona iyo inotevera vhidhiyo.