Benshi muritwe tuzi ko ubwoba bwabantu bwose hamwe namaganya yashize mubana. Kamere ya buri wese muri twe nayo itangira gushinga muri iki gihe. Kubwibyo, turashobora kuvuga neza ko ubwana bwacu bugumane natwe mubuzima. Umuntu ukuze arabizi ko noneho yabaye atandukanye, abona rero nkukuri. Muri icyo gihe, ikiremwa gito kibaho igihe cyose imbere mubwenge bwacu. Niba mu bwana bwakunze kubabaza cyangwa ntibyitayeho cyane, noneho bizabutsa.
Ninde ukeneye kandi kuki?
Gutekereza "gukiza umwana w'imbere" Louise Hay yateje imbere abumva umuntu uhangayitse kandi utagira kirengera. Iyi ntekereza yashizweho kugirango ikureho ubwoba n'umutekano muke.
Ubu buhanga bugomba kugirirwa ikizere gusa kuberako Louise yabyibweho hagaragaye ibintu bye byerekanaga gukora mugihe ubugingo bukomeretsa kuva mubana ubwabwo.
Umuremyi w'ubuhanga bwavukiye mu muryango ukennye. Kuva mu bwana, yamenye inzara n'imbeho. Amaze gukura, umwe mu minsi myiza yahisemo gushimisha uburyo budasanzwe bwo kwivuza. Hanyuma aba umushumba atangira kwandika ibitabo kuri psychologiya.
Louise amaze kurwara cyane, yahisemo kwikiza abitayeho. Muri ibyo, yafashijwe no gutekereza. Kugeza ubu, yashoboye gufasha abandi bantu kuva mubihe bitoroshye.
Gutekereza haruguru bituma bishoboka kwibiza mubyabaye mubana kandi hamwe no kugerageza guhindura ubu. Kubwibyo, ubu buhanga burakenewe kubashaka kuvana abikuye ku mutima ibyo abana, nabo, bigira ingaruka cyane kurubu.
Hariho ingero nyinshi mugihe ibibazo biruka kubibazo byabana ntiyemerera umuntu kwishakira. Kurugero, niba umwana yarababajwe nishuri yishuri kandi yumvaga afite agaciro, ntiyashoboye kubona icyo kirongezi, kizafungwa, ntiyashobora kumenya ubushobozi bwe.
Kugira ngo uhindure ibintu byose, ugomba kugerageza mu myitozo gutekereza kuri Louise Hay "gukiza umwana w'imbere."
Niki "umwana w'imbere"?
Kugirango uze ku myumvire yikintu nkicyo, ugomba kubimenya Ijambo "umwana w'imbere" ni ishusho imwe mu bice by'ingenzi by'isi y'imbere y'umuntu. Iki gice kirimo kwibuka ibintu bitandukanye, byombi nibibi kandi byiza, kimwe n'ubwoba, ubuhanga, uburambe bwambere, nibindi.
Iki nigice cyumuntu wumuntu ushinzwe imyumvire yishimye kubintu byose. Buri wese muri twe yibuka uburyohe bwa ice cream, twese twariye mubana. Byari byiza cyane kandi birashimishije. Ndibuka muri iki gihe, none, kuba abantu bakuru kwishimisha, natwe turya ice cream.
Ibintu nk'ibyo birashobora kuvugwa kubijyanye n'ubushobozi bwo guhanga.
Akiri muto, buri mwana agerageza gukurura ikintu cyangwa impumyi. Niba ashimwe, agerageza kurushaho kandi arema. Nkigisubizo, umuhanzi ufite impano cyangwa umunyabudori arashobora gukura kumuntu nkuyu. Na Muri ubu buryo bukomeye buzakina uburambe bw'abana, aribyo "umwana w'imbere".
Iyo ntamuntu numwe witaye ku mwenda wo guhanga w'umuhanzi muto, atangira kwiyegereza buhoro muri we, kandi ubushobozi bwe burasohoka. Niba umuntu nkuyu, kuba mukuru, ashaka kubyutsa yifuza gushushanya, noneho ibi bizafasha gutekereza byiswe "gukiza umwana w'imbere".
Tanga: "umwana w'imbere" nigihe runaka cyagumye mu bihe byashize. Ariko, iki gihe gishobora kuba kibi kugirango ugire ingaruka mubuzima nyabwo nuzaza.
Tekinike
Ubu buhanga bwagenewe abantu bahinduka abantu bakuru. Nubwo waba ufite imyaka ingahe. Igomba gukorwa kugirango amarangamutima meza kandi mashya mubugingo bwawe. Kandi bazakora neza ibitekerezo bishya mubitekerezo bizafasha kugenda mubuzima.
Birakenewe kubitekerezaho "Umwana wawe w'imbere" arashobora kuba leta nkiyi - kwiheba kandi ubwoba, nibindi Niba ureba mumyitwarire yawe ibibi, kudashobora kubaza nkuko bimeze, noneho ugomba kwiga uko nabikemura. Byongeye kandi, kwigaragaza nabi n'amarangamutima mumico yawe nabyo byerekana ko "umwana w'imbere" wahagaritswe.
Kubwibyo, ubafata cyane, ni ukuvuga uburakari ubwawe, ntukatuke kandi ushinja ibyaha byose bipfa. Kandi icy'ingenzi, ntubone ibyo wagezeho n'imico myiza. Ibi, mubisanzwe, shimishwa n'abantu bakikije, bikugira "scapegoat".
Ubwoko bumwebumwe bwimyitwarire idahagije bigaragarira mubyukuri ko, nkuko abantu bakuze, ntibashobora kubyumva. Abantu nkabo ni abanyamaguru, ntibakora kandi batize, gerageza kubaho ku buguzi bwabandi. Kubwibyo, bakeneye gutangira gukora ubwabo. Bitabaye ibyo, bazayoborwa no kwangirika kwa nyuma.
Kugira ngo ukore ibi, birakenewe kumenya neza uburyo "umwana wawe w'imbere" bugaragarira. Niba atari byiza cyane muri gahunda y'amarangamutima, noneho ntuzamererwa neza. Niba utamerewe neza, ugomba rero gukoresha neza kuzirikana no kuzana imiterere yawe muri rusange yubugingo.
Gutekereza bizafasha gushiraho umubano nu "mwana" wicaye imbere muri wewe. Ubu buhanga buzagusunika kuri bora y'amarangamutima. Ntutangazwe nuko mugihe cyimyitozo uzabona numubabaro, kandi byishimo, nibyishimo, no mu notisi, hamwe nandi marangamutima.
Ntutinye umuyaga wamarangamutima, reka bibeho. Niba ushaka kurira, hanyuma uhindukire. Niba ushaka guseka, hanyuma usimbuka. Gutekereza bikorwa kugirango ubyuke ibyiyumvo byawe.
Noneho komeza uko ibikorwa nyamukuru.
Wicare wicare kandi ufunge amaso.
Umwuka wimbitse ukoresheje izuru, kandi ushyireho umwuka mu kanwa kawe. Subiramo nkaya manota inshuro nyinshi.
Umubiri wawe ugomba kuruhuka buhoro buhoro hejuru yamaguru n'amaboko. Tekereza ko ikiruhuko cyakoze kumpapuro zintoki zisubira hejuru yijuru.
Nyuma yibyo, ugomba kumva umubiri wawe ukamenya imyaka yawe, kimwe nikibazo cyiza mubitekerezo byawe. Tekereza niba wabonye byose.
Ubukurikira, tekereza ko umwana yagaragaye imbere yawe. Birashobora kuba umuhungu cyangwa umukobwa (hano byose bigomba gushingira ku mibonano mpuzabitsina).
Umwana niwowe. Ufite imyaka igera kuri itanu. Tekereza uko bigaragara. Wibuke ko ari muto, ibyo wambaye kandi uhinda umushyitsi. Reba umwana wawe.
Noneho duhagurukira mu mutwe, tujye ku mwana tugashyire ukuboko kwawe. Fata ukuboko k'umwana mu kiganza cyawe. Ni muto cyane. Icara iruhande rwumve kandi wumve iterambere ryumwana. Reba mu maso ye. Niba rwose ushaka gusoma umwana, hanyuma umusome ku itama, imikindo. Witondere kwitondera uko umwana avugisha.
Amaso yumwana agomba kukubwira byinshi. Reba, birababaje, cyangwa hamwe na Zadorinka, ibara ryabo ni irihe: Biriya cyangwa Ubururu. Ibuka uyu mwanya. Ubu wageze mu rukundo. Mu maso y'uyu mwana - ibyiringiro byawe. Fata umwana mu ntoki. Reka akubabaza. Umva ko ususurutse ukareka umutima wawe usubiza iki kimenyetso.
Tekereza, ushobora gurinda uyu mwana imbaraga zabandi, uzamugira igihe cyose. Musabe kuvuga ibikorwa agutezeho. Sezeranya umwana (ke) ko ubu uzamuberaho (kubyerekeye) kwitondera, kurinda no kwishima.
Tekereza kubyo wowe kandi ushobora kurinda uyu mwana. Duhereye kuri ibyo, azumva ahangayikishijwe kandi ahagarika gutinya. Umwana ntazongera guhangayikishwa no kudasobanura ibyo utegereje.
Guhobera "I", ni ukuvuga umwana, kandi usezeranya kuyirwanirira. Menya, iki nikintu gihenze cyane ufite. Umwana ni ibyiyumvo byawe byimbere.
Umwana agomba kumva ko yunvikana kandi ibyo uhora wibuka kuri we.
Isomo rirangiye, shyira umwana hasi hanyuma urekure buhoro amaboko yawe. Reba mu maso he. Irabagirana. Isura yarahindutse, kandi byaragaragaye ko yaka kubera umunezero.
Kora umwuka bike hamwe no guhumeka hanyuma ufungure amaso.
Inama
Bitewe nibi byifuzo, imyitozo yawe izakora neza.
Kuberako wowe ubwawe, birakenewe kwerekana impamvu ufite icyifuzo cyo gutekereza. Impamvu nziza zizaha imbaraga ku myitwarire yintege nke.
Ntugatangire amasomo asa nkaho akugirira ubwoba. Ibyiza gutangirana na nto.
Tegura umurongo ushobora gutanga kugirango utekereze. Niba ukunda gusinzira mugitondo, noneho ibikoresho nibyiza gukora ifunguro rya sasita cyangwa nimugoroba. Kora kuzirikana mu isaha yagabanijwe cyane.
Imyitozo iruta ahantu runaka, izatuje (idafite abana ninyamaswa). Niba udashobora gusohoza igihagararo icyo aricyo cyose, nka lotus, hanyuma ukoreshe intebe kugirango wikore. Icare, kandi munsi yinyuma shyira umusego.
Kurikirana impinduka zose zibaho numubiri wawe nigikorwa cyo mumutwe. Kugirango byoroshye, ubone ikarita hanyuma wandike inzira zose zirimo zizaba ingenzi kuri wewe no gutera imbere.
Gutekereza "Gukiza umwana w'imbere" muri videwo hepfo.