Ati: "Yarenze aho" - twumva iyi nteruro iyo umuntu yiyemeje ikindi kinyuranyije n'amategeko yemewe muri rusange. Ariko, nkuko mubizi, hariho ibitandukanijwe muri buri butegetsi. Rimwe na rimwe, ukeneye gusa kurenza. Ubu buryo bwo gukemura ikibazo ni izina - "kurinze".
Niki?
Izina riva mu Ijambo ry'icyongereza "Ikadiri", risobanura "Ikadiri". Kuva hano, ijambo ryabishya ryashinzwe, muburyo butandukanye bwo guhindura ibintu nka "shyiramo ikadiri imwe", "shyiramo ikadiri nshya". Mu rurimi rworoshye, "ni" Byahinduwe Ikadiri. " Ubu buryo bukoreshwa cyane muri NLP. Hamwe nacyo, urashobora guhindura imitekerereze cyangwa imyumvire yibyabaye, Ongera ubitekerezeho, uhindure imiterere.
Hifashishijwe ingamba zo kuvuga, abahanga mu bya psychologue barashobora kugira ingaruka kuri cyerekezo. "Intambwe", ukurikije inzobere izagenda, izakubera imyitwarire, igoye, ubwoba. Hamwe nubufasha bwo kwihinya, urashobora gukuraho impuruza, usohoke. Ibi byagezweho kubera ukuri ko Umuntu atangira kureba ibintu bitesha umutwe cyangwa bibabaje cyangwa ibyabaye afite inguni zitandukanye.
Ninkikirahure kizwi: we cyangwa igice cyuzuye, cyangwa igice cyubusa.
Aho bireba?
Mbere ya byose, Uburyo bwo kwagura bukoreshwa cyane muri psychologiya kugirango igabanye ibibazo byamarangamutima, guhindura imyitwarire, gukora imico yihariye, gutangaza ubushobozi bwo guhanga. Kubwibyo, abaterankunga bahanganye nabakiriya kureba ikibazo cyangwa bakingura ikibazo cye kurundi ruhande, shaka inkoni nziza ku ishusho, yabanje isa nkumugabo wijimye. Nkigisubizo, uzakomeza ubuzima numutwe wazamutse cyane.
Kwishura akenshi bikoreshwa mubuyobozi. Uburyo burakwiriye mugihe ubucuruzi bukenewe cyangwa ugomba kubikuramo kurwego rwo hejuru. Rero, uburyo bwo kuyobora burahindurwa, hariho abakozi babishoboye, birashoboka. Uburyo bukwiranye no guhuza amatsinda manini, gushiraho kumva inshingano no kwiyegurira hamwe nisosiyete. Kwishushanya bitera icyifuzo cyo kunoza.
Ifasha kwishura no kugurisha. Umugurisha w'inararibonye arashobora guhora yemeza umuguzi guhindura igitekerezo cye. Kurugero, niba umuguzi ategereje kugabanyirizwa ibicuruzwa, birashobora gusobanurwa ko mububiko bwawe bumaze igiciro cyo hasi. Niba uherutse kuvugwa nishami haje umufasha wikirango ukunzwe, urashobora kubyemeza kugurwa mugihe usobanuye ko isosiyete itakoreshejwe murwego rudakoreshwa murwego rudakoreshwa murwego rudakoreshwa murwego rudasanzwe. Rero, ibicuruzwa nubwo bihendutse, ariko ntibiruta uwatanga ikirango kizwi.
Vuba aha, ijambo "kwinjiza" ryagaragaye mu burezi. Nubwo yakoresheje muri kano gace, wenda burigihe. Umwigisha mwiza ari ngombwa ko umunyeshuri yumvaho ingingo azamuha rwose uburyo bwo kumenyera ibikoresho . Ntukunde umwana wawe wa chimie? Niba kandi ureba ubu bumenyi kurundi ruhande? Kanda mu nzu ndangamurage y'ubwubatsi, urugero. Amaze kubonayo kwerekana ubushakashatsi butandukanye butangaje, we afite uruhare runini mubishoboka bizajya kumasomo itaha yo kwimisha mw'imiti miremire.
Reba
Kwishura bifasha guhindura sisitemu yindangagaciro zabantu. Ariko mbere yo gukoresha tekinike nkuyu, inzobere igomba kumenya icyo akubabaje, hanyuma ugahitamo inzira yo gukora ubu buryo. Hariho babiri muri bo.Imirongo
Bisobanura ingaruka zijambo. Inzobere izahindura imiterere yibintu biguhangayikishije. Bizamuha ibisobanuro bishya byishusho, bikuza impamvu iyi cyangwa iyo myitwarire bidashoboka cyangwa, kubinyuranye, birakwiriye muri buri kibazo.
Bizafasha guhangana ningeso zangiza ubuzima bwawe.
Ibirimo
Ifasha umuntu kubona ibisobanuro bitandukanye mubibera. Hahindutse imihindure mu mutwe. Witondere ibibazo cyangwa no kuzirikana kubisubizo byayo.Tekinike
Dore intego nyamukuru nintego zo gushushanya:
- gukuraho guhangayika;
- Guhindura imyitwarire;
- Gutahura ubushobozi;
- Gutahura amahirwe.
Kuvugurura ibyabaye cyangwa ibintu bishoboka. Ikintu nyamukuru nuguhitamo uburyo bwiza.
Uburyo bwo guhinduranya
Abahanga mu by'imitekerereze ikomeye kandi nziza ni amahitamo, Kubarwa mubyiciro bitandatu cyangwa intambwe.
- Intambwe ya 1 . Turategura kandi tuvoma ibiduhangayikishije. Twerekana ikibazo muburyo bwinyuguti zimwe, imibare cyangwa ikizinga muburyo bumwe.
- Intambwe ya 2. Turagerageza gutangiza ibiganiro nigice cyubwenge, kibashinzwe kuri ibi bihe byubuzima. Gerageza kumusaba gusubiza. Ni ngombwa kumenya uburyo uzavugana nawe icyo ushaka kubona, ibisubizo bihagije bidashoboka nka "Yego" na "Oya" cyangwa utegereje ibyiyumvo bimwe mumubiri.
- Intambwe ya 3. . Baza ibi cyane kuvuga ibyo yagerwaho nimyitwarire ye. Umuhe undi, wemewe igisubizo cyikibazo. Niba ibi bitabaho, ibaze ikibazo cyo kumenya niba intego yawe yoherejwe.
- Intambwe ya 4. Dutangira ibiganiro kubindi, igice cyo guhanga wenyine. Tumushyira mubikorwa kugirango tuzane uburyo 3 ubundi buryo bwo kugera kuntego. Turatanga amakuru avuye kuruhande rwaturemye ikibazo.
- Intambwe ya 5. Icara kuri "ameza yo kuganira". Twanzuye "amasezerano adafite ishingiro" kandi ntagikoraho uburyo bwakoreshejwe mbere. Mugihe ubwenge bwawe bwibanga yemera kimwe mubisabwa, reka aya mahame atangire gukurikizwa. Niba atari byo, bisezeranya gusubira muri gahunda ishaje, ariko nyuma yo kugerageza inzira zose zasabwe zo gukora ubucuruzi.
- Intambwe ya 6. Turashaka abanzi nabafatanyabikorwa. Baza igice cya mbere cyitsinda, niba afite abaturanyi b'ibice byikintu cyawe gishaka kwitabira ubushakashatsi. Baza n'abakarwanya. Abanzi bakeneye kumenya mumaso.
Cognitive
Kwimenyekanisha kwiyoroshya bizafasha guhindura uko ubona ibyabaye utekereza nabi. Uzagomba kubafata neza cyangwa uhindure amaso na gato.Benshi muritwe turanga irangi. Niyo mpamvu Ugomba kwiga kubona igikundiro ndetse no mubihe bidashimishije. Ntukitange mu kwikinisha. Mbere yo kuvuga, nta byiringiro, gerageza kubona ibigega byo mu rugo, birashoboka ko bazarya. Mugusoza, nyuma yumurongo wumukara burigihe aje umweru, Igikorwa cyacu ntigikwiye kuruhuka munzira iyobowe na desposterncy. Ntugabanye amaboko.
Umunyamahane
Ibuka icyagutera kwiba. Gerageza wige guhagarika ibitero bye. Urafata neza ko abo dukorana b'inararibonye bahora bigishijwe ikintu? Fata ibiganiro nabo nkamasomo yubuntu. Cyangwa, inzira, ni abo mukorana bato bo ubwabo? Gerageza rero kubafata nkabana bawe bato - bitinde bitebuke bazagushimira kumasomo. Uburakari ntabwo ari umufasha mwiza. Hindura imbabazi, uhindure imyifatire kubibera.
Yumvikana
Gerageza gutekereza neza. Nta mpamvu yo gusimbuza ibitekerezo, gusa shakisha ibisobanuro byiza kuri bo. Kurugero, urambiwe ingendo zubucuruzi butagira iherezo, ariko cyane washoboye gusoma mumuhanda! Cyangwa ukunze guhindura uko ibintu bimeze, ariko ni ingirakamaro kuri psyche, uba urahorewe kukwitaho murugo, ntukeneye guteka ifunguro.Nubwo ibyakubayeho bikabije kandi ibi ntibishoboka kubona ibihe byiza, wibuke ko ubunararibonye buzagirira akamaro mugihe kizaza.
Byiza
Kwiyongera kwiza bikoreshwa mugushira ibyiringiro mubantu. Kamere yatakaje icyo isobanura mubuzima, azafasha kubona intego no kubajyamo. Hano birakenewe gusimbuza ibitekerezo bimwe nabandi. Kurugero, tugera kubibazo nkikintu cyo guhinduka.
Shakisha amagambo yo kongera kwanga cyangwa kudashobora kugera kubintu byose. Ahubwo, "Ngomba kuvuga ubwacu" Ndabishaka ", aho kuba" Ndizera rwose "-" Ndabizi neza ", aho kuba" Oh, amahano "-" ubu ni amahirwe yo kubona uburambe bushya "kandi kuri .
Uburyo bw'imico mibi
Benshi muritwe dushobora gusa nkaho turi isaha yisaha yose yibibazo, kandi byose kuko tudashobora guhangana nimico yawe bwite cyangwa zimwe. Gerageza urebe ukundi. Niba utekereza ko nawe ubyifuza cyane hamwe nabandi, noneho birashoboka ko washyize akabari ku bubiko bwubushinjanwa kandi ntushake kubigabanya.Uratekereza ko uri mumye cyane kandi wibuka amarangamutima mubijyanye nabakunzi? Ariko birashoboka ko ubaha ikindi kintu mugihe witwaye sosiyete yose kuri kamere cyangwa kugura umukobwa wumugipupe, aho yarose. Ntuvuga, ariko kora, kandi ibi birakomeye cyane byerekana ibyiyumvo byawe kuruta amagambo gusa. Hano umaze gutangira kumwenyura, bityo rero utanga imirimo.
Amashyirahamwe
Niba uhisemo kwishura ishyirahamwe, wibuke ko ugomba gutsinda ubwoba nubwoba bwawe gusa. Ugomba kurengera igitekerezo cyawe mbere yitsinda. Rero, mumagambo, ndetse nabatavuga rumwe nubutegetsi bazakora ivugurura bazakora abafasha nabafatanyabikorwa. Vuga abantu impinduka nziza zibategereje, hanyuma hanyuma ujye kuba ibyo bizakora nibizatakaza.
Imyitozo
Kwakira byerekana uburyo bwo guhindura imyumvire ku bihe no kuri wewe, abatari bake. Dore bimwe muribi."Nanjye ndi ..."
Iyi myitozo irashobora gukorwa idafashijwe ninzobere. Fata urupapuro hanyuma wandike imico 5 yawe usa neza. Buri ntangiriro n'amagambo "nanjye ndi". Urugero, "Ndi umururumba cyane", "ndambiwe cyane", "Ndambiwe cyane". " Noneho reka turebe iyi mico yawe muburyo butandukanye.
Twinjiye mubisubizo biva mu nkingi yegeranye. Ntabwo uri umururumba, ariko ubukungu, kuko, bitandukanye numuturanyi, ntuzigere ufata amafaranga mbere yumushahara. Ntabwo uzwi, kandi usaba kandi nkigisubizo uhora ubona umuntu wifuza. Nturya byinshi, ariko biryoshye kandi bifite akamaro kandi ntakibazo ufite cyo kurya, nko gusinzira, by the way. Ntabwo ukomeye cyane mbega intego nziza. Kubwibyo, mwese mukora ku gihe, bitandukanye cyane na bagenzi bawe.
"Umukara Wera"
Iyi myitozo irashobora gukorwa mu bwigenge, ariko nibyiza gutunganya umukino nkuyu mubantu benshi. Igikorwa cya buri wese nukuzana intanga nziza kumuntu wanzwe nabi. Kurugero, "kurambirwa" ntabwo bitakaza umwanya ubusa, biragaragara neza intego ye, izi kunanira ibishuko. "Nikire cyane" ni agaciro gafatika, inararibonye, bityo, kugira uburenganzira bwo gutanga inama, abantu benshi bagezeho mu buzima.Ibicurambo byinshi uzageraho mugusobanura mubihe byibyiza, nibyiza bizaba imyifatire yawe mubuzima.
"Kwanga"
Gukora iyi myitozo Ukeneye byibuze abantu babiri. Umuntu abwira irindi jambo ridashimishije, umurimo wa kabiri nugushyira mubikorwa vuba. Kurugero, wahamagaye Tolstoy. Igisubizo cyawe - "Ariko abantu bameze neza." Cyangwa urumva ko uri umunebwe. Igisubizo gishobora kuba gikurikira: "Ariko sinzi umunaniro icyo aricyo."
Ingero
Suzuma ingero nyinshi zuburyo bwo gukurikiza kugirango wunge ubuzima bwacu.
- Shobuja arasaba cyane . Ufite ubwoba buri kiganiro na we. Reba kurundi ruhande: Reba umuyobozi numujyanama we uwo, nkumwarimu kwishuri, arakubona kugirango ubone ubumenyi ntarengwa bwubumenyi.
- Watanze igitekerezo ahantu hamwe, mugihe bagenzi bawe banyuze muntambwe yumwuga. Ariko ntugirira ishyari ku kazi utinze, kandi ukoreshe wikendi hamwe n'umuryango wawe.
- Abana bawe ndetse bahamagara abajura ubwabo. Ntabwo bicaye mumwanya kumunota. Ariko ntibishoboka ko bagaragara ko bigoye, ntabwo babangamiwe n'uburemere burenze, baratejwe imbere. Kandi ifasha kukugurira.
