Imvugo "umugore ukomeye" reaction iratandukanye. Zimwe mu shyari vuga aya magambo, abandi - hamwe na sarcasm na brown. Ikigaragara ni uko abagore bakomeye batera amashyirahamwe atandukanye. Nigute ushobora gufata iki gitekerezo nuburyo bwo kubona imbaraga zumugore, ingingo izavuga.
Shingiro ryo kwigirira icyizere
Abahanga mu by'imitekerereze ya psychologue bamaze igihe kinini bayobewe igitekerezo cy'imbaraga z'abagore. Amatora yakozwe, kandi abagore benshi bijeje ko bashaka gukomera, kuko bazahinduka imirimo n'ibibazo ku rutugu. Ariko abagabo benshi mugihe bakoresheje imvugo "umugore ukomeye" basobanuye amashyirahamwe hamwe nabami bakomeye ba kera, ba nyirasenge, Nekrasovsky, bazahagarika amafarashi, kandi amafarashi yaka yoroha. Muri rusange, ishyirahamwe ry'abagore ni ryiza, kandi abagabo bafite nabi.
Kuva ku barwanyi bakoresheje inkota yambaye ubusa mu bahagarariye imibonano mpuzabitsina ikomeye bagerageza kwisubiraho bishoboka.
Nubwo bimeze bityo Hano hari psychologiya isobanura ishusho yumugore ukomeye udafite ibara ryamarangamutima - nkuko bimeze. Noneho, niba tuvuga kubyerekeye imfatiro z'igitekerezo, birakwiye ko tumenya ko ari imbaraga, mbere ya byose, ntabwo ari umukecuru kandi wigenga uzi gufata ibyemezo, gushyira ibitego, gukora, kwigirira icyizere, Kumenya neza ibyo ashaka kuri we hamwe nabandi, mubusabane nabo.
Ubwigenge ntibusobanura ko bitwaje ibiti mugihe abagabo bagenzuwe hafi. Umudamu wigenga azi icyo ashobora gukora, ahubwo azi icyo - ntizingomba. Kandi iki ni ikimenyetso cyimbaraga. Nibyerekezo bisobanutse byimipaka nibibuza bituma umugore nkuyu ari ibisubizo byo gufata ahantu heza mubuzima.
Umugore ukomeye ashyirwaho amarangamutima ye, kuko aturuka nta ruburango ruzaza kandi atarangiza imibabaro no gutukwa, ariko arahari gusa. Nibyo rwose bisaba ishingiro ryo kwifata neza no gutuza.
Imbaraga zumugore zitanga guhitamo umwuga, bivamo, reka bibe bito, ahubwo ni urubuga ruhamye, rushobora kwizihiza, nta mfashanyo.
Nigute ushobora gukomera mubitekerezo?
Imbaraga zo mumitekerereze yumugore Byakozwe mu bwana, Ibyo ari byo byose, muri iki gihe niho urufatiro rwa kamere. Ibiranga kugiti cyawe, imiterere, uburezi bwimiryango n'imigenzo bigira ingaruka. Ibintu byose "cocktail" byose bisobanura niba umugore aba afite umwuka wigenga, ukomeye. Ariko - igice. Kandi iyi niyo ngingo nyamukuru. Ibisigaye ni akazi gakigenga, kandi niba ukeneye kuba umukobwa ukomeye cyangwa umugore, ntakintu kidashoboka. Ikintu nyamukuru ni ukuba umuntu ukuze mu mico, kandi ibi ntibiterwa n'imyaka cyangwa mu idini cyangwa umuco ukura umudamu yakuriye.
Usibye ibisobanuro byikimenyetso cya psychologiya, inzobere nazo zakoraga ku bintu by'ibivugwamo by'abanyamahanga bafite intege nke, kandi kugereranya ubwo bwoko bubiri buzafasha kumva neza kwerekana intege nke no guteza imbere imbaraga z'abagore mu gusobanukirwa neza Ijambo.
Umudamu ukomeye ntashobora kwerekana imyitwarire ishingiye. Yibanze cyane ku bufatanye cyangwa kwishingikirizaho, ntabwo yemerera kuganduka, kwiyobora, kurenga umwanya we bwite, gusuka. Ishyigikiye uwo mugenzi ntizazana inyungu ze, ahubwo azaba ubwumvikane.
Abagore, bakomeye mu mutwe, Bakunze kwibutsa ko baje kuri iyi si batihanganira agasuzuguro, ariko ntiwihute muri hysterics cyangwa kurwana, batekereza neza uko ibintu bimeze kandi bagerageza kwirinda amakimbirane yose. Niba bidahuye no kwirinda, umudamu ukomeye ntagenda imbere yumwanzi, asanzwe afite amahitamo menshi - yashoboye gutekereza mbere.
Igitekerezo cyo kugirira nabi abagore bakomeye . Ijwi ry'imiti yaryo ni ngombwa kuri bo, bakamwumva, mu gihe intege nke ziragaragara kubera ibyo batekereza cyangwa bavuga abandi. Kubera ubusambanyi bwibintu rusange, abahagarariye cyane kimwe cya kabiri cyibintu byikiremwamuntu ntibishoboka gushyiraho imyizerere imwe, imanza zimwe na zimwe, uhereye hanze. Umuntu azakurikiza ijana ku ijana yanze ikinyabupfura, kandi niba imbaraga zizaba zifite igitutu, noneho kwanga bitazaba bifite ikinyabupfura.
Umugore ukomeye ntazigera yishyira hejuru cyangwa munsi yabandi. . Amenya kimwe uburenganzira bwacyo nuburenganzira bwabandi ku gitekerezo cyihariye, imipaka n'umudendezo bwite, ibyiyumvo, ibyiyumvo n'ibitekerezo.
Niba umuntu adahuye nibyo, birumvikana ko bizababazwa, ariko ibyago ntibizaba ukuri. Ndetse nibindi byinshi, "kwisubiraho" k'undi muntu ntabwo bizaba impamvu ya hysterics, gutukwa cyangwa kwibasirwa muri aderesi ye, kuruta icyaha abadamu bafite ubwoba kandi bafite intege nke.
Imbaraga z'abagore b'imbere - Ubu bushobozi bwo kwemera ibyiyumvo byawe, niyo byabanje kubigira umugore . Ubu bushobozi bwo gushima ubufasha no gushimira. Umugore nkuyu yavunitse byoroshye hamwe n '"uburozi", nta kwicuza, nta kwicuza, asiga imiterere imiterere, sosiyete, akurikiza "ibidukikije" bye, umuryango we.
Umugore ukomeye arashobora gutegura, kubara ibikorwa byayo namahirwe. . Niba mu buryo butunguranye agomba gutanga umuryango kubera ibihe, ntushobora gushidikanya ko azabyihanganira, kabone niyo atigeze agira uburambe. Kubara, uburyo bwakozwe kuri gahunda, icyerekezo gisobanutse cyintego.
Mu bagabo, abagore bakomeye barashima Ubushobozi bwo kubaha imiterere ye, kubara ibyiyumvo bye n'ibyifuzo bye, kuba inyangamugayo . Umuryango nubufatanye hamwe nabaterankunga bidakuze mu mutwe, abanyantege nke mubisanzwe baratsindwa, kandi ntibakunze kubabwa mbere. Bakwiriye gusa, abafatanyabikorwa bane bazaba ababana gusa, ahubwo bazaba abafatanyabikorwa, abakobwa bakobwa b'indahemuka
Ibyifuzo byingirakamaro
Abagore bafite intego yo kubona imbaraga, abahanga mu bya psychologue batanga ibyifuzo byinshi byingirakamaro.
Ukuyemo uburyo ubwo aribwo bwose. Ntukubake amashusho yimpimbano yabakobwa bakundana, abafatanyabikorwa, abo dukorana. Funga ibitekerezo byawe nta byifuzo bitari ngombwa, uzirikane amagambo n'amasezerano, ariko ibikorwa nyabyo bya buri muntu gusa. Ibi bizafasha kumva gutenguha bibabaje, biroroshye gufata ukuri.
Byiza. Vugana nawe mubyukuri, fungura ibyifuzo byawe nibindi ukeneye, harimo gusubiza, kandi ni ukubera iki ukeneye imbaraga namba. Niba ibi ari ugushinga, yatijwe na nyina, ubuzima bwose butanga umuryango numusinzi, ni ukuvuga ko ibintu byinshi bizasubiramo, kandi imbaraga ntizizana umunezero kubwibyo. Birakenewe kohereza imbaraga gusa kubiremwa, kubwintego nziza ubugingo bubeshya.
Ba amarangamutima. Imbaraga ntabwo zumye kandi ntizihangayitse. Umugore agomba kwerekana ibyiyumvo bye byiza, urukundo, ushimira, ntukagire isoni zo kugirira impuhwe n'impuhwe. Bizamufasha kubaka umubano winyangamugayo hamwe nabantu b'igihe kirekire hamwe nabantu.
Guhosha kwivuguruza imbere. Ubu buhanga buzafasha kwihuta kuva ku ntego kugeza ku ntego, kandi bizeye inzira yatoranijwe, yunvise ubushobozi bwayo nahantu mubuzima. Kugirango wizere, umuco ukura mu mico no mu mutwe no gukomera, ugomba kugerageza kwikuramo psychotthatthams zose. Niba barundanyije cyane, nibyiza guhindukirira psychotherapiste, intanga-therapiste cyangwa psychologuste. Izi nzobere zizafasha kubona impamvu zitera gushidikanya nubwo ubwoba, ubitsinde, kandi imbaraga zimbere zizaza zizaza kubasimbuza.
