Muri sosiyete, ubugambanyi bwabagabo buraganirwaho kenshi, vuga ibisobanuro byabo, byerekana umugabo ufite intwari nyayo, mugihe ubuhemu bwumugore atari ingingo izwi cyane yo kuganira. Umugore wahinduye umugabo we yamaganwe na societe, kandi ibi bintu ubwabyo bitarakunzwe. Kandi rero ikibazo kivuka - Ninde uhindura abafatanyabikorwa kenshi: abagabo cyangwa abagore?
Ni ibihe abagore bahindutse cyane?
Ntutekereze ko imashini zihari cyane. Abagore nabo ntibaguma mu madeni. Impuguke za terefone ya buri munsi zaje kuri uyu mwanzuro, wangiwe ibintu byose byibarurishamibare. Basohoye amakuru yabo yabonetse kubwimpuhwe nini zitazwi. Ibisubizo byabo byagaragaje ko 2 Mu bagore 5 byibuze bahinduye abagabo babo cyangwa bahisemo, mu gihe abagabo 3 gusa bakemuwe ku mugaragaro.
Hafi ya kimwe cya kabiri cy'abagore bemejwe ku bijyanye no kutamenyekana, batangaje ko ibyo byabereye mu kirori, muri iyi kipe. Igihembwe cyemeye ko bari bafite (bafite) igitabo na mugenzi we ku kazi, uwa gatatu bemeje ko ibimenyetso byo kwita ku banyamahanga bibatera guhumekwa no gukinisha, kandi 10% by'abagore babi bavuze ko aya ari ihame ry'ingenzi , ubwo ni bwo buzima budakwiye kumara kuri monogamy.
Mbere yizeraga ko kwiha agaciro, gukora kandi bikize bihinduka ahanini. Ariko amakuru aheruka kubahugura abaderivu bavuga ko Ubuhemu bwabagore ntabwo buzi ikintu nkumutekano cyangwa imibereho - abagore bo murugo bahinduka mugihe gito ugereranije numugore wumucuruzi. Abavugizi bagera kuri 90% bemeye ko imibonano mpuzabitsina irabafasha gukuraho ibintu bibi byamarangamutima.
Icyo abagore bakunda guhemukira umugabo we.
Gutenguha
Umukecuru, gushyingirwa, yari afite ibitekerezo byerekeye umugabo, yubatse ibyo bategereje no kwibeshya. Ubuzima bwo mu muryango bwashyize ibintu byose mu mwanya wayo, umugabo aragira igikomangoma nkako, kuko bisa nkaho ari mu biro bitari ushinzwe kwiyandikisha. Umugore utekereza ko yashutse, abifashijwemo yiteguye gusimbura umufatanyabikorwa. Muri icyo gihe, ntabwo buri gihe bashaka gusenya ishyingiranwa, kuko umugabo ashobora kuba amerewe neza kandi yorohewe kumukunzi.Ishyamba kandi unaniwe
Niba ibyiyumvo kubashakanye byatakaye, kandi ubutwari bwo guca umubano bwabuze cyangwa hariho izindi mpamvu zo kuguma mubukwe, hakenewe ubwuzu, uburambe bwurukundo, kumenyekanisha imibonano mpuzabitsina biracyakizwa. Muri iki gihe, abajura akenshi bahinduka agakiza kubigabo byumugore, kandi akenshi ibintu byose birangirana no gusenyuka no gusenyuka kwubukwe bwaho.
Bize
Cyane cyane iyo rwego yabo uburezi ni hejuru iremwa mugenzi wabo. Bitebe bitebuke, gutana Hateganyijwe mu nka n'umugore a - bica nta insiguro ku. Umugore ashaka gukura bwite, n'umugore mugenzi munsi bize gusa agatwenge we, itemera n'ibyifuzo we. Inkunzi A nde gufasha gukura no guteza imbere abaye atari cyane umufasha mpuzabitsina nk'uko umugenzi nyakuri. Sex ngo nk'uwo adulter ahambirwa mu birindiro yisumbuye.atobora
Umugore we ntabwo irangi buri saha ifite umwanya wiyongereye kurambagizanya (harimo kuri interineti), kuko agakungu ku ruhande.
Munsi y'imyaka 25 na nyuma y'imyaka 40
Mbere bakiri cyane y'ab'isi, kabiri ni yamaze abanyabwenge bihagije kandi afata gato buri ngingo z'amategeko - baba gushingwa, intege, akumbuye akamenyero kandi ananiwe mu kamenyero.Kugira free empisa
Ibi, nk'itegeko, abagore twabonye uko nyina ni guhindura abafatanyabikorwa, kwisobanura b'incuti, bikaba bworoshye umunywi no guhinduka abantu, ndetse abagore wari umukire ibitsina uburambe mbere yo gushyingiranwa.
Abagore kujya ku ubugambanyi akenshi ndetse kubera igitsina. Bashaka kuba byifuzwa, abacu, ushaka kugira ushima, nta kwakira mu muryango. Bashaka yakenyeye na rukaze inyiyumvo, abakire uburambe vy'akanyengetera, gusobanukirwa, kuganira, bipfuza gufata buri amajambo yabo, bishimiye bo.
Niba umuntu mu muryango udashobora cyangwa adashaka kubona iyi, ni, ku mukuru bishoboka ko azaba umugabo guhendwa.
Ni abagabo si ukuri?
Abagabo polygamins kamere. Rero, si ngombwa gusaba umuntu ngo kurota yarotaga guhishurwa umugore umwe gusa. Ariko, hari gusa icyifuzo kamere kugira byinshi abagore, ariko kandi twarezwe, idini, amahame, imico bwite. Kandi ni baba bari badakora. Vy'inyifato vyodufasha amoko menshi y'ingenzi y'abantu bafite ingaruka ibintu hanze nta cyane, kandi rero bari bafite ubutunzi kenshi.gabo umwana
Ngulu, umuntu ari umuntu, ariko mu ubugingo ahora umwana buhoraho, ku neza, umuyabaga. Yari ashishikajwe mu mikino, nta bwenge kwihebera gihe free incuti, akenshi afatana siporo bukabije n'umugore we ni aho bubaha inyifato - nk'uko nyina. Umugore more, bazirikana infantality mwashakanye ku, ikivuzwe aya atubuza, barushaho iyi mirongo mwaka cyangwa ine w'imyaka "umwangavu" kwigomeka kandi nta bwenge kubona umukunzi ku nyungu ruhande. Ariko abantu nk'abo nta umushyitsi gucika bukwe.
Obulungi bakuze
this category harimo abagabo mu myaka 40, bikaba arongora pretty kare nta gihe kwibonera impigi yose y'ubuzima mbere yo gushyingiranwa. By imyaka 40, gusobanukirwa aje ko niba ubu, ni yamaze ntashobora ryose. Babikuye ko umugore ni nta agiye hose, bityo mu flirt umucyo ku ruhande ni kwakirwa cyane. Umugore mu amabanga ntabwo byagombaga - arinda we gushuha.
Seeker ya adventures
Izo umuntu afite umwe gusa nyakuri amwifuza - mu amwifuza ya Adventure. Atazi uko kubaho batekanye kandi apima, bizaba byanze bagomba kuronka Adventure na zikagaza imyakura. intero ye ni "nta munsi nta adrenaline" Ashobora kuba umugabo mwiza, ariko umuryango ni vuba Kulakaza, abaye fresh we. Ubugome gikenewe kugira ngo abe umuti kurambirwa. Na byose, ntaba gushaka uburyo byoroshye na kenshi bituma bitabu akaga cyane - Urugero, na umukunzi umukunzi we cyangwa umugore mugenzi we, kugira ngo ni akaga kurushaho bishishikaje.Self-bihagije no narcissist
Abo bagabo ni zirobanuye umugore kugira ngo mugaragaro kwerekana byose - we nyiri, wegukanye, ariko ntabwo bishingiye ku wese kuva ku mukenyezi wiwe. Byongeye, aba atunze, n'ingabo rero nk'ivyo ntsinzi nshya ku rukundo imbere nta guhisha n'abagenzi na ndetse cyane ariyoberanya imbere umugore bwemewe. Abo ahanini tutabona ikintu kibi mu myitwarire yabo. Ariko ubugambanyi ku ruhande rwa mwashakanye ku ntazigera yemera kandi nta kabuza.
Pragmatist
Ubusanzwe, ubukwe nk'uwo muntu kirekire yabayeho gusa mu ngeso cyangwa bihurirana. Nta amwifuza maze urukundo, umugore si ikaze. Ariko kwahukana ni buhuje, kandi rimwe na rimwe ari ritagira kuko bombi kuko we n'umugore we. Rero, abantu kubaho, ariko izina muryango biragoye cyane. Akababaro ya everydays imvi umuntu nk'uyo abaza umuntu adulter. Umuntu ashobora ndetse bafite nyirabuja umwe, ntaba yumva icyaha imbere umugore we, maze rero ntiba guhisha ubwe, umugore azi ibintu byinshi, ariko akunda guceceka.gushidikanya atsindwa
Abo bagabo bubabarizwa by gushidikanya. Umugore ni byiza, ariko ako kanya hari abagore neza ku ruhande? Yari sheki, yimuka, ariko ni natwe turi abanyabwoba gutangaza ko ari uburenganzira bwe, bityo ibinyoma ihinzwe. Mu bwogero, bireka ko umugore umunsi umwe bazatsindwa kandi kuva ubwe.
Uwahohotewe ya bahindura
Abo bagabo akenshi arongora abagore n'ubuyobozi cyane kandi ukomeye, ni nde ndetse igitsina gucunga kugira igikoresho gucunga mwashakanye mu - n'ubu akeneye itsinzi. Ubugome kuko bo ni gusa akanyota n'irari ryabo mpuzabitsina, kwiruhukira. Ubusanzwe ntabwo kuva umuryango.
Ibarurishamibare impinduka washatse
Imibare infernarity mu Burusiya ni aho amatsiko, kandi bishobora gushimisha abahagarariye bombi mpuzabitsina ikomeye kandi abagore mwiza:
- About 62% abagabo guhindura abagore bahitamo guhura ku ruhande na abagore, 10% gusa abagabo bubatse mibanire akaga na abakobwa kimwe;
- Ubuhemu bwabagore buhoraho - bugera kuri 45% by'abadamu mu bashakanye bafite umukunzi uhoraho kandi ntakunda kuwuhindura undi, kandi 19% gusa by'abagabo-aba bombi barashobora kwirata kimwe;
- Kugera kuri 75% byabagabo no kugeza 24% byabagore bahinduka gahunda kubagore babo nabagabo cyangwa byibuze bimaze kubahindukira;
- Kutishimira ubuzima bwimibonano mpuzabitsina bihinduka ubutane muri 9% byabagabo na 13% byabagore;
- Icyifuzo cyo kubona ibyiyumvo bishya gityaye kirangwa muri 14% by'abagabo na 7% by'abagore;
- Uru rukundo rushya ni 7% by'abagabo n'abagore barenga 25%;
- Kwiyongera kwihesha agaciro, icyifuzo cyo gushimangirwa - 14% by'abagabo ndetse na 4% gusa y'abagore gusa;
- Gutandukana igihe kirekire, ku gahato amacumbi ahinduka impamvu y'ubuhemu bwa 12% by'abagabo na 8% by'abagore;
- Kuva mu ndambi no mu bikorwa mu mibanire mishya "koresha" 3% by'abagabo na 7% by'abagore;
- Ubuhemu busanzwe buboneka (mu gikorwa cy'inzoga, mu birori, ishyaka ry'ibigo, n'ibindi) muri 14% by'abagore ndetse na 7% by'abagore;
- Ubuhemu mu kwihorera hamwe n'umufatanyabikorwa utari wo - cyane cyane reaction y'umugore: Ibi bitemba 11% by'abagore kandi 0.5% gusa by'abagabo;
- Akenshi bihinduka hamwe na bagenzi bacu 30% byabagabo ndetse nabagore benshi;
- Hariho abagore benshi muri resitora - 34% by'abakozi bafata bashubije, mu gihe 19% by'abagabo biyemeje kuba abadayiromo mu biruhuko;
- Hamwe nabaturanyi babo no kugereranya mumuryango, inshuti zihinduka kugeza ku 10% byabagore na 5% byabagabo.
Kugira ngo ubyuke ishusho, birakwiye ko tumenya ko iboneka cyane cyane mu nzu y'umwe mu bakundana. Hafi kimwe cya gatatu cyabakunzi bahitamo gutwara akazu cyangwa kuguma mu tuziranye. 10% gusa Kuraho inzu cyangwa icyumba muri hoteri.
Ninde ushobora kwihesha agaciro: Abakobwa cyangwa basore?
Niba wishingikirije ku mibare, noneho abagabo bahinduka kenshi, ariko abakobwa ntibaguma ku ruhande. Ibyaremwe birashobora ubuhemu, kuko ibintu bishobora gusunika birashobora kuba bitandukanye cyane.
Ni ngombwa ko couple ishyira mu gitekerezo cy'ubuhemu. Duhereye kubitekerezo bya psychologue, nta bwihemu cyangwa imyitwarire mibi - nta gice cya kabiri. Kuva uwo mufatanya ko umwe mubafatanyabikorwa yemeye ibitekerezo kubijyanye nubucuti bushoboka numuntu kuruhande, asanzwe ahinduka umutimanama. Kandi ibitekerezo nkibi no mubukwe bwiza birashobora kuza kumutwe wabafatanyabikorwa. Ibi ntibisobanura ko bihutira guhinduka. Ntiwibagirwe uburambe bwite, imiterere yumuntu, uburere bwe n'imyizerere.
Ariko mumiryango aho gusobanukirwa, gufashanya, kwiringira, aho abashakanye bafite inyungu zisanzwe kandi bashoboye kuvugana hagati yabo, umururumba ubaho cyane. Byose ni umubare nubwiza bwimibonano mpuzabitsina, kuba hari abana basanzwe, kwishimisha bisanzwe, inzira yo gukora wikendi ihuriweho, imigenzo yumuryango nibimenyetso bito byo kwitabwaho.
Ibishoboka byo kwiyongera mumiryango aho nta gusobanukirwa aho batazi kuganira no gukemura ibibazo rusange hamwe, aho abafatanyabikorwa batumva bashyigikiwe, birengagize ibyo abandi bakeneye. Muri uru rubanza, amahirwe yo kwigambani k'abagabo azahora hejuru cyane kuruta amahirwe y'abagore, ariko ubugambanyi ntibuzabura.
Ibyerekeye impamvu yo guhinduka, akenshi ari abagabo cyangwa abagore, uburyo bwo kubabarira, reba muri videwo ikurikira.