Ikimenyetso cyamarangamutima dushobora guhura nabantu ni butandukanye. Rimwe na rimwe biragoye cyane kumenya haba mubyiyumvo byawe bijyanye nabandi, kandi, kubinyuranye nibyo, mubibazo byabandi. Amarangamutima amwe arasa cyane kuburyo bitoroshye kumenya. Mu kiganiro, tuzagerageza gusobanura itandukaniro riri hagati yimpuhwe nurukundo.
Ibisobanuro
Hamwe no gukorana kenshi nabantu bafite ibishimishije kandi bishimishije kumarana umwanya, akenshi hariho amarangamutima nibyiyumvo byiza. Mubihe byinshi, iyi ni kwigaragaza kwimitirwa cyangwa urukundo. Benshi bitiranya ibi bitekerezo byombi, bibeshye babijyana kubintu bimwe. Nyamara, abahanga mu by'imitekerereze y'umwuga bavuga ko izi ari ibyiyumvo bibiri bitandukanye, hagati yaho hari itandukaniro rikomeye. Kugirango umenye ibyo byumvikane, ugomba kwerekana ibiranga nyamukuru.Impuhwe
Iyi myumvire igaragara nkigisubizo kumuntu ushimishije. Impuhwe zikunze kubaho mu minota ya mbere nyuma yo gukundana no gushyikirana. Iyi myumvire ishingiye kubintu bitagira ikibazo cyo gusuzuma kuruhande.
Turimo tuvuga ibintu nkibi:
- Isura ishimishije ya muntu;
- Imyenda myiza n'imyambarire;
- Ibiranga bidasanzwe byo hanze nkabantu;
- Ibyo ukunda hamwe ninyungu rusange.
Impuhwe ni ubwoko bwa shingiro hagamijwe guteza imbere umubano.
Iyi myumvire irasobanura ko hari amarangamutima yo mumarangamutima hagati yabantu, ariko adafite ibyiyumvo byingenzi, ntibizashoboka kubigeraho.
Urukundo
Nibyiyumvo bikomeye kandi byashizweho neza, biranga ibara ryinshi ryamarangamutima. Urukundo rutwara intangiriro yimpuhwe. Abahanga mu by'imitekerereze bahamagara ibyiyumvo byo guturika kwamarangamutima, bikaba bishobora kuva gitunguranye ndetse no guhagarika nyirayo. Ubusanzwe urukundo rufite ingaruka nziza kumiterere yimiterere.
Mugihe habaye urukundo, umuntu ku giti cye bigaragara intego nshya - gukurura ibitekerezo kandi nkikintu cyibyifuzo byabo. Dufatiye kuri iyi myumvire, umuntu arashobora gukora ibikorwa bitandukanye, rimwe na rimwe birakaze kandi ntabitekerezaho. Ibitsina byiza akenshi bihindura isura yabo, kurema uko bisa nkaho bishimishije, ishusho nziza. Ibi byose bikorwa kugirango ukurure umufatanyabikorwa.
Abagabo n'abasore nabo barahinduka, ariko birenze kubijyanye n'imiterere n'imyitwarire. Bahinduka ubwoko bwa ba myugariro cyangwa knight, tangira kuyitesha agaciro muburyo bwose kandi barinde nkumuganwakazi cyangwa umudamu mwiza kuva mwisi yinzozi.
Nubwo amarangamutima meza kubandi bantu, mubyukuri bisaba ibyiyumvo byikunda kandi byikunda. Urukundo rushingiye ku cyifuzo cyo kuba umuntu ukunda. Umuntu umwe akoresha isegonda kugirango yuzuze ibyifuzo bye nibikenewe.
Byumvikane neza, ariko bitanga ibisobanuro nyabyo byo kumva.
Abantu bayobora urukundo bahora basabana kwemerwa ibyiyumvo byabo. Turimo kuvuga impano, amatariki, itumanaho kenshi nizindi morerekana urukundo. Niba umwe mubafatanyabikorwa agerageje kwiva muri iyi gahunda cyangwa yanze kubajyana, inzika no gusobanura umubano utangire. Mu gihe nk'iki cy'imibanire, amakimbirane arashobora gutangira kubera utuntu duto.
Urukundo rushingiye kumarangamutima ashimishije, ariko ntabwo aha umuntu icyizere umunezero. Muri ubu buryo bwimiterere, gusimbuka amarangamutima bikunze guhura nabyo, mugihe bahuye numwe mwiza kandi uhungabanya ibitekerezo. Byongeye kandi, gusuzuma imyitwarire yumufatanyabikorwa wacyo bihora bigerwaho. Umuntu ku giti cye mu rukundo ntabwo akurikirana intego yo gutanga, ni ngombwa kuri we. Mugihe kimwe, nta tandukaniro nkurwego rwo kwitondera bizaba, iyaba yarashimishije.
Niba uvuga muri make, turashobora kubivuga Impuhwe nimyumvire iyo ukunda isura, imyitwarire nibindi biranga umuntu imbere. Hamwe nurukundo, umuntu asaba kandi akeneye mugenzi wacyo kugirango ahore ahabwa amarangamutima no kumubiri.
Ibimenyetso
Buri kimwe muri ibyo byavuzwe haruguru gifite ibimenyetso byihariye. Bamwe muribo barasanzwe. Hamwe nurukundo nimpuhwe, abafatanyabikorwa bakunda kuvuga ubwabo, byaba amakuru ajyanye n'itsinzi, inyungu zawe cyangwa ibibazo bya buri munsi. Iyo bimukira kurwego rwurukundo, abantu bajya muburyo busabwa. Guhora ukira ikintu mubashakanye, bahurira ibyiyumvo byabo.
Hamwe n'impuhwe, ibintu byose biroroshye cyane. Iyi myumvire irashobora kumvikana nubwo nta itumanaho hagati yabafatanyabikorwa, kandi niba rigabanywa. Kuba hari ibyiyumvo byiza bishobora kwerekana ibimenyetso, kumwenyura, ibiganiro bigufi nibindi bikoresho byo gukorana. Impuhwe zirashobora kumara igihe kinini - kugeza igihe zihindutse ibyiyumvo bikomeye.
Ariko niba abafatanyabikorwa badatezimbere iyi myumvire, biraza kuri oya.
Urukundo rukunze kwitwa kwubahwa. Muri uru rubanza, umwe mubafatanyabikorwa akeneye kwitabwaho nundi muntu. Muri icyo gihe, impano, amatariki hamwe nibindi bigaragaza ibyiyumvo ntabwo ari itegeko, cyane cyane, kuba hafi.
Itandukaniro
Nkuko byavuzwe haruguru, hari itandukaniro rikomeye hagati yibyiyumvo byombi byasobanuwe haruguru. Rimwe na rimwe ndetse numuntu ku giti cye biragoye gutandukanya amarangamutima no kumva ko afite. Nkimpuhwe, urukundo rero rushobora guhuza ibitekerezo byumugabo.
Urukundo rutandukanye nimpuhwe zoroshye nibimenyetso bikurikira.
- Niba gusa itumanaho ryiza numuntu uhagije kugirango wumve neza, iki nikintu gisanzwe.
- Kandi iyo nshaka guhora ahabwa ibimenyetso byumuntu no kuba hafi bishoboka, uru ni urukundo. Ibyifuzo byavuzwe byo guhuza imikoranire yumubiri. Nubwo hari ibihugu bimwe na bimwe byumvikana, kuba izo marangamutima birashoboye gushushanya no gutera inkunga. Hariho icyifuzo gikomeye cyo kwishima no gusangira nabandi.
Urukundo rurimo ubucuti nimibonano mpuzabitsina, kandi impuhwe zirashobora kuba urugwiro. Urukundo rukomeye kandi rukomeye rutangirana impuhwe zivuye ku mutima. Ikintu cyingenzi nuko ibyiyumvo ari ukuri, kandi abafatanyabikorwa bari bafite icyifuzo cyo gukomeza guteza imbere umubano.
Abantu bamwe ntibabona itandukaniro riri hagati yumukundana nurukundo, cyane cyane mubihe mugihe bahuye nubwenge bwa mbere. Umupaka uhuza aya marangamutima rimwe rimwe na rimwe nturahomere cyane kandi ntabwo byoroshye kubyumva.
Nkuko bimaze kuvugwa, impuhwe zifite umutungo wo kwiteza imbere mumibanire ikomeye. Ubwa mbere ahinduka urukundo, na nyuma - urukundo. Rimwe na rimwe, impuhwe hagati y'abafatanyabikorwa irakura mubucuti, ikahagarara kuri iki cyiciro cyangwa mubyifuzo, cyangwa kubisabwa umwe muribo.
Iterambere mbere y'urukundo n'imibanire yuzuye birashoboka gusa mugihe abantu bombi bagerageza kubungabunga no guteza imbere umubano. Ariko, hari ibibazo byimanza aho umwe muribo akundana, naho kabiri gusa akomeje kuba inshuti. Nta mibanire myiza umubano nk'uwo. Bitinde bitebuke abantu bombi bazahura nabyo.
Kugira ngo wirinde ibintu nkibi, birakenewe gusobanura umubano no gutegura ibyihutirwa. Ntugakore amakosa mumibanire azafasha psychologue yabigize umwuga. Kandi ugomba no kugerageza kureba neza umubano, ntucika amarangamutima rwose.
Abafatanyabikorwa bombi, hagati yumubano mushya wagaragaye, bagomba kugena neza amarangamutima n'impamvu zabo. Utitaye ku kwimura aya marangamutima - icyifuzo cyo kumenya neza, guhuza cyane mu mwuka cyangwa kubura itumanaho.
Impuhwe ntizishobora kujya mu rukundo?
Tumaze gusuzuma icyo umuntu nubwenge bwa kabiri bisobanura, dushobora kuvuga neza ko impuhwe zishobora kugera kurwego rukurikira kandi zikura murukundo. Bibaho rero mubihe byinshi. Kugirango iterambere ryibyabaye, abantu bombi bagomba kumenya neza ibyo bashaka. Mugihe icyifuzo cyo guhora cyakira kizajya gushaka gutanga, urashobora kuvuga kubyerekeye urukundo. Ibyiyumvo bikomeye bitandukanye nabyo byabanje ni byinshinshimera cyane kandi bifite ingaruka zikomeye kumuntu.
Abantu bamwe, kuba bafite ibitekerezo bikomeye, bafata icyemezo cyo kwemera mugenzi wawe murukundo. Muri iki gihe, batabonye igisubizo cyiza, ntugomba kurakara mbere yigihe. Ahari umuntu wa kabiri ubu ari murwego rwurukundo, azahinduka urukundo rwuzuye nyuma yigihe runaka.
Umwanya wumubano wabantu ni ahantu hagoye kandi utandukanye. Mu mikoranire yibintu bibiri, iterambere ryibyabaye birashoboka.
Itandukaniro nyamukuru ryuru rukundo ukunda kubona muri videwo ikurikira.