Urukundo n'impuhwe birashobora kubaho mugihe icyo ari cyo cyose, umuntu ibyiyumvo nk'ibi biza mumyaka 10 cyangwa 11, kandi umuntu atangira kubitekerezaho muri 16. kandi ni ibisanzwe rwose. Ariko ntabwo buri gihe inyungu zivuka kuva muminota yambere, kuko abahungu benshi batekereza uburyo bakunda umukobwa kwishuri no kugera aho hantu.
Tangira nawe wenyine
Hatitawe kumyaka, abakobwa bahitamo abasore bize kandi bafite isuku babishimishije bavuga. Kubwibyo, intambwe yambere yo gutsinda amahitamo yawe ni ugushimira byimazeyo.
Kugirango ukore ibi, ugomba gusubiza mubyukuri ibibazo bike.
- Ukora siporo?
- Ufite ibyo ukunda, ibyo ukunda?
- Ukoresha icyubahiro muri bagenzi bawe?
- Wiga neza?
- Ukurikiza isura yawe?
Niba igisubizo ari kibi kubibazo byinshi, ugomba guhindura ikintu muriwe.
Buri kimwe muri ibyo bintu mubijyanye nubuzima bwumusore kandi gifasha kuba umuntu uhuza kandi wateye imbere. Numusore nkuwo ufite amahirwe menshi yo gukurura umukobwa.
Witondere siporo
Amahugurwa asanzwe nubushobozi bwo gukomeza imiterere, na siporo yikipe yigisha kubona ururimi rusanzwe nabandi kandi bafasha guteza imbere imico y'ubuyobozi. Abakinnyi bakunze gukundwa mwishuri, niko bizagira akamaro kwiyandikisha murwego rwabo. Kandi intsinzi ishoboka mumarushanwa izafasha neza kwigaragaza.
Byongeye kandi, umukobwa ukunda uzahora atumirwa kumushuka ngo akumpemu kandi avuga ko inkunga ye yaguhaye imbaraga kandi ifasha kugera ku ntego. Nta gushidikanya ko ashimira gushima. Nukuri, kubintu byose, ugomba kumenya neza ko intsinzi ari umunyakuri, kandi niba atariyo, uzabura umuntu ukwiye.
Niba utibona muri siporo, urashobora gusura siporo kugirango utezimbere imitsi kandi ntugahangayikishwe nuburemere burenze. Nubwo waba ushimishije hamwe numuntu udasanzwe, igitekerezo cya mbere kirakunze kuziba kugaragara, niko bikwiye kwita ku bakobwa.
Shakisha ibyo akunda
Ibyo ukunda bidasanzwe bizagufasha gukurura ibitekerezo. Uzashobora gushimisha amahitamo yawe no guhagarara mubandi basore badashishikajwe nibindi bintu bitari imikino ya mudasobwa.
Niba uzi gukora ikintu ukoresheje amaboko yawe, kurugero, gutwika ku giti cyangwa gutekera ku gishushanyo, urashobora gukoresha ubuhanga bwawe bwo gukora impano yumwimerere no gutangaza umukobwa.
Ibyo ukunda ni ingingo nziza yo kuganira, hamwe n'amasomo ahuriweho n'ibibazo bikunzwe ubufasha kugirango wegere. Kanguka icyashishikajwe numukobwa, birashoboka ko yasuye uruziga cyangwa ibice, noneho urashobora kunyurayo hamwe. Ibi bizagufasha kumarana umwanya munini, cyane cyane niba bivuye mubyiciro bisa cyangwa muri rusange, ntabwo uri urungano, ku ishuri urabona gusa impinduka gusa.
Reba impapuro ze ku mbuga nkoranyambaga - akenshi kumwirondoro urashobora kumva icyo umukobwa akunda. Nubwo ntacyo wumva muri ibyo akunda - saba kubivuga, byerekana inyungu.
Ube umuyobozi w'ishuri
Abakobwa bakunda abasore bizeye kandi bashize amanga, ni ukuvuga abayobozi bahagaze ikintu. Ubusanzwe ubu bwubahwa mumatsinda, hamwe nibitekerezo byabo barasuzumwa.
Niba uri umuntu ufunze, gerageza kuva muruziga rwuruziga, shaka inshuti nubufasha bwabo guteza imbere imico y'ubuyobozi.
Shakisha uko ukunda, nk'urugero, ube capitaine w'ikipe y'imikino y'ishuri cyangwa gukusanya itsinda rya muzika, menyesha wenyine. Ntabwo ari ngombwa kuba umuyobozi wuzuye mwishuri, ugomba kwihatira kuba umwe muribo.
Byongeye kandi, urashobora kwiyerekana nkumuntu wintwari kandi ukora, ufasha abandi no kurinda intege nke. Abakobwa benshi barota knight nyayo, kandi niba uzabe mumaso ye, rwose azaremera kujyana nawe kumunsi.
Fata igihe cyo kwiga
Niba umukobwa wakunze, yiga neza, ntibishoboka ko bitazitondera ibirindiro. Kubwibyo, ugomba gukurura nuburyo bwo kujya gushinga.
Urashobora kuyikoresha nkimpamvu yo gutangira ibiganiro, kurugero, umusabe kugusobanurira itegeko cyangwa uburyo bwo gukemura ikibazo.
Niba wiga neza, kandi hari ikintu kidahabwa uwahisemo - noneho uzamusaba ubufasha. Ariko kora neza bihagije kugirango ubone inama zawe zisa nkigishishwa cyangwa ubutoni. Ukitwara ubikuye ku mutima, ntugerageze gusa neza kuruta uko uri. Ahari umukobwa azi ibibazo byawe byose kubanyeshuri bigana cyangwa abasore bahanganye.
Witondere isura
Umusore wese agomba kwitabwaho iteka kandi ikinyabupfura. Niba kandi ashaka gushimisha umuntu, ugomba gukurikizwa kabiri ukoresheje isura yanjye n'umunyeshuri.
Guhitamo, byanze bikunze, wambare imyambarire yanyuma kandi muburyo bwanditseho gusa, gutura imbere yabarimu byose kandi itanga ubufasha bwa tekiniki ya tekiniki Hariho ibintu byinshi bigomba kwitabwaho bidasanzwe.
- Fata ubwogero kandi ukoreshe deodorant. Impumuro idashimishije, imisumari yanduye hejuru yintoki n'umusatsi udafunze utuma abakobwa banga kandi bifuza kuguma kure ya slude.
- Ntukemere kwishuri mu nkweto wanduye - Abadamu bose badafite ikibazo bahita batakaza inyungu kubantu nkabo.
- Reba imyenda yawe - igomba kuba ifite isuku kandi ifite isuku. Ntukambare utabaye, wavunitse na pepperdamuds - abakobwa bahita babona.
- Niba ufite Acne - fata amavuta yihariye azabafasha kubikuraho. Kandi nibyiza kujya kuri dematologue kugirango ntugire ibirushije.
- Gerageza gerageza mugihe hanyuma ukurikire byibuze imyambarire hano. Abakobwa barubashye cyane kuri uru ruhu mu basore.
Abakobwa bakunda iki?
Uburyohe kandi bwikunda birashobora gutandukana, cyane cyane mubyangavu, mugihe benshi bashishikajwe no kugerageza ibintu bitandukanye. Kubwibyo, niyo waba uzi ko nakunze umukobwa mfite imyaka 14, igihe yigaga mu cyiciro cya 7, birashoboka ko umwaka utaha, igihe azaba afite imyaka 15, azaryohesha agaciro. Mu mpeshyi, benshi barahinduka cyane, vugurura inyungu nshya. Shakisha icyo ubungubu ubu akunda kutaba mumwanya utabi.
Imyaka nayo ntabwo buri gihe ifasha kumenya inyungu zumuntu. Mubice byinshi, biterwa nirangamuntu nububiko bwimiterere. Hariho abakobwa bakunda imikino yuzuye urusaku kuva mu bwato, hanyuma - amashyaka n'amashyaka, kandi hari abamaze gutekereza ejo hazaza afite imyaka 13 kandi bagatanga umwanya munini wo kwiga. Bamwe muribo ni kamere y'urukundo cyane, mugihe abandi bafite ubushobozi bwo kuyobora no guhatanira nabasore.
Niba ukunda umunyeshuri mwigana, hanyuma umenye icyo akunda byoroshye, kuko ahora amubona mwishuri kandi ushobora kumva uko aganira.
Ariko niba umukobwa yiga mu rindi shuri, kugirango ashyireho guhura na we azagorana, harimo kuko udashobora kubona buri gihe. Internet izarekurwa muri iki kibazo - shakisha ku mbuga nkoranyambaga urebe icyo akunda, ni izihe nyandiko arimo aryamye kandi mu matsinda agizwe. Ngaho urashobora gutangira itumanaho.
Abakobwa bashishikajwe no kubona ibice bitandukanye, bityo rero ntubyibagirwe gutanga ibimenyetso byahisemo ibimenyetso bimwe na bimwe:
- Witondere gukomeza, bitabaye ibyo birashobora guhitamo ko ufite isoni cyangwa wirengagize;
- Nibura rimwe na rimwe hashobora kuba ishimwe, ariko niba ufite isoni zo kubikora n'ijwi rirenga, tangira nibitekerezo byiza munsi yifoto ye cyangwa inyandiko ku mbuga nkoranyambaga;
- Ba nyakubahwa - umuhe imyenda yo hejuru, fata umuryango, urambura ukuboko mugihe uva mubwikorezi, fasha kuzana umufuka.
Ntukore amakosa
Abasore bamwe, bashakana nkumukobwa kwishuri, bagera ku bikorwa bitandukanye. Ugomba kwitondera imyitwarire yawe kandi ntukore amakosa.
Ntutekereze ko ibintu byose byaremewe ubwabyo. Nubwo waba umusore ukora, roho yisosiyete, aho wamenya umukobwa, ukunda iki, niba utagaragaje ibimenyetso bimwe?
Gerageza ntizihagarare gusa muri rubanda, ariko kandi usobanure neza ko atabyitayeho.
Kwihangana no kwizera ni byiza, ariko ntukabikene, sinkunda ubutayu.
Ntugomba kugerageza gukuramo igihe cyose cyubusa cyumukobwa kandi uhora gimurika mumaso ye. Abasore nkabo batangiye kwirinda mugihe runaka.
Ntugahite ubaze niba umeze nka we. Abantu bake barashobora guhita basubiza ikibazo nkiki, ahubwo, utuma umukobwa yumva afite ipfunwe. Tegereza igihe runaka, mugihe umenyereye. Bizaba byiza niba warigeze kubibaza. Niba ukunda, umukobwa ubwe azavuga rwose.
Niba agusubiza ko wanze - ntugahangayikishwe cyane. Ibi ntibisobanura ko ikintu kibi kuri wewe, kuko abantu badashobora kugenzura ibyiyumvo byabo, birashoboka ko aribintu ukunda gusa. Ntushobora gukunda abantu bose. Gerageza kubimenya utuje, ntugashinje umukobwa, kandi cyane cyane, ntugerageze kubana nawe - ntakintu cyiza kizabikora.
Muri videwo ikurikira, umubare wibintu bishobora kugenwa nurukundo rwumukobwa kumusore.